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My before situation, 1st of january 2019:

21yo, kissless virgin, skinny as fuck and small, failing at college. I was basically deep down in a depression hole, playing videogames , socializing with my only friend left, and doing nothing else.

I decided to change my situation and somehow stumbled with theredpill forum, rooshv, rollo , etc..

What did I change?

  1. I started to lift seriously, ive become a bit fat in the process but now im big, bigger than most people, and look way better in clothes. Say what you want but the ladies prefer a big man to a skinny kid. And it improves your confidence massively. Basically I gained 20lb in 9 months

  2. I changed my focus on studies and found something I enjoy, And i finally put effort on it. Got a job related in the field while I study, so I couldnt be more happy. Looking forward to finish studying soon and land a remote job to travel the world.

  3. I finally have an aim/goal in my life, when I used to just watch the days pass without doing anything useful. I did setup a goal to move to another country in 2 years max. And Im almost there , next year im moving to a new country with a job offer, to live a new experience.

  4. From being a kissless virgin I went to bang 4 girls during the current year. Im still bad at sex but whatever, im confident that I will keep improving. Last girl I banged was 3 days ago, in the beginning of the year I would have never believed i coould have bang such a hot girl. And guess what? Shes not special, just another girl. There was even a period where I was rotating 2 plates, never would have dreamed of something like that, but it was a big eye opener.

  5. Say yes to everything. I have expanded my social circle greatly by doing the mentioned. Even if I was lazy as fuck, I forced myself to hangout with my friends, and it was worth it.

  6. Find a hobby. I picked up a new (old) hobby. Mine is skate, and met awesome people in the process.

What have I failed to do?

  1. As I said earlier my sex is bad and ive the feeling that this makes my plates dissapear, but whatever Im working on it. Nofap/No deathgrip/Maca/ etc...

  2. I havent done a single daygame approach and I should do it. At least to experience it.

  3. Despite the massive improvements in my life, my summer was really bad, I had to move back to my parents house for 2 months and it was... bad, so guys try to move out of ur parents house asap, even if you have to live with flatmates (it is actually a good social circle creator)

TLDR: January == Kissless virgin, no job, playing videogames September == Banged 4 girls, became stronger lifting seriously, landed a job that I enjoy and has a good future. Finally have an aim in my life.

I know that all this may not sound like much, but im really happy with who am I becoming. Thanks to everybody who opened my eyes


[–]intl_plyrs_clb102 points103 points  (4 children) | Copy Link

Great start man.

One tip: it's cool to say yes to everything in the beginning especially after years of not being social, however there will come a point where you have to start saying no to things and prioritizing. Be careful because this can sneak up on you and suddenly you have to many things juggling and burnout.

[–]majorfrankies16 points17 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Yes I kinda deffinitelly feel it from time to time, and had to decline some stuff because I already had meeting or whatever. But to begin with you gotta get out of your comfort zone. I must say its an amazing feeling in the beginning when you are coming out of being a socially awkward guy

But yes, I see what you mean.

[–]imtheoneimmortal1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

So true This happened to me last months Tried to become strong and less worried

Even I try to calculate everything on my life

[–]krizzywizzy1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

wow. thats some good advice because i realized that being a yes man braught me places but there came i point when i really needed to start saying No more, and i think that's when i found my purpose.

[–]FinancialThanks140 points41 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

Nice. Read the sex god method

[–]majorfrankies11 points12 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

Its actually in my to do list, I will have to pick it up

[–]FinancialThanks131 points32 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

dlscrib.com_sex-god-method-2nd-editionpdf.pdf

[–]manu_gd3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Thanks dude!

[–]theSmartPenguin2316 points17 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Great. This is what TRP does to you, wakes you up, sets you free and helps make you a better man. It’s not just about women, it’s about how to be a successful and strong man as a whole. Best of luck buddy.

[–]DaftOdyssey14 points15 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Don't thank us, thank yourself for allowing yourself to improve.

[–]Snowaey6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Good job bro, keep going

[–]FuccboiChad10 points11 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Hold frame always.

[–]asorals5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Good to hear mate.

TRP has helped me a load too. It keeps me from being a little blue pilled bitch. Still a long way to go, but definitely on the right path.

[–]sanji_974 points5 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

I'm basically in your situation and hopefully I have a similar experience.

[–]TRP_mask3 points4 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Literally just making a shift in behaviour from being antisocial to networking with purpose is enough to make a change like this.

[–]sanji_972 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

That's the plan, I'm an introvert and dislike crowds. But I have to get out of my comfort zone to move in life.

[–][deleted] 3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Don't worry too much about sexual ability. Girls know what to expect from younger guys. You'll improve naturally with practice.

The best part is that you're not one of those young guys who's like "damn, I'm so good at sex!" I had a few friends like that when I was 20, and they never actually got good because they never saw a need to improve. Nobody is good when they first start. You're clearly in the right mentality of practice and improve so you'll get there, I'm certain of it.

Also, well done bro. Great work.

[–]beardestbird2 points3 points  (6 children) | Copy Link

Just a question. Do you read the side bar daily?

[–]i-am-the-prize0 points1 point  (5 children) | Copy Link

audiobooks - whether working out, walking the dog, stuck in traffic. no excuses not to feed RP into your mind.

[–]beardestbird0 points1 point  (4 children) | Copy Link

Yeah. I wish the side bar had an audio version.

[–]i-am-the-prize0 points1 point  (3 children) | Copy Link

many are on audible.com

[–]beardestbird0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy Link

Can you link them by any chance?

