Dominance requires energy.

A lot of CEO types have submissive fantasies because being socially dominant all the time wears you out. They eroticize the feeling of relinquishing control, as pointed out by Seltzer:

What’s perhaps most interesting in all this is the psychological relief that many alpha males in socially dominant positions experience in identifying with the submissive role. Fantasizing themselves as “liberated” from all the responsibilities that go with functioning in dominant professional roles offers them a respite from always having to be in control. And, of course, because they get to choose the fantasy material that most turns them on, they haven’t really given up control in such a way that might produce anxiety. So it’s something like having their cake and eating it, too. It’s certainly significant that Ogas and Gaddam emphasize that BDSM play, unlike other sexually ritualistic practices, isn’t generally geared toward inducing orgasm. Instead, it’s about taking care of a need—which, I would add, has been fervidly eroticized. You might even call the whole thing an “alpha holiday.”

Look at how you feel after fucking. If you're like most people, you're relaxed, and perhaps tired. This is why guys that are getting pussy are chill, and laid back. There's less angst due to a lack of sexual frustration.

The key is to find that optimal spot where your behaviours don't signal 'wimp', and you're not coming off as a try-hard dom, being a dick to everyone, which, apart from creating negative social consequences, can be exhausting.