Game Cheat Sheet [/r/trpgame repost] (self.TheRedPill)

submitted by ∞ Mod | RP Vanguardbsutansalt

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Originally posted by /u/DCLdit.

This is the first post I ever put on my blog (http://dcllive.wordpress.com/2014/03/24/cheat-sheet/).

I thought I would share it here.

While cleaning out a desk/dresser of mine I found an old cell phone (BlackBerry Bold). I charged it up and started to explore and came across what I would call a 'cheat sheet' I made in a notepad-app about three years ago.

I rearranged the rough content to have somewhat of a flow to it. Hope you enjoy...

  • -statements make educated guesses and are far more engaging
  • -effective language = speaking with fewest words possible while still maintaining your meaning and intent
  • -women do not see features they see how you present yourself
  • -women do not hear words they hear your intentions
  • -talk louder, then louder than that
  • -always make people break eye contact with you before you break it with them
  • -when engaging in conversation, suppress the urge until its your turn (one-up-ing)
  • -lean back
  • -do not lean forward
  • -watch others
  • -do not put head down
  • -pause, relax and slow down
  • -do not laugh at things you do not find funny
  • -take up more space
  • -stop approval seeking
  • -my boundary/frame is established, eg. “I value honesty, curiosity, education, intelligence and authenticity, etc.”
  • -keep your approval, keep your power
  • -project self-image and beliefs
  • -honest signals to practice
  • -do not stare, moral looking time
  • -dominant and confident posture and walk
  • -slower than usual movements and gestures
  • -be conscious of your body language until it becomes unconscious
  • -allow her to orient her body to you
  • -tone of voice, “hey what up”
  • -rub a girls back while hugging, do not pat
  • -physical escalation
  • -eye contact
  • -verbal contact
  • -hand to arm
  • -hand to shoulder
  • -shoulder to hip
  • -hip to leg
  • -face to face
  • -mouth to mouth
  • -things to talk about
  • -F.O.R.D (good things to talk about)
  • -Family, Occupation, Recreation and Dreams
  • -R.A.P.E (would not recommend using these as talking points)
  • -Religion, Abortion, Politics and Economics
  • -the inflection of your voice, do your statements sound like questions?
  • -be aware of the strength you finish your sentences with, some people trail off when they do not think others are listening
  • -ignore her beauty
  • -keep your eyes at normal resting size, if not a little bit tighter than usual
  • -while making eye contact do not over focus on one eye, move back and forth, find your rhythm - EDIT May 11 2014 - Since writing this I have noticed when moving back and forth it can come off as reactive, attention seeking and needy, use with caution
  • -soften your gaze to the point you can comfortably see both eyes without focusing on either one
  • -smile big with your whole face, like you just saw your best friend for the first time in a year
  • -breath from your belly
  • -before an act or action we need oxygen as fuel
  • -draw air into the bottom portion of your lungs before the chest muscles expand and draw further air into the upper portion
  • -funny shit-test responses to “do you play video games?”
  • -“no I use mature media modules”
  • -“no I dabble in adult entertainment simulations”
  • -quotes
  • -“No persons time, attention or companionship is more valuable than your own.”
  • -“You cannot allow your ego to become attracted to receiving specific reactions and responses from people.”
  • -“What you make yourself to be is a choice. What happens to you as a result of what you are, is not.”
  • -“Whatever it is you are feeling is a perfect reflection of what is in the process of becoming.”
  • -“Confidence is the reward for being Courageous.”
  • -“Men have approach anxiety and women have last-minute-resistance anxiety.”
  • -have preferences to create your identity
  • -if a guy is looking your girl up-and-down
  • -“Chief, eyes on your own paper.”
  • -keep moving on, but preserve what works


[–][deleted] 43 points44 points  (5 children)

I don't recommend talking about her hobbies.

Spoiler alert she doesn't have any. The amount of girls who have told me they dance or play on instrument and I have called bullshit on is crazy. Often I just say 'no you don't and stare them down' and they'll admit they haven't done it in like 10+ years. It's especially easy to tell with dancing any dancer has a strong core and traps. If she if soft tummied and flat across the shoulders she doesn't dance.

Hobbies are too much effort for the modern girl when she can get all her validation from Twitter or Facebook or tinder.

