We know now, from rape kit testing, that the vast majority of rapes are committed by just a few men. These men rape habitually. They rape their girlfriends, their wives and acquaintances or strangers. It's the same men. Over and over again.

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.The idea that stranger rapists and date rapists were different men was a myth. Rapists tend to commit all kinds of different rapes and don't have a particular MO.Two: A very few men commit most of the rapes. Often over the course of decades and decades.

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I literally know women who were raped in college because they drank the libfem cool aide and bought into the idea that "we can all be friends because we all understand that being drunk/having had sex before isn't consent." Yes. Everyone understands that. But rapists don't care. They love that you're depending on them to apply what they learned and not rape you.

But part of rape culture is the myth that any man will rape under the right/wrong conditions. That's apparently not true.

Maintaining that myth provides an alibi for not prosecuting rape aggressively, or trying to wipe it out as a phenomenon. As it turns out, we could almost eliminate rape just by catching most guys the first, second or third time. And processing kits even if women don't want to report.

For instance: A woman comes in after her husband has raped her, but then refuses to press charges. You should still process the kit and cross-reference it with kits from every city that man has every lived. Then you might be able to lock him up for a rape he committed 20 years ago.

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That's why it's so important to get a rape kit done even if you know the person who raped you. They could have raped someone else who doesn't know them.