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Found girlfriend on Tinder (self.asktrp)

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Looks like Christmas came early. Friend texted me early this morning and sent me a screenshot of her profile. Has a ton of recent photos, one with me in it. Biography alludes to sex and drugs. I feel extremely stupid. That's their nature I suppose and I have some work to do on myself.

What should I do? I'm supposed to hang out with her and her family today. Natural reaction is to confront but women love drama. I've set myself up pretty well to ghost her. Should I wait until after the holidays for image sake?


[–]kittenssavedmylife400 points401 points  (5 children) | Copy Link

you are now the ghost of christmas past.

dip.

[–]DysfunctionalControl49 points50 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Underated comment. Lmao.

[–]TomFoo16 points17 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Seriously.

[–]Smigg_e2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Shell remember you for many a Christmases to come.

[–]BusterVadge2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I spit out my coffee! Well done!

[–]killm3throwaway2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Responding late as fuck to let you know how brilliant this comment is lmao

[–]bittr_n_swt217 points218 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Dude.

Ghost her now. Don't wait for after Christmas. Block her on everything. Hard next the bitch.

Fucking hell

[–][deleted] 62 points63 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Perfect time for a Christmas present!.... To himself.

Anyhow OP, this guy is right. Ghost her. Drop all communication.

The ton of pics means its less likely to be fake but if you can find a way to verify its her, do so. If only for this would I delay, if you are absolutely sure? Ghost her.

[–][deleted] 209 points210 points  (5 children) | Copy Link

what the fuck guys

anything beyond deleting her from his life is not the right answer. revenge is for children. stop talking to her, find the nearest escape, and block all forms of communication. be a man and walk

if she tries to track you down and trap you in confrontation, say something general like "wasn't feeling it". the last thing you want to do is help her cheat on the next bro by pointing out her grave mistake. you have no reason to invest in making her a better person. she isn't your problem

she wasn't yours, it was just your turn. you got a prime slice of that dumb bitches youth. you avoided marriage and children. you won

now go win again

[–]The__Tren__Train20 points21 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

you got a prime slice of that dumb bitches youth. you avoided marriage and children. you won

this is like....one of the primary tenants of TRP... I really don't think it gets enough attention.

[–][deleted] 14 points15 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

This would be the best advice.

And I want to agree with it, so bad. But bstuansalts advice is just too hilarious. Reminds me of my xpost from here 'divorce, done right'

[–]herewegoagaindammi9 points10 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

you got a prime slice of that dumb bitches youth

[–]SpinPlates2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Well said!

[–]freeeid1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

This is the best i will ever read.

[–]Endorsed Contributor: "The Court Jester"GayLubeOil24 points25 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Go to the supermarket buy her some coal. Giftwrap it with a picture of her tinder. Have her open it in front of her family than leave.

I mean honestly we talk about asshole game and dark triad all day. Eventually we have to live up to our own expectations.

[–][deleted] 17 points18 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Ghost

[–]slurmfactory51 points52 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

Ghost hard. Dont give her the drama satisfaction. If she is just getting "likes" like the one comment suggested, you should ghost her for that too. Even tho she's prob cheating. Best thing to do, cut her off completely and dont talk to her at all, itll drive her crazy, if you blow up or get upset it will fuel and satisfy her, then go date lots of other chicks. Definitely bail on the family bullshit.

Edit: REMEMBER, the power of indifference is the ultimate

[–]herewegoagaindammi4 points5 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Dont give her the drama satisfaction

damn so drama is good for them? wut

is it because it is a form of closure and more arguments for her hamster?

[–][deleted] 9 points10 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Yes.

[–]Poptart31835 points36 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

If she's asks why are you ignoring her just say "bishhhhhh I swiped left"

[–]plenty_of_eesh1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Why isn't this higher up?

[–]GarlicSaucePunch7 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

because "bishhhhhhhhhh" is cringy.

[–]lostinyukon12 points13 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Hard next and don't tell her why.

[–]RedWinter889 points10 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Best revenge imo is just to ghost... no response. Never hear from you again.

[–][deleted] 8 points9 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Dude don't waste one more second on her. Ghost immediately.

