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Field ReportFR: Women can't cheat. (self.TheRedPill)

submitted by One_friendship_plz

Raise your hand if you heard this before. "We should take a break." "I need some time alone." "I don't think I want to be in a relationship anymore."

Only for 3 days later she's texting you begging to hang out again. This is NOT a shit-test, or a battle of controlling your frame. I been around women all my life and what this means is, it's okay for her to sleep around because she did tell you.

Whenever a chad thundercock approaches a woman, she texts her boyfriend something along the lines of "I don't think this is going to work out" then when she finds out that chad just pumped and dumped her, she immediately runs back to you with NO GUILT, because in her mind she isn't cheating. Even though it was just for a few days, you guys weren't "together" therefore it doesn't count and she doesn't have to talk about it.

ALL women are capable of this, and it will never ever register as cheating. If chad didn't dump her, then she would've never texted you again.

Downgrade and plate accordingly, any woman that attacks you with such a message is NOT LTR potential.

2 of my co-workers had this happen. One co-worker was dating a girl at work and she ended up "taking a break" and told me all the dicks she sucked, only for her to end up back with him a month later cause the "break is over"

Second co-worker had his girlfriend say she doesn't think she wants to be in a relationship anymore, ended up seeing her at the bar with her friends, 1 week later she was begging to get back with him.

I have a large social circle of women because they don't look at me as a potential mate, so they're willing to tell me all the fucked up shit they do, because it's of no consequence if I hear it.


[–]grewapair 135 points136 points  (6 children)

I've had the opposite happen. Gf and I get into a fight and agree to break up. One year later she calls back and asks when we are getting back together? "Never," I tell her. "We broke up, remember?"

Her: "I thought we were taking a break!"

Translation, I thought I could do better, but I was wrong, so now I've convinced myself that I can have you back.

Nope.

Taking a break means trying to do better with an option to resume the relationship. I don't grant that kind of option.

[–]BlackHeart89 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Some of the things I hear women trying to pull pisses me off. I would have wanted to snap if she came at me with that nonsense after a year.

"Bitch, who goes on a break for a whole year? Fuck outta here."

[–]coolgiraffe 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Good for you, man and thank for sharing. Fuck the bullshit

[–]Endorsed Contributorredpillbanana 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Good analysis - an option should always come with a price. At the very least the price should be a downgrade from gf to plate.

[–]QueefMcSharterson 198 points198 points [recovered]

When a girl asks for a break, you give it to her. Forever.

[–]justmanthings 83 points84 points  (9 children)

Better yet, immediately think of all the new women you can fuck 100% guilt free.

EDIT: If a LTR asked for a break I would just start treating her like a plate from then on. I'd only clarify anything If she asked about being exclusive again.


Her: "Can we be exclusive again?"

Me: "No thanks." laughing as I push her head to my dick.


Her: "Are you seeing other women?"

Me: "Yes." laughing as I push her head to my dick.

etc.

[–]RichieFinn 24 points25 points  (1 child)

Tell poor Ross Geller that......

Of course, when its you whos getting some "it was supposed to only be a break how could you do this to me"

When its her getting some " we were on a break but now i realise what i was missing"

[–][deleted] 8 points9 points  (3 children)

There was some thread a while ago where a chick took "a break" when she went to Europe. Her BF agreed, and within a week the lady that lived below the apartment emailed her to keep the noise down during sex.

Guess who freaked the FUCK out?

Guy played it perfect too. Wish I could find it.

[–]1reply 7 points7 points [recovered]

/r/TheRedPill/comments/1ypmkh/sunday_trp_humor_girl_requests_open_relationship/

[–]imthemanyesiam 5 points6 points  (1 child)

You need to have abundance mentality for this to work though

[–]justmanthings 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Well yeah... deliberately thinking about all the new women you can fuck gives you that mentality.

[–][deleted] 16 points17 points  (1 child)

It's like she's doing you a favor

[–]Endorsed ContributorrebuildingMyself 22 points23 points  (0 children)

"honey I'm too much of a slut to stay off the cock carousel but I don't want the label 'cheating slut' . We need a break!"

[–]Aldrai 7 points8 points  (0 children)

This is the right answer and will save a lot of headache/paperwork down the road.

[–]copralalic 1 point2 points  (1 child)

On Beige Phillip, Dante talks about a girl "needing a little time". He says, "Fine, you can have it all. Have all the time. Forever."

[–]laere 286 points287 points  (40 children)

100% guarantee the reason they did this is because a majority of their friends aren't locked down and are out sucking dicks left and right.

"Wow my 5 girlfriends are free to fuck and suck whatever chad walks through the door, but I am stuck with beta bitch bob."

Que hamster

"Hey babe I need a break/time alone."

She gets fucked and chucked thinking she's going to lock down a chad and "change him"

"Bob PLEASE TAKE ME BACK."

Bitches be clockwork.

[–][deleted] 69 points70 points  (15 children)

You don't even have to be a beta. There's always someone out there that makes more money, looks better, or is just simply more of a man.

[–]1 Endorsed Contributormordanus 63 points64 points  (3 children)

That's the whole point of hypergamy. You just have to be less in her eyes than the other guy and less could be in any way. You aren't fun enough she will fuck the carnival ride operator because his filed teeth are scary. You aren't rich enough and she will fuck the doctor in hopes of some material return. You aren't popular enough she will go to a concert and try blow the lead singer as a status upgrade.

[–]babybopp 17 points18 points  (1 child)

that is the difference, betas will take back these girls and wifey/bae them thinking that they are lucky she got back to her senses..

alphas move on or keep them as bottom plates.

[–]TheReasoner94 9 points10 points  (0 children)

It's like Chris Brown said these hoes aint loyal and he's right. "Just got rich, took a broke n*ggas bitch" He spat the truth with that song for real. "When I called up she gon leave (her man) and I bet my bottom dollar she's gon cheat" He straight up killed it and summed up how we all feel.

