Here's the thread. I know it won't be anything new to you guys, but I just think it's satisfying to know that even on 2XC you can sometimes read the truth.
If she wasn't drunk, she would probably be one of the women saying "you should be nice to a woman and respect her if you want her to like you", but instead she has a moment of self-awareness and writes this:
I am used to assholes. I don't consciously choose them, but it's easier to find them because I'm far more comfortable with a physical connection than I am with a mental/emotional one.
I'm not proud that that is the case and I am trying to mend my ways, but it's the truth. When it's between an attractive 'douche' and an attractive 'nice guy' it's easier for me to go with the douche because I know what he wants. It's straight-forward and unspoken. It's easier.
Here's the brutal (and embarrassing) honesty for me: I am legitimately uncomfortable when a nice guy gives me attention because I would rather that I am turned down by an asshole than a nice guy. If an asshole gives me a lot of attention and then ditches me, I can handle that. After all, he's a douche bag. But if a nice guy gets to know the real me and then leaves...that's when the little vulnerable girl in me comes out worried that maybe me, who I am at the core, is unlovable.
I really hate that that is true, that that is how I feel...but it's far scarier for me to get rejected for who I am than what I look like.
What do you ladies think? Same perspective or totally different?
She isn't even saying that she chooses assholes because they tend to be more attractive, she's literally saying that when choosing between an attractive nice guy and an attractive asshole, she will choose the asshole.
Predictably, the comments are full of women saying "I feel exactly the same!". Although there was some idiot repeating that stupid "nice guys are really jerks" mantra (seriously?), some guy also made observation that this is exactly what causes men to become assholes. Other interesting comments (from women) are:
For the most part, I just genuinely find the douchebag more attractive than a nice guy. A lot of traits that people describe as douchey are just really hot to me. I don't care if a guy is loud, assertive, overconfident, etc, as long as he doesn't treat me like crap.
Assholes get laid because women know what to expect. They aren't expecting prince-charming and they are okay with that. A nice guy doesn't get laid because the women is waiting out for them because they see them as something long-term. Basically, being an asshole will get you laid, being a nice guy will get you the relationship. If you just want to get laid, be an asshole. It will work, eventually.
This is probably one of the most reasonable threads on 2XC.