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Red Pill TheoryThe TRP Field Toolkit - Part 1: Attitude, Ego and IDGAF (self.TheRedPill)

submitted by Senior ContributorNightwingTRP

TL:DR - A compilation of the basic tools you need in the field to handle the vast majority of situations which could arise. The way I explain everything is the way I see it and how it has been working well for me including examples and links to additional reading. As a result of all the detail, it was extremely long, so I've broken it down into four parts for ease of use. This part covers an introduction, guide preface and Attitude, Ego and IDGAF.

  • Introduction (My motivation. Skip if you don't care.)

Ever since I unfortunately had to remove the Field Report I put up about a month ago, I wanted to find a way to get that information back out into the community. I had a couple of guys message me to thank me for the "masterclass" in TRP seduction. While I'm flattered by that, I don't believe I'm a complete master. (I also believe that any attitude suggesting you have nothing left to learn is counter-productive for any man looking to continually better himself. We are all apprentices in a craft where no one ever becomes a master.)

Everything I used in that FR, I learned from this sub and the IRC chat. When I realised just how much I'd learnt and how many principles I put into play over the course of that night, I realised that there is no one piece which draws these strands all together. That's what I intend to do with this guide. That way any newer guys have a complete list of everything in one place and can quickly see where their strengths and weaknesses are. Most of these work very well for me when applied to the right situation, YMMV depending on your appearance, approach and personality.

  • Preface to the guide

This is the "in-the-moment social dynamics which is essentially the raw game itself, getting popular/laid is based on all this bullshit, which is effectively the basis of animal attraction/charm/social grace. We don't get too many posts like this anymore, but it's always good to rehash the basis of interaction, especially for guys who are busy working or doing other shit and need to dust up their social skills. Like anything, too much time out of the game makes you rusty and these behaviours you describe which otherwise come naturally to many become lost and need re-learning/reawakening, which I'm sure your descriptions will aid in. Also helps the autists who never had a clue to begin with, too." - /u/Illimitableman (Thanks for your input on this and giving so freely of your time to better the community.)

Your TRP knowledge is a bit like a toolbox. We hear plenty about how personal calibration of game is a significant factor in your success with women. Each tool has its own specific use for a specific problem. Utilising the correct tool in the right way at the right time is the essence of proper calibration. However, like any craftsman, you may be better at using some tools than others. Develop the best quality tools you can and work to your strengths as much as possible.

  • Attitude and ego.

Attitude is all about the inner monologue going through your mind. In my opinion, this is the most important part of any interaction. I say this because I strongly believe your attitude and ego are the foundations which underlie your frame and your ability to respond to tests. I have also now had two women later tell me how they "internally felt" my attitude within 15 seconds of meeting me. (One of them even got it literally word-for-word.)

Setting your attitude may take some time, but there are a few phrases I remind myself of in order to maintain the right attitude. These phrases may seem raw or even offensive to newer members who are trying to learn from this. Some of them are actively wrong, but you want to keep them just to keep you in the right frame of mind. There is a big difference between your ego out in the field, and your ego on TRP. Your ego/confidence, (maybe even narcissism at a push), should be absolute in the field. Once you get back on the TRP sub though, you should kill your ego in order to be more objective. So these phrases apply to frame of mind in the field, not on the sub.

  • I am entitled to touch her body. (You're not really, we don't encourage rape or molestation if she's clearly uncomfortable. This phrase gives you confidence in your kino. If she doesn't like it then she'll find a way to let you know. If any chick ever does, it's no big deal. Shit happens, but kino is vital to escalation!)

  • I am the God of my own little world. (This is your frame. She may be here by her choice, but she's also here because you allowed her to be. Never forget this and never let her insinuate anything different. You're in charge of you, she is not.)

  • She is worth just as little as the next slut. (She might not be, but that's not the point of this. This is about reminding you of the right attitude to take to make yourself as attractive as possible. Reminder of the biological realities of AWALT. Reminder of abundance mentality. Reminder aimed to ensure you act like your SMV is higher than hers. There are no good girls. There are no unicorns. Don't be an idiot and keep that perspective.)

