“Getting out of child support liability is a right men want.”

Not exactly. Men just want women to realize that they are not entitled to a man’s financial support over her decision to be a mother.

Men don’t want the right to not be liable. They just don’t want to be liable for things they never consented and agreed to be liable for.

That’s like men saying, “Can you believe women? Now they want the right to have an abortion without first securing a waiver or written consent from their husband or the biological father! I tell you, feminism has gone too far. Soon, they’re going to want the right to go outside of the house without their husband, or to spend money without their man’s permission or written waiver.”

The solution is not to assign men with liability first, and then, tell men, “Okay, this is what you have to do and the hoops you need to jump through so that the woman is no longer entitled to your financial support for her child.”

My life, my wallet, my choice. We had sex. You used my sperm to create a baby. You chose to not have unprotected sex. You chose to not use birth control. You chose to not use Plan B. You chose to not safely terminate an early term pregnancy and let the pregnancy develop to term. You chose to not leave a resulting child to a safe haven. I didn’t choose any of that. Those were your choices. You wanted to be a mother, God bless you. I’m happy for you. But don’t make your choices and aspirations of motherhood my financial problem.

If you can’t afford it on your own, guess what, you’re not gonna have it. You’re not going to pollute the demand curve for housing, goods and services, and the supply curve for labor with an artificially higher head count ... courtesy of my wallet. I’ll tell you how quickly women think twice about being a mother and engaging in risky sex when they know it will result in a child they can’t afford, will have to abort or turn over to a safe haven.

In economic terms, it “internalizes” the “externalities” onto the ultimate decision maker. It gets the polluter to pay the price of pollution, and think twice before creating another coal power plant.

Want to create a coal power plant but can’t afford to do so on your own? Then, better secure a man’s written promise to subsidize your decision “before” you break ground.

I’m sorry to be so crass about it, but that’s the reality of things. We don’t know how the child was conceived. But we can easily know with certainty whether a person consented to and agreed to be financially responsible for any resulting children.

Why would one portion of the population continue to insist on leaving the door open for cases of male rape and sperm theft, fraud and misrepresentation of infertility, when all the other side is asking for is to be responsible and accountable for financial liability it has actually consented and agreed to undertake, but not for those it has not agreed to undertake?

Sex and parental status/liability is not a package deal for women. The only thing that makes it a package deal for men is the law. All men are saying is, make it the same for both men and women. If it’s not a package deal for women, then it shouldn’t be a package deal for men either. (Don’t insist on maintaining the law that creates this inequality in the first place, and then drafting “exceptions” to it. Just get rid of the law that creates the inequality).

Just like women, men should be able to engage in sex without state law necessarily forcing men to also simultaneously consent to and agree to parental status and financial liability for consequences he has no ability to unilaterally terminate once they occur.

The question really boils down to, why do women feel like they are entitled to have a man subsidize her decision to ultimately be a mother and create a parent-child relationship with a pregnancy she decides to carry to term or child she decides to have not turn over to a safe haven?

What’s the basis? Because he had sex? Therefore? He consented to sex, not to creating a parental relationship or financial liability. You can enjoy and engage in sex without any risk of that undesired legal burden. Why should it be any different for a man? Why do you think a man can only engage in sex so long as he accepts being liable for the woman’s ultimate decisions with respect to a child?

Genuinely, I’d love to hear from a feminist on these points.