[–]TehJimmyy6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

happy new year

[–]Huffnagle24 points25 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

You should attempt to verify that it's legit. There are scammers out there making fake profiles, also it could be someone you know trying to fuck you over. (That said, it's probably legit)

If it's her doing, she's not girlfriend material.

[–]Surfincloud97 points8 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Vengeful mother fuckers. Just drop her from your life, you are better than that. Show you are hurt, which does encompass acting like a royal prick, will make her happy

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

This. Your tears, real or imagined by her, will marinade her while she "gets over the relationship". It will give her something to get off on emotionally as she processes this.

What you want to do is give her a black hole of nothing. Make her feel like she is shot into space and floating alone and cold.

That is why I'd ghost and not give her anything to latch onto.

[–]Modbsutansalt[M] 63 points64 points  (32 children) | Copy Link

Your friend gave you the best Christmas gift ever as this is an amazing opportunity in disguise, both for the OP and for men in general as this is a teachable moment!

  1. Have the freakiest, dirtiest hate fuck/sex you can have with her (wrapping it up of course).

  2. Print out the screenshots, bundle them up in a number of boxes, and wrap them as a special present for her and her family to all open at the same time at her family's place.

  3. Pack up her shit and put it in the trunk of your car ahead of time.

  4. As they're opening them simple walk out to the car, get her stuff out of your car leaving it in the driveway, and drive away never speak to them again.

Never giving her closure will sting for her the most out of all of this, and walking away cold turkey is one of the best things for you in the long run as ZERO contact is the healthiest approach.

Re this being a teachable moment... Maybe, just maybe, she, her future kids, and those in your social circle will get that you shouldn't solicit sex from others when you're in a relationship. Let HER be the example to others of what NOT to do.

The OP's situation is also a lesson for everyone else as to why it's so important to choose women wisely. That being said, please understand that even if you do everything right that it's still only your turn 9 times out of 10. That's the reality of relationships in the 21st century. Enjoy it while you can, but always keep in the back of your mind things are (likely) only temporary.

Edit: The only caveat is do your due diligence to make sure it's legit. Get your hands on her phone to verify the account is hers so you don't get duped by someone trying to fuck you or her over.

[–]Kalepsis15 points16 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I'm going to go ahead and disagree. Yes, this is a teachable moment, and yes, it was a gift to OP. But the course of action you've suggested sounds more like something a woman does than a man. My advice would be to carry out the "all her shit in the trunk" portion and leave it at that. Just wait til you're there and everyone is busy, tell them you're going to the bathroom or something, dump her shit, and drive away. Never speak to her again.

Revenge is for women and children. Be better than that, OP.

[–]needsmayo 36 points36 points [recovered] | Copy Link

Why is this pinned? There is no official mod statement being issued, just your opinion on what should be done. Just because you're a moderator does not mean your opinion is more valuable that others'.

[–]crazycattime16 points17 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Seconded. Pinning this is bullshit.

[–]exerciseaway[S] 31 points32 points  (10 children) | Copy Link

I am sure it's her because her spotify account is linked to it and it's all her favorite bands.

Looking for a drugstore to print these out at the moment!

[–][deleted] 13 points14 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I'd say just give it to dad, maybe an apology that it didn't work out, something he can hang his dignity on.

[–]Werkzeug8118 points19 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Pls Deliver OP 😉

[–]cavscout5510 points11 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Stop. Don't. Next her. Revenge isn't the way to handle it. Hard next the bitch and move the fuck on. You're a man, not a teenager in a fucking movie.

[–]niggasfrombohemia5 points6 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

Pls do this OP & make an update post once you do so

[–]thebrandedman5 points6 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Comment so I can return for delivery.

[–]Endorsed Contributorvandaalen1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Update?

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

I have no experience with Tinder. Is there anyway to link a spotify account to it without knowing the spotify password? I don't know.

[–]BusterVadge0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Don't waste your time printing all of these out. Use your rage and need to do something as energy to write everything down you want to change about your life NOW, and act on it.