  • I am here to have fun. Whatever else happens, happens. (Outcome independence. You are completely disinterested in a specific outcome. You control yourself and your ability to have fun. Use that. Everything else is irrelevant. Any interaction you have with a woman should be fun. If you're not having fun, leave her and go find someone more fun.)

  • All women are sluts. You will now go prove this. (While not entirely true, every woman does have the capacity to be a slut. The requirement to be a slut is to have a vagina and spread your legs often. Every last woman is capable of this if she doesn't control herself. If you're looking for quick sex then remember that it is your task to turn her on and put her in a situation where she can be the slut her body is urging her to be for any man of high enough SMV. A smart woman who doesn't want to be a slut will avoid such situations, but that's her responsibility, not yours.)

  • I'm going to walk away if I choose. (Your time is valuable. You are not going to waste it. You know what's happening and what you want. This is to remind yourself that you are outcome independent, you are in control of the interaction and your SMV is higher than hers. Women are very talented at spotting fakes. If you don't truly believe you are her superior then she'll read between the lines and figure it out. Remember that women date up!)

  • She is here at my whim. (You are out to enjoy yourself and she has been allowed along. It's true that she needs to want to be there too, but that must not be the way you view it. The moment her presence becomes her decision rather than yours is when you step into her frame. As a dominant man, it is your frame and your whim which is the ultimate deciding factor. The fact she wants to be there is incidental, you could still have chosen not to allow her along because there are plenty more women out there. Abundance mentality. Outcome independence.)

Some of those may be a bit raw for the newer guys and anyone who likes to call TRP misogynistic. As I said, they're not all true, but you need the right attitude to project your superior value. The truth of the sexual market place is that women will only go for men of higher value than they have. Which means in contrast, you've only got a chance with women who perceive themselves to be of lower value than you. You want a chance with that girl? Better start thinking she's getting the better end of the deal. Doesn't matter if that's true or not. Develop an ego which truly believes it.

  • A note on IDGAF. (I Don't Give A Fuck.)

Typically speaking, along with developing the right attitude to symbolise your superior SMV, you'll also develop a bit of an attitude like women don't matter. Actually, they don't. They're just another part of the world. Most things don't really matter in the grand scheme. All you really need is food, water and warmth and you'll survive. Everything else is gravy. You can survive, you can achieve your life mission... you can do most things without women.

Woman tries to tell me what to do/how to think - like I care? I can think for myself. Let the disinterest flow.

Guy tries to AMOG me - you do you mate. Doesn't matter to me, I'm still gonna do me. Look at all these fucks I couldn't give.

Shot down by the bitch shield - that's one chick... what does she matter as the tiniest cosmic fleck in my universe? Time to go dance to the theme song.

Essential reading.

The less you care, the better. Outcome independence. Stronger frame. Pussy off the pedestal. All rolled into one. Next time I will be tackling Frame, Posture and Body Language.


[–]TRP Vanguard: "Dark Triad Expert"IllimitableMan 128 points129 points  (16 children)

Nightwing has adopted the correct attitude towards how to view women and navigate social waters. One upon a time this was a common attitude in the sub, but as more and more teenage children/barely adults come in here whining, posting news threads, bitching about feminism, and posting half-baked inchoate theories about social dynamics, shit like this becomes gold dust. Of course feminism and whatever is relevant, but those kinds of post vastly outnumber these kinds of posts. We need more posts like this so TRP isn't just a bitchy whinefest of teenage angst. If you're going to moan at least post a semi-intelligent and violent rant. Whining is pitiful moaning, it's feminine. Ranting is forceful moaning, it's masculine. Don't whine, rant, that's why we have a rant flair and not a whine flair. Anyhow, I've digressed.

This attitude needs constantly restating so the new guys can adopt it, apply it to their social interactions on a daily basis and internalise it. For you rusty guys who have been in monk mode for too long, you need to reinternalise such attitudes.

