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I’ve seen a few replies around here recently, painting Chads in a really negative light. They don’t care about women, they’re manipulative, they just pump and dump, they have to put on displays of charisma and fun

This just seems so ... wrong to me. The Chads I’ve known IRL as friends (and even the guys I saw while bartending) are naturals. They’re genuine, good people who like to have a good time and people are naturally drawn to them. If anything, they all seem to be BP because they don’t need to over analyze or overthink gender relations - women just fall into their lap

As far as the pump and dump thing, sure they have STRs and ONS. But they also genuinely develop feelings for girls, and will get into a LTR if it suits them. They’ve gotten their hearts broken, like any other human on the face of the earth

So, ladies - what has been your experience with Chads?

EDIT - oh my god, with the downvotes. Guess the incels don’t approve of women actually liking Chads


[–][deleted]No Pill47 points48 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

I was never good-looking enough to sleep with Chads. I used to date an actual PUA, but he was below average in looks. My only experience with Chads has been when they were making fun of me in middle school.

[–]cxj75% Redpill Core Ideas14 points15 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

😢

[–]Ltrfsn28 points29 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Lol I've always been bullied by chads, so my apologies that I'm not buying that they're naturally nice

[–]poppy_bluBeware the freight train26 points27 points  (4 children) | Copy Link

The irony of calling yourself “red pill” and criticizing other men for NSA sex.

I spent my life around chads — friends, boyfriends, etc. They've come in all sizes, shapes, colors, literally, but one thing they all have in common is that they were fun to be around. Something this crowd will never get. Being a person others want to spend their time around is about 75% of the battle in life.

[–]69XxXCuckboyXxX698 points9 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

And vast majority of people simply dont want to spend time with uggos.

[–]The-Wizard-of-Oz-2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I see the point. It isn't criticizing just a form of jealousy. Also, to be fair to trp, your more likely to see this on women RP, MGTOW and incel subs.

[–]Mylaur1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

TIL I'm simply not fun to be around. Ughh. I guess I'm a loner for a reason.

[–]poppy_bluBeware the freight train1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I’m referring specifically to the annoying incels, not you

[–]Nodoxxintoxin16 points17 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

I guess depending on how you define Chad, I married one. Definitely not a Brooks Brothers/jock Chad, a weed selling, long haired Chad, who got laid at 15 when some girl offered. (He could have at 14 but that’s it own story.). All the neighborhood ladies and his high school friends mothers loved him too. He was a very good looking boy, lol.

He went on to become a bartender, and got laid like tile. Back when I met him, I was going back to school and I was tending bar as well. I wouldn’t have ever dated him then, he was a known player, ladies man and total alcoholic. He always was the life of the party though, right up until he passed out at least. He did end up for some time in an LTR with another fellow bartender we both knew.

We remained friends for years and in that time he had some pretty radical changes in his life, the biggest one was the suicide of his beloved older brother and his decision to become sober. He was still the funny, handsome man I always knew, but without the drugs and alcohol a pretty different guy emerged. He’s been sober 30 and we have been together for 26 years.

[–]damaskrose 1 points [recovered]  (12 children) | Copy Link

Chads are usually nice to women because women have always been nice to them. They're more willing to socialize with fat women & old women because they know their status won't be questioned.

[–]SmurfESmurferson[S] 34 points35 points  (10 children) | Copy Link

They're more willing to socialize with fat women & old women because they know their status won't be questioned, they're not afraid people will think they're together.

I’ve definitely noticed this!!

[–]Red__Blue18 points19 points  (9 children) | Copy Link

fat women & old women

My guy friends and I make friends with old and fat women just fine. You know that red pill guys still make friends with women they don't want to fuck right?

Edit:

their status won't be questioned

Why would that put my status in question? That only sounds insecure, not red pilled.

[–]damaskrose 1 points [recovered]  (3 children) | Copy Link

Lots of men, especially young college-aged men are concerned about what their friends think. And lots of guys have the type of friends that will make fun of them for being a chubby chaser or a milf chaser.

[–]Red__Blue6 points7 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

I'll fuck a fat girl in front of my friends. Red pill: agree and escalate.

[–]damaskrose 1 points [recovered]  (1 child) | Copy Link

Yeah that's what Chads do, not necessarily the exhibitionism though lol.

[–]Red__Blue1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

[–]rockemsockemlostem15 points16 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I agree with you, this is an odd statement. I've never thought, "Dang, I better not talk to that fat ugly lady because people might think we're together and I'll lose status" bwahahahahahaaa

[–]UTC244 points5 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

That's female projection. That's how they feel about their boyfriends, a Chad adds value to their status and a ugly detracts.

[–]chocolatchauud 1 points [recovered]  (2 children) | Copy Link

Oh please, men do the exact same

[–]UTC241 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Nope

[–]ivanttobealone4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

damn, check AND mate

[–]goatismycopilotPurple Pill Woman18 points19 points  (6 children) | Copy Link

I have been friends with Chad but I don't I ever dated mainstream Chad I think of mainstream Chad as frat guy jock/ Brooks brothers kind guy and I was never attracted to them. I like attractive men just not them. They seemed not that remarkable or different. I have a few hot friends who married kinda Chad guys they seemed boring to talk to but did provide reasonable genetic material for nice looking kids.

[–]SmurfESmurferson[S] 6 points7 points  (5 children) | Copy Link

frat guy jock/ Brooks brothers kind guy

I see you have stumbled upon my type, lol. Add dark hair and enjoys Jack Daniels, and you’ve described almost every single one of my exes

[–]goatismycopilotPurple Pill Woman5 points6 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

Meh I bequeath you my share. I have dated or been married to a version of working class boy who made good: cop, pilot, air traffic controller, small working class business guy. Plaid shirts but will wear a suit if forced likes an obscure folk or country singer owns a boat motorcycle or something else. Fixes things. Broad shoulders.

[–]SmurfESmurferson[S] 7 points8 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Those guys all remind me of the adult men I grew up around on military bases. They were like my dad, or my friends dads - I see the appeal, but it just doesn’t do it for me

[–]goatismycopilotPurple Pill Woman2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Yah without getting into specifics about my childhood I do understand how I have repeated that pattern.

[–]PrehistoricPrincessNothing is sexier than mutual empathy and respect1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Woof. I'll take a working class city boy over a country boy of any kind, any day. To each their own though.

[–]liquidsnakex1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Awesome, let's add another one to that list!

[–]throwawayemotions347 points8 points  (5 children) | Copy Link

Never dated one. They all had douche bag vibes, wasnt into it.

I preferred the quiet, nerdy yet hot to me ones. They are the best.

[–]Cannabanoid4204 points5 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

Actually feel personally attacked by this statement.