[–]Cunt_Robber11 points12 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Yes. Please verify the account is active and that it is for sure her using it, and not some creep who took her photos to set up a fake account! This could backfire just as horribly. LEAVE NO ROOM FOR PLAUSIBLE DENIABILITY

[–]johnsonsson8 points9 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

he shouldn't give a fuck if she gets closure or not. what's best for him, he should ask. and this move certainly makes more trouble and is simply a very childish, hurt gesture.

dont do this OP

[–]Modbsutansalt14 points15 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

It's the holidays, a time for fun and family. Normally I'd say just move one, but this was a gift, even if it means ending the relationship. Gotta look at the silver lining.

More importantly, this is a teachable moment for her and those around her. This benefits society as a whole and I wish more guys would do this sort of thing so women in our society would stop doing this shit and know they risk real consequences if they do. SHAMING for indiscriminate sexual dalliances is a good thing and it's high time we brought it back IMO.

[–]johnsonsson7 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

yeah I give you that. the moment society liberated women from the shaming system, they went totally nuts.

[–]seeing-red--1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

You shame, I'll watch actions but convey a non-judgmental and open-minded attitude. Let's see which works out better.

[–]TheStumblingWolf8 points9 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

This is pure evil. I have to be honest. I like it.

[–]Ganaria_Gente4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

i wouldnt say it's evil. it's justice. poetic justice....the best kind!

[–]Endorsed Contributormordanus8 points9 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

OP please do this.

[–]jupc4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Printing out screen shots? This is woman's behavior. Don't do this.

[–]beachbbqlover4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

No need to send pictures, that's just malicious.

[–]Arcturus_4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Girls love drama so let's give advice on how to be a dramatic bitch.

This is terrible advice.

Just ghost her OP.

[–]zboo1h1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I cannot stress how important #1 on this list is. Do everything.

[–]mr_nate_0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Oh Jesus this is a wet dream

[–]herewegoagaindammi0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

if you do everything right that it's still only your turn 9 times out of 10. That's the reality of relationships in the 21st century.

How about the other countries? Where should one go to decrease the rate of 9/10?

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

What's with the white knights? If he wants to embarrass her in front of her family for cheating on him, let him do it. It'll be fucking hilarious. If the only reason not to do it is "you don't need revenge", and the reason to do it is "It'll be god damn awesome". It's a clear cut choice.

[–]Werkzeug810 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

OP please deliver!!!!!

[–]TheFirsh14 points15 points  (5 children) | Copy Link

What if it's fake, set up by a 3rd party crazy woman to break you up out of jealousy? Otherwise why would she include pictures with you in it?

[–]nubfilter0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy Link

This should have more visibility... yes, AWALT but it could be the psycho cunt that you nexted for your current GF.

[–][deleted] 6 points7 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Which is more likely?

You may be right, but how many cheating stories have started with some extravagant excuse, which the guy buys, and then trickle truth?

And how many end up being really crazy stories like this?

[–]nubfilter0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Added reply below mistakenly... tl;dr I agree but it helps learn the lesson.

[–]zboo1h0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

I've got pictures with women in it, and sometimes others ask me who my "girlfriend" is, then I fuck those women. It's not nearly that far of a stretch.

[–]Ninokun0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

this!

[–]aditas7 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

She is not but a plate. Wear protection.

[–]flatox2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

You know what to do. No closure. And do it now, don't wait for after christmas.

[–]SpinPlates2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Please ghost her OP. Not a single word to her. No explanation. Just ghost.

[–]Dr_Nikk 5 points5 points [recovered] | Copy Link

All of you have forgotten:

OP, get your Christmas gift from her before you do anything. Then ghost. Tell her you forgot to get her one and return yours for the cash.

[–]Uzinero1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Just hard next. Block her, don't go to her parents house, just move on to the next girl.

[–]Thizzlebot2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I'm usually against hard nexting for various reasons but you need to just bounce the fuck out and not tell her shit. She doesn't respect you and is fucking dudes behind your back. Don't respond.

[–]Nergaal2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Remember, you don't own her it is/was your turn.

[–]NabroleonBonaparte4 points5 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

Just text her

"I'm swiping left.." then ghost.

Nothing more, nothing less

[–]Tamarin2414 points15 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

No. No reason to say anything at all.

[–]NabroleonBonaparte0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Yours is the more mature route. Hamstering is amusing to me, I enjoy reading the "after ghosting" txts.

