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Red Pill TheorySo you’re a boring fuck: How to become interesting in 3 Easy Steps [Part 3] (self.TheRedPill)

submitted by needless_pickup_line

In PART 1, I discussed having various hobbies/skills, interests, and experiences. In PART 2, I covered developing a sense of humor and becoming funnier, building your charisma and confidence, and the basics of conversation.

I know many of you wanted information on how to make friends and expand your social circle. Don't worry, I'm getting to it, but it will likely be the very last post in the series. I'm presenting these posts in a certain order for maximum efficacy, and the brutally honest rationale for presenting that information last is this: if you sincerely need a guide found on an anonymous internet message board on how to make friends, I really think it's for the best that you read through all the basic material BEFORE you start putting yourself out there.

Part 3 will discuss making the time to actually DO all the things I mentioned in Part 1 and Part 2. Let’s get to it, boys.

TIME MANAGEMENT

This is a very important issue that was not addressed very well in Part 1. Here is the unfortunate truth: it is very likely you will not have enough time to pursue everything fully. You might be a student or self-employed with free time coming out your ass, in which case pursuing your goals is simply a matter of motivation, but chances are you work long hours at work or you have a terrible commute. You might have a wife and children, or even just a serious LTR, who take up much of your time.

In these cases, you do what you can with the time you have. It’s well known that parenthood comes at the cost of your personal life. That’s just the sacrifice you make. For the workaholics, the idea is that you are trading personal fulfillment now for financial security later. There is nothing wrong with either. For the rest of you, achieving all of your goals comes down to a few basic concepts: having a set schedule, using your time productively, and being flexible when needed.

SCHEDULE

Any aspect of self-improvement is fundamentally a permanent lifestyle change. Whether it’s starting a diet, swallowing the red pill, or buckling down at work, any permanent improvement requires you to directly alter your life. Temporary work always leads to a temporary solution. We are creatures of habit. If you want to stick to a new lifestyle, you need a routine.

Could you imagine if your work schedule was totally random? Imagine getting a call every morning from your boss telling you the specific hours you would work that day. Maybe you have a 16-hour shift, maybe you have the day off. Maybe you have to work all the even hours but you get the odd hours off. How productive would you be? How much work would you get done compared to a normal 9-5? Would you be happy? Too much chaos is just as bad as unyielding order. I know there are some super alphas out there who are above the mortal constraints of this earthly plane, but personally I’m exponentially more productive on a stable schedule. You need to apply that same mentality to any non-recreational endeavor.

Here was my schedule when I was working a 9-5 job. In the interests of full disclosure, I had the luxury of a short commute and very few responsibilities while not on the job.


Sunday

  • Paint: 10am-2pm
  • Miscellaneous: 2pm-3pm
  • Cook/Bake something new or complex: 3pm-5pm
  • Leisure Time: 5pm-Midnight

Monday and Wednesday

  • Wake up: 8am
  • Work: 9am-5pm
  • Gym: 5:30pm-7:30pm
  • Showering/Dinner/Miscellaneous: 8pm-9pm
  • Language Practice: 9pm-10pm
  • Leisure Time: 10pm-Midnight

Tuesday and Thursday

  • Wake up: 8am
  • Work: 9am-5pm
  • Climbing Gym: 5:30pm-7:00pm
  • Showering/Dinner/Miscellaneous: 7:30pm-8:30pm
  • Drawing and Brainstorming: 8:30pm-9:30pm
  • Leisure Time: 9:30pm-Midnight

Friday

  • Wake up: 8am
  • Work: 9am-5pm
  • Gym: 5:30pm-7:30pm
  • Showering/Dinner/Miscellaneous: 8pm-9pm
  • OPEN TIME: 9pm and after

Saturday

  • OPEN TIME

Even with a full time job, things are manageable. As you can see, Monday-Thursday was relatively busy, but I still had plenty of time to unwind at the end of the day. Friday night and Saturday are completely open, while Sunday is a laid back day to relax and unwind. So with this relatively light schedule, I had time to exercise 5 times a week, get creative 4 times a week, and work my brain twice a week AT MINIMUM. In Part 1, I suggested 3 times a week, but you can alter the ratio of physical vs creative vs mental to suit your preferences. If you don’t need 8 hours of sleep, you can get even more done. Once your routine becomes habitual, accomplishing tasks becomes much easier.