[–]1kingofpoplives 41 points42 points  (5 children)

There's always someone out there that makes more money, looks better, or is just simply more of a man

The thing is...this other guy doesn't even need to actually BE better than you in these ways. She merely needs to IMAGINE him to be better than you in these ways.

She knows you and tedious reality of your day to day life. She doesn't know all the other dudes of the world, so she is free to fill their lives to pussy moistening details when the hamster gets rolling.

[–]foldpak111 3 points4 points  (1 child)

Just happened to me. I'm a Marine that fucked her best friend before I dated her and she cheated with some nobody lol

[–]TehFuggernaut 9 points10 points  (1 child)

You have to take some responsibility here. I've been involved with a lot of girls, and every girl I've ever been with long enough to call a girlfriend wouldn't jump ship at the first sight of another attractive dude.

Lots of girls would, and there are plenty of signs for that shit - serial dating, FB profile full of club/bar pics and slutty outfits, mentioning all of her guy friends, etc.

[–]1kingofpoplives 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Yea, I don't disagree.

serial dating, FB profile full of club/bar pics and slutty outfits, mentioning all of her guy friends, etc.

If any of these signs are present doesn't expect it to last more than a few months.

[–]foldpak111 4 points5 points  (2 children)

That's why relationships are pointless.

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (1 child)

I agree. I just dumped my ex. I'm glad I realized at my age that I should never get married. I've always had a redpill mentality. I then find this sub, and it has only furthered all of my convictions.

[–]foldpak111 1 point2 points  (0 children)

before you found this place, didn't you feel like you were on crazy pills? It's great to realize that we felt that way because of safety in the herd. But now we live in a time where being ostracized doesn't necessarily mean we will be attacked by a giant pack of monsters.

I recommend all the newcomers to just search science in the search bar and look at all the posts that have links proving TRP by actual scientists, such as dread game, af/bb,80/20 rule, etc. Then you feel dumb for not knowing this stuff because it's just common sense. It's most people that are actually on crazy pills. I've even brought up these concepts and I was met with hostility everytime. It's sickening. This stuff can not be argued when even scientists are backing it up. Oh well, we know the truth and that's how life is going to play out, whether they like it or not.

[–]fortifiedoranges 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I I was under the impression that that it meant "what"

[–]j0hnan0n 56 points57 points  (5 children)

Just fyi, I'm taking your phrase: Bitches be clockwork.

Also, I'm pretty sure you meant 'cue hamster' (as in, 'that's my cue' <as in, a cue to enter or exit a scene>) unless you were going for the spanish 'que' for much/so (as in 'much hamster' or 'so much hamstering')

Figured you'd rather learn that here, on anonymous reddit than sometime in the future at a board meeting where it's on a powerpoint slide.

[–]1RXRob 31 points32 points  (0 children)

That, Ladies and Gentleman, is how to grammar police with respect

[–]Hitleronormative 27 points27 points [recovered]

Much hamster, very rationalise, etc.

[–]steelerfaninperu 12 points13 points  (0 children)

As a Spanish speaker I read the Spanish interpretation and found it infinitely funnier.

[–]recon_johnny 120 points121 points  (10 children)

Funny, but true.

Jesus, this sub is a gold mine.

[–]OilyB 52 points53 points  (9 children)

It's a crackmine. It's addictive.

[–]1Halfjor 30 points31 points  (5 children)

When I stumbled onto TRP I felt like a caveman who had just discovered fire. Seriously. I never realized there was so much real information about this stuff on the internet. I remember reading generic magazine-esque shit advice about girls when I was a 12-13. "Smell good", "Be polite", jesus christ.

TRP is the biggest god damn goldmine I've ever seen. I don't have a beta to alpha story like some. I already had developed some solid RP concepts on my own when I discovered TRP, and it has still helped me in many aspects of my life. The wealth of information here is incredible.

[–]OilyB 7 points8 points  (0 children)

| like a caveman who'd just discovered fire

Lol!

Well, I was born and raised in nonfem country (S. America) but my parents were softcore feminism (mom a gimme-gimme type and dad a half BB) and migrated to feminism land, Netherlands (not nearly as femnazi'd as the US but still). And I tried hard to adjust, throwing a lot of good old Latin machostuff overboard in the name of integration. Only now, after 3 important LT relationships do I get what shouldn't have been thrown out. There's one thing that remained Latin though: no woman ever put me on sex ration against my will - I just cheated their brains out. But I don't want to anymore. I need my abundant sex ration at home and I get a fuckton of education on how European/western women hamsterize, lie and manipulate the male psyche. So glad to be here, I finally get to look under my footsoles. I been standing on a lot of feminist crap for much too long.

[–]TytalusWarden 3 points3 points [recovered]

To be fair, "smell good" does kinda' matter. Nobody wants to smell like a walking shit stain, and nobody wants to hang out with said shit stain.

[–]1aguy01 0 points1 point  (2 children)

There's a belief that you shouldn't wear deodorant and wash with soap because your body odor smells good to women that are good genetic matches.

[–]TheReasoner94 1 point2 points  (1 child)

I feel both of you there, it's crazy how much truth TRP exposes about women, this sub saved me from a lot of emotional BS and heartache that I would have experienced if I hadn't swallowed the red pill.

[–]OilyB 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It was about time women's BS got published. Thanks for the feelz

[–]TRP VanguardCyralea 14 points15 points  (1 child)

"Bob PLEASE TAKE ME BACK."

This is where the shaming starts. Feminists and BP males will all tell you to "be the bigger man" and take her back because "it's the right thing to do". As if personal responsibility is a male-only construct.

Stuff like this is an instant and permanent downgrade of status to plate.

