Red Pill TheoryI took notes on each chapter of "The Book of Pook" and want to share here (self.TheRedPill)

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***edit: here is the book below. I am also not done adding to this post, but haven't had time to finish yet


I'm posting these just as a way to get people to understand what the book is about and actually go read it. Before I gave it a chance, I thought it was just about PUA which is why I avoided it. It is he exact opposite of PUA. This "book" or collection of posts is gold and everyone should read it.

I'm posting from my phone so this isn't going to be organized neatly. I took a few key points from each chapter (that I thought were important and basically summarized the chapter in a couple points/sentences). Each key point is separated by just a semicolon.

  • Advice for a suffering newb: be willing to walk away; use gifts as a REWARD only

  • Lesson 1: take action, do not hesitate; rejection is better than regret; you must approach; the choice of inaction is more painful than action

  • Lesson 2: do things with your woman, don't sit around and talk; avoid the friend zone by not listening to all of her problems

  • Lesson 3: judge her by her actions and not her words; women say what we want to hear; if you get stood up on a date, but she agrees to another, remember her previous actions

  • Lesson 4: patience is the refined sense of confidence; you know you area great catch so you are not worried about other guys flirting with women in your presence; the guys that can get women are not scared when other guys are hitting on women

  • Lesson 5: listen to your gut; if a woman is throwing herself at you and you find her attractive and want her, DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT (escalate); do not constantly ignore or she will lose interest

  • Lesson 6: always work to improve yourself- learn, travel, workout, make money, have fun; you are the prize, but that DOES NOT MEAN SETTLE FOR WHAT YOU ARE; always improve yourself for YOU; do not get too comfortable, comfort is the death of you

  • Lesson 7: have respect for yourself and be willing to walk away; set boundaries and even if she is your gf, don't start doing whatever she asks

  • Lesson 8: don't be afraid to be a man and express your sexuality; women are sexual creatures; talk like a guy and act like a guy

  • Lesson 9: get out and be naturally confident; don't follow a formula or guide you read; get ideas, but don't constantly read without action

  • Lesson 10: in order to be successful in the world, you must be successful in your mind; confidence produces prince charming, prince charming does not produce confidence

  • Lesson 11: getting a girl is not success, but getting a girl who truly likes you is success; a woman who likes you will be flexible and not break dates; you pick the girl; failure is not being alone, but being in a relationship where she has no true interest in you

  • Lesson 12: live out your imagination; do not be fake and hold yourself back to please a woman; do not let other people live your life for you

  • Lesson 13: charm is treating women like little girls- make fun of her, play with her, take her by the hand and lead her somewhere; young kids before puberty are the perfect example of how to treat a woman- run around, they do not sit and talk all night, they have their cars, dangers, excitements; the attitude in the sandbox is exactly the attitude you need now; think young and live

  • Lesson 14: date many women at once; if you only date one, you will fall for her too quickly; date many until you find the one that can join you in your life; have a backup chick

  • Lesson 15: take risks; "opportunities are disguised as impossible situations."

  • What every skinny guy should know: fucking lift

  • Perfect is boring: girls on dating shows choose horny guys acting like a two year old over a perfect player (in other words, be human, not perfect)

  • Secret of the jerk: testosterone is the secret, they don't suppress it; women are attracted to men with high T; embrace your T, but control it (don't be a criminal); work out, join a sport, eat more, don't take yourself so seriously

  • Fountain of youth: remember how you played, teased, and acted with girls when you were a young boy? That's exactly how you should act with women as a man

  • Kill that desperation: the key to killing desperation is to THINK and BELIEVE that you are the catch, the prize; don't give a woman a reason to think that she is better than you; don't give her too much attention, don't call all the time, don't tell them everything about yourself, don't always be available, always be willing to walk away

  • Embracing sexuality: don't try to destroy your T or suppress your natural sexuality

  • Eliminate desire or not: live, laugh, love; get your life together, make yourself happy, THEN go for the chicks

  • Romanticism- the obituary: marriages are held together by comradery, not romance; weddings are not love

  • Let yourself fail: failure is a necessary component of growth; allow yourself to fail, don't constantly read self help or how to act on a date; do not get trapped in the tortuous cycle of devouring more and more info with no action; do not intend to fail, but LET yourself fail; take action- risk is the key to self improvement; nice guys are nice because they don't want to fail; TAKE ACTION AND STOP READING