PRODUCTIVE USE OF TIME

Being productive means avoiding procrastination. This is why a schedule is so important. I’m sure all of you have pulled an all-nighter at some point. But being honest, how much of that time was spent working? Most likely a good chunk of time, if not more than half, was spent wasting time.

Productive use of time means that when you work, you are focused totally on work. When you have fun, you are totally focused on fun. Too often we get stuck in the procrastination zone where we do bullshit activities we half-heartedly justify to ourselves; like browsing Reddit (It’s educational, right??) or jerking off (hey man I gotta blow off steam). We’re not getting any work done, but also not really enjoying ourselves due to the looming deadline.

One of my methods for beating procrastination is setting timers. Work for an hour, then goof off for an hour. If you take it seriously, work time is more productive and my leisure time is less guilty, and “all-nighters” now have me in bed by 2am or 3am at the latest rather than walking into class or work looking like a zombie. Another method is "delayed gratification". This is why in my schedule I put leisure time at the very end of the day. If I scheduled it for right after work, chances are I would lose motivation and get complacent, and be less likely to then hit the gym or start drawing. Most people are lazy like that. Think of how many pregames that fall apart due to guys fucking around. I don't have the discipline to get back to work after a long break, but I DO have the discipline to just power through all my responsibilities for the day in one stretch. Decide what methods and mentalities work for you.

Here is an ABSOLUTELY VITAL read on procrastination and how to handle it. It goes into far greater detail than I do, and I highly recommend you read the entire article before you go any further.

MISCELLANEOUS, LEISURE, AND OPEN TIME

Miscellaneous refers to random household activities: laundry, paying bills, answering emails, etc. All the random chores that need to get done, but since they’re not pressing they tend to get overlooked...until you remember at the last second and panic. Have a to-do list on your phone (I recommend ColorNote) and constantly add tasks as they come up, then tackle them during a set, dedicated period of time. You’d be surprised at how quickly most of them get done.

Leisure time is when you pursue any of your interests, as referenced in Part 1. It can be spent however you see fit. Leisure time is when you visit your plates, tune your car, or listen to that podcast. Unwind with a videogame. Watch that movie your friend recommended. Read a book (anything from RP literature to an autobiography to science fiction). Maybe you want to spend more time on your hobbies and get more work done. Maybe you want some extra sleep. Even when it comes to your “serious” time, you can still decompress. At the gym for example you can listen to audiobooks or podcasts (if they don't distract you), or even just browse Reddit between sets. Your language practice for that day could be watching a foreign film or reading a foreign comic book. Maybe it's as simple as watching some TV while you eat. The only constraints are those you place on yourself.

For myself, my leisure time this week has been spread across all kinds of things. I’ve been playing some Borderlands 2 on my Xbox. I watched The Babadook on Netflix. One of my interests is zoology so I read about recently extinct animals like the Barbary Lion, Quagga, and Haast's eagle. I took apart and cleaned my computer, and I recently received a 3D printing pen which I fooled around with. And of course, I spent time writing these posts ;)

The videogames were frivolous, but relaxing. The dead animals were obscure, but educational. 3D pens are overrated. Making these posts took more time than I care to admit, but honed my writing skills. As I said in Part 1, your interests don’t hinge on practicality. You pursue them because they bring enjoyment to your life, but that doesn’t mean that they can’t be productive as well.