I have had multiple female friends tell me that when I first met them I gave of douchebag asshole vibes, due to my attractiveness, only to realise I'm actually also that introverted quiet geek type. It's made meeting girls that I'm romantically attracted to, also geek type girls, so fucking difficult.

I have now cut my loses and have slowly turned into a natural chad. (not self described btw)

Never judge a book by it's cover.

Ps happy cake day

[–]Ladyofblades5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

This is my type. Don’t give up on the geek side of you, some women love that. There are female versions of you (hot, seemingly social but low key geeky women) and they will understand you fine.

[–]throwawayemotions342 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Well, I mean more so the guys that people here describe as a Chad - I know those guys, and I personally wouldn't and haven't touched any of them with a 4ft pole. That whole athletic esthetic, jock, super good looking, cocky guy who has girls following him, type.

I definitely think there are "Chads" in every group that we see.

But the whole ladies man never appealed to me. Always felt like I would be feeding into their ego, didn't wanna be apart of it. But, if there was a guy like you who was nerdy, cute and good looking, I would probably want to get closer.

Interests to me matter. I'm a good looking girl and I dont follow "trends" that you would a girl who looks like me - would. Guys are surprised when many things do not work on me, that should.

Too cool for the nerds. Too nerdy for the cool kids. So I kept to myself and a handful of friends / relationships I could vibe to.

And thank you :)

[–]dawnpriestess0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

Happy cake day

[–]throwawayemotions341 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Teenks !! My first one lol.

[–]NewVerses18 points19 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

The Chaddiest dude I ever had a thing with had awful game (due to his being so gorgeous that girls just flocked to him - as I did) but was all around a good straightforward man. The reason it didn't go further was that we both agreed it wasn't what we were looking for (yeah, really, I was not impressed.)

Not all the Chads are nice - I have met hot men so disgusting in their personalities that they end up being repulsive. But for that reason I find it hard to think of them as Chads.

[–]Myagooshki40042 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

What specific traits didn't impress you and what would you have wished from him instead?

[–]SmurfESmurferson[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Not all the Chads are nice - I have met hot men so disgusting in their personalities that they end up being repulsive. But for that reason I find it hard to think of them as Chads.

Yeah, that’s an important distinction. If you repel women with your personality, you’re not Chad. No matter how hot you are

All Chads are attractive, not all attractive men are Chad

[–]MyronBlayze6 points7 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

I've literally never met a conventional Chad, or the two dimensional representation of one. Like, there's a guy at work that does bodybuilding/used to go into competitions but he's actually a very sweet person, goes to his grandparents for lunch everyday, keeps his personal life quite quiet.

I'm just blanking on any sort of examples at all. I don't know if it's the town I live in but it's very different attitudes. I'm sure they exist but they don't run around any circles I run in. All the women/men in my friends group are in pretty equalist relationships. Another coworker I have is this huge tall dude and met his now wife on Tinder... but he's a huge teddy bear and she is the way more dominant one in their relationship (and that works for them).

[–]katymarxPurple Pill Woman4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Thats the issue, I don't know any pure Chad's as described by these boards. But know a ton of men who have gotten casual sex and LTR with no major issues. They vary.

[–]Orange_PaisleyOrange pill is best pill15 points16 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

I don't think I've ever dated what you would call a Chad. My boyfriends are all nerds and weirdos. That's the way I like 'em. And by and large I don't get pumped and dumped, I get stuck with men who will never go away long after I've broken up with them, and/or men who cheat and then are confused when I don't want to stay.

[–]Pidjesus3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Chad I knew had awful game but his looks carried him enough to sleep with many women

[–][deleted] 4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Chads are ascribed negative traits because the stereotype was created by jealous incels to begin with. The truth is that Chads simply have social skills, aren't ugly and havn't been broken by abuse or negative self talk.

[–][deleted] 3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Ignored them for the most part

[–]wigglysharkpurple people eater2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I’ve never fucked a Chad but I was friendly with the captain of my high school’s football team during high school. He was in my Latin class and seemed to be very interested in mythology and learning the language; we were the only two people in the class who actually enjoyed it. We ended up pairing up for any group work that was assigned.

He was very good looking, funny and smart and I could see why so many girls were attracted to him. He also was pretty friendly; his friends had been bullying my boyfriend (now my husband) and he got them to stop after we got to know each other. He of course had a reputation for not committing to girls but it didn’t seem to get in the way of his success.

[–]FlavFal31F10 points11 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

From my experience they can be nice and have some funny stories to tell, but I wouldn't want to be in a relationship with one. First of all my personality is very incompatible with theirs and I've never met one who was faithful to his girlfriend or wife.

[–]OverEasyFetus 1 points [recovered]  (3 children) | Copy Link

"I like getting fucked by Chads so here is me defending them"

Lol you don't fucking say.

Yeah, just because a guy is hot doesn't mean he's automatically an asshole. I think the downvotes are more because your post is kind of dumb and obvious, not "incels" being mad.

[–]LittleknownfactsAutomod is my husband[M] 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

Automod please.

[–]meomeowmeoww 1 points [recovered]  (2 children) | Copy Link

Chad in high school didn't like me at all, we shared the same last name and he hated it. He was okay looking, not noticably tall or good looking.

Current Chad I know is a head turner. Tall as hell, great WTH ratio. seems very intelligent. well groomed and dressed. Seems nice(in class), but I don't talk to him outside of class. We just wave good bye or hello.

[–]boomcheese443 points4 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

not noticably tall or good looking.

He wasnt Chad then.

[–]Next_Flow12 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

They’re genuine, good people who like to have a good time

If you were downvoted by incels, that would be the part that pissed me off at least

[–]katymarxPurple Pill Woman2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Chad is Jesus and Buddha and all other deities he is nothing and everything. This exercise has only proven he is a part of our id, and each Chad is unique. Think I'll write a short story about this...

[–]mandoa_sky2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

my little brother is a chadlite. to me he's just my bratty little brother. seems to be single by choice.

i have a friend who visually is a chad/chadlite but he is literally psychotic (as in hospitalised for psychosis). he's usually pretty social and well mannered and a general kind guy when he isn't a danger to himself and the people around him.

they're just normal people to me.

[–]Robert_de_Saint_Loup2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Not a woman, but I approve of Chads; Hang out with chads rather than incels. Incels are slavish creatures

[–]Ladyofblades2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

The real Chads were fun, nice to talk to and good dates. No real complaints here.

[–]misiepatysie2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

They are humans like any other human. They can be great and can be shitty, as all humans.

[–]Regal_NewtBlue Pill Woman2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

If all you mean by "Chads" are very attractive men well liked by everyone, my boyfriend and I met when were dorky acne-ridden twelve year olds, started dating in our teens, and the rest is history. He was an adorable kid then and grew up to be one hell of an attractive man when we grew up. Most universally liked, sensitive, funny person I know.

