So I've been lurking on this subreddit for a couple years now. It has been an uphill battle to say the lease but I digress. Now, I would describe myself as a below average dude. I'm 34 years old, I'm balding (losing hair since age 19), I'm about 5'6 and I weigh a about 200 pounds. I have a square face with oversized cheeks, my teeth are super crooked, my nose is too big, my mouth is too small, I have a tiny chin, a bad underbite and my body is covered with coarse hair (like really thick).
The reason I stated my physical attributes is not to complain, whine or any of that. I just feel that there aren't too many guys on here that fit in my physical realm. So this one's for you guys. And I hope this helps.
It comes to no surprise, my dating life was shit from the time I hit puberty all the way to my mid twenties. My first kiss was at 24 years old with a drunk cougar at a bar. And I lost my virginity to a hooker in Tijuana. I was also raised super Blue Pill and raised by a religious single mother (my dad was alpha but died when I was small). So I pretty much had a life of not being listened to, not taken seriously, women would only talk to me if they needed something, you get the picture.
I spent years in total confusion, depression, hopelessness and then flat out nihilism. I mean I was a hard worker, right? I was trustworthy, right? I was a good and loyal friend, right? People would tell me how guys like me were a dime in a dozen and many women would kill to find a guy like me. But no one cared. I still asked girls on dates but they would usually go out of politeness and make it clear that we were just friends by the end of the date. I had no motivation, stayed at a stagnant job that only promoted the pretty people that talked the talk but couldn't walk the walk if it could save their lives.
Well in a nutshell, I got tired and changed things. First an foremost, I had to change my attitude and philosophy. Over time, results came but they were far and few between. But better than nothing nevertheless. Then after years of practicing approach (mostly bad results, was spit on multiple times, was slapped for refusing to buy a girl's friend a drink, shoved out of the way at clubs by women often, verbally assaulted many times), results got more frequent. Then I discovered the red pill and it was the first and only confirmation of what I was observing about women and people in general.
Now at 33, I am 40 pounds lighter (still working on weight), back to school for a career in pipe welding, and in a currently in an LTR with an attractive chick who has beautiful hair, great body and is three inches taller than me.
Now here is my warning to my fellow "fugly" brothers.....
You are going to have a hard life ahead of you, the struggle never stops. Life is hard on everyone, but dudes like us get little to no easy breaks. In fact, if you work hard and get better at frame control, learn game and improve yourself overall, some people will hate you very much for it. I have had to cut off friends due to this. When I introduced my current gf to them, most of them were clearly puzzled and showed signs of jealousy (even though they are better looking yet single). Even when we go out, people constantly (especially guys) will try to join our conversation and ALWAYS ask me who she is to me. One guy flat out started talking shit and asked why I wasn't holding her hand and tried to out alpha me to impress her but ended up making an ass out of himself. People don't like to see the perceived "lesser people" succeed as much as we all say the contrary. That is why so many guys like this remain in their misery for life because they sense that they are marginalized but feel helpless which is understandable. And if you're below average and on your way to being that top 20%, you are gonna get more heat. And its going to hurt, and you will feel very alone.
But always remember that the Blue Pill/Feminine Imperative philosophy you've been holding onto is something that will need to be eliminated over time (and it will take years). The better looking dudes can get away with some beta game since they offer eye candy and social status points to their women. But that doesn't usually apply to us.
As hard and painful as it gets, never give up. EVER. Because, trust me, when you start to slip, or let bad results get to you, you will return to that dark hole in no time. And its far easier to fall into a big dark hole than it is to crawl out of one. Remember it is better to be a lone man on a mission to greatness, then have "friends" and be "liked" at the expense of your mission, your happiness and your overall well-being. Accept that fact that you are on your own. And only you can change turn the tides to your favor. Good luck to you all.