Treat women like they're beneath you, because they are, and treating them as equal or superior has never got a man laid on his own terms. Your constant urge to get laid is a biological necessity oft weaponised against you, don't defy that directive for the idealistic notion that "women are human like you and thus should be treated in the same way you treat men" that's such fallacious thinking that is not only wrong (because women think very differently from men) but because it will also fail to help you satisfy your needs. You're here to win at this game we call life, not fail or get rewarded on a woman's terms and whims. I'll give you an example:

One time I was at a party I was on top of a chick on the grass, we were going to fuck but she started bossing me around. I started laughing and said "who do you think you're talking to," she started trying to reassert herself and I said "no," I got off her, walked away, and started making out with another girl within the next 5 minutes (which pissed her off to no end, she kicked me in the leg whilst I was making out with the other chick.) Now I don't expect anyone to believe my story and frankly I don't give a fuck whether you do or not, the point is that I did shit on my own terms, not the girl's. This girl was going to spread them, but she was far too bossy and wanted me to jump through hoops so I bailed on her and found a girl more to my liking. I rather make out with a girl on my own terms than get laid on a girl's. A notch isn't worth my dignity and sense of leadership as a man. Men lead, not follow. That's how it is.

When women lead and have the superior hand, nobody is happy. They will dispute this out of butthurt and ego until the cows come home, but you must ignore them. What women think doesn't matter because what they want is in a constant state of flux. They want to be men at work and women at home, so they want to be treated like men and respected like men when it comes to power, but then they want to be treated like women socially and have freedom to be weak when they want to be. They want to switch between masculinity and femininity all the time so they can have the best of both worlds as inculcated into them via feminist nonsense. Fuck that, just treat them like women. They are too emotional and inconsistent to have opinions of any lasting worth. Internalise the superiority complex, it was always necessary, but now it is even more so.

Today's women are so narcissistic that lacking such a demeanour is going to vastly diminish your sexual success. If you don't believe you're better than her, neither will she, and that means no respect or play for you. Become better on the inside via monk mode, then portray superiority in your demeanour on the outside. Be superior in both substance and style. Monk mode will make you superior in substance, but not in style. Learning these attitudes and practicing them will make you superior in style, but not in substance. Combine both for the best of both. If your SMV is already high, skip monk mode. If you are a loser, build some substance first so that you're not just hot air pretending he's the shit when he has nothing to back it (lest you become a caricature of an old school PUA,) but at the same time do not use monk mode as an excuse not to work on your social game. Unless you're a natural, social game takes constant maintenance, neglect causes rust.

[–]tits_out_forTheBoys 24 points25 points  (0 children)

One time I was at a party I was on top of a chick on the grass, we were going to fuck but she started bossing me around. I started laughing and said "who do you think you're talking to," she started trying to reassert herself and I said "no," I got off her, walked away, and started making out with another girl within the next 5 minutes (which pissed her off to no end, she kicked me in the leg whilst I was making out with the other chick.

Haha this is great. Well done, IM.

It's especially important for the newbies to understand that he didn't do what he did because he thought it would be cool, funny, or badass. Instead it was just a tactic to carry out his basic strategy: Don't chase, replace.

There are only two types of girls. Girls who will fuck you easily, and girls who will fuck other guys easily but not you. The first type I can deal with but the second type can GTFO.

[–]RPthrowaway123 41 points42 points  (0 children)

What women think doesn't matter because what they want is in a constant state of flux.

What do we want?!

We don't know!

When do we want it?!

NOW!

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[–]trplurker 9 points9 points [recovered]

Believing you're better than a woman starts with loving yourself. Loving yourself begins with actually deserving that love. That begins with accomplishment, which begins with making concrete goals and actively working towards them and never really stopping.

No it doesn't. There is no amount of goals or accomplishments that will enable you to "love yourself". That is a false road that many start down and end up with their frame based on something that is external and vulnerable to attack.

Self love comes from forgetting everything else and accepting that you are the most important person in your life. This puts you at the center of your own universe in which you make the rules and are God.