[–]rockoverchicago 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Today's womens hobbies: YOGA, SHOPPING

[–][deleted] 0 points0 points

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[–][deleted] 7 points8 points  (1 child)

Just wait until it's more common knowledge in the sub and it won't be a weird soapbox. It can join the 'DAE have girls tell them about being raped quickly after meeting?' circle jerk that is it half the threads on female behaviour.

I guess 'stare them down' is a weird way of putting it. I read 'girls have no hobbies' here a while ago and have just been investigating it's truth of my self. I won't question a girls age or name, but I always question any hobby they bring up.

[–]aescnt 46 points47 points  (8 children)

I think the "E" in "RAPE" is better as 'exes', rather than 'economics'.

[–][deleted] 49 points50 points  (6 children)

Also, don't talk about...rape. got it.

[–]2wiseclockcounter 46 points47 points  (2 children)

but if the bitch starts talking about her own "rape" within the first 15 minutes, high tail it the fuck out of there.

[–]tits_out_forTheBoys 9 points10 points  (0 children)

don't wanna be the antagonist of her next rape fable

[–]loin_fruit 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Dated a feminist once (terrible idea) who brought up that she was raped on the second date. To me, bringing that type of thing up is way too soon on the second date. I take it as them trying to get you to feel sorry for them. Some type of attention bullshit.

[–][deleted] 20 points21 points  (10 children)

Where does playing with my cell phone show up on this list?

[–]PlanB_pedofile 8 points9 points  (9 children)

As a man, don't do it. If a woman is doing it, you've lost and time to move onto the next.

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (8 children)

I sat down at the bar and tried making small talk with nearby patrons while ordering some food - so tempted to surf Reddit or go home. Socializing with strangers is awkward as fuck for me.

[–]PlanB_pedofile 4 points5 points  (4 children)

This is where F.O.R.D. helps the most. Those are awesome small talk staples that get something rolling. Also some people are not in for small talk.

Eye contact is a must. Don't stare into their soul and brain rape eye contact, but just enough eye contact that you'll know their eye color and maybe how long their eye lashes are.

Not everyone is engaging so know when to move on before u turn into a third wheel. If a conversation is not to be had then exit smoothly and it would seem as if you two nerver even encountered.

If the conversation turns positive and the two of you hook on topics remember the 2/3rds rule. Let them occupy 2/3rds of the conversation and you 1/3rd. "Don't be an open book" don't reveal too much about yourself unless it's directly relevant to the conversation. People love to talk about themselves and it helps if u listen and ask questions on their stories. Don't ever reveal unless asked. If they are asking you something then that means you've gained their interest but always remember to be a closed book.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (3 children)

I just feel so awkward standing there no matter what happens. what am I supposed to look at - who am I supposed to talk to? It all so incredibly forced to me...

[–]PlanB_pedofile 0 points1 point  (2 children)

For the eyes, be sure to give them a break. 4 seconds of good eye contact when they are talking to you then do a subtle shift to what's behind them or a slight dodge to their left or right earlobe. Don't go way wondering where it's obvious.

If there is a tv going, turn your head for a brief moment and look and then turn back like you are checking a game score then back to the person. Don't let your eyes shift more than 20 degrees if the eyes need to move more than that then move your head. This is from my experience in talking with someone and watching their eyes zoom all over the place like looking out for a hit man.

When talking to you look direct at them. Again don't stare into their brain but let your eyes drift to their nose, and lips. Like reading their lips. Take brief glances to the eyes just long enough to get a color and go back. Don't forget to blink. If eye contact is longer than 4 seconds for the love of god blink or something or else it gets creepy.

It comes with practice. Things like retail sales, or jobs that force face to face helps. I've met face to face with probably 5,000 people over the years. Face to face sales really pushes that. You have 30 minutes to an hour to strike up a conversation. Even after all this time cold approaches produce a bit of anxiety but it breaks when the ball gets rolling.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (1 child)

But when I'm standing there waiting for my food to come to the bar and people are coming an going, what does one say? Why would I want to talk to someone? Why would anyone want to talk to me? We have nothing in common. I have no reason to talk to people. Why am I even there? You may not think this is a worthy question, but I stand outside a place looking in and wonder if I'm going to spend a bunch of money for nothing while all the socially savvy people pretend to have a good time. I don't know, I haven't been face to face with 5,000 people and if I did I would feel like an idiot for all of them.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're gonna feel stupid when you're starting out but that's why you do it: to get better.

Why would you want to talk to someone? To improve your conversation skills.