[–]modernmonetarytheory2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

IRL? Almost universally negative.

[–]Fieryirishplease7 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I am married to one does that count?

When I met my husband he was the typical one night stand only super arrogant kind of guy. We met at a time that we both wanted to find a FWB situation which was a first for us both. He had previously been single for 8 years by choice. The reality of it is that underneath the arrogance and womanizing he is actually a very kind, caring, and devoted man. He is still arrogant though, that hasn't gone anywhere.

I am very secure in the knowledge that he loves me and have never felt like he may cheat or step out on me. He does have many red pilled traits but that doesn't stop him from being sweet and loving.

[–]pngmafia97my type is chadcucks6 points7 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

I have only dated “Chads” although I never thought of them as such. They were all former manwhores (n>100) with a colorful history of a lot of casual sex and ONS. Within my limited sample set, they all fell fast and fell hard (in love). Really really sweet mouths, told me they loved me way before I felt anything back and two asked me to marry them. All were excellent in the sack and very aggressive romantically. They would essentially manipulate me into spending time with them (i.e. I bought us plane tickets to this festival and you’re coming, I decided to audit the class you’re taking so see you every week, never “asking” to spend time together per se).

Overall, definitely have to worry more about Chads being distracted seeing as girls will IOI or even explicitly hit on them basically constantly, but they kind of make up for it in their open hearts/wallets lol. They are very exciting to be with. Obviously my own selection bias applied given the sample size, but they were all outgoing and fun — hardly any nights in spent Netflixing and cuddling. We were always doing new things and socializing.

[–]vosidit98 1 points [recovered]  (1 child) | Copy Link

They would essentially manipulate me into spending time with them (i.e. I bought us plane tickets to this festival and you’re coming, I decided to audit the class you’re taking so see you every week, never “asking” to spend time together per se).

If an ugly or even average looking guy acted like this you would consider him Creepy and call the cops on his ass.

[–]pngmafia97my type is chadcucks1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

That’s not false. However they didn’t act like this until they were certain I was interested (after we had already had sex). Had they been so forward before we had been intimate it would be creepy. And the objectively ugly guys who have been so go getting with what they want are more intriguing to me. Like creeps actually do get my attention more than nice guys. A balance of “creepy” go getting and charm/charisma/approachable warm ness is very effective, greatly elevating his overall attractiveness.

[–]SmurfESmurferson[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

This has definitely been my experience dating them

[–]Maybelowsmv 1 points [recovered]  (1 child) | Copy Link

I'm sort of friends with one. He is nice. Loves to talk and laugh. Is very passionate about Christianity, though he admits that the no-sex-before-marriage thing is hard (so he sins in that regard). Used to big me up in front of others by making mention of our conversations and how much we spoke/what insights he got

Lots of girls have found him to be physically attractive

[–]PrehistoricPrincessNothing is sexier than mutual empathy and respect1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Is very passionate about Christianity

I can't for the life of me imagine a super religious Chad, lol.

[–]boomcheese444 points5 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

They are just men that are sexually appealing to women. But they are still people and how they view things and behave in the world differs. The are not above caring about women, loving them, being vulnerable, being damaged etc etc.. If they come from terrible upbringings, I would say its best to avoid them..simply because the juice wouldnt be worth the squeeze.

I never knew who Chad was until I came upon this sub then a lot of things started making sense. The stereotypical behaviours are often true, especially in their early 20s. I met mine mid-20s and we would break up often because he didnt have enough beta traits and he had some emotional issues. My biggest issue with him is that he could be so emotionally distant and macho (hes south american) I was considering marrying a high beta before he sabotaged that and changed in a few significant ways. I honestly believe they should be avoided for sure if they are in their 20s, most women wont have any use for them until they are older and their testosterone has tapered off a bit.

[–]vosidit98 1 points [recovered]  (2 children) | Copy Link

So much bullcrap...

But they are still people and how they view things and behave in the world differs. The are not above caring about women, loving them, being vulnerable, being damaged etc etc..

So Chad has a heart of gold. But if an ugly man cares about women it's Creepy and he's only doing it to try and get in her pants.

[–]boomcheese442 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Chad is just a human being was my point. The ugly man is one too.

[–]Ofourkind6 points7 points  (12 children) | Copy Link

I've dated a ton and many of the men I've dated and slept with would probably be considered "chads". I am pretty sure I've never been "pumped and dumped" by anyone, ever. I've been broken up with, but never as abruptly as TRP describes.

The man I dated right before I met my husband would certainly be considered a "chad". Very tall, very handsome, wealthy professional athlete. I broke up with him for the exact same reason I've broken up with other more average men. I simply didn't feel we were personally compatible long term. He very much was looking for a longterm partner/wife. He married the next woman he dated right after I dumped him.

Most men want girlfriends and wives, no matter what they look like.

[–]Ladyofblades2 points3 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

This is what I keep telling the men here but they have some inflated mythology of all Chads being high N count eternal plate spinners who don’t want LTRs or value them. Women who’ve dated them say otherwise.

[–]Ofourkind2 points3 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

It's really just the incel types that obsess over "Chads". Anyone who knows guys like this know that they're just guys.

[–]vosidit98 1 points [recovered]  (1 child) | Copy Link

know that they're just guys.

who just happen to have 30+ relationships before they settle down. "just" ordinary guys.

[–]datingapppro 1 points [recovered]  (2 children) | Copy Link

Lol at thinking any of this is true

[–][deleted] -2 points-1 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Invalidation is against the rules. You were warned not 48 hours ago.

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

It's a great rule to help LARPers and trolls write total fiction and pass it off as reality!

[–]vosidit98 1 points [recovered]  (4 children) | Copy Link

Does your husband know you've slept with a ton of dudes?
Would he take that well if you told him?
Did he also have a healthy sex life or was he generally deprived and dated one or two women before dating you?

[–]Ofourkind1 point2 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

You mean do I lie to my husband? Of course not. Past partners have been a complete non issue for us (just like every other relationship I've had).

And obviously he isn't an incel.

[–]vosidit98 1 points [recovered]  (2 children) | Copy Link

And obviously he isn't an incel.

LOL you felt the need to mention that.

Why would a guy who dated two women be an incel?

I was just wondering if there was a disparity in your sexual experience as opposed to his.

[–]Ofourkind0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

A man who only slept with 2 women by his thirties would be an incel, unless he dated both of them for a decade or so.

He's a normal, healthy guy with a mix of LTRs and a few hookups.

[–]Marketing_Baboon 1 points [recovered]  (3 children) | Copy Link

Most people I'd describe as Chad are exactly how you say, they're naturals. I'm not a Chad. I'm successful with women, but I am not Chad. It takes a lot of effort for me. I've known guys that can pull women every other night with little to no effort. They're just fun sociable ultra good looking guys.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy Link

This is a Q4W. Please repost under automod.

