Blue Pill Example"The Dad Bod" - Don't you fucking dare buy into it (self.TheRedPill)

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In the past couple of days there has been a slew of articles (on worthless sites that I wouldn't be aware of was it not for Facebook) about having a "dad bod", and why girls (supposedly) love it.

e.g. https://archive.is/02bci

A dad bod is short for being in horrible shape with a beer belly. While as of now there have only been a couple of articles and it seems to be mostly contained on the college level, if the phenomenon spreads you'll be happy to be unplugged for it.

People on this sub are often divided between whether it's alright to work out for the sole purpose of attracting women, but here they are suggesting something that's on a whole new level of BP - letting your body go to shit because girls like it. The article that I linked above points out some of the reasons:

"It doesn't intimidate us - We don't need a perfectly sculpted guy standing next to us to make us feel worse."

"We love people saying "they look cute together." But we still like being the center of attention."

"Better cuddling. No one wants to cuddle with a rock. Or Edward Cullen. The end."

"Good eats. The dad bod says he doesn't meal prep every Sunday night so if you want to go to Taco Tuesday or $4 pitcher Wednesday, he'd be totally down. He's not scared of a cheat meal because he eats just about anything and everything."

It kills me to know that there are actually guys out there who will say "Wow, that all makes sense!". But anyone who has been unplugged for a while will be able to read between the lines, and the above could be rewritten as:

"I see him as a guy who I don't have to prove myself to, who I can use to look better by contrast, who I can use for validation through cuddling, and who doesn't have the type of priorities or self control that will limit the time he spends with me."

This is a physical alternative to the types of deception we have seen on an emotional level - just be yourself, be honest, always put her first, guys who are open about their feelings are attractive, etc. Looking for insightful comments by veterans, my mind is blown.

[–]Soriq 228 points229 points  (46 children)

Am I the only one who loves this kind of misinformation?

It's like being in on some sick joke.

[–][deleted] 179 points180 points  (35 children)

A sick joke that leaves us with less competition

[–]StrikePrice 90 points91 points  (4 children)

This is always my response. If you're dumb enough to believe this nonsense, you deserve the fate of doing a hambeast's bidding hoping one day to sniff her pussy.

[–]ChirpChirp169 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Sniff her pussy..

That just sounds fucking sad. And repulsive.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

this comment made me seriously lol

[–]user_none 15 points16 points  (7 children)

Less competition, exactly! Bring on all the fat men to complement the fat women. More fat men, in fact. Less competition for me and makes my time of having fun all that easier.

[–]Endorsed ContributorrebuildingMyself 11 points12 points  (5 children)

Plus there's less people hogging up the squat rack at the gym.

[–]nintendomaster24 6 points6 points [recovered]

Can't wait to fuck shit up at the gym tomorrow

[–]user_none 2 points3 points  (2 children)

Still, even with less people at the gym, there's always the inevitable dude doing bicep curls in the squat rack. Really?

[–]Endorsed ContributorrebuildingMyself 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Not even the best way to work biceps.

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is why I am actually happy that like 60% of the population in my country is overweight. Really makes you stick out when you're ripped as fuck.

[–]pheonix94 22 points22 points [recovered]

...but isn't that pretty much contrary to what this entire sub is about? Showing guys how to grab life by the horns, better themselves, and stop being miserable?

Hoping that other dudes remain blind just so you have less to compete with seems like a shitty attitude for a lot of reasons.

[–][deleted] 25 points26 points  (5 children)

I was waiting to see who would bite first. I just objectively stated it will cause competition to lower, which it will in some small way. I never said lowering the bar was a good thing; it's not because it limits personal growth.

There are many conflicting opinions on this sub regarding this. Some feel a duty to wake other men up and rebuild society. Others see it as hopeless and 'enjoy the decline', enjoying the benefits of being the 10%. Personally I am yet to take a stance either way; I am still straightening out my ideas.

[–]Rienuaa 2 points2 points [recovered]

I see it as more of a self improvement resource. I can definitely see the self interest - seriously, a lot of people here in the anger phase must be chuckling madly at the shit OP refers to - but this community was made to help people.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (2 children)

We use words from the movie matrix, I think this case is similar to the movie too. Morpheus says at the very beginning that not everyone is ready to be unplugged, and they are so dependant on the matrix they refuse to let go. I think in some parts it's even implied unplugging people who are not ready just kills them.

So I never look at being unplugged as a competitive advantage in the first place, it's about knowing and seeking the truth. you know this sub is not actually about competing to get women, it's about realizing how the world is, and expanding yourself based on your newfound knowledge. similar to the movie, some people seek other people who want to be unplugged and guide them through it, some just live their new life minding their own business

[–]2IVIaskerade 15 points16 points  (10 children)

but isn't that pretty much contrary to what this entire sub is about?

Nope. TRP is self-interest through and through.

Showing guys how to grab life by the horns, better themselves, and stop being miserable?

Only if they want to. You cannot force feed the pill. These men can always choose to take it, but for as long as they do not, there is no reason to concern yourself with them.

Hoping that other dudes remain blind just so you have less to compete with seems like a shitty attitude for a lot of reasons.

It's not hoping other people remain blind. It's simply stating the objective fact that some men will remain blind and that that reduces competition.

If you aren't a blind man, you have the advantage. Why would you give that up?

[–]StrikePrice 2 points3 points  (9 children)

It's not hoping other people remain blind. It's simply stating the objective fact that some men will remain blind

They will willingly remain blind. Anyone who reads that women like out of shape men and believes it are willingly remaining ignorant in the face of overwhelming evidence to the contrary. For example ...


[–]Soriq 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sexual strategy is amoral. That's up for you to decide

There was a thread a while back on a discovery about how historically in some part of the world only the rich men had 1000 women harems and the poor were left to fight over the remaining women, with the very real threat of death if you slept with anyone in a rich man's harem.

