Over the past week I have had a total AWALT experience with one women (and one set of parents). Firstly I don’t consider myself a typical red pill’er - I’m 54 married for 26 years and everything I want mainly by being the man and taking care of me first.
My eldest has what I thought was a great GF, quite like my wife, and he had plans to to get married. He is 24 and been in a relationship for 2 years but who's to judge I got married after 16 weeks. This is his choice and I think he knew what he was doing until this week. The arrangements are being put in place for autumn this year and his GF was not acting like a bridezilla at all. Well until she asked my son to ask me to write her into his trust fund.
Now I’ve always been very careful with money made my first €m by 25 and have excelled since….so I put a reasonable amount into trusts from each of my children removing it from my total estate and ensuring that should anything untoward happen then they were protected but in a controlled way. So son and GF approach our family lawyer about a prenup which they jointly agreed on and were happy with and of course the lawyer discloses the trust fund’s existence. Her reaction is that of course she will be written into it.
Umm no, I set it up to protect my family and its money NOT to provide a open cheque book to whoever my children sleep with. The trust has a “legitimate offspring” clause which only allows for proven descendants of mine to benefit. The draw down by my children can only be for reasonable expenses and a moderate lifestyle. I drive a 10 year old car and live in a modest house so why should I fund extravagant children.
She has gone totally ape shit over this … calling off the wedding unless my son gets me to change my mind and rewrite his trust fund. Apparently I am disrespecting her and she should not have to deal with such a pig of a man. Over the weekend her parents had dinner with us and the only topic of conversation was how unreasonable I was being. I’m just not looking after my family the way I should.
My son bless him has just said to his GF deal with it, dads not going to change his mind so either marry me and live a good life or fuck off. She just won't leave him or it though and he’s getting fed up so had a half hearted attempt to change my mind yesterday but we agreed over one to many beers that if she was in it for the long haul then it would not matter….
Not sure what will happen, son is pissed at me a little but at her an awful lot more, I think she'll accept his alpha status and go with it but am not sure.
TL;DR - AWALT no matter how you look at it.
Update: My wife had lunch with the (now probably ex)-GF today to see how things are.
Son went off on planned skiing trip with the boys and hasn't spoken to his GF since Friday when she refused to come to dinner with us. He's back tonight but hasn't invited her over to us for dinner. She is is beside herself that she has fucked up totally and fished for an invite to dinner from my wife; GF thinks she has lost the "best thing in her life" and doesn't want to be like her mother. Son, in her words, told her to "grow up" and "get over it", as they left the lawyers office. In her words it wasn't that he said that it was the way he did not take her feelings into account. The way it is now I'm pretty sure that he's moved on and the shit test failed big time for her. I can't help but say I won't be glad if it is.