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Did I soft next this plate correctly? (self.asktrp)

submitted by Chadmassacre

Been fucking her for 1 year, took her virginity, fucked basically once a week or once every two weeks.

I tell her to come over Tuesday or Thursday and she says "Heyy I just started seeing someone kind of exclusively"

I said "Alright good luck".

I think a hard next is when you ghost them, I don't feel like she did anything wrong because plates break eventually, surprised I got a year out of her. I'm not mad either as I have 2 other plates spinning.

The reason I'm asking is because I've never been in this situation before. How did I do?


[–]Endorsed ContributorFereallyRed 179 points180 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

That was perfect.

[–]endertheend 30 points31 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

100%

Now OP needs to keep banging other girls, and when this girl comes back(boomerang effect) you'll have some more fun too :)

[–]babybopp 20 points21 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

To the tee

[–]Americandreambruh 161 points162 points  (8 children) | Copy Link

Don’t be a rude dick and she’ll be back when they break up

[–]second-last-mohican 61 points62 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Or bored

[–]Americandreambruh 3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I’m not big on being the “other guy”, if I hear that a girl is in a relationship I don’t fuck with her period.(but that’s me though)

[–]HowardJRoark 30 points31 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

Exactly 100% this

Now don't initiate contact and multiply your reply times 10fold if she contacts you

[–]RPOpenUp 2 points3 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

What exactly do you mean with "multiply your reply times 10 fold" if she contacts you? In what way?

[–]Das_Teacher 12 points13 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Basically make longer pauses before answering her texts. Longer than they were before that to show that her value has deceased.

[–]HowardJRoark 3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

The standard time it takes OP to reply to anything should be multiplied by 10

[–]ShadeGrip 15 points16 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Basically, as long as you remain the chill cool guy in her life she’ll come crawling back if anything.
Hard next if you really don’t wanna deal with that anymore.

[–]Crixusgannicus 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Or if your dick or other skills are better than his.

[–]FattiesMakeMeGag 67 points68 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Anything that doesn't sound salty is fine.

[–]Endorsed Contributorvandaalen 43 points44 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Perfect. Don't see it in terms of hard or soft next though. She just thinks that she might be able to do better and you don't care, because it was your turn, but now it's somebody else's turn and you are fine with that.

She will be back for sure one day. Might be a week, a month , a year or even a couple of years, but they always come back at least once if you fucked them good, handled them well and let them go.

Good job!

[–]The_Peoples_Asshole 26 points27 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Spot on. Keep on spinning.

[–]DoTheTraditions 4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Good response. However, I came just to comment on the epic username. Keep slaying.

[–]Zanaristic7 10 points11 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

This sub is turning into men and women fucking each other. Classic.

[–]2INNASKILLZ2K18 3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Perfect. Non reactive, low investment.

A chance she'll bounce back if she gets bored with Mr 'I give my exclusivity away too fast'. Happens, if they've had a taste of 'Alpha'.

[–]TexAs_sWag 3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Absolutely. When things end with that guy or when she gets bored of him, you’ll very likely be the first guy she texts, “hey, how you been?”

[–]Hydrakeen 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Great plates I call friends. I'll talk to them while they have a boyfriend because I genuinely care about them and am interested in whatever.

Doesnt happen often but boyfriends come and go. Some women you can fuck time and time again over decades if you both happen to be single.

Might happen a ton if you are exceptionally attractive but certainly once or twice in a lifetime for average men.

Am I suggesting an orbit? Sort of, but passing friendship to give her the space she needs to really have a relationship.

[–]Alpha27145 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

When all the comments say you did a good job, you did a good job

[–]Kn31 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Well done lad, this is the shit I love to see here! I personally go with "oh ok"

[–]Herdsengineers 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Only thing I might have said to say different is add on a "See you around" to make it obvious you're comfortable and not butt hurt. But you did fine too.

Don't be surprised if you hear from again soon, break up or not. Just decide ahead of time if you want to risk dealing with a pissed off boyfriend if she's looking for excitement on the side if she reaches out again.

[–]EvelynnSpoiler 3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

surprised I got a year out if her

I'm surprised you got anything with that kind of mindset

[–]JameisBong 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Handled it well. No emotional friendzone bullshit. Do not allow yourself to be her emotional tampon,let her boyfriend deal with that.

[–]MDMCrab 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

You did fine. I've been in this exact position and handled it the same way.