[–]Rougepellet 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The imbeciles that fall for shit like this were not competition to begin with, so it's not really less competition. The 80-20 rule. Honestly, do you think any alpha guy (not a beta guy who happens to be in-shape) would fall for shit like this?

[–]justtookit 26 points27 points  (2 children)

From rps' 100,000 post:

Originally the campaign against men included denying that stoicism and fitness were effective with women. They tried to convince a generation of boys that what women really wanted was a dude who shared his feelings and was able to cry on her shoulder. MAKE NO MISTAKE, THIS IS WHAT SOCIETY TAUGHT BOYS. That the purple pill tries to deny it now, telling us that “get fit and confident” has always been a no-brainer is disingenuous. Anybody watching a late 80’s or 90’s movie can disprove this entirely. This has not been the truth.

This is just more evidence of moronic media telling us exactly those lies.

[–]1rporion 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This is what got us the "Softy" at least in the German/Austrian realm, men who where totally in sinc with their feelings and who carried a beard as far as they could manage it...

They had that "Wohngemeinschaft" purple look too, because if you are to fucking stupid to divide your laundry up before you put it into the washing machine, purple is what you get.

That was the ideal, apparently, and, while very few bought into it wholesale, they dragged us towards manginadom...

[–]1rporion 0 points1 point  (0 children)

double post

[–]TheIronViking 33 points34 points  (1 child)

Abs are a symbol of the patriarchy. All men should strive to be "allies" by achieving a beer gut.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ever wonder why the fuck they use the word "ally"? It's like they're saying you'll never be one of us but you'll fight for us, as if there's a real fucking war happening or something

[–]sendrake 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You're not, I laughed when I read this. Had to check to make sure it wasn't an Onion article. Showed it to my plate and told her I was going to stop working out for her, she laughed too.

[–]dennislang 319 points320 points  (18 children)

The "Dad Bod" is a great indicator trait for a provider male.

Do you wanna be mistaken for beta bucks? Didn't think so.

[–]laere 96 points97 points  (2 children)

That top comment:

"Yeah I'd rather stay fit. #fuckthat"


[–]1Ronin11A 1 point2 points  (0 children)

"We like to be the pretty one." This statement alone undermines her entire argument by admitting that guys who are fit are attractive, sexually. And when it comes to human mating relative mate value is both a physical and psychological state, so it's likely that if you prefer being the pretty one it's based on insecurities about your own self-image. Better get that shit resolved because even dad bod guys will find that unattractive!

Shots fired:


[–]andres7832 67 points68 points  (3 children)

Women also don't have to work as hard if at all to keep a slob happy, since a slob will not have an easy road to find another partner easily or cheat.

[–]dennislang 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Well, yeah.

That's an essential criterion for a provider male. It wouldn't be financial security if he wasn't a safe thing.

[–]asdfghjkltyu 3 points4 points  (1 child)

Thats just the typical women progression:

'Casual hookup' with no chance of relationship --- > High value partner ----> Low value partner.

[–][deleted] 84 points85 points  (5 children)

Both my ex-wife and my mother told me that I was "too skinny". (I was ripped.) Being plugged in, I fell for it. It has been a long but worthwhile road to get back in shape.

[–]TRP Vanguard: "Dark Triad Expert"IllimitableMan 90 points91 points  (2 children)

The crab bucket mentality manifests itself. Once you understand what it is, women begin to make a lot of sense in a lot of ways.


[–]laere 27 points28 points  (0 children)

I stopped listening to anything anyone told me I should do since finding this sub. Everyone here, plugged in or not, should follow.

Do what you want, fuck what anyone says.

Hope your back in shape my brother.

[–]TruckerJohn 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I was 16 when I started losing weight. I was still a beta, sure, but I began lifting and running, and I went from 226 pounds to 177 in like 8 months. I feltand looked great and began doing all the activities that I was too scared to in the beginning of high school. For some reason, my Mom (50s at the time, kind of let herself go) was always saying the same thing. Like, for the first time ever I was actually attracting girls for a bit. I was still beta, but I was learning.

I never understood why she said to stop losing weight so often... but I did understand that if I listened to her I'd probably be miserable again. This Dad-bod thing is absolute horse-shit. I think it's the counter-swing of the fat acceptance movement. Feminists and SJWs have been saying that the 300 pound oaf of a woman is just as sexy - and they threw us a bone with fat dancing man, and this is the next step up. Dad-bods (or "skinny fat") are the feminist version of fat acceptance. Of course it will breed a lot of blue pill bullshit.

The thing that's most goofy about this is that the female version of fat acceptance is for guys who have a slight gut, but the male version is an across-the-board landwhale appreciation movement. So fucking transparent.

[–]BigAjax 30 points31 points  (0 children)

This. Whether it's a chick still merrily spinning around on the cock carousel or one scrambling to find a provider to lock down before the Wall crushes her, it's entirely to a woman's advantage to have it be as easy as possible to distinguish the AFs from the BBs. Cuts down on wasted effort, missed opportunities, etc. "Dad bod" just screams "no tingles here, but provisioning aplenty." Rollo has pointed out this kind of thing several times. Trying to sell this "dad bod" crap is just one more way women seek to maximize their sexual strategy at the expense of men's.

[–][deleted] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

It's actually bloody brilliant social engineering. Women are having to deal with more and more men unplugging and figuring out how to appear as alpha as possible so they can fuck them, but the men who don't full absorb the red pill, that is, the ones who don't realize this is about YOU living the best possible life for YOURSELF will fall into this trap and expose themselves as the phonies they are. Great way to single out the alphas from the betas.

Damnit I admire how Machiavellian this is.

[–]Stand_Your_Ground_ 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The weightlifting community and similar areas of the internet have been great at resisting the SJWs infiltration and programming, and all the shaming in the world by the cunts hasn't worked.