[–]i-am-the-prize1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

you go to www.audible.com, and get an account. Amazon bought them, so use your prime account if it's private to you. We use our Prime for family stuff, music, etc. So I setup a different Amazon account for all of my manosphere centric reading materials and audiobooks. Then some are:

https://www.audible.com/pd/48-Laws-of-Power-Audiobook/B00WYDJ2YQ?qid=1568379799&sr=1-1&pf_rd_p=e81b7c27-6880-467a-b5a7-13cef5d729fe&pf_rd_r=Q7V421X5X1P4PN21P42D&ref=a_search_c3_lProduct_1_1

rollo books 1, 2, and 3:

https://www.audible.com/pd/The-Rational-Male-Audiobook/B01E61CYCA?qid=1568379866&sr=1-1&pf_rd_p=e81b7c27-6880-467a-b5a7-13cef5d729fe&pf_rd_r=KRR6F86HEMWSHYVFZCQS&ref=a_search_c3_lProduct_1_1

https://www.audible.com/pd/Preventive-Medicine-Audiobook/B075XR2987?qid=1568379866&sr=1-3&pf_rd_p=e81b7c27-6880-467a-b5a7-13cef5d729fe&pf_rd_r=KRR6F86HEMWSHYVFZCQS&ref=a_search_c3_lProduct_1_3

https://www.audible.com/pd/The-Rational-Male-Positive-Masculinity-Volume-3-Audiobook/B07KGM1VMT?qid=1568379866&sr=1-2&pf_rd_p=e81b7c27-6880-467a-b5a7-13cef5d729fe&pf_rd_r=KRR6F86HEMWSHYVFZCQS&ref=a_search_c3_lProduct_1_2

no more mr. nice guy: (read by the author which is cool):

https://www.audible.com/pd/No-More-Mr-Nice-Guy-Audiobook/B078924C5Z?qid=1568379932&sr=1-1&pf_rd_p=e81b7c27-6880-467a-b5a7-13cef5d729fe&pf_rd_r=C5R7AFMNKKC9XXCDM3NV&ref=a_search_c3_lProduct_1_1

when i say no i feel guilty:

https://www.audible.com/pd/When-I-Say-No-I-Feel-Guilty-Audiobook/B01LXDHJSC?qid=1568379950&sr=1-1&pf_rd_p=e81b7c27-6880-467a-b5a7-13cef5d729fe&pf_rd_r=CWH19T1QS3W1P7T1EBXQ&ref=a_search_c3_lProduct_1_1

just use the search box on audible with the titles from the sidebar...

[–]beardestbird0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Thanks will do

[–]fretboard_squatter2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

What's death grip? Maca?

[–]Kkiy0M1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

How did you discover your passion/goal in life?

[–]majorfrankies2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Not that I have a huge passion, but I always wanted to travel the world meeting new people and cultures while being young, since i considere it the ultimate get out of comfort zone pill + being a computer geek allowed me to land a coding job which I enjoy.

That means That i figured out how to enjoy travelling and meeting people while having a mean to make money, remote coding. So im working forward to make it a reality, and so far im doing good.

I do t have a clear passion/goal long term, but my closes goal is being able to work remotely in something i enjoy, so im focusing on that

[–]Dimenzije901 point2 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

Dont overthink sex so much if you cant make them cum with your dick, the foreplay and tease will do the trick remember that they mostly cum by clit rubbing then the penetration. But dont worry youre still young you will improve just keep fucking and dont fall for the relationship trap. Youre too young for LTR in my opinion.

[–]DasHylen1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

dont fall for the relationship trap

Especially if you have a young career, wait till you get older!

[–]TRP_mask1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Being young is not really a reason. I have thought about fucking different girls rather than keeping the LTR but honestly, the LTR taught me so much and I'm quite satisfied with it. I actually would recommend anyone for an LTR just to learn, literally. It's not like you get into an obligation; you can end it any time

[–]Dimenzije900 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Yeah you are right, maybe in this case he should try an LTR for experience. But this doesnt mean he should chastise himselfe to other girls.

[–]moresmarterthanyou1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Love reading this! Congrats on the shift, your the man!

[–]vajav1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Out of curiosity, what job career is it you are pursuing?

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy Link

How do you manage to make friends? Right now I’m in college in a different state from where I grew up and I literally only interact with my roommate and my LTR, it sucks the life out of you

[–]majorfrankies2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Ive 3 social circles now when used to have 0, but a single friend.

  1. I had an old "friend" who used to skate, I did never hang out with him or anything. I decided to give skate a try and hang out with him, so we have been skating together and as a result he has introduced me to his gf, his friends and his gfs female friends.

Fast forward to date im hanging out with him skating, and getting invited to parties that he throws up.

  1. Met some guys in the place im studying. When I was in college whenever new people invited me to a party I was like whatever, I cant right now im busy, and then I played videogames. Now I simply said yes to any meetup we have.

  2. Started gaming girls, guys from my "old social cifcle" noticed and now want to hang with me, so I get invited to parties with them.

  3. When my flatmate noticed me bringing girls to the appartment, he started respecting me more and started invititing me to hang out with his friends.

PD: And always be social and in a cool mood, make people laught and enjoy being with you

So basically

Hobbies + saying yes + gaming to boost my social value

[–]Apfeltee1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Go out and fucking talk to people! Join a sports club, go to party’s,...

[–]boy_named_su0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Regarding your "failed to do" list:

  1. get a fleshlight to avoid deathgrip. Read Sex God Method
  2. read Day Game by Roosh

[–]willieblackbean-5 points-4 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

You're still a beta, so take your time.

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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