[–]redlizard3 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Seems like a reasonable and respectable way to proceed to me.

[–]-ThePathIsTheGoal- 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Dead on. The fact that she responded also tells you that she’ll be back once they break up. Good work.

[–]Deluxillo23 0 points1 point  (8 children) | Copy Link

How can this girl hasn’t been attached to you, fucking her once a week and tooking her virginity? I wont understand this crazy bitches ever.

[–]AncientDragons 4 points5 points  (7 children) | Copy Link

She’s just doing the exact same thing he’s doing. Spinning plates.

[–]Deluxillo23 0 points1 point  (6 children) | Copy Link

Girls dont spin plates firstable, there is no credit or hard work for a women to fucking some men.

And girls tend to fuck for validation or money, always looking for the best male. 1 year fucking with the same girl with no issues or bitchy behaviour about not commitment for him, tells me that the op is a sauvage on bed, the girl has no options and feels empty fucking with someone who really doesnt like at all, or she is a nymphomaniac.

[–]AncientDragons 2 points3 points  (5 children) | Copy Link

I dunno man. Everyone is spinning plates now. It’s assumed that you are banging multiple people now whether you are a man or a woman until exclusivity is declared. If OP expected/wanted this girl to be exclusive he would have made it clear. If he was high value enough she would have asked for it awhile back.

He didn’t or wasn’t, so she kept spinning until she found someone she liked better and then locked him down.

This seems to be how dating works in 2019, based purely on observation.

[–]Deluxillo23 0 points1 point  (4 children) | Copy Link

Yes, thats why I say I wont ever understand these bitches ever. But everything make sense wen you rememeber de the feminism dogmas.

Its disgusting seeing girls spining plates like men, my god

[–]AncientDragons 1 point2 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

Why disgusting? We're animals. Happy monogamy is a relative rarity. People want to fuck. The ideal of traditional conservative LTRs and marriage is complete bullshit and mostly always has been.

Feminism already happened. You can't put the genie back in the bottle. Act accordingly.

[–]Deluxillo23 0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy Link

Being a slut is a thing that feminism encourages. And its proveen that promiscuous girls are less happy.

Men are polygamous and women hypergamous, they dont need to fuck 50 fucking guys to find out her best male partner option

[–]AncientDragons 1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

There is 0%, and I mean ZERO percent, chance of polygamy ever being a solution that ever, EVER, ever gets adopted again by modern society in large numbers. It's a dream and a fantasy of theocratic religious fundamentalists.

Accept reality. The current sexual marketplace uses an app model, with plates and multiple partners being the norm until exclusivity is established. Branch swinging and soft infidelity is the norm for both men and women.

Happy monogamy is about the best you'll come to the "good old days," and even then you're dealing with dead bedrooms, boredom, and emotional affairs unless you play your part PERFECTLY and also have a healthy dose of luck.

This is reality. This is where you are. And it's not going to change anytime soon. Be disgusted all you want, but this is how men and women are. Act accordingly. You're not going to be a wealthy prince with a harem of women all worshipping your dick. You'll be lucky to maybe find a string of enjoyable relationships and, if you are EXTREMELY lucky, you may marry a woman who gives you a bit more happiness than she takes from you.

[–]Deluxillo23 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

I didnt mean polygamy be again a thing. I was explaining the natural behaviour on girls and how society encourage girls to be sluts

[–]TheBunk_TB 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

I think you did okay. Have fun and keep busy at your other pursuits. But I would ask one thing; look back with a positive light. It will make your future more bright and your forays will see it too.

[–]th33unsaltednutt 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

She will be back.

[–]Domebeers 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Should have sent a dick pic with a smiley face on it

[–]anicebigrodforyou 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

she will be back. well played, sir.

[–]Senior EndorsedMattyAnon 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

The reason I'm asking is because I've never been in this situation before. How did I do?

You're fine.

She'll likely be back when it ends with current Mr Exclusive. Ignore meanwhile.

[–]bodybuilder98 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

A little harsh / brusque, but you could've done worse.

[–]RaptorMan333 -2 points-1 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Yeah it's fine, but...i guess why do you care? You're not seeing her anymore and you've already fucked her a bajillion times, so who cares what you text her? I mean i guess maybe if you want to leave her on the backburner for if she breaks up with the dude.

[–]TheTrenTrannyTrain -1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Perfect. Now you have to go radio silent, only response if she initiates, it's an indefinite soft next.

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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