This is their new tactic, to trick us stupid meat heads being fat lazy fucks.

Reckon its gunna work?! /s

[–]woutstudios 89 points90 points  (10 children)

A girl once told me: 'I would never want to have a boyfriend who has a sixpack, because guys don't get sixpacks for just one woman.'

Any woman would prefer a man who has six pack abs, but not all of them are willing/ self secure enough to go into competition for such a man.

Or maybe tgey are simply rationalising why they don't have a boyfriend with six pack abs. Sour grapes and such.

[–]chances_are_ur_a_fag 63 points64 points  (0 children)

yeah, but i bet she'd love for a six pack man to pound her into oblivion

[–]oldbluebox 12 points13 points  (1 child)

What they say: "I never find buff guys attractive" "I would never date a buff guy"

What they mean: "I'm not hot enough to land a buff guy." "I'm not good enough to keep a buff guy around."

[–]BlackHeart89 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I had a chick that specifically stated that she doesn't like goes who are so big, that they have to walk funny or have 1,000 veins popping out.

I believe that one. That shit does look gross.

[–]through_a_ways 28 points29 points  (5 children)

girl: "I would never date a guy who's fucked around a lot"

me (thinking): except that statistically, most of gender would love to, and you're the 10th one who's told me that this week...

I was just spontaneously reminded of that Fairly Oddparents episode (yeah I know) where the dad repeatedly states that women "mean the opposite of what they say". Vicky was in a ski lodge log cabin or something, and they were in an avalanche.

There's also one episode where the alien guy can't stand love and affection, so when he rejects the girls going after him, they say: "the more he rejects us, the dreamier he gets!"

Then there's the one where Trixie starts liking Timmy after she notices he genuinely doesn't care about her.

Damn, that show was RP. Even if Cosmo was a bumbling twat.

[–][deleted] 22 points23 points  (2 children)

Ha, I actually have this pic saved: http://i.imgur.com/msXvJz8.jpg

[–]RPmatrix 1 point2 points  (0 children)

A girl once told me: 'I would never want to have a boyfriend who has a sixpack, because guys don't get sixpacks for just one woman.'

she's half right, except that she's unaware that guys do it for themselves ....

with access to extra women just being a part of it ....

most women don't get this as they (usually) seek approval from other women (and men, but much more so from women) whereas most RP guys have a completely different 'psyche' which as we know, 'women' usually fail to 'get'

what's new?

[–]Senior Contributorcocaine_face 107 points108 points  (16 children)

When I heard about the dadbod, my first thought was, "This is a girl saying she wants a guy to be a frat jerkboy type, but she doesn't want to have the competition anxiety of dating a man that really takes care of himself or is on his shit"

[–]deepfriedcocaine 125 points126 points  (8 children)

My first thought was, "She wants fit men but isn't attractive enough to get any so she rationalized why fat men are more attractive to kill her insecurities."

[–][deleted] 50 points51 points  (6 children)

Hamster is one hell of a drug, where I come from, Krokodil doesn't stand a chance

[–]Sir_Shitlord_focker 6 points7 points  (1 child)

Krokodil is that Russian homemade drug that gives you necrotic flesh right ?

[–]HaveSomeChicken 10 points11 points  (3 children)

Ah, fellow Russki, I'm assuming.

It seems to me that TRP lifestyles are common sense in Russia, would you agree?

Western civilization is way different.

[–][deleted] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

It is but that's because it's a shithole and people have more important things to worry about than nigger diversity and a non existing wage gap

[–][deleted] 50 points51 points  (3 children)

All my girlfriend's and wife said they don't care if I lift and that muscles are no big deal. All bullshit. They are like bird owners who clip the wings so they can have a pet.

[–]coffee_and_lumber 21 points22 points  (2 children)

My wife wasn't protesting or supporting the lifting one way or the other...until tonight. She said (reacting to my manhandling her and generally being very forward with my advances) "You look sexy...and if this is what I get from you working out, I think I like it."

This is her finally consciously noticing. I've been silently watching her change along with me for a while. Her deferring to my judgement more, dressing more sexy, straight up asking for sex more often. This stuff works, 100%. I'm excited to see what a year from now looks like.

[–][deleted] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Outstanding. Keep it up, especially the silent part

[–]HS-Thompson 53 points54 points  (8 children)

This is what's called an "average" male body. Some signs of physical activity but not that many, and plenty of eating but no obesity.

The idea that your average girl should be attracted to your average male body should be totally uncontroversial. It's the equivalent of the average guy being into the "girl next door" aka average female body.

The fact that there is so much obesity in this country and that there are all these confused movements to make people pretend that obesity is OK has so confused the media that they are now searching for some euphemism for "normal" and then claiming its a trend.

Needless to say at TRP we advocate being above average.

[–]2IVIaskerade 23 points24 points  (7 children)

It's not even that.

Girls aren't attracted to it. They're attracted to rippling muscles and rock-hard abs.

The "dad bod" is basically the hamster going "well he's not perfect (read: what I would like), but he's not as bad as the others."

Remember, women perceive the top 20% to be the top half. The "average" male body is below their notice until they can't get that top 20% body any more.

[–]icecow 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I think women are figuring out that believing 80% of men are below average looking sets them up badly for the wall/beta bucks transition. The average guys are less likely to be beta bucks to increasingly fat gold diggers so they hamster marrying even fatter men.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (5 children)

Close. They aren't attracted to dad bods, but they are attracted to guys who have dad bods for reasons that have nothing to do with their bodies. This is their rationalization for it. A college girl would rather date a slightly chubby frat bro than a ripped gdi. This is based entirely on social status. She convinces herself otherwise

This is purely a college article

[–][deleted] 24 points24 points

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[–]through_a_ways 14 points15 points  (0 children)

and the opportunity to have to pay for the girls meal every "taco Tuesday"

You buy her a taco, she gives hers to someone else

[–]EnclaveRemnant 59 points60 points  (16 children)

The lengths people will go to justify being out of shape always amaze me, especially when it takes up more of your time than just fucking exercising.