[–]foldpak111 3 points4 points  (0 children)

If she's lucky she'll get a downgrade. As soon as I hear we need to take a break I'm already cold approaching on a colossal scale.

[–]boinko03 9 points10 points  (0 children)

This is not a woman problem. This is a maturity problem. If you think that guys and girls alike don't pull this shit in high school and college, think again.

The difference is when college is over, women may not hit the wall for a few years, so they can keep living the college life style of free drinks and the cc. Meanwhile, the men are pissing away money and time chasing skirts for a time before realizing "what the fuck am i doing?"

Its why I try to give TRP truths to my friend's little brothers in college, so they don't make the same mistakes I made in my early 20s. Men have to mature faster or they get used by women.

[–]moebius1991 4 points5 points  (1 child)

There's a solid rap song somewhere in here.

[–]Kyuzo_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

These hoes ain't loyal?

I can't stand these scandalous how's?

If you ain't no punk, holla we want prenup?

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Bitches be clockwork.

Thank you sir. Will use this in the very near future. Have an upvote.

[–]Johnny10toes 71 points72 points  (3 children)

This happened with my sister-in-law. She and her fiance were fighting and they "broke up!" A day later she went to the coast with "a friend, he's not like that." I told my wife what she was doing, breaking up with him so it wouldn't be cheating. Then bet her that I could predict the future. "Oh yeah?" Yes, she's going out of town to fuck this guy then she'll be back to capt save a hoe within a week or two. Well it didn't take a week.

[–]vintagegirlgame 45 points46 points  (2 children)

Wow taking a break from your engagement...that's a new level of hoe

[–]TRP VanguardCyralea 11 points12 points  (1 child)

I've seen it with marriages. When women get emotionally worked up anything goes.

[–]systemshock869 3 points4 points  (0 children)

And their actions are unquestionably justified because feelingzzzzz!

[–]ThreeEyez 65 points66 points  (14 children)

Aka Hamstering. Women are the masters of this because they just run off of emotions for the most part.. They do things IN THE MOMENT when they feel like it and try to justify it anyway they can. The amount of things they try to hamster their way out of is pretty pathetic, whether its cheating like you said, or buying that cute dress at the mall they just couldn't resist.

[–]srsly_forever_alone 20 points21 points  (8 children)

Females tend to be poor at money management--I never considered that they hamster their way out of taking responsibility for their spending habits/debt too.

[–]ThreeEyez 19 points20 points  (6 children)

The only woman I've seen who is amazing at money management is my mother.

[–]Endorsed ContributorRedBigMan 20 points21 points  (3 children)

Maybe... realize that as little as a generation or two ago women were the ones who spent the time balancing the checkbook. They have it in them to be great at money management and finding deals on stuff... It's just that we've had such a long 'boom time' that most women never had to deal with true poverty, never really had to work for a living and thus never understand the value of a dollar.

Women like to get paid but they dont like to work in my experience.

[–]1beerthroway 1 point2 points  (1 child)

Does your mom make her own money? My mom is great at managing money also but she doesn't make most of her own, so if she wants something, she has to get the okay from the man of the house. Her parents were good at money management also though, so I know she learned it from them.

[–]Limekill 1 point2 points  (0 children)

In more upper class, traditional households it was expected a woman was never going to earn more than her husband and so many/most got the training (in school, etc) and could balance the chequebook, etc.

[–]BlackHeart89 5 points6 points  (1 child)

But it was on sale for! Instead $300, it was $250!

Oh no! I'm short on rent this month!

[–]foldpak111 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No fear the white knights are here

[–][deleted] 3 points4 points  (2 children)

How the fuck do they do this with no guilt? Id still feel guilt fucking a girl behind my ltr back.

[–]1xwm 7 points8 points  (0 children)

The hamster is a powerful tool. Imagine that anything you did could be explained away as "not your fault." Now imagine that society backs this completely.

That's also not to say that they don't feel guilt. I've been the poor beta in cheating relationships, and I always found out because they always act guilty for a while afterwards.

[–]Purecorrupt 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think its one of those serial relationship things. Where 'she' is at the point that the relationship is done, but the guy doesn't know it. I don't have statistics but I do hear women dropping a guy for another one in much shorter periods than vice versa.

[–]moebius1991 41 points42 points  (5 children)

Chad Thundercock

There should be an entire media franchise - tv, games, movies, comic books on this character.

[–]foldpak111 5 points6 points  (4 children)

I was reading RP comics and holy hell that stuff is good

[–]lazypengu1n 2 points3 points  (3 children)

there's such a thing? shoot me a link!

[–]faded_jester 87 points88 points  (22 children)

Didn't you guys hear? When a woman cheats it's because her man isn't satisfying her needs and it's his fault/responsibility! When a man cheats it's because he's a selfish piece of shit.

/s

[–]SilentForTooLong 12 points13 points  (19 children)

That is basically what this sub believes though, isn't it?

If a woman is cheating = because she identified a man she thinks is better.

If a man is cheating = just cause he wants more pussy.

[–]TRP VanguardCyralea 14 points15 points  (7 children)

When either party cheats it's because they are acting out on their biological imperatives. Men to spread their seed into as many wombs as possible, and women to act on their hypergamy to keep securing a higher quality mate for the best DNA.

The interesting thing is that women are absolved of wrong-doing when they cheat, but not men. Part of the feminist narrative to absolve women of personal responsibility.

[–]SilentForTooLong 2 points3 points  (6 children)

So is cheating a good thing or a bad thing?

[–]TRP VanguardCyralea 4 points5 points  (3 children)

Are you asking for my personal ethics, or an objective standard for morality? The latter doesn't exist.

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (1 child)

Answered your own question, dude. The very definition of 'cheat' should tell you it's terrible.

[–]truchisoft 2 points3 points  (8 children)

Well I rubs off as true, you hear cases of males having more than one family, but never with women.