[–]Marketing_BaboonRed Pill Man2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Ah sorry. Relatively new here.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

No problem.

[–]RRBeachFG21 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

What do u mean the women that respond here sont do Chad lol /s

[–]ivanttobealone1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

"chad" isn't a real thing

[–]JezebeltheQueen5656Crushing males' ego since 19932 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

incels and other failure men here hate what they will never become - likeable and successful.

chads are goddess-given, best lovers ever. failed men can only try to compensate for their lack of success by implementing TRP "tactics" or offer us their "love and commitment" (ahahaha, barf) but they will never convince most women they are a good catch.

not gonna happen.

[–][deleted] 6 points7 points  (27 children) | Copy Link

My boyfriend is a Chad. He is not manipulative or a liar and he treats people very well. The ways that he differs from Beta men are various, as he always stands up for himself in public and is not afraid of shame. He has natural charisma and very little fear of social situations. He is mine all mine and does not cheat.

[–]dirty_nail 1 points [recovered]  (26 children) | Copy Link

If you give your relationship a long enough duration, your boyfriend will most likely cheat.

Chads like most women. Most women like Chads. That's tough but manageable.

But the kill code of a Chad-involved relationship is that reckless women really, really, really like Chads. Still, if the Karen Pence Method^TM is not objectionable to you, that's a work around.

[–]PrehistoricPrincessNothing is sexier than mutual empathy and respect5 points6 points  (25 children) | Copy Link

If you give your relationship a long enough duration, your boyfriend will most likely cheat.

Chads like most women. Most women like Chads.

Basically engaged to a "Chad" here. Not necessarily true at all. He's been hit on by plenty of women while he's been with me. If he wanted to do anything, he could have. The fact of the matter is that he's got great self esteem already and doesn't need the ego boost of numerous flings; also, most women don't impress him. If the opposite sex throws themselves at you enough, you get used to it and it starts to get boring. Your standards also increase significantly and fewer and fewer people meet them. On the other hand, my sister (a beautiful woman, too!) married a "nice" guy who wasn't attractive at all but was a "family man." They ended up divorced because he couldn't keep his hands off other women. He was also a regular at strip clubs. Because he had a demanding job, she never knew. He was incredibly susceptible to any kind of woman who made a pass at him, attractive, ugly, or otherwise--I think because he had poor self esteem and suffered lifelong thirst.

[–]dirty_nail 1 points [recovered]  (24 children) | Copy Link

Life is long.

I don't have a sister. Only brothersChads. And they are lovely men with great self-esteem. Too great, if you ask me. And my sisters-in-law/their SOs are lovely women who don't know where the bodies are buried. But to my everlasting chagrin, I do.

One of my sisters-in-law believed for (nearly 10 years) that she was the only serious girlfriend her husband had ever had and and that when they met on the first day of college she had found a unicorn (the man who could have anyone, but only wanted her) and theirs was a love story for the ages. And, well, now--some 15 years later-- she doesn't.

[–]PrehistoricPrincessNothing is sexier than mutual empathy and respect0 points1 point  (23 children) | Copy Link

It sounds like your family is garbage. Sorry about that. But that doesn't mean you can judge every other man's moral character by his attractiveness. Ugly men cheat. Attractive men cheat. If you're so afraid of being cheated on that you would pursue someone you're not attracted to in a vain effort to prevent it, you're far better off staying single for the rest of your life. Every relationship is a risk. Every one. But the important thing is being able to judge someone's moral character properly. That's all you can do short of becoming an incel.

[–]dirty_nail 1 points [recovered]  (22 children) | Copy Link

Cheaters aren't garbage. Humans are imperfect in all sorts of ways. My brothers are smart, loving, talented, kind. They adore their sister. Did anything for their mother. Try to exceed the example our father set for them. They also like sticking their dicks in women who aren't their wives.

No one needs to stop pursuing attractive men. Please, keep doing that. They need to stop pursuing Chads. Or don't. Pursue happiness in whatever way you see fit. But know that trying to lock down a guy you've defined as a Chad to a lifelong monogamous commitment is akin to adopting a cat and feeding it a vegan diet. Cats are obligate carnivores. Chads are obligate polygamists.

[–]PrehistoricPrincessNothing is sexier than mutual empathy and respect1 point2 points  (19 children) | Copy Link

No one needs to stop pursuing attractive men. Please, keep doing that. They need to stop pursuing Chads.

This confuses me. What's your definition of a Chad? A very attractive and fit man with good social skills is, in my eyes, a Chad.

[–]dirty_nail 1 points [recovered]  (18 children) | Copy Link

LOL.

Mere facial symmetry and markers of health don't make someone Chad. Chads are men who seek and get NSA sex.

Incels don't have fever dreams about the good looking guy who has sex with a couple of girlfriends before settling down. They call them bloops. They obsess about the guys who can and do corner the market on available women.

Por ejemplo: The Hemsworth brothers or say Paul Newman = attractive men.

Leo DiCaprio or George Clooney = Chad.

[–]PrehistoricPrincessNothing is sexier than mutual empathy and respect0 points1 point  (17 children) | Copy Link

So, by your definition, Chads are... pump-and-dumpers, essentially? Douchebag-to-women types? Just to clarify.

[–]dirty_nail 1 points [recovered]  (14 children) | Copy Link

No. Chads are men who refuse to yield to the female imperative in relationships. They follow the male imperative by any means necessary. Full stop.

So pumping and dumping, serial monogamy, and polyamory when women allow it, and open marriages, wife of the decade, and outright fast and frantic cheating when women do not.

Plenty of women have to wheedle, coerce, or arm twist men into commitment and some men go along with it for lack of options. But if a man has an abundance of options and hasn't willingly offered long-term commitment and you choose to put your thumb on the scale due to sunk cost fallacy, well good luck to you.

[–]vosidit98 1 points [recovered]  (1 child) | Copy Link

Douchebag-to-women

No more douchey than any other guy. The difference between the incel and the fuckboy are good looks. Personality is very similar.

[–]vosidit98 1 points [recovered]  (1 child) | Copy Link

Chads are obligate polygamists.

Men are obligate polygamists. Betas don't cheat mostly because they can't. Even then, after 10 years of marriage, most betas will start going to hookers.

[–]slavicgypsygirl4 points5 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

Irdk a lot of the terms here but if a chad is men with a lot of followers I have dated many

Most are not their public image & were very sensitive like me

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If you’re going to stick around then it might be worth spending 10m here, otherwise this is all going to be terribly confusing...

https://www.reddit.com/r/PurplePillDebate/wiki/terms

[–]slavicgypsygirl0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Ty

[–]Tomatoccino2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Good looking, intelligent, stylish, naturally athletic, charismatic, son of Tory minister, polite, finishing school manners; I married a Chad.