[–]1whatsazipper 33 points34 points  (15 children)

I'll never understand it. It feels great to exercise. There's nothing better than lifting heavy weights or going for an intense run.

Despite my cognitive capacity and intellectual pursuits, I find such 'simple' activities to be the most rewarding and fulfilling in life.

[–]fullanalpanic 12 points12 points [recovered]

You'll be happy to know, then, that the time you spend at the gym also improves your brain's ability to learn.

There are studies that show neuron generation improves by as much as 2x in active individuals vs those who are mostly sedentary.

The only catch is you need a lot more time at the gym upfront to build a solid body whereas you really only need a few hours a week of moderate activity (moderate to difficult hiking, for instance) to significantly boost your brain power.

[–]Iramohs 13 points14 points  (10 children)

That's because we've been conditioned to be warriors since the beginning of human civilization. Since we can't go around besting others in combat anymore, we need a release for those urges. Squatting 375 does that for me.

[–]Stradivorius 19 points20 points  (2 children)

We need to re-create the gladiator schools from ancient rome.Minus the ripping each others guts out in the sands of the coliseum for the entertainment of the masses thing. Thats best left to movies, tv series and videogames.

[–]Endorsed ContributoriBrokeRSA 29 points30 points  (0 children)

It's called your local boxing club or MMA gym.

[–]through_a_ways 2 points3 points  (6 children)

Squatting 375 does that for me.

Risking downvotes by saying this, but: Why is everyone so insane about squats?

Isn't it more masculine to have a bigger chest/back/waist/shoulders? Why would you want to make your butt and thighs thicker?

[–]1REDPILLRECKONING 14 points15 points  (3 children)

Compound lifts like the squat and deadlift cause your brain to pump out hormones that are normally released in very small amounts periodically. The stress response is what causes you to start growing. That's why when you work a super small muscle group, it is exponentially harder to get a pump or to grow the muscle group.

Squats are arguably the best movement for this type of reaction to take place. Placing your CNS under extreme stress and then working muscle groups that are "lagging behind" is another way to take advantage of the hormonal shift you are causing by doing heavy lifts.

Finally I would say this is why I discourage both excessive repetitions under no weight and large amounts of isolation training. Depleting your bodies glycogen stores repeatedly by going to failure over and over on something like your quads is not going the same response squatting heavy will. On top of that, doing one thousand air squats is essentially cardio. You are not getting a hormonal shift from the stress response of a heavy shock to your CNS.

Hopefully this all made sense.

[–]psycho-logical 6 points7 points  (1 child)

Squats are arguably the most effective single lift. However I 100% doubt this is the only lift he does. It's probably just his favorite.

[–]Modern__Day__Pricus 35 points36 points  (7 children)

This is women living in the moment and being trapped by the concept of seeking perfection each day.

In that day and moment, what they mean rings true. Being a slut was right for THAT day, but tomorrow they are innocent creatures seeking a mate that will be a great provider. Yet, on the next day they will seek someone to dick them down something retarded.

In that MOMENT and DAY, the "Dad bod" is the sexiest thing to them. Tomorrow though, not so much.

They have no philosophy behind what they do. Its like dealing with a light switch. Men need to stop giving up there power and realize that focusing on themselves and controlling their own reality is for the good of them, her, and his family if he has one.

Women with power will flip flop left and right. They can not control it because they really don't have it. What is a porn star without her fans?

Do not go for the "Dad bod". Focus on mastering yourself and the world around you, while at the same time committed to your belief and purpose in life to the point of it becoming your ignorance.

Stop letting women have power over you. They have none except the power that you as a man give. Control your reality and you control this bitch. This is what she wants deep down. True freedom lies in restriction. BDSM isn't popular just because of "50 Shades" and the surface level view of whips and chains. Its deeper than that.


[–][deleted] 17 points18 points  (1 child)

What really amazes me about this shit is that it really brings out the ignorance that people have towards working out. On the comments of the Buzzfeed article for this bull shit there were guys that were rationalzing have a shitty body by saying that time spent in the gym is time away from their kids. It's pathetic. I guess all that free time where you are lounging on the coach with a beer is quality time.

The worse is the females saying they like it. Of course, it is mostly the chubby females or soft bodied normal females that are saying this. But the ignorance is much more deeply rooted here. Everyone believes that you have to be a "gym rat" to achieve this body. They were acting like people with good bodies and lift are just people who spend all waking time in the gym. They said that we have no lives and that we are wasting time that would be better spent somewhere lazily.

It's pathetic. And believe me when I tell you that this trend will catch on. Wall-E was secretly a movie about the future haha.

[–]pbgswd 17 points18 points  (1 child)

I dont work out to attract women, I work out for my physical and mental health. I was told by a woman. I dated many moons ago that they dont like fit sexy guys because they are always the ones to leave. They aren't into men they cant control.

[–]rpkarma 6 points7 points  (0 children)

They don't like dating guys they can't control once they're nearing the wall, but they're certainly down to fuck them. In fact, they prefer them for that use-case

[–]TRP Vanguard: "Dark Triad Expert"IllimitableMan 32 points33 points  (1 child)

The feminist feminine imperative casts a culture wide shit test yet again. Good to be on the other side laughing at this, immune, rather than caught up in the vortex of bullshit.

[–]scarletspider3 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Sounds like more feminist shit designed to trick the beta into revealing themselves and to further optimize hypergamy.

[–]PlanB_pedofile 15 points16 points  (10 children)

80% of men over 35 have the dad bod.