Males seek sex, Females seek commitment, so It's pretty obvious why that happens, sex can be shared but commitment cannot.

We will see what happens with polyamorous relationships

[–]SilentForTooLong 1 point2 points  (7 children)

Isn't having 2 families an example of sharing commitment though?

[–]truchisoft 3 points4 points  (6 children)

Yes it is, that doesn't change the current status, woman will jump ship if something they want (commitment) is at their reach, males will not, because they seek sex, not commitment.

[–]SilentForTooLong 1 point2 points  (4 children)

Hmm, yeah it is weird... because it seems like women could share sex pretty easily?

[–]Smooovies 2 points3 points  (2 children)

They could, but they value commitment more than sex. Biologically, if they can turn you into Mr. BB, she will, because the amount of sex she has to dole out will diminish, at the same time that your favors, (money, time, etc.), increase.

[–]SilentForTooLong 1 point2 points  (1 child)

Seems like this assumes women don't like having sex...

I gotta tell you, from my experience, nothing could be less true. I am pretty sure women like it more than men actually.

What makes you think they don't enjoy it?

[–]Smooovies 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Well, it's not that they don't enjoy it, but you have to remember, women are masters at programming weak guys into becoming providers. If you're an AF guy, you'll only give her what you want, which is usually sex. If you let your BB tendencies take over, you'll allow yourself to be her provider in other ways. Sex is the tool that women use to draw guys in. It comes down to how you approach her that determines what you have to do to get sex.

[–]truchisoft 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well I've never had the chance, but from what I could view in the field, they don't care if you are fucking someone else, as long as you keep letting them think they will eventually win you over.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

they want (commitment)

If by commitment you mean resources, then I agree.

[–]foldpak111 1 point2 points  (1 child)

To be fair some women don't realize or feel they deserve what's in front of them.

[–]BlackHeart89 1 point2 points  (1 child)

I always figured it was all of the above for both parties. And I still believe that.

I'm not saying its right. I'm just saying thats reality. If you aren't taking care of business in all areas (both parties), then expect to be either cheated on and/or dumped.

[–]systemshock869 3 points4 points  (0 children)

He's just referring to the fact that it's always spun in favor of the woman.

"I had to look for other options, he was selfish with his time" may quite possibly be translated to reality as: "I was a selfish bitch that punished my man by withholding love and affection whenever he decided to do something with his friends instead of placating my every whim, which was less than once a week, and am now using my fucked up perspective as an excuse to seek out other dick and leave my marriage high and dry."

Try explaining that to any third party that isn't a close friend or someone who knows whats up.. Bitches are experts at spinning stories and gaining sympathy and not only that, in the land of the white knight they're also innocent till proven guilty.

[–]Senior Contributor: "The Court Jester"GayLubeOil 40 points41 points  (19 children)

About a year ago I fucked this Persian Chick who broke up with her boyfriend to fuck me. A week later she got back together with him. The tactics she used are 100% what OP describes

[–]CallmeKraven 17 points18 points  (11 children)

I had a very similar experience. Met a girl at a bar about 5 months ago that just got on a "break" with her guy of 3 years. Fucked her that night at their apartment, she became an FWB for about 2 months then got back with the old bf. Best part is she says she loves him.

[–]GIFtoGasm 8 points9 points  (10 children)

Met a girl off tinder. Broke up with her boyfriend. Slept with her for 2 months, even let me go anal on her. Tells me we have to stop because she wants to try and work it out with him.

2 months later they're living together and I still fucked her before she went home at 3am to him.

[–]no_face 4 points5 points  (4 children)

I thought you were in an LTR with that Latina. What happened?

[–]Senior Contributor: "The Court Jester"GayLubeOil 11 points12 points  (3 children)

I still am. Im actually in the process of teaching her chess as we speak. This was before my LTR

[–]Endorsed ContributorrebuildingMyself 11 points12 points  (0 children)

That's why you should never take a break. It's all or nothing, sweetheart. I don't loan my bitches out to Chad for the weekend. They can have my leftovers though

[–]Lt_Muffintoes 39 points40 points  (20 children)

Hey, I heard something recently which I think was relevant and interesting.

Bit of a long listen, but a TL;DR might be that it is gross disrespect to even suggest a "break". If she suggests a break, then break it off with her.

Breaks are shit tests. A high quality male will not out up with that shit. The highest quality males will assess why she decided on that particular test, and whether they themselves have any culpability (insufficient self-knowledge, selecting a female with poor self-knowledge)

At 01:10:40 http://www.fdrpodcasts.com/#/2940/the-estrogen-decoder-ring-call-in-show-march-28th-2015

[–]colombianguy 34 points34 points [recovered]

When women suggest a "break" or an "open relationship" seemingly out of the blue, a man should be instantly wary. Often it means another man has entered the picture as a romantic/sexual interest.

[–][deleted] 25 points26 points  (0 children)

a man should be instantly wary

a man should get up and leave before she finishes the sentence. come on guys step it up, you know better than this

[–]Hydris 4 points5 points  (0 children)

My room mate is my roommate because he was living with his girl and she wanted a break. He had been dating her since high school. She constantly updates on Facebook about her going out to clubs while he just sits at home moping hoping it works out. It took me four months to finally get it into his head she's fucking other dudes and to get him to come out for a weekend.

[–]Endorsed Contributorleftajar 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I would respond, "Cool. Who is he?"

"Who is who?"

"The guy you're taking a break for. Who is he?" (Deadpan)

"Uh... uh... <denial/hamstering.>"

"...Right. Well, I hope it works out for you two."

[–]1KyfhoMyoba 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When a woman suggests an open relationship, she has already checked out of your relationship sexually, has someone in mind that she wants to fuck, and should be hard nexted immediately. This is something that can't be taken back; she has informed you in no uncertain terms that you are BB, not valued for your sexuality, in fact, DEvalued for you sexuality. There is no, repeat NO recovery from this revelation.