OPEN TIME is just that, time you leave open to do whatever you please. If my schedule sounds like too much work, then here is more time to relax and goof off. If it seemed too light and easy, then go show the world who’s boss. If you want to throw a house party, pick up an extra shift, hit up a concert, or check out a museum, open time is the time to do it. Practice your approaches, take a hike, try out that new restaurant, or maybe just nurse your hangover from the night before. Shit, chuck eggs at your ex’s house, if it gets you out and about. You can even just use it for more leisure time, although I don’t recommend it. The best use of OPEN TIME is having experiences and maintaining a social life, again referencing Part 1.

FLEXIBILITY

Honestly, this post was supposed to be up yesterday morning, but I just couldn't finish in time. I mentioned at the beginning of this post that not everyone will have the time to achieve all of their goals. You won't always be able to pull things off. While that was primarily directed at the fathers and work-oriented, every man will at some point have too much on his plate. Most of the time we will have too much on our plate. We only have 24 hours in the day, and it’s on you to decide how to fill them. It is imperative that you know how to be flexible with your schedule. I know this is counterintuitive to the importance I placed on routine, but you need to understand that sometimes events are outside of your control or something more important comes up.

It's naive to think you're always going to clock out at 5pm on the dot. If you have to stay at work late, it’s going to mess with your schedule, and that’s fine! We are men! Which means we have responsibilities we have to uphold, but it also means we can handle whatever is thrown to us. But circle-jerking aside, you need to make peace with the fact that you won’t be reading your paranormal teen romance novels that night. You have to sacrifice your leisure time, or some sleep. Likewise, maybe later that week you head to the gym after work and find the place inexplicably empty, allowing you to get your workout done in half the time. Now you have extra time to play guitar or work on your screenplay.

Don’t forget to focus on your health, both physical and mental. If you’re working manual labor, it’s not the end of the world if you’re not also lifting 6 days a week. If you’re studying for your MCAT, you can put down the French studies for a few weeks. There are countless occurrences and circumstances that will either drain your time or bless you with more. You need to roll with the temporal punches.

The other aspect is planning events and outings. You might be constrained by work and school, but don’t take it too far. No one likes the loser who turns down a night out on the town because they “just really need to finish sending out these emails”. If your favorite band is playing on a Thursday night then you’re just going to have to reschedule that hot date with CodeAcademy. If you’re going on a carnival cruise for the weekend, then you leave the pottery clay at home. You might take a few days off so you can go camping in Yellowstone. You lose income, skip your workouts, and blow off your studies. But the idea is that skipping all of those things is worth the enrichment and value that experience adds to your life.

Say you go out and practice cold approaches at the park. You give yourself an hour to practice, with a goal of getting 10 phone numbers. But the first girl you go up to is sweet, receptive, and wants to get coffee right then. Are you going to turn down a girl…to practice getting girls? That’s ridiculous. You’re out practicing approaches so you can get girls. You shouldn’t turn down an opportunity just because it doesn’t arbitrarily fit your schedule.The point of improving yourself is to have a better, fuller life. Don’t let self-improvement interfere with actually living. You need to enjoy the fruits of your labor.

Of course, all things in moderation. If you have a big midterm tomorrow, that bar crawl can wait. USE YOUR BASIC COMMON SENSE. As humans we make value judgements all the time. You need to decide what is and isn’t worth doing. My point is that the journey of self-improvement is not a prison sentence. It’s hard work and at times bittersweet, but ultimately it’s meant to be fulfilling and enjoyable.


[–]dabrah1 35 points36 points  (17 children)

Excellent post. Nothing pisses me off more than the person who "doesn't have time" to work out- it all boils down to planning and preparation, if you want to do something you'll make it a priority. Too many people work 9-5, pick up take out for dinner and watch tv the rest of the night, its such a waste.

[–]JarVoMarGo 13 points14 points  (0 children)

yep, it's amazing what we'll let ourselves sink our time into if we don't have self-discipline. I had to pick up piano this past month so I could cut out the rest of my free time that I was wasting on television alone. now I just practice music in place of consuming content.