[–]denmaur 12 points13 points  (4 children)

Which puts me in the top 20%. I'm not interested in mom bods either

[–]dat_shermstick 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Which is why this is so clickbaity

[–]user_none 0 points1 point  (3 children)

Any stats to back that up? I'm genuinely curious.

[–]PlanB_pedofile 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Are you over 30? Do you work someplace with people over 30? How many "dads" do you know?

Take a close look around you. Look at the beer guts. Start counting.

[–]dhump 2 points3 points  (1 child)

Every day observation of the general populous should make it pretty factual. I actually mentioned this to my girl today as we were sitting outside eating. She made numerous comments about guys walking by in "dad attire". You know the look, like their wife picked out their wardrobe from the clearance rack at Ross with the sole intention of making them look too damn goofy for any other woman to want.

She basically said " God, not that I think I'll ever have to worry about it, but don't ever dress like that." I mentioned the dadbod thing, and her response was basically "that's the most disgusting thing I've ever heard".

[–]Heizenbrg 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Also called the Jos.A. Bank look.
Dress Italian, you'll stand out

[–]Futdashukup 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Women like it hard. They want something hard inside them, like we want something soft, yielding and wet.

[–]Mmagikarp 26 points27 points  (10 children)

Funny shit, I had a female at work today, say "Once you get tired of going to the gym, every day.. You will grow a belly and have a MAN'S BODY!" Nah, I think I'll keep my washboard abs.

[–]Endorsed ContributorFLFTW16 27 points28 points  (4 children)

Tell her to stop body shaming you. Report her to HR for making you feel uncomfortable.

[–]blandboringusername 14 points14 points [recovered]

"Once you get tired of going to the gym, every day..

I've been at it steadily since 2002. NO regrets.

[–]CoriolanusRevisited 1 point2 points  (1 child)

That's the problem with the mentality of people like that, they assume physical activity is some thing you have to do for a certain time until you no longer have to, which is bullshit and not true. It's the same thinking that leads to fad and/or crash diets. Or they assume you have to get some incredible sense of joy from going to the gym, and it's supposed to be this amazing experience.

I stopped genuinely loving lifting a long time ago, but I still do it 5 times a week (been lifting for 8 years). I do it because I have to. It's like doing any other chore that you neither hate nor love, but just do because it's what a responsible adult does as part of their life.

[–]Mmagikarp 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's very true mate. After boxing for 10 years (stared when I was 9) then stared lifting (seriously) at 20 its been 6 years.  

To be honest I'm not as "MAD" as I used to. Maybe its because I'm not that scrawny welter weight (145lbs) kid. I've packed in a lot of muscle but the thought of just stop conditioning myself is like, "How about I stop brushing my teeth" or "I'll just let the weather take care of my lawn". It's just not going to happen.  

Try out FST-7(BB)) I felt like it gave me something new to fuck with.


If you're Old school lifter, try adding Widow Makers and Joker sets to your routine.

Joker set: http://theblogoffame.com/jim-wendler-beyond-531-joker-sets-for-dummies/

Widow Makers : https://strengthmilitia.wordpress.com/2013/12/21/widowmaker-squat-sets/

Stay strong.

[–]1whatsazipper 23 points24 points  (6 children)

It's like fat people telling you that "you need more meat on your bones". Dismiss upon arrival.

[–]2IVIaskerade 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Of course you need more meat on your bones. Lift heavy!

You just need to remind them that fat is the part that gets cut off the meat.

[–]Embracing_the_Pain 2 points3 points  (0 children)

There was one comment on that article that said that exact phrase. I thought, "What the fuck do you think muscles are?"

[–]thedude122487 1 point2 points  (2 children)

When I was in my early 20s, I was a skinny fuck. 5'8" 138 lbs. My fat uncle, who I love dearly, used to tell me that I need to put on some weight. I completely disregarded what he said because I assumed that he meant that I need to fatten up.

One day I woke up and started getting this subconscious desire to just start tossing iron around. And so I did, and I got pretty jacked. After having a conversation with him, I realized what he meant. He didn't mean to fatten up like him, he meant to get huge.

[–]1whatsazipper 1 point2 points  (1 child)

Most people who say it aren't like your fat uncle. They're more like the crab-bucket types, who feel uneasy at someone who is making progress. You know, the types who will try to sabotage your diet or deter you from going to the gym.

[–][deleted] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Dismissed it as nonsense the moment I heard about it

[–]Endorsed Contributorbalalasaurus 10 points11 points  (0 children)

The way I see it, this thing is being pushed in the same way that fat is beautiful is pushed for women. By making the dad-bod 'attractive' feminists will be able to say "well we find you attractive so you shouldn't hold us to standards of physical beauty either". But as we all know what women say and what they mean are two different things...

[–]blacwidonsfw 19 points20 points  (8 children)

"Nobody wants to cuddle with a rock" oh yes they do.

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[–]RPmatrix 3 points4 points  (5 children)

leg raises are great for 'the bottom' of your six pack, either lying on the floor on your back or even better on one of those stands which you support yourself resting on your forearms as you raise your knees up to your chest ... you'll feel the 'burn' real quick on one of those babies!

[–]Heizenbrg 1 point2 points  (4 children)

Also compensating with that a nice workout on the GHR to strengthen lower back and posterior chain

[–]WAFC 9 points10 points  (1 child)

Given what we learned from GamerGate about the game media communicating through back channels and pushing an agenda through the "Gamers are Dead" campaign, this feels like another concerted effort to convince people of a falsehood.

[–]skoobled 8 points9 points  (1 child)

I like how Leo DiCaprio is the poster guy of this. Has he ever been in great shape? But he's rich, famous, his physical condition is rather redundant in light of that

[–]Endorsed ContributorTheRedPilsner 9 points10 points  (3 children)

This is the fat acceptance movement trying to recruit men. For the last few years, the FAM has been shaming women who are fit and also shaming men for being attracted to those women. They believe that physical attraction is shallow and personality should be the only thing that matters to you. Up until now the FAM has mostly been convincing women that it's okay to be fat, but now they're trying to convince men that a "dad bod" is preferable to being ripped. Don't fall for it.

