Some people lack sexual intuition

Littleknownfacts · 2019-10-08T11:14:10+00:00

This should have been posted as a CMV since the title is making a statement.

wtknight · 2019-10-08T03:28:20+00:00

I'm not sure what is debatable about this. Of course there are people who are really bad at sexual intuition and some people who are great at it. Most people are somewhere in the middle.

Mulkvistee · 2019-10-08T03:15:14+00:00

Yes, but I'd argue introverts are the best of the bunch as well if they're good enough people watchers and listeners to develop a tactile sense of who people are and what they want.

midnightdog · 2019-10-08T04:52:17+00:00

Is this a shitpost?

the_them · 2019-10-08T06:37:47+00:00

I’m not uncomfortable moving to music, in fact, I feel quite free when I do because it has nothing to do with anyone else what my body does in response to the music, its a language I can understand and communicate in. Sexuality however does depend on what another person thinks of what I’m doing and that means I cannot be free about the interaction (even if that is the solution).

Oh right, I’m not supposed to take choosing a partner seriously. Who am I kidding? As if what I want even matters here.

That’s the real issue, people want different things out of their relationships besides just sex, but we’ve made all of our conversations about having and getting sex so if that isn’t your one goal, you’re playing a completely different game than everyone else.

Fuck you OP for your ‘holier-than-thou’ attitude. All you’ve done here is bully people who already have difficulty in social situations. You didn’t offer advice or show that you empathized with these people. In fact, it sounds like you’re accusing them of something and condemning them for not having some special innate knowledge that you yourself have been given the gift of; all worship our new all-knowing god. Oh sorry, self-proclaimed ‘master of seduction’.

So what’s your point OP? Have introverts ruined the dating market because we feel uncomfortable when someone wants something from us? How dare people use caution when it comes to forming relationships. Keep your self-important proselytizing to yourself.

[deleted] · 2019-10-08T06:49:42+00:00

Captain obvious strikes again. Turns out some people are bad at some things. Who would've thought. What's the point of this post besides it serving for your self-masturbation?

Dissentient · 2019-10-08T07:00:25+00:00

Overall, they are very introverted, but introverted in a sad and troubled way. In a life-denying way.

There's no such thing. Being introverted is not about lack of social skills. It's about not being able to enjoy social interactions no matter how good you are at them.

You mentioned dance music. A club is pretty much the absolute worst place for an introvert to be. It involves all the kinds of social interactions that introverts hate and none of those that they can enjoy.

You should stop projecting and evaluating success of other people based on your own life goals.

kayimbo · 2019-10-08T04:28:42+00:00

i was kind of with you but then i wasnt. i can only say, what?

MyOtherAccount32019 · 2019-10-08T06:06:40+00:00

You are insufferable, and condescending. Eat a dick

BanProLeagueSiege · 2019-10-08T06:12:48+00:00

Is this in someway implying that just because I've never had a romantic relationship I've not lived life?

Without /s I have had plenty of other life affirming experiences with friends and acquaintances.

That I've yet to meet a woman worth dating in a situation that is acceptable to approach in, makes me... what exactly?

I'm really not sure what to make of this post...

Grek27 · 2019-10-08T03:15:17+00:00

Its pure solipsism to suppose you know what someone else wants or why they do it beyond their observed actions.

lindsaylbb · 2019-10-08T06:32:27+00:00

Unless it stops them from becoming what they want, I don’t see a problem with not forcing themselves to be what they are not

pickles-n-noodles · 2019-10-08T07:17:26+00:00

I’m glad you pointed this out, it is relevant. Though as the wise say, “When you focus on the problem, the problem expands. When you focus on the solution, the problem contracts.” So could you also write a post on how to deal with this????? Thanks a lot :D

statsfodder · 2019-10-08T09:58:36+00:00

Kids watch parents work, fight and battle with the daily grind.. most can't say they have witnessed their parents "dance" .... they teach the clinical in sex ED and no more.

AND now add the politicrap of the left and you have an unknown and dangerous minefield that today's people are opting out of.

No surprises here

Edit: a word

PickUpScientist · 2019-10-08T05:55:22+00:00

that is why god invented booze.

Believeinyourflyness · 2019-10-08T06:53:02+00:00

"Musicality of the body",what the fuck lol

_Anarchon_ · 2019-10-08T05:14:36+00:00

There will always be people like this. However, they are more and more common today. Social ineptitude is rampant now, and the people you're talking about are a subset. It's due to people interacting via social media and staring at their fucking phones all day.

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pickles-n-noodles · 2019-10-08T05:04:39+00:00

How do you be flirty and charming ???

rhyth7 · 2019-10-08T09:51:22+00:00

I don't know why people are mad at this. Some in the comments seem to have taken it very personally.

TheMajesticSquirrel · 2019-10-08T10:33:44+00:00

You say this like we're supposed to be ashamed of this if it describes us. Not everyone is trying to be a "master of seduction" or a "delightful charmer". A lot of people don't care. We just want to love and be loved for who we really are, not some fake version of us that's immediately really good in bed. That will come with time and experience.

rus9384 · 2019-10-08T11:17:24+00:00

They feel uncomfortable around dance music

If I just sit and feel confident do I feel comfortable around it?

Dancing is not a prerequisite for "sexual intuition".

having cynical views about the whole ordeal.

Well, that does not sound bad. She does not like dancing, so she does not dance.

These people, both men, and women, are often too inside themselves, are often more prude, rarely drink.

Not related to any previous points.

While sexual intuition is a thing, I think you have confused things here.

Salty-Bastard · 2019-10-08T03:02:18+00:00

Good post St. Loop.

mr4kino · 2019-10-09T13:05:35+00:00

I'm not really sure where to start with this pile of assumptions.If flirting and charming people were that happy, we wouldn't see a bunch of them taking anti-depressant. Usually lacks of confidence etc.