[–]laere 3 points4 points  (1 child)

The thing about what this sub has done to me (not a bad thing) is even when I do set leisure time for myself (1-2 hours of video games), I still have this gut feeling that I should be doing something more productive, even if the weeks already been very productive in itself.

Anyone else get this?

[–]dabrah1 1 point2 points  (0 children)

yea- I have a full time job, but I also drive for Lyft (same concept as Uber). When i'm sitting around on the weekend, I constantly think shit, I could be in the city making money right now, what the hell am I doing. Leisure time just feels wasted on "relaxing".

[–]redpillthrower 4 points5 points  (1 child)

Its also more ridiculous considering you can get a decent work out in half an hour (albeit less than ideal, but if you were really time constrained who cant find half an hour).

[–]dabrah1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I used to do Insanity- 40 minute workouts that completely wiped you out.

[–]Gantznaught 0 points1 point  (3 children)

It's not the amount of hours as much as what time you actually get off of work. I work 2pm to 12pm, so I'm naturally sleepy as soon as I head home, don't feel like cooking or laundry or anything. Sometimes work can get so stressful and tyring that leisure is a must in order to keep your sanity in check ( I moved to Houston for work, no friends no family). I really want to go the gym though but I'm genuinely lacking the energy to go.

[–]metalhead4 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Go to gym before work. Benefit.

[–]RedHeimdall 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Always before work. I'm about to switch to an earlier work schedule where if I want to work out before work I'm gonna have to get up at like 4am. But I will, because doing it after work sucks IMO. And you are much more likely to "feel too tired" after work.

[–]dabrah1 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I work second shift as well my man. You just need to get your ass in gear before work, I know it sucks but it will actually keep you more focused through the first half of your shift, and itll obviously build your physique. Win win.

[–]metalhead4 -1 points0 points  (7 children)

I work 8-4:30, go to gym, then go home and watch tv/play video games or hang with buddies. Am I considered a waste because I'm not trying to get my dick wet all the time or not practice a new language for an hour? One issue I have with TRP is it makes life like work. Sorry but I work 8hrs a day then workout for an hour, ill spend the last few hours of my night as lazily as I want instead of giving myself a schedule of homework.

[–]the99percent1 5 points6 points  (4 children)

At your own peril.. This is a sub for becoming the most attractive, well rounded person you can be. Do you think that's achievable if you intend to laze around for those final hours being awake?

I'm out full swing. If not working or at the gym, I'm out socializing and building networks for business.

[–]metalhead4 -2 points-1 points  (3 children)

For business? I'm not a business person. I socialize but I can't stand people talking about their business goals. If your goal in life is money money money then it's fine, but I'd rather not talk work when not working. Money is just a thing to me, I get way more out of life through experiences.

[–][deleted] 6 points7 points  (2 children)

Hamstering. Money is grist for the mill of life experiences.

[–]metalhead4 -1 points0 points  (1 child)

I am happy being blue collar and not 1%

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

And that's fine, unless you find yourself in a situation where it's not. One of the basic premises of this subreddit is that power matters.

[–]RedHeimdall 1 point2 points  (1 child)

If it makes you happy man, do it. Your own happiness should be your main goal. If at some point though you start feeling like "damn I'm horny and I suck with girls," then you need to change up your activities and how you spend your time.

[–]metalhead4 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh I get laid, but I don't make it my daily goal.

[–]Kekeramitu 13 points14 points  (2 children)

Great post. Learning discipline changed my life so much - simply working on my own projects (writing music/novels) and pursuing my hobbies became something that could fill up my entire life, because I have the discipline to push myself that much more. It changed me from a frustrated and depressed person into a happy person, even more so than increasing my success with women.

[–]817682 14 points15 points  (0 children)

One of the turning points in my life was when I figured out that discipline doesn't have to be something oppressive imposed on me from outside - it can be my agenda, based on my priorities, that I impose on the world.

It's not "you must do these things on this schedule", it's "I will do these things at these times, and the rest of you fuckers get out of my way!"

[–]qwertthrowaway 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I read it again. This time it's on Youtube (you can still download/play the mp3)!