[–]Thizzlebot 0 points1 point  (2 children)

Socializing with strangers is awkward as fuck for me.

That's because you aren't good at it...yet. It's a skill just like anything else so all you can do is practice! Luckily you can practice anywhere so good luck!

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (1 child)

What's the point, though? Maybe it's just the "bar/nightclub" thing that makes me feel uncomfortable.

[–]Thizzlebot 2 points3 points  (0 children)

What's the point, though?

uh to make you better at socializing lol. Nothing bad comes from socializing, you meet interesting people and you never know when someone could come in handy(ie job prospects, help you move, etc.)

[–]Karol754 17 points17 points [recovered]

Hey can we add our own and create a giant list it be pretty fun. I make notes like this on my phone as well.

Some of mine:

Better to offend then appease.

Think me not we. If got a gf.

Better to lead blind then follow the blind

Pick words carefully

Making an impression is better than no impression

[–]redshirt66 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Think me speak we.

Always think of yourself as an individual it keeps you from being needy and putting the girl up on a pedestal.

However speak we, because you are subtly introducing the idea of you two being together and making her more comfortable with whatever choices you decide to take.

[–]Endorsed ContributorBluepillProfessor 7 points8 points  (1 child)

Printing this off and putting it on my desk.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Nice Idea, might make a nice poster out of it.

[–]lloopy 2 points3 points  (1 child)

The "where to look" thing.

I was once given the advice to look directly at the bridge of the nose of the person you're talking to, and take in their eyes in your close peripheral vision.

That way you're not flipping between eyes, nor are you focused on just one eye.

[–]needless_pickup_line 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Just be careful not to go cross eyed.

[–]loin_fruit 7 points8 points  (1 child)

Fucking great man. Going to save this. Also I want to add

2/3s rule. Don't put more effort into a relationship than what she's putting. If she takes an hour to text back. Wait just as long or longer. Sometimes go as far as to not reward her unless she does two things that are worthy or recognition first.

[–]Hormander 7 points8 points  (0 children)

That's a nice list

thanks for posting it here

[–][deleted] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This is great. I feel like all of this was taught to me while I was in boot camp (Marine Corps) but without it being stated.

[–]squiremarcus 3 points4 points  (0 children)

-always make people break eye contact with you before you break it with them

I have never consciously noticed who breaks eye contact first

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

"do not lean forward" "allow her to orient her body to you" and "lean back" have been game changers for me in night game.

[–][deleted] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

smile big with your whole face, like you just saw your best friend for the first time in a year

I have also heard picture you railing her while smiling.

[–]PracticallyAlpha 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Great post. Couple things I'd like to add:

allow her to orient her body to you

While this is a good practice to get into the habit of, I believe there is something to be said for intentional mirroring. People mirror body language when they're interested, and receive people better who have subtly similar body language to them.

-F.O.R.D (good things to talk about) -Family, Occupation, Recreation and Dream

These are great jumping off points, but I'd recommend avoiding staying on one of these topics for too long. Try starting out with question relating to one of these, and look for a little clue in one of her responses that'll let you know something more personal to ask a follow-up about.

-rub a girls back while hugging, do not pat

This was fucking brilliant. I recommend squeezing her just hard enough for her to know that you could crush her, but softly enough to know you won't.

[–]supercooldragons 2 points3 points  (1 child)

Shoulder to hip? Please explain

[–]Thorware 5 points6 points  (0 children)

For when you shoulder-ram her.

Just kidding, it's part of the kino escalation ladder. You just touched her shoulder, next step is to touch her hip.

[–]dgillz 2 points3 points  (0 children)

ignore her beauty

Especially if she is beautiful. Every AFC in the world has told her that she is beautiful. She is used to hearing this. She knows that she is beautiful. Compliment her on her wit or intelligence and you've separated yourself the pack.

[–]justlurking420 1 point2 points  (0 children)

"Talk louder, then louder than that". My favorite

[–]Rugnardl 1 point2 points  (2 children)

What does the hand to hand, hand to shoulder mean?

[–]RPGoon 5 points5 points [recovered]

Its a kino escalation ladder. I used to have a cheat sheet pretty similar to his.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

-women do not see features they see how you present yourself are percieved (presentation + attitude towards you)

Exactly, I can't drill this enough into some men's heads. If a girl thinks you are smart, it has nothing to do with how smart your are. You are perceived as witty, creative or have good communication skills. This combined with a positive attitude towards you: either due to status or rapport. These generate a simple model along the lines of "I like how brainy he is?" and this gets rationalised into: "he's smart"

[–]DCLdit 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Again, thanks for the re-post bsutansalt.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sexual strategy. Good stuff.