[–]alclarkey 14 points15 points  (2 children)

The major problem with the FAM, is the assumption that fat women have better personalities. (Pro-tip: They don't.) Their personalities vary to the same degree as normal size girls.

[–]squarehead93 8 points8 points [recovered]

The major problem with the FAM, is the assumption that fat women have better personalities.

Honestly, most of the fat girls I've known have shittier than average personalities. They get this "fattitude" where they have to be the loudest, most obnoxious one in the group all the time to compensate. Kind of like the equivalent of the storied Napoleon Complex in short males. And if they're still not attracting men, then they just become coarse and bitter and try to drag down and cockblock their hotter friends. Nothing is worse than a woman who knows deep down she's not physically attractive. They're always bitter.

Not to mention a lot of them suffer from a horrible case of fatlogic. Most think it's the world's fucking problem guys aren't fawning over them.

[–]EightyTimes 71 points72 points  (9 children)

Shut up about the fucking dadbod already.

It's fucking clickbait. It's propelled cuz it's a neat and catchy idea and the articles would get attention. Nobody on the internet is taking it seriously. It's the same sensationalism as any buzzfeed article, scraping the bottom of the barrel for writing material.

Do me a favor and just pretend you never saw it.

[–]EmergencyRU 27 points28 points  (7 children)

There are more then a few brothers in my fraternity that are actually okay with having a dadbod, they even brag about it, it's fucking disgusting.

[–][deleted] 24 points25 points  (0 children)

Kick them in the gut and give them a stone cold stunner.

[–]timoppenheimer 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I was introduced to the concept 2 nights ago by a frat bro.

I misheard him, and thought he said he had "Dat Bod".

I see my mistake now.

Same idea (muscled and overweight at the same time)

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (2 children)

In their defense they have no sexual incentive to workout. Their SMV is high because of social status, and it gives them an advantage even for ripped non Greeks. That market changes though

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

In their defense they have no sexual incentive to workout. Their SMV is high because of social status, and it gives them an advantage even for ripped non Greeks. That market changes though

[–]trpbox[S] 23 points24 points  (0 children)

If you go to a big college you'll know it didn't start on the internet.

[–][deleted] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I cringed when I first saw girls posting this on Facebook the other day. The whole time all I was seeing was "look how hot I am compared to my fat fuck boyfriend."

Moreover, this just further illustrates AF/BB. The second that Danny Dadbod stops providing for "Taco Tuesday night" or he gets too fucking fat to be seen with in public, Chad TC is going to take Danny's bitch to poundtown while he plays beerpong and eats chicken wings with the bros.

[–][deleted] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

As if people need any more encouragement to be mediocre...

[–]BCFtrip 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Dad bod translates literally as "tame provider bod"

New hivemind of decaying standards and relaying hamsters.

[–]Nicholas_ 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Seems pretty objective.

I've met chicks who absolutely love skinny, sucked up looking dudes who are covered in tattoos and have lots of piercings.

I even know some fitness chicks who apparantly love chubby men which is so bizzare to me.

I workout for me. I want to take off my clothes and be able to look at myself and think "Impressive". I don't do it for the sole purpose of attracting a shallow woman. I want the body structure and posture that commands respect and something that I'm happy with which is all that matters.

[–]1edwardhwhite 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I can go to Taco Tuesday. I just don't eat very many tacos. Also, I do strategize my eating. When I am at a party, I socially eat. I get a single plate and eat a little of everything. I am eating to socialize, not to feed myself so I only eat a little. That way I am thinking about what I'm eating. Also, they are talking to average people. Who may feel more comfortable with that type of body.

Last thing you want is a comfortable woman, you want her to be enjoying life on her toes with you.

[–]Endorsed ContributorFLFTW16 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Part of it is signalling. Gay men took over the gymrat demographic 20 years ago. It is fairly common for women to bemoan that all the best men are married or gay. The fact that gay men are competing for other men who are visually stimulated, they have a double incentive to hit the gym and get a six pack. They result is that so many gay men are in great shape that a straight man who looks great may be mis-signalling that he is gay. I've heard the opinion on more than one occasion that a ripped guy looks kind of gay to women. It's because so many gays are ripped.

It's also a competition thing as others have noted. A ripped dude can go off and fuck any cute thing that happens by. Women only crave alpha for a few days a month when they are ovulating. The rest of the time they prefer a provider who isn't going to run off with his resources--someone who provides security. A dad-bodied male.

Another part of it is laziness. She doesn't want to have to keep up and stay fit herself. The mark of a good girlfriend or wife is one who, when she notices you getting ripped, is motivated to start lifting herself to get toned, or takes up yoga or something. Your self improvement should trigger self improvement in her. It shows that she does indeed look up to and follow your leadership.

[–]coffee_and_lumber 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Instructions unclear. Heavier kettlebells ordered.

[–]CockThunderchad 5 points6 points  (0 children)

After the author of that article gets taken to taco tuesday and cuddles through the movie The Notebook with the cooperative man who respectfully embraced the idea of the 'dad bod', Chad will receive a late night text from her to come over, and his initial time investment will be even less than before.

[–]chances_are_ur_a_fag 3 points4 points  (0 children)

written by and for cunts that would protest protein world ads. these same women love to get everything given to them on a silver plate and use the guy to their advantage while claiming equality. its the bitches you see every day in america that are your average lazy broad that constantly bitch and hate on women that are better looking than them and more successful than them.

this right here summarizes their whole culture:

It doesn't intimidate us. Few things are worse than taking a picture in a bathing suit, one being taking a picture in a bathing suit with a guy who is crazy fit. We don't want a guy that makes us feel insecure about our body. We are insecure enough as it is. We don't need a perfectly sculpted guy standing next to us to make us feel worse.

