Its tiring to hear the men cast as aggressors and violent stereotype. I have never committed any form of violence, being a physical fight and especially one in a relationship, yet it seems that by simply being male you are assumed to be a possible aggressor.
Yet, whenever the actual figures come out, violence in Lesbian relationships (read, no men) is significantly higher than that of both male-homosexual and heterosexual relationships with 35.4% of lesbian couples experiencing same sex violence, some 10% more than both male same sex and heterosexual relationships.
Now this could be simply a matter of interpretation of what is violence and the severity of what they deem violence, most men when hit by their female partner don't scream 'violence' simply because it usually doesn't hurt them. I can say with certainty I've had girlfriends slap me. They think its fair game, but I wouldn't go around proclaiming I'm a victim of domestic violence.