If anyone wants to read posts and put them on the channel, just send me a link to the post and an mp3, I will do it as fast as possible.

[–][deleted] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Your posts are high quality and I enjoyed reading them, I want to share my personal story:

Be me, 20 years old in college, intelligent, motivated, studying interesting stuff, nerdy, shy, in a couple of college clubs, goes to the gym (3-4 times a week), yet I was desperately single and lonely. Strange, isn't it? One of the biggest roadblocks, the impediment to me was that I thought I was boring, I did sit in my room a lot of the time playing videogames, but I thought I was dull as dirt. So I asked how could I become more interesting? It's not as easy as simply going out and making a dozen more friends, I was still viewed as a loser.

Now the problem I realized was multi-facted, one I had to gain self-confidence, so what I did was eavesdropped any many conversations, and you know what I realized? People are boring as fuck too! I realized that conversation isn't a transition between fascinating topics, it's usual just inane shit, that helped me conquer my fear of conversations.

That was part of what helped me, the other part was going to like every event on campus (excluding stupid fem-nazi ones), I started to fill my time with guest speakers, other random clubs (even spent time in some religious ones), talking with professionals, looking back that was fun as hell too. There I met a girl that I became interested in, and in the first time in college (since I had severe oneitis from an LTR in high school), we dated, got to know each other, and fucked like no other. Sex matters, I hate when people (especially leftists) say oh you don't need sex to be happy. Yea I don't need cars, meat, electricity, and the internet either but they certainly improve my life considerably. From that point on my confidence went back through the roof. I dated her on and off for like a year and when we broke up I did not suffer terrible oneitis. Then my last semester of college I fucked 3 women multiple time in the course of like 6 months, that was great.

1) Stop over-thinking, just act.

2) Go on instinct more

3) Get out more

4) The best advice I could give you is be someone worth knowing, like let me ask you, if I were to meet you, would I like you? If the answer if no, you have a lot to work on. I would not want to meet myself ages 18-20, I was boring as shit.

[–]red_gerb 2 points3 points  (1 child)

One of my methods for beating procrastination is setting timers.

I'm glad timers work for you. they don't for me. why? timers are another form of procrastination. unless you COMMIT, timers are just another form of snooze button on the alarm clock.

Schedules are key since humans gravitate towards routine. But (yes) keep some flexibility for Holidays/Special Events/Seasons/Illness/Injuries. Occasionally, pull a IDGAF and throw the whole schedule out for a week. Don't let it Rule you (Beta behavior), use it as a tool in your belt.

[–]needless_pickup_line[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think timers are very effective for a single large project, like writing a term paper. I agree that they're not always effective, which is why I mentioned saving relaxation for the end of the day.

[–]MichaelScarnMD 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Your post expounds wonderfully about the baseline message of this sub. Doing what's right for yourself. The only way good things (girls, success, etc.) come into one's life is if that person improves themselves until they become the person capable of achieving those things.

[–]ChadThundercockII 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Dear OP, If you were a girl, I would have married you without a pre-nup. That schedule is amazing. And you bake !

Sincerely,

Chad.

[–]Postboned 1 point2 points  (6 children)

I don't suggest going to GYM 5 times per week. Your muscles need time to relax and rebuild. If you do it like this, chances are you're gonna get an injury which will stop you from having any more exercise, or you won't really improve (ironically) because the muscle won't have enough time to repair itself. And 2h is a lot, unless you are REALLY resting between your exercises. 1:30 tops and I do those only when I am at home.

At the gym for example you can listen to audiobooks or podcasts (if they don't distract you), or even just browse Reddit between sets.

Yeah. Thought so. If you have time to do those things between sets, then you're really not doing much.

I go to GYM 2-3 times per week with one day of rest between and only an hour of workout (but it being intense). You don't need more.