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[–]trplurker 14 points14 points [recovered]

Those are the exact same loves.

Achievements mean nothing, they are nothing. The only value they contain is the value you chose to give them. Anyone who base's their frame, their inner structure of belief, on external achievements is vulnerable to attacks on those achievements, attacks that are neither rational nor objective.

You can think your great because you climbed a mountain, yet in a social setting I could easily make people laugh at how dumb it is that you climbed a mountain. The same for virtually every other achievement that exists because humans don't feel rationally, so as long as I can formulate an emotional attack then your frame means nothing. And guess which gender has the overwhelming advantage in formulating emotional attacks? As a fellow man I can see value in your accomplishments and appreciate that value. As your enemy I could exploit your value system to make you appear weak to others around us, or manipulate you into doing my bidding.

Telling people to base their frame on external accomplishments is setting them up for ultimate failure. Base your frame, your own belief system and self value, on the fact that your God. Once that happens your invulnerable and have irrational confidence. Nothing anyone says or does can scratch you because nothing they say or do has value to you.

This isn't a knock on accomplishments and getting shit done. Every man should have shit they want to do and should go about doing those things. Just don't base self worth on those things, otherwise you become vulnerable and your enemies will exploit that vulnerability.

[–]Senior ContributorRedPope 11 points12 points  (1 child)

New guys -- read this and then read it again.

Accomplishments do not stand on their own. You have to have the internal steel to stand without them. Call it frame, fortitude, character, strength, or whatever. Do not focus on your accomplishments, focus on the drive that led you to pursue them.

When you build your frame upon that drive, even your failures can become strengths.

[–]let_terror_reign 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Phenomenal stuff, well deserved delta point.
You do not need a reason to love yourself. You do not need a reason to be confident. These truisms are taken away from us when we associate our ego with things that happen to us in life or things we do in life.
We confuse our identity with the things we do, and while one can take pride in having the drive to accomplish, to base our value off the cars we built or the sports we played Is fallacious, this is something that can help build confidence but ultimately love and confidence are abstract notions and are irrational. That's why irrational feelings arise and why mindfulness can do what mere achievement cannot, it points out to you the fact of your own emotional swaying and often the ridiculousness of the happenstance.
When you enjoy life on your own terms it helps you love yourself by reinforcing that you are a person of worth to yourself, you are being true to your nature and that brings happiness.

[–]wolfNshepherd 20 points21 points  (1 child)

The less you care, the better.

I might amend this to, "The less you care about her bullshit, the better". We gotta care about something. The trick is to care so much about your own goals that inconsequential bullshit never even blips your radar.

[–]Senior ContributorNightwingTRP[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm a big believer in the Bruce Lee Principle. On the sub, this is the right sort of attitude to take in order to adapt to your own individual personality and play to your own strengths best. Develop your soft analytical skills because the world is not suited for hard analytics yet.

[–]TheRedMoss 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Thank you. It was a smaller point but I, and I'm sure many others on this sub, appreciate people who make the distinction between attitude in the wild and attitude on this sub. It's no use to anyone when people come on here like king TRP. Leading by example has it's place but don't try to AMOG the sub.

[–]nothere_ 4 points5 points  (0 children)

A timely dose of those TRP vitamins

[–][deleted] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Fuuuucking a.

This was finally the post I was looking for today, thanks man. Looking forward to the next one.

[–]TRP VanguardCyralea 2 points3 points  (0 children)

SJW's and overly liberal hippies love to paint narcissism as a wholly negative quality, but objectively it's a powerful tool. It's a self-fulfilling prophecy. You mentally adjust yourself into believing you're truly better than the rest and you motivate yourself to act in accordance to that belief. Confidence begets confidence.

Few people get to the top 20% without the belief that they belong there.

[–][deleted] 6 points7 points  (12 children)

I completely understand this: you are "psyching" yourself up, plain and simple.