We like being the pretty one. We love people saying "they look cute together." But we still like being the center of attention. We want to look skinny and the bigger the guy, the smaller we feel and the better we look next to you in a picture.

[–]1Claude_Reborn 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I saw this article being run on CBC's news feed this morning. This is them basically running "fat Acceptance" crap for guys and lying that women will find them attractive, had a picture of Seth Rogan.

Only reason women find Seth attractive is is current wallet n status, that's it. I know plenty of guys who look like him in r/l and they get zero quality women, they have to settle for butter huffers.

[–][deleted] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Don't believe this hamsterganda. It's like when your girl says "why are you working out, you look fine the way you are." They say shit like this to keep you down and tilt the playing field in their favor.

Pay attention to what they do not what they say. Go to the gym or beach and see what gets women excited. Definitely not "dad bods".

[–]TRP VanguardWhisper 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You notice that none of those statements talk about how it is actually attractive. Just reasons why it's okay to be less attractive.

There are two tracks to the female mating strategy. Both are good for women. Only one is good for you.

[–]SCROTAL-SACK 21 points22 points  (0 children)

meh, I'm not even mad at these fatties anymore. The more there are, the more godlike I look. The more fat bitches there are, the more cruel cold rejection we can lay down for shits n gigs.

[–]Abusive_Red 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Sounds like a recipe for a heart attack or prostate cancer by 40 nothx.

[–][deleted] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The 'dad bod' huh. Sigh. Thank the fucking lord that I am a human being with a brain. Sometimes I wonder about a lot of the other men out there.

[–]Senior Contributor: "The Court Jester"GayLubeOil 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The feminine imperative has decided to make the beta bucks feel good before the inevitable financial ass rape.

[–]_TheEndGame 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The dad bod is fine if you're a high value male like Leonardo Dicaprio. But you are not Leonardo Dicaprio so don't stop lifting.

[–][deleted] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

"We don't want a guy that makes us FEEL insecure about our body. We are insecure enough as it is. We don't need a perfectly sculpted guy standing next to us to make us FEEL worse....the smaller we FEEL and the better we look next to you in a picture."

It's all about how she feels inadequate next to someone who takes care of himself.

When listening to women talk train yourself to listen to the "F" words: Feel, Feeling and Felt.

[–]Betterthanuatlife 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Fuck what women want. I want to be healthy, I want to be handsome, I want to be confident. No woman can even dare to try and take what I am away from me. I'd sooner kill her than let her turn me into her fat BB slave

[–][deleted] 6 points7 points  (1 child)

Failure Culture rearing its ugly head again.

[–]denmaur 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Probably chubs and fatties looking for some recognition.

[–]Linrraba 7 points8 points  (8 children)

I've heard a lot of it in the past few years. It's just another feel good bullshit but this time is male-oriented. They even dared to say being fat makes you better in bed. Feel-goodness on steroids.

[–]through_a_ways 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If it was on steroids at least they'd be losing fat

[–]RedPillScare 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Women don't lose status dating a fat guy. Men do lose status dating a fat girl.

She gains security, which she thinks she wants, and loses no status.

Hypergamy will win out, and remember to never trust what a woman says she wants.

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

These girls aren't lying... Or at least they think they don't. Many in this thread are misunderstanding the message here. This is in reference to what college girls are saying, which is a completely different sexual market than the real world.

Most of the high SMV guys on college have dad boss. But they aren't high SMV because of dad bods, they are high SMV because of social status (fraternity bros, know this quite well was one myself) and the women penning these articles are just misplacing their attraction. On campus a frat guy from a strong house is higher SMV than anyone besides big sport athletes, even if there's a little chubiness. If you are a gym rat with a six pack but are a gdi your SMV is lower than a dad bod frat guy 9 times out of 10. But of course within a fraternity the most in shape guys still do the best. And some girls don't like muscular guys because they know themselves they could never pull those kinds of guys. Once graduation hits and people separate from the odd economics Greek life at state schools creates you will see another shift, more towards careers and healthier bodies

Basic premise is this: article is bullshit, no one likes the dad bod on the gdi with no friends, but the frat star who has access to major parties and his daddies cash? Then it doesn't look so bad

[–]RP_Vergil 2 points3 points  (0 children)

They cannot withstand the sight of a body which went through so much to achieve without feeling completely ashamed by their own lack of efforts.

Don't let them fool you into dropping your standards for this Hamsters.

Be the Standard she follows up to.

[–]CalvinHobb3s 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This is retarded and anyone, male or female, with half a brain wouldn't buy into it. This is like an article "10 reasons girls secretly can't get enough of nerdy guys". Just.. why does this even need to be addressed. Jesus.

[–]OzzyF 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Dadbod is nothing but shorthand for a high body fat/ high muscle mass physique. Which although not the ideal low fat/high muscle mass physique, dadbod fares pretty well in social settings with enough game because you would at least look strong with a shirt on.

[–]TomSachs 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Why is anyone taking this article seriously? I mean really.

[–]novawildcat25 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Very prominent jargon among fraternities and sororities among college campuses. It's all a facade though, and we know to see through it.

[–]tyrryt 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Like they all want a "good man" who is kind and dependable, and they all want sensitive men who share their fears and insecurities, and they just love it when men follow their hearts and work jobs they love even if the pay sucks. Right?

[–]toughenough1 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is the most ridiculous thing I ve read in a couple of years

[–]Locastor 1 point2 points  (0 children)

"Better cuddling. No one wants to cuddle with a rock. Or Edward Cullen. The end."

I cannot be the only one sickened by the attempts to dictate terms that SJW types use the bolded declaratives for. It is pathetically weak as a discourse technique because anyone with a brain can see your "position" is so laughably non-robust that it cannot stand up to critical examination.