[–]AkaviriDragon 5 points6 points  (1 child)

Stefan Molyneux! Great philosopher, actually uses statistics.

[–]Newdist2 4 points5 points  (2 children)

OK, listened to almost the entire rest of the show. Why does the host never come out and say, "Bro, your girl cheated on you"?

FACT: This girl had been in a bunch of short term relationships before she met the caller.

FACT: A male "friend" drove from an hour away to party (drink) with this slut until late Friday night.

FACT: The next morning she (still hungover) went out to breakfast with him.

You don't have to be some neckbeard virgin rapist sexist MRA PAU redpiller to conclude that the "friend" spent the night at her house having sex with her.

[–]Endorsed ContributorRedPillDad 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That chump is painfully slow-witted. Stefan made it reasonably clear, but the guy wasn't getting it.

[–]Lt_Muffintoes 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Obviously. The broader point is that even if they didn't bang, the behaviour as she describes is already abominable.

[–][deleted] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

A woman who needs a "break" is a bad fruit, just dump her hard. Even if it is a shit test, it's the one of the most ridiculous one they have. Give her a break, until you die.

[–]Newdist2 7 points8 points  (1 child)

The objectivist stuff this guy spouts is at least 60% bullshit.

However, he's spot-on about what "time" means.

[–]utopianaura 1 point2 points  (6 children)

Side question: can you or anyone else suggest any podcasts on this site worth listening to? That are really insightful? Thanks.

[–]1xwm 1 point2 points  (1 child)

The black Phillip show

The beige Phillip show

Bill Burrs podcast

/thread

[–][deleted] 32 points33 points  (1 child)

Can confirm - had my ex come back to me after doing the same thing. As if i'll take her back all used and passed around LOL. It's like lending your car out to a bunch of men and having it returned to you with scratches and dents all over the panels. With stains on the seats and a huge increase on the mileage.

[–]Aldrai 12 points13 points  (0 children)

With stains on the seats and a huge increase on the mileage.

HAH! I'm stealing that one.

[–][deleted] 31 points31 points

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[–]faded_jester 15 points16 points  (0 children)

exactly....or one of my favorites "I have to be true to myself"...as if that is anything but an excuse to justify doing whatever the fuck you want for any reason

[–]Betterthanuatlife 18 points19 points  (9 children)

Lol my friend's girlfriend tried to cheat on him with me. I just sent all the pictures she sent me to him. She then told us because of this that she was going to kill herself. She said things like ''I made a mistake'' and ''you're the only one for me'' right... Following that like I said before she then told us that she was going to kill herself. Obviously bullshit but I really wish that she would have hahaha. Bros before hoes.

[–][deleted] 12 points13 points  (6 children)

she then told us that she was going to kill herself. Obviously bullshit but I really wish that she would have hahaha

let's not get too dark here. just because someone is a dumb whore doesn't mean she should kill herself. on the other hand, don't give her what she wants. she threatens to kill herself? paramedics/police show up on her front door.

[–]Betterthanuatlife 2 points3 points  (1 child)

Yeah you're probably right. She just pissed me off a lot by doing that to my friend. I really should learn not to spell out things impulsively :/

[–]Endorsed ContributorAFPJ 11 points12 points  (2 children)

Too dark? Sounds just right to me. 300 years ago, a whore - not even a dumb one - would've been stoned to death merely for being a whore. In lenient cases, an unmarried woman with a kid was doomed to a life of homelessness.

  • Men who rob, steal or kill were artificially removed because they were not conducive to civilization.
  • Women who slut around were artificially removed because they were not conducive to civilization.

We've been so pacified - so conditioned - that we've forgotten basic requirements to maintain a stable society.

  • If a man produces, he is important. If he does not, he's irrelevant. If he detracts, he's purged.
  • If a woman bears, she's important; if she does not, she's (irrelevant). If she detracts, she's purged.

Now, let's look at the more lenient 1900s flavor of the same strict roles being enforced in favor of civilization:

  • The only reasonable grounds for a woman to leave a man was if he could not feed and house the family.
  • The only reasonable grounds for a man to leave a woman was if she could not maintain the household.
  • A man or woman violating fidelity in marriage became social outcasts, forever doomed to rock bottom.

The cumulative windfall of the above let civilization develop as far as it has. Now, we imprison men for lesser crimes & encourage whorish conduct for women. Where do you think this is going to lead us, as civilization, in a few millennia?

[–]BlackHeart89 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Much nicer than me. I wouldn't have given a fuck after that. My response:

"..............."

[–]Zeldy 10 points10 points [recovered]

This happens all the time, couples will break up for like 6 months to 1 year, have their fill of sex adventures then get back together. And the woman is almost always the one that initiates this shit.

[–]cassandrita 15 points16 points  (4 children)

And this is on the front page of r/relationships right now: https://archive.today/K48kQ

TL;DR Girl cheats on her boyfriend (1.5 years of dating) after they take a two day break after a major fight.

[–]Endorsed ContributorRed_August 12 points13 points  (1 child)

"...they had sex, she told me she didn't enjoy it..." lolzlolzlolzlolzolz

[–]DoesNotMatterAnymore 7 points8 points  (0 children)

This is just a coincidence, means nothing. Also this is [FF] relationship, when a woman loves an other woman that's DIFFERENT!

/s

[–]whatyearisthisagain 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Being a woman in a lesbian relationship with a woman might just be the worst experience a human can go through.

[–]loin_fruit 5 points6 points  (1 child)

I know this all too well. One of my first girlfriends had daddy issues, was crazy, didn't have any friends that were girls. Obviously wanted attention all the time. Added everyone on facebook. Was always on there.