Here's the problem I have with execution, and this is a global problem, nothing to do with women in particular: how do you actually delude yourself? Don't pretend that's not what this is: you are practicing pragmatic, scope-limited self-delusion, just like every sports team does, and like every cheerleading team tries to engender.

I don't have this ability. I can't get into "the team spirit", and I cannot "psych" myself up. I can muster the energy for most things in life, because I can see the cost-benefit ratio (appropriately scaled for a cynical view of the possibilities), and realize the objective value of doing something. Cynicism is a life-long mental pattern with me, and I simply cannot turn it off. The best I can do is the mental equivalent of putting fingers in my ears and going "la la la la". This also contributes to the inability to have an "abundance mentality" so often espoused here. If anything, reading TRP has increased my cynicism, not lessened it.

TL;DR: Crippling cynicism to the point of apathy and nihilism, and TRP only reinforces the cynicism.

How do I break out of this?

[–]klk8251 4 points5 points  (2 children)

After studying this sub for over a year, I have all of the proof that I need in order to know for certain that these women are all beneath me. I don't think this mindset is a delusion at all, and I have the bounty of information on this sub to thank for that. I'm not sure how anyone who has spent much time here could still believe the delusion that any of these babes are above them.

[–][deleted] -1 points0 points  (1 child)

No, see, that's just the point.

I can't break out of that negative mindset to see any value in even attempting a relationship at all. It's like trying to be friends with a violent psychopathic lowlife. Sure, you could. But why associate yourself with such trash?

[–]klk8251 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well now this sounds like a different problem than the one I was responding to... Women have some good qualities that make certain types of relationships with them seem worth the trouble to most men. Maybe it's their feminine (however conditional) affection. Maybe it's a warm, wet hole. Maybe try to see women as nothing more than certain forms of entertainment for when you're bored or horny. If it's not worth it to you, it's simply because the reward is not worth the effort. It sounds like the reward will always seem very small to you, so maybe just try to get to a place where the amount of effort can decrease substantially (this sub will continue to help). Besides that... plenty of people enjoy being MGTOW I suppose.

[–]trplurker 8 points8 points [recovered]

Crippling cynicism to the point of apathy and nihilism, and TRP only reinforces the cynicism.

it's not cynicism, that's just the word your using to hide your insecurities behind. You are loaded with insecurities, those that make you feel less, those that prevent you from living in the moment, and those that prevent you from seeing that you are your own god.

None of what the OP said is false, it's all actually true, from a certain perspective.

I am entitled to touch her body.

If she is within arms reach then she is inside his personal space which is his kingdom that he rules.

I am the God of my own little world

Each of us is our own God, and our own world is all that matters.

She is worth just as little as the next slut

True, her value is determined by you and you have judged her to be of little value.

I am here to have fun. Whatever else happens, happens.

Your own true goal should be to satisfy yourself, everyone else can go fuck themselves.

All women are sluts. You will now go prove this.

All women are sluts, even girls who are virgins are sluts who just haven't demonstrated such. The prove this isn't entirely required and still smells of the anger phase, but each man is entitled to his own goals and pursuits.

I'm going to walk away if I choose

This should always be true...

She is here at my whim

Relates to the above and the first two.

You need to shed all that self-loathing your keeping inside, you are not a bad person, there is absolutely zero requirement to judge anyone fairly. "Because I can" is an entirely legitimate reason to do something. Now get the fuck off your intellectual high horse, it's become a huge block in your path of progress.

[–]Senior ContributorNightwingTRP[S] 3 points4 points  (1 child)

All women are sluts, even girls who are virgins are sluts who just haven't demonstrated such. The prove this isn't entirely required and still smells of the anger phase, but each man is entitled to his own goals and pursuits.

Originally I didn't have "you will now go prove this." After a girl hit me with a bizarre shit test that could only be called pre-emptive-middle-night-resistance (I know what you're thinking, da fuq? right?) it seriously threw me. I held frame and went off to the bathroom so I had a moment to better compose myself. This bizarre test had actually shaken my attitude and for a second I'd wondered if she was different - this is what women playing the good girl role WANT to do. They want to convince you they're different. They're not.