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If you don't have time for more or you can't convince yourself to do more, then yeah, you can get by on 3 sessions a week, but there's no physical reason no to go 6 times a week as long as you're not working any given muscle group more than once every three days. I've been working on a PPL split that has one rest day a week and besides some problems with form at the beginning I've not had an injury yet.

[–]WazzuMadBro 2 points3 points  (4 children)

I go to the gym x amount of times per week so that's all everyone else has to do!

Yeah. No.

[–]Postboned 0 points1 point  (3 children)

But it is somehow true. Muscles need to recover. If you don't give them time to rest in a span of 48hrs or so then you won't really see the results. Tougher muscles are made from tearing the old ones and letting the new ones renew themselves. That is how you get tougher. Science.

Honestly, I am just speaking from my point of view because I have a Rocky-esque GYM coach about 60ish years old and the GYM he owns is very old school (the only thing missing is beef hanging from the ceiling). The threadmill isn't even automatic and powered by electricity, you move it with the sheer force of your legs, so you can imagine how it can be. Discipline is pretty high and I take a break of a couple of seconds between different exercises, so I might not need to go 5 times like someone else that slacks a bit.

If you're having an intense exercise, then you really don't have time to think about Reddit or an audiobook. Just my 2c.

[–]WazzuMadBro -2 points-1 points  (2 children)

Homey. I bench 405. I know what I'm doing but thanks for the lift tips, I'll be sure to change to your routine when I wanna get smaller

[–]Postboned 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Alright. Guess each person is different. Have fun.

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[–]loveofnotes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I work for my dad and it's litterally the schedule you described at the beginning of the post. He calls me from his basement office in the morning (sometimes I find out what time the night before, sometimes I don't) and 30-60 mins later we go out to work. We might be out from 9-6, we might get back home at 11 am, we might go back out later in the day. It is DAUNTING. There is an upside; I work other part time jobs in the evenings and 9 times out of 10, with enough notice, I can schedule short days/ days off with little/ no problem as long as I give him 2-3 days notice. As for my other part times, I like them a lot more than my day job, but the money is good. So I'm in it now. I don't think I'll be at this job forever, but I could take over his company if I wanted... idk. Hope I'm not wasting my life

[–]RedHeimdall 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Something important that I learned... If I try to over-schedule or micro-manage my days too much, I will fail. I might stick to it for a bit but eventually it just feels so oppressive I can't stand it, and the whole thing gets blown to hell.

I found it much better to make looser guidelines rather than strict schedules. If I allowed for some flexibility within the rules then it was more effective. For instance, I will go run Mon, Wed, and Fri of every week. Well what if I really wasn't feeling it on Wed? Miss the run, and now you're a failure. On the other hand, if the rule is I will go run 3 days a week, then if I'm not feeling it on Wed I push it back to Thurs, or whatever.

[–]bobjoe177 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Monday- Saturday: 6 am- 7:30 pm work 7:30 9:00 food, shower, misc. Sleep. Sunday: Carb load 5000 calories swim/ relax sleep

[–]prodigyx 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Great post. I can second your recommendations on ColorNote and The Babadook, both solid.

[–]dhump 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Girlfriend's dissertation was on academic procrastination. Holy hell I've never met a woman who had it together like her.

Rigorous schedules work for some people. On work days, I have my set routine. Other days, my brain just doesn't let me ignore the things I need to do. While those things may not be part of a set schedule, they either were at one point, or became a priority to accomplish before the day is out.

Basically, you have to make something become what you want to do. Only then will you do it.

[–]breakingmad1 -1 points0 points  (11 children)

Wake up 8am for work? Have you actually had a job before that isn't working retail in your local shop?

[–]1whatsazipper 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think his post is very optimistic with respect to the time demands of many people's schedules, but he's otherwise operating in the right direction with respect to using free time purposefully instead of vegetating like the majority. The advice surrounding his ideal 9-5 schedule indicates that he's aware of the limitations one might have.