We started fighting after awhile, she decided we should take a break. Tells me not to fuck any other girls, me being beta as fuck at the time, I say yes. What does she do? Fuck the dude she lost her virginity to, about 4 months before we dated. She couldn't lock him down for a relationship, so she went for me (beta bucks).

Weird how life works because I went full circle and became more of an asshole after that, and got a woman to cheat on her boyfriend/fiance/husband, during the whole time.

Shit is sad, and fucked up. But I would rather know about this information that TRP shows me, and try and use it. Than never come across it, and be stuck being fucked over.

[–]Mardolini 5 points6 points  (0 children)

you sound like friendzone material, but thanks to you, science can go further than ever before, thank you mate.

[–]hohndo 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Articles like this always make me think of my ex.

She dumped me (more like dropped off the face of the earth to me without saying anything), let it bother me for a week, moved on.

4 weeks after that she existed again. I figured I would get with her again for at least some sex. 3rd day in, she tells me she is pregnant.

I dropped that shit like a box of rocks.

Edit: and no..It wasn't mine.

[–]kazaul 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I'm not disagreeing with the general sentiment but I do want to play devil-s advocate for a moment: why do we care?

Once a woman cheats, she has surrendered all rights of exclusivity. We as RPers know this and act accordingly. So what precisely is the big deal with cheating? We are no longer BP men with no options. We are not surprised by AWALT and know we can't change it.

So there seems to be no grounds for outrage or anger. Yet still we devalue a cheater (at least I do) and consider it a huge red flag, going as far as to sneer at women for being women. Even though we cannot change it. The logic somehow does not add up.

[–]chimpchimperson 21 points22 points  (1 child)

Never trust 'em. When their hamster kicks in they can rationalize anything.

[–]RP_Vergil 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Was in your shoe before. Woman can tell you the damndest things they know of others belonging to the same species, yet always claim they are "different from the rest".

The irony is that when you start to say about another Woman's Promiscuous past they be judging you as a "Weak Man" who keeps on bringing out other's past to "shame" them. "It's the past ok? I'm sure she is now a renounced virgin."

Ya right bitch.

[–]DougieTheCaker 16 points17 points  (0 children)

If I had a nickle for every time this happened to a guy I know...

Always the exact same methodology too...From what I have observed, all girls who pull the break thing are getting smashed by some other guy or at the absolute least going out with / spending time with and heavily considering it. Then you can further divide that in to tww groups of girls 1) The ones that trickle truth that they 'well i did hang out with this guy and he just kissed me thats it' or 2) The ones that flat out lie/deny.

No joke this happened to a good friend of mine months ago and I said 'bro you realize she likely sleeping with other guys right now prob someone she met from work'..and he said 100% not possible and she eventually came crawling back and even after crawling back still continued to sleep with the other guy.

[–]Air4ce1 18 points19 points  (5 children)

It's funny because whenever I needed a "break" before it was genuine. I truly needed a break the stress of a relationship along with sports and school in my blue pill days was something I needed a break from. Of course it was unintentional dread game because she automatically equates this to her version of what a "break" means. I had found some new poon and wanted to try and see if it was worth it. Of course I didn't know this back then, but now I see it for what it was.

[–]destraht 11 points12 points  (4 children)

I'm thinking that the last thing a woman wants to do when she is too stressed is not have a man to complain to.

[–]Senior Contributorexit_sandman 7 points8 points  (2 children)

True, that's why she doesn't take stress breaks, but cheating breaks.

She doesn't break up because of too much, but because of too little drama.

[–]Hoodwink 2 points3 points  (0 children)

She doesn't break because of too much, but because of too little drama.

This is the perfect explanation.

I've not only seen this with some other women, but something I've seen older women do to men. Sometimes, I see women try to occupy other men's time with stupid shit - that logically doesn't make sense - and it seemed calculated and not ordinary woman bullshit. I think this is it. Sometimes women create little drama bombs because they think 'the relationship' needs to be exciting for men too or else they'll grow bored and tired..

[–]Air4ce1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's what I'm saying. Where as a guy wants a break because he truly wants a break or is trying let her down gently. Girls take breaks to test the waters, with every intention of going back in case things don't work out.

[–]confuseacatlmtd 6 points6 points [recovered]

Just today my buddies new gf and I are hanging out, and she reveals that she has only suck his dick. (He told me they hooked up, whatever, same thing.)

So I tell her it's pretty much the same thing and that girls just suck dick to say they didn't sleep with the guy so they can feel better.

She disagrees and says (in front of him) that sucking dick is for guys you aren't sure are worthy of fucking yet. lmao

Meanwhile she is a little drunk and touching me and trying to flirt with me the entire time. Fucking ridiculous.

[–]GC0W30 5 points6 points  (0 children)

That's a winner that ought not get away. Make sure your bro spends at least 4 months pay on the engagement ring.

[–]paleoman1992 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Can add to this thread.Back in '09 my ltr of five years got a new job and back on her feet after a diagnosis of MS. She was around many new people and divorced office girls. She pulled that same shit."I need a break-gotta figure out my life…." The reality was that her new work husband was giving her the tingles and i became some old orbiter to her. My beta ass cut her some slack and let her drift,and in the back of my mind i waited for her cuz i was pussy whipped. In the 4-5 months of her sporadic contact i got some strange on the side,but i had hoped she'd come back to me. So,after this period of not being quite sure what she was doing,she contacted me and said "love you,miss you….." blah blah blah. We started to date and fuck again. One night she got blitzed and i had to drive her home. In her unlocked car,at 3am,i found her journal that she kept. Ohhhhh. This described the "horrible" sex she had with the dude at work. All the wild nights of drinking and make out sessions with different guys while she was "figuring out" her new life. My snow flake became dirty road slush in that moment. By red pill terminology,i plated her. Banged two other women on the side while i was figuring out my exit strategy. She wanted to "get back to where we were before". I thought-Fuck this little bitch. I eventually launched her.Had to block all social media,emails,cell lines. She actually had the audacity to say "you just can't give up on us." So fast forward to last year: Haden't heard a peep out of her for 18 months.Got a random text after un blocking my cell-"miss you,love you…." i laughed my ass off. was cruel to her really. I needed vindication. I said"all of your office friends are cheats" "can't you find a nice guy at work to buy you dinner". Glad glad glad- i no longer have that bullshit in my life. This thread so true.Thought id share a true story for you younger guys who's gals "need a break". AWALT, never forget.