But I think we'd agree on don't be bitter and don't seek any catharsis through her.

[–]johnsonsson1 point2 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

i will NEVER understand how cheaters make a tinder account! for christ sake you are showing your face to the whole city saying that you want to branch swing. it is just so fucking stupid, it is impossible to understand. at least have the brain capacitiy to go to a bar where noone knows you

[–]Tamarin241 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

Say together now. Attention!

[–]johnsonsson0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

why not write a poem with a selfie and put it on facebook then, or cry about sexism or wear a miniskirt in the mall? dont you use tinder for this shit.

[–]Tamarin240 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

That's not as fun or dangerous.

[–]H4RV3YSP3CT3R1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

BRO RUN.

Ghost. Do not even say a fucking word. Scream into a pillow right now and hire a escort. Then go do your fave hobby.

[–]Gomezie 4 points4 points [recovered] | Copy Link

  1. Create a fake profile with model chad pics, game her hard and organise a meetup.

  2. Meet with said jezebel and hand her a crate with all her shit inside

  3. Walk away like John Wayne

[–]iwantsomeons10 points11 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

too much time wasted

[–]StudntRdyTeachrApear-1 points0 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Yea she won't think it's creepy at all

[–]illusiveab6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

While I don't agree with the tactic, you have to admit that it doesn't really matter what she thinks. That shit is over.

[–]nubfilter0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

I think if minimal effort is involved and the (I agree expected) outcome helps to solidify the lesson then that may not be wasted effort. With me personally lessons are best internalized when I have all the facts - others may be so lucky as to absorb them the easy way but sadly that was never my luck.

[–][deleted] 1 points1 points | Copy Link

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[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

you can add photos from anywhere

[–]BusterVadge0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Dude, she is on Tinder, looking for cock. She doesn't deserve another second of your time, let alone another day.

[–]LordThunderbolt0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Rough anal at the Christmas party, collect your gifts, then ghost her.

[–]All_Ads_Deceive0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Update?

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Also, you shouldn't feel stupid. You held up your side of the deal, she was the philandering slut.

[–]flashbang1230 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Friend texted me early this morning and sent me a screenshot of her profile. Has a ton of recent photos, one with me in it.

Sounds like she's not even trying to hide it, she enjoys the rush - the danger of being caught. Don't give her the satisfaction, she has zero respect for you. Give her zero fucks.

Has a ton of recent photos, one with me in it.

I think this was on purpose...that's some cold shit.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Disappear suddenly

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

The amount of endorsed contributors commenting that OP should print out the pics and do some revenge act makes me seriously disappointed.

The tag should be revoked from all of those tbh... seriously wtf?

u/redpillschool (just picked the first mod in the list to see this)

[–]sd4c0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

I have a different take on it, after hearing that 70% of girls on Tinder are in a relationship. Tinder, Facebook, Instagram, texting- these are all just porn for women. They get off on attention. The question is, what are they doing/giving back in order to get that attention?

If your woman is meeting up with guys, even "just friends", even for a cup of coffee- dump her.

Ask her about her tinder profile. If she lies to you- dump her.

If she owns up to it, and explains it's just for fun, then it's probably just a fantasy. Not much different from us men imagining plunging into an HB9 from PornHub.

A relationship means you get:

-All of each other's enthusiastic physical sexual attention
-Honesty (if she lies, bail ASAP)
-To be the only person of the opposite sex, who they do "favors" for, or spend time with

This is strong reason for suspicion but not quite enough to convict. See how ashamed or defensive she is about it. Gauge her response for deceptiveness, and go from there

[–]PurpleTurtle120 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

I'd first try to get my hands on her phone to confirm everything. Then get rid of her, don't wait.

[–]Igaunija0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Your friend is a real nigga

[–]RichieFinn-2 points-1 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Jesus you must be next level bitch if she didnt even attempt to hide the profile

[–]Senior EndorsedMattyAnon-2 points-1 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Ghost.

For comedy effect tell her you'll see her on Tinder - and wait to hear "I only did this because hamster hamster hamster it's your fault".

But really, you want to just ghost her. One message saying "no thanks it's over" and then no more responses.

Let her think you dumped her because you found better, not because she's trying to.

AWALT - live your life accordingly.

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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