[–]ontherailstoday2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

My experience is that Chads are just guys. They get dumped, they get turned down, they live their lives.

[–]mayoayox2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Yo Chad here, AMA

[–]jessicaannpin1 point2 points  (5 children) | Copy Link

Define “Chad”

Also define STR.

The average guy I’ve dated has been 6’4” and very good looking. One was signed with Ford Models (so ridiculously good looking). Most are still friends.

The average height of the total sample of guys I’ve hooked up with is 6’3”. I consider at least ~95% of the guys I’ve hooked up with hot (at least at the time I hooked up with them).

In my experience, there is no correlation between how good looking a guy is and how nice he is, especially if you control for age (younger guys are sweeter). But it does seem like the guys who seem out of my league are the ones who last the longest.

I haven’t really had any experiences with guys being very big assholes. There is one ex I call “the asshole” bc he said people like me shouldn’t be trying to get into relationships and he’d rather date a barista with a plan, so that was awful. But recently he texted that he was happy for me. He mainly just responds very poorly to be called an asshole. Maybe also things started going downhill when I said my sexual needs weren’t being met. But you know looking back, he always made me breakfast and gave me lots of compliments. 🤔

I don’t know if the asshole counts as a Chad. He’s 6’5” and very handsome, but he might be too nerdy to be a Chad. But I actually prefer my guys a bit nerdy/dorky/socially awkward.

One guy I dated is a race car driver. He’s 6’4,” handsome, and very popular with women. He’s also a hopeless romantic. When we dated, I said I wasn’t looking for anything too serious and he said the same thing. But then he married the girl he left me for, within a few months. And his friend was like, “Yeah he’s been wanting to get married since forever.”

I think my last boyfriend is totally handsome. But he’s 6’7” which might make him goofy to a lot of women. And he won’t date women under 5’8” (I was the shortest girlfriend he’d ever had). He’s great. Tbh I fucked up. But also I have a hard time with guys moving too fast. He was talking about kids, saying he loved me too early, telling his mom my last name and then trying to control what she’d find on social media, etc. He was saying how he’s always just wanted to be a dad.

I had one fwb who would prob be considered a Chad. We never lived in the same city. I don’t know if we would have dated if we did. But he used to call me up drunk saying, “I just want to fall in love.”

Also, in high school, girls warned me about the guy I dated the longest. He was the hottest, most popular of my high school boyfriends. Girls told me he was a “player.” But he wasn’t at all. He was also the sweetest and 6 years later was saying I was the kind of girl he wanted to marry.

I feel like maybe guys talk shit about guys who are more attractive and more successful with women because they need to convince themselves they have as much to offer with they don’t. And I think women hate on what they can’t get.

[–][deleted] 4 points5 points  (4 children) | Copy Link

Are you a «Stacy» yourself?

[–]uglygalthrow 1 points [recovered]  (3 children) | Copy Link

Must be a Giga Stacy

[–][deleted] 3 points4 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

I don’t see that shit happening even to cute or pretty girls, so I think she’s a giga Stacy indeed.

[–]MusicalMarcelinePurple Pill Woman2 points3 points  (5 children) | Copy Link

BF is technically a Chad, he's nice, doesn't play this dread game red pillers talks about and is good to his friends and family

[–]darudeboysandstormSoup on the stove, bread rising, apple pie1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

technically a Chad

?

[–][deleted] 4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

A natural alpha is my guess.

[–]Emervila3 points4 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

red pillers talks about

Also the dumped women talk about and the abandoned childs.. not just red-pillers.

BF is technically a Chad

There's no technically, he is or he is not. If he is not, he might be a True Alpha (not the Alpha bx).

[–]PostModernCommieAnarcha-Femimnist (They, Them)7 points8 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Love me some RP bro-philosophy.

“Breh, you’re not a TRUE ALPHA, just an omega chad-lite”

[–]toolpot4622 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Uh oh mods, this looks like invalidation!

[–]Ms_gyal1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

I dated one chad briefly, he was honestly very genuine and fun to be around. Great charisma.

Totally pumped and dumped, but I don’t think he was a bad guy. I don’t regret it. We just didn’t really click

[–]uglygalthrow 1 points [recovered]  (1 child) | Copy Link

What do you consider a p&d? Why don’t you regret it? How do you know he was ever considering you a real partner?

[–]Ms_gyal1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

We went on about four dates, each was for about 6 hours. Slept together on the third. I think the fourth was a “I don’t want you to think I p&d so let me take you out again” date

We got a long well, but there was no sexual chemistry. And honestly I don’t know if he really considered me at any time. But he really did seem genuine about wanting to find someone. It just wasn’t me, idk.

I had a good time with him, minus the sex.

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[–]cxj75% Redpill Core Ideas1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Idk why but this question made me lol 😂

[–]The-Wizard-of-Oz-0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

I agree.

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[–]mintyfreshbtw0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

For me, a Chad is just someone who is popular with females so in that case, my brother would be considered one since he has many female friends that he goes out with even though they all know he doesn’t commit. He’s in medical school and is quite tall. He has a very sociable personality and loves talking with and meeting new people. He enjoys partying a lot, which is where he meets most of his female friends. There was a sweet and pretty girl he wanted to date seriously a year ago but he made the mistake of inviting her to go drinking with him and she just straight up ghosted him after to go clubbing by herself and sleep around lol. I’d say he kinda RPed himself with his disastrous past relationships (of being used for money and that girl I just mentioned) and doesn’t ever plan on getting married.

[–]ariesv123Purple Pill Woman0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

I mean it depends on what you define chad is. The Chad who has those extremely masculine qualities and looks but is emotionally retarded were assholes to everyone who they didn’t want to sleep with. These ones were the guys that’ve treated me the worst and even the girls they slept with knew they were dickheads. Those girls only had physical value because they were popular for the wrong reasons

The Chads who were leaders AND had emotional depth were loved by everyone and well treated in return. If you weren’t crushing on him then you were indeed seeing him as a dependable person and someone you could lean on. I’m friends with a lot of chads and they’re so positive to be around.

[–]darla100 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

I always dated scrawny intellectual art dudes. Chads intimidated me so I decided they were all shallow and boring. Then I grew up.

My h is a Chad. He is a charming, confident and very loving man. I took a risk by dating him, nearly got my heart broken, but it worked out. 9 years together.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

I’ve loved them and they’ve loved me.

[–]oldhag8880 points1 point  (26 children) | Copy Link

You are not describing chad.