[–][deleted] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I have seen this through a girl I know's sister and her college boyfriend. She told the boyfriend "I want a month off. I am tired of texting and calling you all the time. Lets take a month and then resume where we left off." She fucked two lacross members in that month and got back with her puppy dog of a boyfriend.

The boyfriend's parents caught on and told him NOT to get back with her, so she pitted the boyfriend against his own parent's saying "we are in college your folks dont control you anymore" The girl also got her FAMILY to call the boy asking why he would not get back together.

I dont know how tings ended because I told the girl I was seeing her sister sounds slutty and I hope it doesnt run in the family. That didnt go too well for me.

[–]graybutessential 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I had a girlfriend in college who did this. LTR, long distance (as I had graduated 3 months earlier).

I realized after we got back together. Beta that I was, I tried to blame myself--believed her BS about how I wasn't loving enough or romantic or caring enough.

No, fact his, Chad played guitar in a funk band. He was more interesting than me, more alpha than me, etc. She tried to get him with sex, and he used her and then moved on. So, she came running back to me.

Here's the deal, chaps--YOU are the prize. If you aren't, then fix that. Never be in an LTR if you are not the prize. Otherwise, you'll waste a year of your life trying to supplicate to a woman who is only looking to ditch you when the next Chad comes along.

[–]steelerfaninperu 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Women can hamster their way out of it even if they didn't tell you. Just look at how married women cheat. They will say how they weren't feeling loved, how things had been bad for a long time (they just never made it clear).

AWALT

[–]Luckyluke23 5 points6 points  (2 children)

I have a question,

whats it like have a gaggle of bitches? ( gaggle is collective name of bitch, or women if you will)

must be tiresome?

[–]One_friendship_plz[S] 4 points5 points  (1 child)

Wasn't by choice, work multiple jobs that have a large portion of women.

It's not as annoying because they don't see me as a potential mate, so they're actually pretty honest. Had one openly say at work "I'm a fucking slut, I lied to a guy last night saying I was virgin and he believed me LOL" Not that annoying because they're past the age of 25. There's a bunch of women who are 18-20 that I avoid at all costs, they have insufferable voices and are annoying as fuck and I would've quit my job if I had to be in that section every day listening to women trying to be funny or think they're having an intellectual discussion.

What a lot of people on TRP don't know is there's jobs that produce a friendly environment where women drop their guard and spill everything to you, preventing you from needing to screen them compared to cold approaching strangers.

Unfortunately all women at my job admitted to being sluts.

[–]Luckyluke23 4 points5 points  (0 children)

haha.. thats pretty funny man..

for me though... work IS work. I don't shit where I eat.

[–]AkaviriDragon 3 points4 points  (4 children)

My best friend's girlfriend has been trying to get real friendly with me lately. She's told him that she wants to "take a break" in their relationship. The reason? She wants to fool around with me. AWALT. Perhaps woman would take an ethical approach if this behavior was shunned and exposed rather than constantly allowed by beta boyfriends who've never had proper guidance. I'm still trying to understand this behavior and how men can work to be happier and prevent their women from doing this shit or not get a cunt that does something like this. The best way might just be to not worry, if she lays off the relationship then she obviously doesnt want you, just dump her and make yourself into a fine strong man who can get better girls who aren't psychopathic whores who'll go fuck other guys because its their "FEELINGS" and come back to you crying, lying about how they were wrong, yet they had it all planned out. Beware of this behavior. Dump her, move on to one who is loyal, or keep the one you have but then you MUST expect it to repeat itself.

[–]1kick6 3 points4 points  (0 children)

As Dante Nero says: When a woman asks for time your response should always be "You need time, how about infinite?" There is no such thing as a break, your relationship is over, and she needs to know in no uncertain terms that if she's stupid enough to hit the detonator, that shit blows up, and it can't be put back together.

[–]Redpythongoon 5 points6 points  (2 children)

[–]Senior Contributorexit_sandman 5 points6 points  (0 children)

The funny thing about that incident is that Ross annoys the fuck out of Rachel because he's jealous, and when Rachel suggests the break to get him off her back, it's him who is using that opportunity to sleep with another person.

Typical feminine imperative at play here - the woman of course only takes a break because she needs some time for herself but actually only needs to get clarity that she really wants him (and nobody else and she also sleeps with nobody else), while the guy hops on the first available girl (that pig).

[–]KnowBrainer 3 points4 points  (5 children)

I can attest to this. In my embarrassing days, an HB1 did that to me, she showed back up to ask for me back with hickeys on her neck. Not very sneaky. She said it was her girl friend at a party doing it for attention. One call to the friend blew her story apart and her stuff was out of my house that day. The friend's testimony wasn't required, just one more bullet for when I pulled the trigger on our break-up. Great post, very valid.

One thing that wasn't mentioned, however, is that lying isn't beyond most of these girls. Details and confessions drip out like sap from a tree, slowly congealing into the truth as you corner more and more evasive language and disambiguate each statement, distilling her hamster wheel into a sweet, syrupy AWALT moment.

[–]Senior Contributorexit_sandman 5 points6 points  (3 children)

If you're using PUA lingo - "HB" means "hot babe", there is no "HB1".