[–]MyReddit4 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Methinks they're scared of a little discipline

[–]halfnerf 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's also a built in excuse when they branch swing to say, "I'm just not that attracted to you..."

[–]tonto674 1 point2 points  (0 children)

2 things happen when you go for the dad bod. Your wife can no longer worry about her figure. Since you are going to get less attention from any competition she can now do less for you. Stay fit! Whether it is to keep her being a loyal wife or so that if she decides to fuck the relationship over you can recover quickly to a new trophy.

[–]KilluaKanmuru 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You gotta be stranded in the middle of the blue ocean to fall for this bs.

[–]imthemanyesiam 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So if you want to go to Taco Tuesday or $4 pitcher Wednesday, he'd be totally down.

The man decides where to go.

It doesn't intimidate us - We don't need a perfectly sculpted guy standing next to us to make us feel worse.

Have fun being cuckolded. Never let a girl get too comfortable

[–]wolfNshepherd 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Better cuddling. No one wants to cuddle with a rock. Or Edward Cullen. The end.

They're right. Girls want to fuck Edward Cullen.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We know what we are getting into when he's got the same exact body type at the age of 22 that he's going to have at 45.

Good luck with that if you think a skinny fat isn't going to turn into a planet by the time he's middle aged

[–]mstersmith 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Women like the dad bod so they can stop trying, get fat and fuck around on the side any ways.

[–]1Ronin11A 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The entire "Dad Bod" movement, from the female perspective, as such:

Dating a dude with a dadbod takes the pressure off having to maintain your own.

She can feel less guilty about being a chubby slob on the couch if you are too. Fuck. That. Shit.

[–]Stradivorius 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I spent 5 minutes laughing my ass off, dont know if thats a good thing or bad and honestly i dont care, but you cannot make this shit up. If its happening in frats, the american guys in here will have free reign on all the girls on campus. Lets see Chad Thundercock, captain of the football team with a beer gut and man-boobs getting the blond co-ed when faced with a guy that goes to the gym and does freaking mma.

[–]waynebradysworld 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I must say, my dad bod hasn't been too much of a problem. Being 6'4" definitely doesn't hurt, and its more like an expecting father bod, not full blown dad bod.

I should stop drinking so much. After I finish this Kentucky derby beer....

[–]higherprimate718 4 points5 points  (0 children)

as a dude who has a belly, I actually think this is real. Also, the subtext here is that most girls have daddy issues and you remind them of their dad.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I know this contributes absolutely nothing worthwhile to the conversation... But what the FUCK did I just read? I mean... Fuck it, I'm done with the Internet for the evening.

[–]Stinger86[🍰] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I had a girlfriend years ago who told me she wanted me to get a belly.

I know an ex coworker, about 20 years old, she's a single mom. Before I knew she was a mom, she told me she likes fat guys. I couldn't believe it, the girl was so hot. When I found out she was a mom, it made way more sense. She's on the hunt for provider-man who she can emotionally and sexually manipulate into sticking around and raining money onto her like Super Mario coins.

Remember guys: the higher your bodyfat, the higher your estrogen and the lower your testosterone. There is an almost direct link. Less bodyfat = stronger libido, clearer thinking, more drive, more energy, etc. etc. Not to mention you look way fucking better naked and can wear clothes that don't strangle you.

This article = direct to trashbin.

[–]BlatantTRPThrowaway 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I go to the gym specifically so that I can cure my "dad bod." Fuck you, Buzzfeed.

[–]complex21 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My ex plate before I took TRP told me not to work out so much on my body and that its unattractive. Little did i know that at the time she was cheating on me with a bro that was in much better shape than me.

[–]David35207 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Heard a friend talk about it and I was so amazed that there was a genuine article discussing the Dad bod. Absolutely hilarious to hear it after swallowing the pill. Less competition for me and more BB to help keep women on the CC

[–]PowerMasterLord 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sounds like the male equivalent to fat beauty in women. sexual attraction toward fit bodies > anything less.

[–]Triglycerine 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Isn't that just a much shittier version of something colloquially referred to as "Builtfat" or "Strongfat"?


"I see him as a guy who I don't have to prove myself to, who I can use to look better by contrast, who I can use for validation through cuddling, and who doesn't have the type of priorities or self control that will limit the time he spends with me.

Yea, lurking fitness places has made it abundantly clear that less-fit LTR tend to go into full ABORT mode the moment her guy begins to better himself physically.

[–]1GreenPiller 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Call me crazy but I once met a girl that used to tell me that six pack abs looked "gay". And that dad bods were manlier. She would also cook tons of shit to make her boyfriend fatter. Either way I don't give a fuck what women think I will keep working out til the end of time. That feeling you get when your muscles are pumped is like no other...

[–]HeelsDownEyesUp 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey now, Taco Tues is a sacred weekly holiday.

[–]scottlapier 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You beat me to it. My LTR showed me this recently.

I gained about 30-35 pounds when I was graduating, mostly due to shitty cafeteria food, no sleep and a ton of stress. According to her she thought I was still attractive.....but, now that I'm back under 200 lbs. (5'9ish" and 178) and about to drop below 10% BF she has been a lot more interested in me.

Also, I love the bit about women being 'intimidated' by guys who are in really good shape. Hamstering at its finest

[–]cmiovino 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've been told many times by relatives that I'm "too skinny" and need to "fatten up". Actually I just lift a lot and don't eat shit.

Dad Bod.. more like unhealthy piece of shit provider.

[–]iJJD 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm seeing this "trend" so much in college it's crazy. These dad bod dudes then end up having girlfriends who will hit on me and they just let it go. I was wondering what the attraction was and I had a similar idea as you but you really got the point across perfectly. It makes so much sense, thanks for opening my eyes OP

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