[–]needless_pickup_line[S] 2 points3 points  (3 children)

I was interning at a law firm. Commute took 20 minutes. I don't eat breakfast and I would lay out my suit the night before. 30 minutes was more than enough time to wash up, change, and head out.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

And even if it weren't so, it wouldn't change much. That is your weekplan and it has to work for you. I start to work at 7 am (could start at 9 too, but i want to leave sooner) and i'm fucked in the head after waking up so i need half an hour more and then at least 30 minutes for my way to work. That's how i have to work out my schedule around my points. Your posts are really good, thanks for your time and contribution.

[–]breakingmad1 -1 points0 points  (1 child)

Don't make me giggle son. So you get up at 8, wash and that and your ready to go by 8 30. I assume your commute was walking then as you leave no margin for error

[–]needless_pickup_line[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

When I first started I was up at 6am to make sure nothing went wrong. 3 weeks in and I had everything down to a science.

I set one alarm at 7:55, then two separate alarms at 8am (one I have to walk to) so that I was definitely awake.

I would shower the night before, after I got back from the gym, so it's not like I needed a full deep cleanse in the morning. Washing my face, putting in my contacts, and brushing my teeth took MAYBE 10 minutes tops. My suit, shirt, and tie would all be hanging ready to go and it very rarely took me more than 5-6 minutes to get everything on.

So usually I was out the door by 8:20. 7 mile commute. There would only be an issue if there was an accident, in which case I would take side streets entirely. Either way I would make it by 8:50 at the latest.

Why are you so bothered by this? I already admitted that this was a very idealized schedule.

[–]JarVoMarGo 2 points3 points  (5 children)

I write xml for a living and work 9 to 5:30 every weekday. I work for an international company and my supervisors are in a different time zone. You do realise that since it's a different time in every time zone and that in true business the workday is 24 hours that not everyone goes to work at the same time right?

[–]breakingmad1 1 point2 points  (4 children)

Right the majority of people don't though, hence why rush hour is from 6 till 9am

[–]JarVoMarGo 6 points7 points  (3 children)

All I'm saying is that it's a ridiculous leap to read waking up at 8am and think, wow you must have a shitty job if you're not stuck in bumper to bumper traffic during that time. When plenty of people just choose not to live in places like for that exact reason.

also I had to comment because you "calling out" OP made you look like some sort of cynical asshat.

edit: went through your comment history, confirmed cynical asshat.

[–]docbloodmoney 2 points3 points  (2 children)

edit: went through your comment history, confirmed cynical asshat.

This makes you look like a "cynical asshat" too, though

[–]JarVoMarGo 1 point2 points  (1 child)

That's the joke. Calling someone an asshat makes you look like an asshat. That's why it's funny.

[–]son_of_belial 0 points1 point  (1 child)

Thanks for the amount of detail you put into these posts.

If anything, maybe Part 3 should have come first? I feel like efficient use of the most precious currency- time- is the basis on which we can begin to build our lives. One of the first things RP taught me was what was worth my time and what wasn't.

[–]needless_pickup_line[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Time management wasn't something I was originally going to cover, but many commenters asked about how they could fit everything into their day.

You make a good point, but people like to hear the sizzle before they eat the steak. Draw them in with the fun stuff before hitting them with the work.

[–]bourbonhipster 0 points1 point  (0 children)

OMG basically just go do some fucking stuff. reddits and internet is leisure. so many other things in life to do! my biggest regret is not knowing this in my early years.

also dont be a schlup and youll enjoy doing stuff far more. tough doing shit when you are carrying 25-50 extra lbs.

[–]zikkitzo -1 points0 points  (1 child)

Personal request: Does anybody have any apps or other way of keeping track of this. I've always been a bit of a scatterbrain and would like to create a schedule for myself. Meditation is helping but until then I could use the assistance.

[–]Falkrik 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm old fashioned but I would probably just use a small notebook

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[–]4delicioustreats 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Because you should practice the rarer circumstances when given a chance. Yes there is abundance, but even PUA dont have 100% hit rate. Therefore if you get invited to practice stage 2. Then do that.