A common trope I see here, mostly by men, is that male cheating is somehow better or at least more tolerable because “at least the man stays with his wife and doesn’t jump ship”. The supposed difference is in the notion that a woman cheating is more likely to branch swing and leave him and so that makes her cheating worse, while a man that cheats would not necessarily leave his gf/wife.

Sorry, but a man is not loyal just because he doesn’t immediately hand his wife divorce papers as he racks up mistresses.

Most men don’t leave because they want to be able to eat their cakes and have it. If you have a wife that’s at home that takes care of all or most of the household duties, ensures that you’re fed and takes care of the children, and even has sex with you on a reasonable basis, while you have a bunch of mistresses for kinky, nasty sex, then such a man would obviously have a very low incentive to leave that. He’s literarily getting the best of both worlds. It is ridiculous for anyone to think that he’s being self sacrificing just because he manages to not leave his wife.

It’s not a compliment to your wife to basically directly or indirectly tell her, “I love you but I’m going to keep having sex with other women. But don’t worry baby, I would never leave you. Just keep taking care of the house and the kids and feeding me and doing all the housework and I’ll keep coming home to you after I’ve fucked other women.”

If there was a wife that treated her husband well (including with sex) and did not leave him and was “loyal” to him, but was fucking hot men every other night, most men would not be happy with this. They would not feel that her treating them well and her not leaving was enough compensation for continued unfaithfulness. So I have no idea why men would think that women would feel solace in the fact that he hasn’t left yet.

In fact, if you’re cheating on your partner, one could argue that the more humane thing to do was to leave them and not make them suffer through your disloyalty. Most of the women that stay with men and don’t care that he has mistresses, do not love those men. They’re either in it for the money or for the free shit and favors that he provides for them. A woman that loves him would not be able to handle the cheating and betrayal, and would either make his life hell, cheat back for revenge and/or eventually leave.

Male cheating is just as bad, if not worse, than female cheating.

CMV

EDIT: Apparently some men are clutching their pearls about the fact that I used the word “better”, even though the meaning is always clear when someone says, “these two things are bad, but at least this one is better”. Plus this is why I even put the word “better” in quotes.

This tbh, is just a distinction without a difference, because male cheating is not “less damaging” or “less bad” or “less ghastly” than female cheating. Reasons stated above.

CMV.