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Similar to the Love Fest Friday thread in /r/relationships and TRPs "Own Your Shit Weekly" thread. We could comment small personal wins, small field reports, etc that aren't worthy of full posts themselves. What do you think?


[–]RainbowKitty778 points9 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I hope this happens. Love the idea. I love gratitude lists in general.

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I like this idea, as it counterbalances all the negativity on Reddit.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Yes please!!

[–]AnnaAerials0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Amazing idea!! Keen!!

[–]littleshroom0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

I like the idea! Great for setting the right mindset!

[–]TheLaughingRhino 1 points1 points [recovered] | Copy Link

IMHO I think it would be a good idea but for different reasons.

If "hypergamy" is a female trait inherent in all women as a part of survival adaptation/biological imperative, then for men, so is "loyalty"

In a hunter/gatherer environment, men need division of labor to sustain the "tribe" It means teamwork, it means trusting the guy guarding the tribe when you sleep is doing his duty, it means when you are in a hunting party, the team pulls together and covers each others backs.

Loyalty for men is hardwired within us as survival adaptation. It's not like all men are choosing to be so purely virtuous, it happens to also be a socially "virtuous" trait.

A lack of gratitude is going to set off a man's loyalty matrix. Because no one can sleep at night with an entitled person and expect that person to do their duty.

There was a thread about marriage several months ago. I posted a lengthy response as to why the male perspective would find it a hard/bad deal. Many women told me I was wrong. Then interesting enough, another poster came in a simply said, if you talk like this in front of man, he won't trust you, and you won't get what you want. Very interesting. I should have appealed to self interest instead of empathy ( My fault, AWALT is AWALT for a reason)

If a woman is ungrateful, the kind of man she would want to marry will not marry her.

He will reduce her to plate status or dump her. I don't know all the particulars when women get together and talk during "girl talk". But during "guy talk", I've observed the rare times a man will talk about his wife or girlfriend, if he's going to discuss her shortcomings, it will always relate in some way to ingratitude. Honestly it drives a lot of men nuts. Part of that is because no matter a guy's SMV, once he's in the adult stage, he is rarely going to have anyone do anything kind or altrustic for him. Pretty much never. What little he gets, odds are he will cherish. Most men have to fight for everything and get nothing. Everything they get is often an open war for resources against other men. So to give some of that hard won treasure to someone, then feel like it's taken for granted is just too overwhelming for most guys.

If you are openly ungrateful, the only men who will be open to marrying you are beta simps, chodes, soyboys and guys you don't want.

If you are openly ungrateful, and if TRPW is a Trad Con strategy designed to get commitment from a high value "Captain", then he won't marry you. You won't get what you want.

So yes, any consistent discussion reinforcing gratitude is likely only going to help the women here if the goal is a Trad Con lifestyle and getting marriage from the specific kind of Captain described often in this subreddit.

[–]pearlsandstilettosModerator | Pearl[M] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Thank you for this explanation. It lays out a logical, RP based argument in favor of a gratitude thread.

Everyone should read it and consider it rather than down voting and reporting.

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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