While I was in the bathroom washing my hands, I looked at myself in the mirror and mentally reminded myself "All women are sluts." And before I left, I told myself "You will now go prove this." (And I did prove it that night.) I think the call-to-action was useful to me and strengthened my frame and belief in the truth of the earlier phrase. That is why I've included it. Some newbies may doubt if they bump into a girl who's talented at her good-girl-game. When they do, they're going to need that phrase and more than this, they'll need that call-to-action.

Thanks for your additional analysis.

[–]rpscrote 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Proving it is the most important part. Obviously you dont prove every woman is a slut -- you prove every woman has the urges that leading to slutting.

Rational minds requires evidence

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It's not cynicism, that's just the word your using to hide your insecurities behind.

No, it's cynicism. I don't think you understood the post.

Insecurity would be "I can't get this girl because I'm {fat/ugly/awkward}."

Cynicism is knowing I could get a girl if I wanted to, and then wondering "why bother"? I've certainly succeeded in the past.

"True, her value is determined by you and you have judged her to be of little value."

If she is of so little value, why do you want her? It's like collecting garbage as a hobby... it makes no economic or logical sense. That's the cynicism.

[–]hatertauts 1 point2 points  (1 child)

You ever heard of Albert Ellis?

[–]RedHeimdall 1 point2 points  (1 child)

How about something like this... "I will get to the point of abundance with girls eventually, because I am taking the necessary steps to improve myself and maximize my SMV. When I look back from that point to the memory of this particular girl I am talking to now, she will be totally insignificant... I may not even remember her."

I feel your pain as it is also very hard for me to "fake it til you make it" in any area of life. My entire state of mind is geared to be as focused on objective reality as possible, so it's very difficult to adopt a belief or attitude that I know is false, even if doing so should logically produce practical benefits.

The best way to do it that I have found is to connect the desired state, which is currently false, to your future self, where it could be true. Then think what your attitude will be if and when you achieve the desired state in the future. And try to bring that attitude into the present. Feel that attitude now. Live with that attitude now. Express that attitude now.

And if/when it feels fake, if/when your ability to maintain it starts to waver, remind yourself of all the specific, concrete, consistent steps you are taking, on a daily or weekly basis, to achieve that future state wherein it will be real.

An analogy that pops to mind is: it's like taking out a payday loan. You get loaned some cash now for immediate use which you will be able to pay back once payday comes.

If you are uncertain about whether or not you will actually get paid by your employer, or if you know for certain there is no paycheck coming, you may feel like a cheat or a fraud for taking out this loan which you know you cannot pay back.

But if you are confident that you will be getting a paycheck in a couple weeks, you don't feel bad taking out the loan for immediate use because you know you can pay it back....... you have confidence that your future state will justify this modification of current state.

[–]rpscrote 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"I will get to the point of abundance with girls eventually, because I am taking the necessary steps to improve myself and maximize my SMV

Careful a little here though, that's fairly outcome dependent and validation seeking -- you're hanging on a result.

Rather, "I will work towards becoming the kind of man many girls want to be with" bringing it fully into your control

[–]rpscrote 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Visualize what you want to do, try enough times until you succeed at doing it, and realize you are now what you've visualized.

Visualize --> Execute = Build Evidence of Truth --> Confidence you can do it again.

Assume that what he's said is true -- you just have yet to collect the evidence. It's a hypothesis and it's up to you to prove it

[–]sundaybrunch11 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You now join the ranks of Phoebe Cates, Brooke Shields and Eva Green, in turning a group of boys into men. Congratulations.

[–]RedPillBruthaman 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Speak on it brother.

Nicely written.

[–]RPthrowaway123 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Fantastic advice, I especially like the phrases. I'm going to repeat those to myself every time I go out.

[–]Doctorpepperpants 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Refreshing write-up with some good inner-monologue tools, looking forward to a part 2 man!

[–]_whistler 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for putting this together, brother, you're on point. Looking forward to seeing more.