[–]KnowBrainer 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry, I was using HB ironically, but I think it blurred my point rather than being a humerous way of saying she wasn't nearly attractive enough to be worth the trouble.

[–]Chilezen 2 points3 points  (0 children)

So, just curious, what does it mean when a guy takes a break in a relationship?

[–]dickinlipss 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Pre-Redpill me had this happened to me. She wanted a break after a senseless fight. I maintained friendship though it killed me. Then my extremely BP friend saw me with her after class walking to the dorm. In confidence later he said "What the fuck are you doing? You're walking around as if you're best friends. It's disgusting". I realized he was right and cut contact. Later she kept trying to contact me or ask for lunch and avoid me when she would start to cry but I maintained frame of not acknowledging her. She hasn't had a real relationship 5 years later.

[–]LancerKagato 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Though I am MGTOW and generally stay away from any relationships(besides the occasional ONS when I really feel the need), TRP is full of wonderful goodies like this. I have a few friends that are women, and it scares me when they talk about things like this. I swear it's a great reason to be friends with a woman, gives you amazing insight on female nature.

[–]BlackHeart89 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah man. Even in my BP days, I had some RP knowledge. I was never okay with going on breaks. It always seemed pointless to me. Time apart, maybe. But I would always seek clarity.

"Time apart as in temporarily breaking up? Or just not talking AS much?"

If ever the former, I told them straight up, "no. thats bullshit. If you want to break up, fine. But I'm not with going on breaks. Thats bullshit".

Either we'll officially break up shortly after or the problem will be worked out before the day is over.

[–]Johndoesmith67 5 points6 points  (0 children)

yea just move on. Take it in stride and on to the next one. Fuck thinking for a second girls will take the responsibilities. Just move on. Some are waiting, some are willing, some are ready to buy.

[–]srsly_forever_alone 10 points11 points  (4 children)

Hey bro, nice to see someone from the sub here.

Yes, women can rationalize nearly anything in their minds, no matter how seemingly absurd. Women are masters at justifying their actions to themselves as well, it appears to be some form of doublethink. I'm sure the woman who sucked multiple dicks has hamstered her behavior away--but if the bf lets slip that he hooked up with dozens of women during this "break"? There'll be hell to pay.

[–]One_friendship_plz[S] 9 points10 points  (3 children)

Sorry, go read the sidebar and do your research. If you're ALPHA you can get away with this shit when your existence is scarce in your location.

http://gyazo.com/ad496876aba55074c712ffc49938a190

"I was just broken up with on Thursday by an alpha who completely changed his personality when he started his career months ago. I saw the breakup coming but I couldn’t leave him (even though I’m almost sure he was cheating on me). "

There's a whole website where women talk to each other about how to obtain an alpha, and they commonly agree that men with options are attractive, men that are likely to cheat turn them on.

http://gyazo.com/10281900429ab6e3412962cac3dadd8e Go outside and try to find one douche that doesn't get laid often.

Edit: http://gyazo.com/9b28c01a960e7f01a61c75acd4a0dea9 More proof.

[–]Solitary_Wolf 0 points1 point  (2 children)

what website are those conversations from?

[–]One_friendship_plz[S] 2 points3 points  (1 child)

http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/dating-tips-advice/is-there-any-point-in-dating-an-alpha-male/

Here. Also, this is true alpha game here http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-3036709/Man-TWO-live-girlfriends-share-child-rearing-date-nights-kingsize-bed-wants-woman-in.html Man manages to score 2 HB9's that live with him and gave birth to his children.

I'm currently working on reaching this level of status. We should call this Alpha god mode.

[–]BCFtrip 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I split time this weekend at one of 2 4-girl apartments, all 20-21 or so. The awalt and RP truths were completely undeniable, and illuminated with such debauchery it would make Clinton squirm.

[–]Jigsus 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Men do this too. I think it is something encouraged by the nature of textbook monogamous society.

[–]sendrake 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've actually been guilty of this. Sort of. I'd tell girls that I wanted a break instead of just breaking up entirely. I never took them back, but still. For anyone out there thinking of doing that, don't. It's much cleaner to just end it and move on, give them closure so they don't text you constantly asking when the break will be over. Eventually you'll have to hurt their feelings either way to make it clear to them. Just man up and end it.

[–]On_the_dot 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This post really hit home and reminded me why I took the pill. This is exactly what happened to me multiple times and I kept taking her back. I was a little bitch and I'm glad the slut cheated. I wouldn't have found the pill if she otherwise.

[–]mickydonavan417 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I understood this long before TRP was a thing. I remember being 18 and telling my gf that wanted a break that we should just break up cause not gonna take her back in a week after she's been fuckin around with God knows who. She promptly shut the fuck up about the break.

[–]UlyssesElias 5 points6 points  (5 children)

This is very true. But all that matters is what happens next.

You only take her back if you want her back.

And by the way: when she's on a break, SO ARE YOU so make the most of it!

[–][deleted] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

You only take her back if you want her back.

Don't, she did you a favor.

[–]vintagegirlgame 9 points10 points  (3 children)

Problem is, she will have already have another man lined up when she asks for her break. As soon as she's granted pardon, she'll jump him. On the the other hand, it's harder for the guy who's been in LTR mode to go right back into the game and score.

[–]1kingofpoplives 3 points4 points  (0 children)

On the the other hand, it's harder for the guy who's been in LTR mode to go right back into the game and score.

This is always much harder for me. It's just harder for men to get the same quality of sex and relationship than it is for a woman.

[–]rpkarma 1 point2 points  (1 child)

Unless you keep your game up and have some on the backburner. Don't need to fuck them per se, just flirt and keep your edge sharp, so when the time comes you're not caught out. It's good for the relationship too, keeps your LTR game on point. Every time I've started flirting with other girls more because I was unhappy with the LTR, every single damned time suddenly she'd become the "perfect" girlfriend. They can smell it on you.

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