tl;dr: This is what happens in a society that empowers women, disempowers men, and gives young men no fathers. Alpha fux, beta bux. Alpha widowing. No family unit. Children who suffer.
Growing up my best friend never had a chance. His mother is tough, strong, from a third-world country and full of no bullshit. If she'd been his father, he'd have had a chance. His father married her after she illegally immigrated. Calling him a man-child is offensive to neckbeards. He has zero social grace, makes ruinous decisions with money, and while his wife was working two jobs he couldn't be fucked to feed him proper meals, and took him to Taco Bell instead. He's an honorary Mexican now; my friend knows all about that crunchwrap. He gained weight through our friendship built on a steady diet of fast food and a father in name only.
In eighth grade he had a crush on a girl, Megan. Megan, and none of us knew this at the time, had had a hard life. She had been raped. She acted out years later in high school. I wasn't fat, I was popular, I partied in the same circles as Megan. Her boyfriend was a drug dealer, low level weed stuff. At parties she'd be in love with the coco, smoking opium, having threesomes in the open while we watched. It was whatever. Once you see enough bitches do ass to mouth you get immune.
Years passed. My friend became a fireman. A would-be alpha profession. But betas gonna beta. When he got hired and gotten into real shape for the first time in his life Megan reach out to him. Funny timing, that. She'd been dumped by her boyfriend after he tired of her. Her lifestyle had caught up with her, she'd hit the wall by speeding through her teenage years, and looked like shit at 23 and was desperate to settle while she could. It was pretty fucking impressive, if you're the kind of person who watches NASCAR to see the carnage.
They fooled around, but never had sex, because she was a born again Christian and born again virgin. She ended up pregnant. Apparently the church did teach her something.
My friend proposed, they got engaged, and I was tapped as the best man. I did my job and, rather than arrange a bachelor party, staged an intervention. Told him he was retarded. His mom was there, she agreed he was retarded, and we convinced him to get a paternity test. Convinced him until he asked her for one and she flipped shit and he backed down. They married.
The child was born. They had another. They both looked like him and his third world heritage, but who knows, they never were tested. She couldn't maintain her sobriety. Both children have pronounced birth defects. Maybe because of her history of using, maybe if she still used during their pregnancies. Opiates and alcohol, which continued while he was at work and she was watching the kids. He tried to get her help, she refused.
Somewhere around this time he starts to complain that all the sexy things she did for other guys in her past, she wasn't willing to do for him. No threesomes, even with another guy. No blow jobs, and hardly any sex at all. She said she had the hots for me. He asked me if I'd fuck her. Easiest lay I've ever turned down. Ya'll aren't high on these ethics, but I'm not about to fuck my best friend's wife, and I wouldn't touch her with another man's dick regardless.
After ten years of this she couldn't tolerate it any longer. Her giving his questionable paternity kids birth defects wasn't as bad a marital sin as his betatude. For a woman, there is no greater sin in any partnership. She started sleeping with a figurative retard and got pregnant. Dat alpha widow doe. My friend wanted to work it out. Wrong answer. She had him served on his birthday so it'd sting. She introduced the new guy as the real daddy, the only one who loved them. They're retarded, literally, so they believed it. Baby was born, I'm unsure of its retard status, and the guy cut and ran. Can't find him for that tasty child support. So what does my friend do? Tried to work it out. She can't, she said, because now she has HIV.
I only bring it up because I went to his wedding this weekend. He got married again.