Remember that RedPill is largely, if not mostly, about becoming the best man you can be. For yourself.
That doesn't mean trumpeting a bunch of false bravado about being \"alpha\" all the time.
It simply means that you are always evolving. Mentally, socially, physically, financially...in every way.
But it's an unfortunate fact that most of your friends will not follow this same path.
Particularly the friends from your teens, early 20s, and even late 20s.
There's something about turning 30...I don't know if it's because testosterone levels start dipping or what, but after 30 guys get complacent. They get lazy. They get comfortable.
But because you've taken the red pill, every year you're making strides forward professionally, keeping fit, and always pursuing the best for yourself....while people you legitimately assumed had the same drive will seem to give up right before your eyes.
These are guys that once had everything going for them...most important of all: the drive to do bigger, better things all the time. And now...nothing.
It's painful to watch. It is. And you'll want to help them. But be very, very careful if & when you decide to.
People can be boat anchors. This is a fact. And there's nothing more that a person \"stuck\" in life wants more than to rationalize their shit by seeing someone that has zoomed past them now stuck.
Friends like this don't do it out of hate. They actually do it because they like you...a lot. But they have a hamster of their own. The \"not my fault\" hamster.
\"It's not my fault I don't make more money...damn economy!\"
\"It's not my fault I'm out of shape...damn commute to work!\"
\"It's not my fault I'm [blank]...damn [blank]!\"
Listen to some of your friends talk sometime and I guarantee you can fill in those blanks with a statement that's almost word-for-word.
Here's an example for you: I'm 36. I've founded 5 companies in the last 10 years. 3 of which I still own. I do pretty well for myself. But not because I'm particularly smart. But because I was always too dumb to quit trying. Because I'm always striving. I won't settle.
I have a friend I've known for 15+ years that started a brick and mortar business a few years ago. It tanked within 2 years. He's now back to working for peanuts at a job he hates.
Last year I lent him some money. Now, as a rule I don't lend anyone money I can't afford to lose. That's just a good \"grandpa rule\" that all of us need to live by.
In just short of a year, this friend has not offered to repay one dime.
Instead, any time I see him (unsurprisingly much less frequently) it's, \"I can't find a job that pays well...damn economy!\" or \"I can't find a good woman...damn sluts!\"
You get the picture.
Now, do I feel for the guy? Sure. It's tough watching a guy in his late 30s struggle so hard.
But is it my place to save him? No. Even though I've been tempted...and I did lend him money once...I've distanced myself from him.
I did at one time try to help him with his business. Every suggestion I made was immediately met with, \"You can't do that because...\" or \"That won't work. I know it won't\"
Seeing a pattern here?
The ultimate facepalm was when he tried for 3 weeks to get me to invest 6 figures into a business so that he could run it for me. I politely declined. Repeatedly. He eventually got the hint.
I'm not trying to cumbaya you here with some \"Everything is sunshine and rainbows if you just think positive thoughts!\" but this guy's attitude is simply toxic.
And if I didn't severely limit my time around him, no matter how much I resisted, I know it would start taking effect.
I'll never get that money back. And that's ok. I'm not saying I'm Daddy Warbucks but I'm in a financial position to which I can count it as a loss and it's not a huge deal.
For you guys in your teens and 20s, look around you. That guy that seems to have everything going for him now? He could be my friend in 10, 15 years. Odds are, one of your friends will be.
It's going to be tough...REAL TOUGH watching it happen.
But a HUGE measure of a man is how fast he gets back up when he's been kicked down.
Your eyes have been opened by TRP. You'll notice when this happens before the rest of the world will. Even before he will, most likely.
Now, am I saying to abandon your friends when they need you? Of course not.
But be careful...very careful...of keeping an eye on when that helping them out turns into negatively impacting you. It's a fuzzy area that's not always easy to spot.
It's a hard truth of being a man that we have to look out for ourselves first.
If that seems selfish, then consider this: if you put yourself in bad shape in an attempt to help out a struggling friend then:
- He's no friend for asking you to do that for him
- By putting yourself in financial bad shape, you just eliminated the help you could have given to others.