[–]87GNX 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's fucking dense bro. Good

[–]sirmadam 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe one to add to the quotes: "Many things can be achieved in a day, as long as you don't make that day tomorrow."

[–]NotReallyEthicalLOL 0 points1 point  (0 children)

don't really get why "-funny shit-test responses to “do you play video games?”" is included. I feel like this doesn't apply to most people and if it did I'm sure they could come with something on the spot.

[–]Trisha_Hill 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Posting so i can find this again

[–]betarex 1 points1 points [recovered]

do not stare, moral looking time

Means what? Or is moral auto corrected and supposed to be mirror?

[–]DCLdit 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey betarex. It's not auto correct. The Moral Looking Time is just the socially accepted time someone is to look or stare at another person. All this stuff is is just to practice until you feel comfortable enough not to have to use any of it.

You can look wherever you want. I believe in not making excuses for where your eyes wander, but, you should still be able to realize when you are starring and creeping someone out. Don't do that. Be aware of the Moral Looking Time.

[–]∞ Mod | RP Vanguardbsutansalt[S] 0 points1 point  (2 children)

I suspect so. Mirroring is a great rapport/comfort building tool.

[–]betarex 1 points1 points [recovered]

Is this supposed to be when attracting her interest from afar or during conversation?

[–]∞ Mod | RP Vanguardbsutansalt[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

During your interaction.

[–]gnikita98 1 points1 points [recovered]

"...and women have last-minute-resistance anxiety."

Can someone clarify this for me?

[–]dup3r -3 points-2 points  (1 child)

never break eye contact

That's cool if you want to come off like a try-hard or a psychopath. You look like a douche, not someone with effortless composure.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is a tldr there's a lot more to most of this specifically eye contact.

Only the goal is to build rapport so breaking eye contact to do that is a good idea unless you can look cool keeping eye contact.

Scenario A: lighting a cigarete focus on doing the thing infront of you do it well and remember take up space again after it's done

Lighting a cigarette while keeping eye contact might just be intimidating but it might also be sexy or both to different chicks, gauge the girl before doing this.

Scenario B: Eating a hamburger while staring your date down is weird maybe not when you eat a frie or a piece of fried finger food but eye contact with your date when you bite into a sandwich is just weird, there wont be many scenarios to do that unless you're trying to smash the Hamburglar's wife.

Scenario C:

Licking on a hard candy or a lollipop and not keeping eye contact would probably be a mistake but how you keep eye contact determines the sub lingual conversation; bedroom eyes are for sluts, joke making and someone you've already fooled around with. Regular old genuine interest and eye contact aren't a bad idea the lolipop is mundane and requires no attention so you should be giving that attention to your conversation partner. The nuclear option is degrees of simulated fellatio on the lollipop or candy cane, only use if you have good reason to trust your instincts on it.

Generally trust your instincts evolutionary biology dictates that you probably have all of the non verbal shit you need to speak the the language of love, just don't get too caught up in yourself and let your mind and actions flow with the situation, you will learn what not to do and if the thing you are about to do would have serious consequences rethink it before you do it, just remember the 3 second rule and take mental note of what makes other people uncomfortable. Learn to read others body language and the pieces will fall together.

[–][deleted] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

My cheat sheet as of today is this: be your fucking self; respect and love yourself with balance; don't give a shit; set your boundaries and be a man.

[–]soulmatter -1 points0 points  (0 children)

What do you mean by take up space?

[–][deleted] -5 points-4 points  (2 children)

While I do agree with the majority of these things... at what point does just following a list of things you should be mean you aren't really being yourself anymore?

I know its not the red pill way to not do certain things to be an 'Alpha'...but at what point does being an 'Alpha' stray away from being truly yourself? (being beta)

Just some food for thought and be careful out there guys.

[–]Thorware 8 points9 points  (1 child)

"Be yourself" is classic blue pill advice and absolutely worthless.

Don't be yourself. Work to become better than your current self. There's nothing intrinsically valuable about how you are now, especially if you are not getting the results out of life and women that you want. Parts of your current self need to die. Change is fundamental to growth.

[–][deleted] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

What if being my self is naturally red pill though? Is that not possible?