[–]DonBravera 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I prefer IDGAF for my IDGAF theme song, but same shit ;D The IDGAF mentality is the biggest thing I identify with on TRP, my life saying is "keep it real", eliminate the ego, then learn to use it.

[–]gideonrakthor 1 points1 points [recovered]

Anyone have a link to the original post OP was referencing?

[–]Senior ContributorNightwingTRP[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm afraid that's been expunged. In my eagerness to educate, I put in far too much detail. The night was so bizarre and unique, that if it ever went viral, the girl would definitely be able to identify herself. The risk was very minor... but potential fallouts from that can be major since she knows my real name. Even at minor risk it just didn't seem worth it in my eyes. Besides, I can get the info and my perspective out there this way. So I just learned from my mistake and now try to work around it.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is my IDGAF song: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aOfIDtvfmqg Always puts me a easy-going mood.

[–]tiddereverse 0 points1 point  (0 children)

About that 'women date up' mention found this perl: http://billcammack.com/2010/10/24/women-date-up-men-dont/

[–]Betterthanuatlife 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm a handsome dude and girls often look at me. But I have Aspergers syndrome so I don't really know how to approach or anything like that. I've walked through life basically just playing along and mimicking what everyone else have done. But thanks to posts like this I've managed to better myself socially. Ever since I've started using The advices from posts like this in my daily life I've made out with different chicks and I've also managed to get the confidence you need to just randomly start chatting with girls that I don't even know. And I'll definitely use these advices too. Thanks bro.

[–]Takarov 0 points1 point  (1 child)

So I ended up learning a lot from Seduction to translate into social skills, and the message I always got was that it's better to build yourself up than tear others down. Building an ego or sense of self on degrading other individuals ("She's worth as much as the next little slut") leads to solidifying that approach as a strategy, regardless of gender. I've seen it happen. People who tear others down end up being that guy who's constantly belittling other individuals to make himself feel better because it's the best way he knows how.

It also leaves your worth tied to other individuals. If that "little slut" does something or demonstrates a quality you associate with "worth", that will then threaten your sense of self. Your sense of self needs to be independent. Under ego (trust me, I'm an expert at having an ego), there shouldn't be a god damn word about other people except saying how they shouldn't be listened to.

[–]Senior ContributorNightwingTRP[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This works for me. You do what you want bro.

[–]Venicedreaming 0 points1 point  (0 children)

TRP is about growth, not a place to bitch about bitches. Would like to see more of these posts

[–]forgotmypa55word 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ambition vs Ego:

Nightwing has described beautifully what your attitude/ego should be: your time is valuable; you’re the master of your own universe; you are fun; you are entitled to what you want; other people are interested in you and what you have to say. However, you will be deemed a cocky piece of shit if reality is otherwise. Essentially: "I'm awesome."

Some people struggle with respecting themselves before their ambition has been fulfilled. They tell themselves: "I'll feel better about myself when I get a promotion", or "I'll be the shit when I can bench 315". But as soon as you reach your goal, you will have another one. You will never be satisfied. Essentially: "I’ll be awesome when…"

George St Pierre got into fighting because his ego couldn’t stand the idea of him getting his ass kicked by his school bullies. Any big name rap star rapped about millions before they had dollars. They thought they were the shit when all they had was shit. It took ego AND ambition for them to even have a chance at success. Essentially: "I'm awesome and I’m going to be even more fucking awesome."

Your ambition and ego feed off each other.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Time to go dance to the theme song.

90% sure I was about to be Rick rolled

[–]NeoreactionSafe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Red Pill embraces your Individuality.

On a deep level it's saying you have no connection to anything... "no strings".

No one pulls your strings.

You are the scissors to cut off the hook and line she's trying feed you.

(but you steal the bait off the fishing hook)

She's trying to catch and control you... make you the Manipulated Man.

[–]RiseAboveRuin -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Boners, Super Boners, and Do you ever get those crusties in your asshole that you have to pick out in the shower? just became my new favorite triple whammy tinder opener.