[–]SmurfESmurferson[S] 2 points3 points  (25 children) | Copy Link

OK, then you describe Chad. That’s why I asked

[–]oldhag8882 points3 points  (24 children) | Copy Link

"Chad" is an invention, or an appropropriation and an expansion of a prior invention by red pill ideology.

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Chad_(slang)

Some men irl fit this profile. But note that by the redpill definition, he has to be an arrogant ass engaging in red pill behaviours (whether he's familiar with trp or not) in order ro to qualify as a chad.

If you are engaging with men who seem "blue pill" to you, these men either are not really chads but merely decent guys who look like chads, or they are chads and have tricked you into thinking they are nicer than they really are.

[–]wekacuckLife is settling.2 points3 points  (15 children) | Copy Link

Women don't understand that Chad is fundamentally defined as being that asshole (who we all know). They can't tell the difference.

You can sit them down in front of a 10hr PowerPoint of Incel vs Chad memes and all they will see is their own boyfriends.

[–]poppy_bluBeware the freight train2 points3 points  (4 children) | Copy Link

They’re assholes to you but are they assholes to her?

[–]wekacuckLife is settling.1 point2 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

Who cares? Assholes are assholes.

[–]poppy_bluBeware the freight train1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

Would you decline to date a hot girl because she was a bitch to other women?

[–]wekacuckLife is settling.2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Depends--some people earn being treated like bitches. But, no, I would never and have never dated someone I consider an asshole. I have broken up with girls after finding out they are assholes. True colors and all that jazz. I don't make any allowances based on how "hot" a woman is.

[–]poppy_bluBeware the freight train2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Well, a lot of men here admittedly would.

[–]oldhag8882 points3 points  (9 children) | Copy Link

You do realize I’m a woman right? I’m a woman and I’m making this argument about the concept of chad.

Not that it really matters- Chad is ultimately not a real person, it’s just a red pill fantasy that has nothing to do with reality, just like the rest of the red pill.

Guys who fit the profile irl may appear chadly, and may have all the douche maneuvers to back it up, but are secretly overcompensating for insecurity and loneliness, which they feel because they don’t know how to have meaningful connections with women anymore.

I have already written the story of chad in another thread

[–]wekacuckLife is settling.1 point2 points  (8 children) | Copy Link

Why would I know (or care) whether or not you are a woman?

[–]oldhag8882 points3 points  (7 children) | Copy Link

It’s not about whether or not you care that I am a woman.

You made the claim that women can’t understand the concept of chad. I am refuting this claim by virtue of the fact that I have articulated this understanding in my previous comments.

[–]wekacuckLife is settling.1 point2 points  (6 children) | Copy Link

If I make the observation "women are short" and you happen to be a woman who is 6'3" tall, does your existence invalidate my observation that women are short?

[–]oldhag8880 points1 point  (5 children) | Copy Link

Yes, because not All Women Are Like That.

[–]wekacuckLife is settling.1 point2 points  (4 children) | Copy Link

I never said anything about "all" women. Transwomen are very likely to understand who Chad is for example.

[–]SmurfESmurferson[S] 1 point2 points  (7 children) | Copy Link

Nothing about that Wiki mentioned him being an arrogant ass. And nothing I said in my OP indicated that he’s not following RP behaviors - just that he doesn’t subscribe to RP beliefs, and is likely to hold BP “true love” type beliefs

If anything, describing him as a “natural” should tip you off that I meant he naturally has RP behavior

[–]oldhag8881 point2 points  (6 children) | Copy Link

Under the heading "manosphere" in the link:

" Due to their characterization as being genetically gifted and privileged, though sometimes depicted as shallow, airheaded, arrogant, and overtly sexual[9], the term Chad is used in both a pejorative and complimentary way on incel forums"

Chad is a jerk.

[–]SmurfESmurferson[S] 2 points3 points  (5 children) | Copy Link

“Sometimes depicted”

It’s not an ironclad rule. Especially on PPD, which is not an incel forum

[–]oldhag8880 points1 point  (4 children) | Copy Link

Right, kind of like how nothing in rp or ppd are iron clad rules because its pretty much all groupthink.

These are definitions of terms invented by other people that i dont neccesarily agree with. Although people in the real world can fit the descriptions, chad isnt a real concept lol, so when we get into conversations about what chad is in real life, it falls apart, because human beings are not weird stereotypes that people invent online, they are individuals with unique personalities.

Speaking strictly conceptually, surely if "chad" is characterized as someone who wants to fulfill his access to the dating pool and is aware that he has a lot of access, he has some kind of perception like all women want to fuck him, and that hes entitled to their bodies by virtue of being chad- this generates some level of narcissism in the chad psyche.

[–]SmurfESmurferson[S] 2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

so when we get into conversations about what chad is in real life, it falls apart, because human beings are not weird stereotypes that people invent online, they are individuals with unique personalities.

This is literally the point of my OP. That those weird descriptions of Chad you see from some people in the manosphere don’t match up to the reality of who the Chad-types actually are IRL

he has some kind of perception like all women want to fuck him, and that hes entitled to their bodies by virtue of being chad- this generates some level of narcissism in the chad psyche.

This has not been my experience - if anything, the IRL Chads I know are aware they have no problem getting women. They openly acknowledge it

But they’re not serial killers, they don’t feel that they have unfettered access to every woman’s body. It just makes it easier for them when they are rejected, if that makes sense

[–]oldhag8881 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

The descriptions and definitions of chad are derived from the manosphere. Chad doesn’t exist outside the manosphere. Except by coincidence, but my view of humanity is such that even people who seem that way on the surface probably have something deeper going on that we lack access to.

The point of my comments here is to try and elucidate to you how absurd it is to take pill ideologies and the ideas within them seriously. They do not apply to reality. This is an ideology that has shifted you away from having a clear perspective and seeing people for what they really are.

Your experiences with who think might be chad have no bearing on the red pill definition of chad, because the red pill has no relationship to reality. I have been merely trying to define chad to you in the terms the red pill has created, because he doesn’t really exist elsewhere. If you feel that the chads you have experienced in real life don’t line up the red pill terms, that’s because they are just people, not walking caricatures.

While your prompt shows that you are someone who is trying to see the good in people, and I think this is commendable, you are missing the point that by adopting these ideas you can’t really see anything for what it is.

[–]katymarxPurple Pill Woman0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

Chad's don't feel entitled to womens bodies, that's angry incels.

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Im not buying it- they are equally guilty

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[–]geyges🐇7 points8 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

Men, what are you experiences with fucking Stacies?

When some gorgeous blond with nice tits and perfect ass bouncing on your cock, you don't wake up the next day and think: "That was a mistake".

unless she was your sister

[–]SmurfESmurferson[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Feel free to make a thread! But I don’t see weird assumptions being made about Stacies

[–]LeJacquelopeHaving a son is child abuse2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

*Raises hand*

There was once this insanely hot babe

that I met in college and got laid

Got to fuck a Stacey, stuck my dick in crazy

Of them you should be very afraid

[–]rus9384Misanthrope5 points6 points  (11 children) | Copy Link

There are Chads who simply are model looking.

