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OYS #3

Profile

29YO, LTR27. RP aware 3 months. HT 5'6" WT 132 BF 14%

Mission

I am the leader, the provider, and the protector of my home, who cultivate authority with a powerful, unshakeable, and rock-solid frame. I listen to what I want and do what I please, yet I'm considerate for others and would serve them with no sting attached, after meeting my needs and desires FIRST. I act on a projection matter, not reactive. I am respectful, funny, and humble man, who's also decisive, goal-oriented, and well-determined. I am of high value and share my values to the world and the people around me. I have high standards and integrity. I radiate masculinity and confidence and aspire others to be like me and enjoy being around me. I strive to achieve my goals, obtain wisdom and learn from my mistakes to be a better version of myself everyday. I am the prize.

Fitness

Started crystallizing my schedule in early morning and making consistent schedule. Enjoying my streghth

I run 10 min day 5/7 for 1.65 miles with 60 push-ups, 60 crunches and 60 squats. The run increase to 6+ miles outdoors in the weekend. Increased the incline to 1.5+ and did 9 miles outdoor shirtless outdoor. Feeling great to be checked out.

Done 8x5x3 modified strong-lifts for 2 weeks. With added biceps and pull-ups on one day, triceps, shoulders and raised legs on the other day. Upper body 60 lbs and lower body 80 lbs.

Goals: Keep correcting my form in lifting, push-ups and squats.

Diet

Cutting on food before bed to enhance my stomach function in early morning work out. Enjoying rich breakfast or lunch. Keep up with high fiber diet as my stomach is reacting.

Goals: rewarding myself with home-made smoothies after long successful days.

Relationship

My LTR left my home in support of my monk mode and I asked her to retun but she declined because she is sunbathing and enjoying life with her visiting aunt, and probably fucking Chad. Since I realized how deep I am in her frame, instead of her pussy, I'm nexting her when she comes back if I don't get the sex I want and kicking her out of my apartment. I started gaming and flirting my neighbors and my colleagues in my graduate school program

Goal: Keeping up my abundance and seduction training

Books

RedPill literature:

1. NO MORE MR. NICE GUY - in progress

2. The Book of Pook- in progress

Still Reading:

Reforming marriage by Douglas Wilson.

Goal: Reading more daily in the time wasted commuting.

Career

Restoring my work-study-life balance. Made reasonable daily goals to achieve everyday.

Discussed strategy with our clinic manager to obtain a raise plan in my current role

Also, will work in adding a new part time job that I'm passionate about. Today is my interview

Goals:

- Make agenda to obtain a raise at my job

- Studying hard to perform well in my school's mid-terms

Mindset

Monk mode is doing miracles in combination with my meditation 5/a day. I started to restore healthy relationships I had from friends of value and cut on beta friends that encourage me destroying my masculinity. Reflecting on my ambition and status, as well as my history with the knowledge obtained from NMMNG

Goal:

- Making sure I do ONLY what I want and move things to be in my frame.

- Keep up with Monk-mode in masculine attitude.

OYS 3

29y, 186cm, 81kg, 20% BF, wife 26 married 8 months, together 5 years. 0 kids.

Doing Reddit Fitness' 3x5+ program: Back Squat: 85kg, Deadlift: 80kg, Bench Press: 55kg, Overhead Press: 37.5kg, Barbell rows: 50kg

Readings:

MMSLP, NMMNGx2, TWOTSMx4, Pookx4, Rational Male, Preventive Medicine, How to Win Friends and Influence People, Models, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck, Art of Seduction, WISNIFG

Currently reading: Day Bang, Mindful Attraction Plan, Mastery (audio)

Physical

Pretty good 2 weeks on the physical front where I feel the most in control. Was on a business trip but got myself to the hotel gym every night (nothing better to do in the remote location). Also went to the sauna after every work out. Ended up not really gaining weight once I weighed in when I got back but ballooned up to almost 82kg before steadying my calorie intake and now at around 81kg. I’m cognizant of gaining weight too quickly as it’s getting a bit of a dirty bulk. Just trying to keep my belly at acceptable levels while I stay at a calorie surplus.