And there are player Chads.

[–]SmurfESmurferson[S] -5 points-4 points  (10 children) | Copy Link

That’s what I’m saying - even the “player Chads” are generally good dudes and life just hands them women

[–]rus9384Misanthrope0 points1 point  (9 children) | Copy Link

There are different Chads. I think you simply don't befriend asshole Chads, hence your friends is not an unbiased selection.

[–]SmurfESmurferson[S] 3 points4 points  (8 children) | Copy Link

I’ve bartended on and off for 20 years. I’ve seen every type of Chad in the book in action

At the end of the day, charismatic, fun people attract other people. Especially of the opposite gender. Assholes and mean people don’t have that level of success

[–]rus9384Misanthrope4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

You don't act as an asshole in public places, lol.

[–][deleted] 7 points8 points  (5 children) | Copy Link

At the end of the day, charismatic, fun people attract other people. Especially of the opposite gender. Assholes and mean people don’t have that level of success

Jfl.

https://www.springer.com/gp/about-springer/media/research-news/all-english-research-news/do-bullies-have-more-sex-/15305552

Adolescents who are willing to exploit others for personal gain are more likely to bully and have sex than those who score higher on a measure of honesty and humility. This is according to a study in Springer’s journal Evolutionary Psychological Science which was led by Daniel Provenzano of the University of Windsor in Canada.

Researchers believe that bullying might be more than just objectionable behaviour. It might, in fact, have evolved as a way for men to show dominance and strength, and to signal to women that they are good breeding stock, able to protect their offspring and provide for their needs. From an evolutionary perspective, a man’s dominance may make him more attractive to his potential sexual partners, as well as scaring off potential rivals. 

[–]SmurfESmurferson[S] 1 point2 points  (4 children) | Copy Link

Women don’t care if men are assholes to other men. Chads aren’t assholes to us, that’s my point. That’s what I was replying to - that weird myth on TRP that Chads are just sociopaths who pump and dump women with no feelings

There’s a reason this is a Q4W, not Q4All

[–][deleted] 6 points7 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

that weird myth on TRP that Chads are just sociopaths who pump and dump women with no feelings

It isn't a myth. Countless studies have showed that women prefer men with dark triad traits.

[–]blackedoutfastRed Pill Man1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

low functioning dark triad dudes end up in jail. high functioning dark triad dudes are usually well-liked, popular, successful, charismatic, etc.

[–]SmurfESmurferson[S] 2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

True dark triad men are very, very rare

And, again, women don’t care how men treat other men. We care how they treat us. Even dark triad men treat women well

[–]M7283 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Uh..Ted Bundy..cough cough

[–]LeJacquelopeHaving a son is child abuse2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Who wants to place bets that almost all women on here will say the chads they dated were absolutely great... after you place your bets, run over to r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen and see what reality says.

[–]darudeboysandstormSoup on the stove, bread rising, apple pie3 points4 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

The one true chad I know has oneitis harder than anyone else. My "Tyrone" friend has an ltr but he cheats on her occasionally so there that.

[–]SmurfESmurferson[S] 4 points5 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

That’s my experience, as well. When they fall for women, Chads tend to fall harder than other men

[–]darudeboysandstormSoup on the stove, bread rising, apple pie5 points6 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

They tend to be very emotional creatures. Probably part of what makes them attractive, they are vehement and passionate.

[–]SmurfESmurferson[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Yeah, I can’t definitely agree with that

[–]diffdedbedGreen Eyed Devil1 point2 points  (4 children) | Copy Link

When I was growing up, Chad was the name of someone who was sort of a blue blood inbred pussy, so I always find the name amusing used in incel contexts.

[–]poppy_bluBeware the freight train1 point2 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

Chaddington III

On ppd chad seems to be code for white guy

[–]diffdedbedGreen Eyed Devil1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

Exactly.

Don't think it's code for white though. Lots of the incels are white.

[–]poppy_bluBeware the freight train1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Of course, but I get the sense there are a lot of Asian guys here convinced it’s hopeless for them because they aren’t white. “Cause women only want chad.” “Looks are all that matters.” Read between the lines.

[–]diffdedbedGreen Eyed Devil1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Oh there is a lot of that yes I agree.

[–]UTC24 1 points [recovered]  (1 child) | Copy Link

This thread reads like a giant hamster farm.

[–]petrichordiummidsommar pill1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

The actual reality is in between bc normal guys obviously don’t get the sunshine treatment and “yeah bb this feels REAL” pillow talk that women get from very attractive men.

But women also don’t hear the locker room way he describes the same thing. Which is rarely as bad as some ppl assume but obviously it’s not pillow talk lol. Usually it’s more a kinda “aww shucks I don’t MEAN to always be banging girls like X, real nice girl, but it is what it is hehe”.

But yes the men most women love and who exist in a state of constant positive feedback and fun dating have a sanguine view of the whole thing and are pretty good vibes. While i am not a Chad, I’ve had a great little niche experience dating and I honestly haven’t thought that much at all about what it’s like for awkward dweebs until coming here more.

[–]the-lone-squidNot the edible squid3 points4 points  (11 children) | Copy Link

Am wannabe Chad. Ama

[–][deleted] 3 points4 points  (10 children) | Copy Link

So are you over 6'5" or drive a car? According to PPD that is all that is required.

[–]SmurfESmurferson[S] 4 points5 points  (4 children) | Copy Link

Even better: u/the-lone-squid has a motorcycle

He’s the James Dean, Rebel Without a Cause Chad archetype

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

Also a stunt man.

[–]SmurfESmurferson[S] 5 points6 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

We should stop before his ego gets out of hand

[–]the-lone-squidNot the edible squid2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

To late

[–]SmurfESmurferson[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Too

Sorry I couldn’t help it 😂

[–]the-lone-squidNot the edible squid3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Not 6'5. That's why I'm a wannabe 😏

[–]NalkaNalkayou call it virtue, I call it cowardice1 point2 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

What is the car thing referencing?

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

Recent post that confirmed men need to have cars to get laid. It become a PPD trope.

[–]NalkaNalkayou call it virtue, I call it cowardice1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Damn I missed that one. Got link?

[–]wekacuckLife is settling.1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Oh cool let the circlescissoring commence. I'll be in my bunk.

[–]blackedoutfastRed Pill Man1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

it's like every other subset of the population: some Chads are really cool and good people, others are horrible pieces of shit.

Chads are almost always very popular socially, almost bu definition. and socially popular people tend to be very likable and charismatic.

most of the hate for Chad comes from low SMV betas and incels who are simply jealous that Chad is more popular and successful even though he probably isn't as focused on doing BP-approved beta shit in his life. also it's pretty clear that when a lot of dudes say something negative about "Chad" they really mean "that dude who fucked my oneitis because i was too bitch to make a move and ended up in the friendzone"

[–]Emervila0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

good to great sex better than beta billy anyway... no commitment, end of thread.

[–]ChadThundagaCockBorderline Personality Wrangler1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Smurf. You are the bravest woman (besides Atlas) on these boards that I know. To actually put it out there that women can, and will sleep with "Chads".

It's admirable and I respect it. And I like how you're addressing that Chads don't have to be some abusive cariactures that we are often painted to be. We can and do fall for some women. It just takes a special, caring woman to make us fall for her. This is not beta at all. In fact I'd say it's very alpha.

[–]throwawayhouseissue1I talk to strangers2 points3 points  (11 children) | Copy Link

Reading this has shown me that women think pretty boys are Chads. No, that isn't a Chad.

A Chad is almost never that good looking (but can be), he is the guy who comes into your life, makes you paralyzed in fear and anxious over him constantly - but also sexually aroused because he just "does it" for you like other guys can't, there is just "something" that draws you to him, even though he probably isn't good for you long term. He has zero regard for your feelings. Takes whatever he can get. Cheats on you. And you still want to make it work somehow. Because no one is quite like him.

[–][deleted] 11 points12 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Bro, looks are literally the qualifier to being Chad. An average looking, short man can never be Chad.

[–]Sticky1Brick16 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

You can't be chad unless you are good-looking. That's the only prerequisite.

[–]katymarxPurple Pill Woman3 points4 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

Yeah sounds like my dude. But he doesn't have this effect on all women, he's been rejected and broken up with plenty. We live in different states and keep it open and uncommitted. Been through a ton of therapy and finally see him as human and no longer have constant fear and anxiety. End of the day, it was me. A handful of men have had the effect on me and the equation is almost always the same:

Muscular, objectively attractive but not everyones cuppa Sex and love bombing at first

He pulls away and it hurts

So I try to pull away and they gently nudge me back in

Push-pull and hot sex continue as I slowly go insane

I drink a lot and pick fights until he is tired of me Breakup, depressed, fuck a lot of randos

Therapy, healing, lots of heart scars

Ascend to Queen of Alpha Widows

[–]throwawayhouseissue1I talk to strangers4 points5 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Yes, the push pull will drive you insane. It is so easy to overlook the bad stuff because when things are good, they're soooo good.
But you have to be assertive and put your needs first.

[–]boomcheese442 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

LOL Mine was so shocked about the way I dumped him. He told me years later it took him weeks to just get over the shock. No woman ever dumped him before

[–]SkrattGoddess2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Nice piece of literature, man.

Don't think I ever wanted to work it out with a dude that cheats xD

[–]poppy_bluBeware the freight train1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

he is the guy who comes into your life, makes you paralyzed in fear and anxious over him constantly - but also sexually aroused because he just "does it" for you like other guys can't

😂😂😂😂😂

[–]kandyapplezincel larping as a thot0 points1 point  (3 children) | Copy Link

here goes that homoerotic babble again

[–]throwawayhouseissue1I talk to strangers2 points3 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

Haha nope, I just have female friends that deal with Chad. He push/pulls, makes her feel incredible, and then pushes her away. She has feelings for him and just cant stop, she is uncontrollably attracted to him and he is short, bald, and awkward. But he acts dominant and avoids her just the right way to stir up all her anxiety.

It is OK if you haven't had a crazy intense relationship before, no need to call it homoerotic babble. It will happen to you.

[–]kandyapplezincel larping as a thot0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

imagine thinking this gay shit that comes out of an episode of riverdale is a "crazy intense relationship" lol. okay john green

[–]throwawayhouseissue1I talk to strangers3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

john green

I googled him and watched a youtube video. I have absolutely no idea who this goofy guy is. Should I?

Also, are you literally insane? I am describing a relationship between a man and a woman, where the woman is desperately in love and the guy acts like he only cares about 30% of the time. I have literally no idea why you think that is "gay shit" but I suspect it has more to do with you than me. Keep projecting your "gay shit" out there, I hope it helps you!

[–]Christian_Kong80% Natural Red-1 points0 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Not a single bad thing anyone has to say about Chads except "we are not compatible." No one has had a single bad experience? No one has know or lived with a shitty player? I am not saying ACALT but this is complete rubbish.

[–]boomcheese442 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

There were like 2 horrible Chads that my friends use to sleep with. When I look back, they were just applying all the RP tactics to a tilt. Dread really works on young women if they like you. My friends were already dick drunk, so they had a hard time getting over it.

[–]axolotlass0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

My experience with them are not really positive despite them being generally nice. I think they used to get hit on by every girl, so when you approach them without any romantic intent, they either go into flirt mode or if they’re not into you they “friendzone” you even though i wanted to be friends in the first place lol. This is kind of annoying.

[–]SqueaksScreech0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

I dated one. He was like a teddy bear. He was so nice and sweet. He was very athletic too. He did tons of sports in high school after high school he did MMA fighting and weight lifting. He made friends easily and was good at braiding hair.

[–]The3liGator0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

This says more about you than Chads.

It's the equivalent of a German in 1938 saying "I don't know what you're talking about. Hitler's been nothing but great to me."

[–]jlp21617-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I have only ever dated frat boy types. And in my experience, they are some of the nicest and most well mannered guys ever. Sure you get the occasional asswipe. But usually that behavior is actually discouraged. They dress well,they act confident and well adjusted. And not all of them are hot af. They just maximize what they have, lol.

[–]aNlS1369AK 1 points [recovered]  (4 children) | Copy Link

Well my soon to be ex wife loves her Chad. So much she stayed with him, after he had multiple affairs. I guess Chad had a thing for prostitutes, who would of known? Well the one thing I know, is Chad can be rad or dumb as shit. Every Chad's different my ex wife lover Chad is a piece of work. But so is my ex so I believe they were made for each other.

P.s I fucked her in the shower! last time I saw her which was roughly 21/2 months ago. And I didn't have to pay for it! and my bestie was married to a Chad, she broke his heart. But to this day says he's a great dad stay classy Chad's😊

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (3 children) | Copy Link

This is a question for women. Top-level comments must come from women. You can repost this under automod.

[–]aNlS1369AK1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

My fault still new to Reddit, where do I find this automod?

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

NP! It is the comment whose author is "Automoderator," describing how (some) rule-breaking comments can be posted there, instead of as top-level comments.

[–]SmurfESmurferson[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

It’s the reply with the ATTENTION! In bold letters at the top

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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