Lifts only went up on squat and deadlift, with the excuse that at the hotel gym, I couldn’t try to continue with a linear progression. I’m close to my limit on both BP and OHP when doing 5 reps. Also bought a weightlifting belt even though I’m lifting at faggot weights still. There didn’t seem to be a specific downside to having it from an earlier stage so I’ve also been getting used to that. Hit the gym 4 times each of the last 2 weeks.

Joined a BJJ class after returning from my trip and went to 2 classes. I’m committed to doing 2 classes a week for the next 6 months at least. Bought a foam roller for home and will generally either foam roll or do some yoga each night. BJJ effectively starts me in dread level 3 but I think I still have time for one more week night commitment.

Goals: Maintain habit of 4x a week gym and 2x a week BJJ class.

Frame

Finally recognised the often used “you seem angry” shit test. I’ve gotten this many times in the past and would get agitated over why she thought I was angry, fulfilling the prophecy. This time I AM’d and AA’d through it, effectively passing this shit test for the first time ever it would seem. I didn’t capitalise on the good mood it put her in that night though.

I was also able to call her out 2 times when she used a shitty tone of voice when speaking to me, teasing her about it. I’m not calling out her shit every time yet since I still need to play my beta role until my frame is a lot stronger. STFU’d through a lot of the whining this week. Something really important is for me to get my self-respect back so I will start poking on this front when she is strongly out of line.

I did do some DEERing when some historical topics where my behaviour was apparently bad was brought up. I did do a better job about STFUing initially and also refused to apologise about something I had apologised for before when I was fully blue pilled. Tried to broken record a little bit by maintaining that I wanted to keep the topic to the night of the fight and not on past behaviours.

Started bringing in a lot more playfulness in my interactions with my wife again. I make sexual jokes all the time around my friends and that had really left my relationship the last few years since I’d get frustrated about the lack of response. Just started bulldozing it in to some good reactions.

Goal: Continue unashamedly speaking my mind to game. STFU when shit tested.

Finances

Have a decent understanding of where my money is/is going but I won’t be able to progress my financial situation until I start spending money to make money. I don’t believe I can do much about my career or start a side job so realistically, I should try to learn to invest so that I don’t have so much cash just sitting in the bank doing nothing. I’m spending a lot of time researching physical stuff since now it’s more in my comfort zone but I need to switch that time investment into this.

Regarding the above, I have a steady job. I’m pretty much locked into my role for the next year and a half due to my relocation. Aside from pushing for a decent raise in a few months, I don’t think I have much opportunities in this front. Spoke to a mentor at work recently and I will really try to put my head down to get as much recognition as possible. I am the most competent in my team and an important part of the team, but he rightly pointed out that I’m not even close to irreplaceable to the company. I have a few people in the company invested in helping me succeed and I need to actually put in the work to benefit from that. I have been pretty distracted by consuming a lot of MRP but over-researching has also been a form of procrastination for me so I need to spend more time just doing.

Goal: Research about investment topics and put 2k into investments by the end of the year. Actually start working hard again and bring a more positive and engaging energy to work.

Social

Adding this section now. It’s my other biggest weakness which I’m not doing much about. After relocating half way around the world to the UK, I don’t have any friends here except for 1 friend who moved recently as well. I’ve started BJJ classes and my gym schedule is consistent so I can continue to branch out.

Because of my need for validation/sex, I would try to keep as much time available as I could at home, in my mind to increase the chance of sex. But realistically, my wife doesn’t want to have sex after work so all weeknights should be fair game for me to go out and do actually meaningful activities. I know this will rile my wife up though. I still have this anxiety and walk on egg shells especially around my availability. On weekends, I spend the entire days (outside of gym) with my wife. I need to fix my mindsets around this and not be so available all the time. I think this is a little bit of a chicken and egg scenario where I just have to go out. I have been going out at times but mostly when my wife is away or on night shift, giving myself an easy excuse.

I am prepping myself to at least add some casual day game in the next month. I did some approaches just to show my friend but I want to be able to do it without a wing (historically difficult for me). I met my wife through day-game so although it is a higher dread level than where I am at, it is something I should be able to apply without too much difficulty. And I need to fix my scarcity mindset.

Goal: Find 1 social activity to do per week. Do it even if I believe my wife will be unhappy about it. Provide myself opportunities to be outside and able to do some day-game.