  • Aim high: the high standards you apple to your desires must be applied to yourself; improve yourself, work on your goals and dreams; there are no leagues, get what you want but improve yourself to get it

  • On kino: women reflect what you do, so if you touch her nervously then she will feel uncomfortable; go in knowing you already have her so you can have fun and touch confidently

  • What I've learned: go for the number, go for the date; don't talk about yourself, be a mystery; demand respect; don't be afraid to disagree; women are never the priority; be yourself (with self improvement) and have fun; the goal is to NOT make every chick like you, the goal is to make yourself like you; have fun and don't see approaching a chick as a chore, but an opportunity for FUN

  • As you think, you shall become: your destiny depends on what you think; nice guy=boring dinner dates; player=always tries to control the chick, remains a mystery forever, never gets love; DON JUAN=you are the prize and you give off the feeling unconsciously because you are what you think

  • Be a man: women want a guy with a backbone, a guy who will be successful, and a guy who is decisive; don't vomit your feelings and emotions all over the place; just be a man, no need to change your nature, no need to get the rule book out on how to get laid, be natural and have fun; a MAN is a guy who is not afraid of his testosterone; a man follows his passions in life (not just chasing women), he can sometimes come off as arrogant and egotistical, but doesn't apologize for this and his desires; women are to enhance your life, not be it; nice guys, stop placeing your happiness on getting a GF; jerk, quit wasting your life on seduction, don't spend your entire time chasing girls, invest it into your interest and desires

  • Do girls want sovereignty: girls are attracted to your world- passion, goals, your friends, what you do for fun; please yourself and not the woman

  • Feeling down about your love life: the problem is you place your happiness on a girl; be happy, single first and then get a girl; endulge in your passions and work; TAKE ACTION; jerks are not really confident, they put on a show by being aggressive constantly; fear not having no intimacy right now, for with your mindset and skills will ensure you luxurious intimacy for the course of your life

  • Habit is all: a Don Juan is a sum of correct habits; make it a habit to be social, talk to girls, look for dates; be consistent and form good habits- working out, talking to people, etc; create goals and set a TIME DEADLINE, otherwise they are just dreams; focus on the habit, not on the girls; consistency is crucial; habit is the child of mindset, and this is how you think you shall become

  • Let's just be friends: nice guys have fun just being around a hot chick, Don Juan has fun DOING things with the hot chick

  • On mystery: the less she knows the better; don't WITHHOLD information, but make her WORK to get it out; constant changing and self improvement keep you a mystery

  • On patience: hold back your desire for a GF, don't smother and want to marry after a couple of dates; don't thrown too much affection too soon; patience is NOT inaction, but controlling your eagerness; have fun and don't take your outings so seriously; stop appearing desperate; if a woman calls your name, don't immediately stop what you're doing

  • Ooh la la:

This is taking a lot longer than expected...I will edit in the other chapters tomorrow!

[–]-Lupe 51 points52 points  (7 children)

My favourite lesson from Pook, and the one that changed my life forever: The goal is to unite your dream and your day!

Both the player and the nice guy pedestalize pussy to equal degrees, often nice guys become players but never realize they haven't ended the cycle of pedestalizing pussy because their focus is still firmly on women. Their life choices, their daily habits, their very personality, is one carefully constructed based on what women want, not what he wants for himself. An entire life can be wasted on this pedestalization, working a high status job you hate, to buy fancy shit you don't need, to attract women you can't afford, who force you to act out a script that comes unnaturally.

Instead, realize that the only true source of happiness in life is yourself. Don't consider what women want, consider what you want. Consider your dreams as a child before you cared about women. Consider your deepest desires and consider your wildest dreams, then devote your life to making those dreams a reality.

Ironically women feel small in the presence of a man who unites his dream with his day, and this high concentration of admiration results in attraction. By the time this happens though, you won't place such an unhealthy weight on women's attention, because the validation from your dream taking shape outweighs what any woman can offer.

I've tried to explain this in many ways over the years, but a lot of guys just don't seem to get it. I see guys worrying about whether they are fun enough, whether they are boring, "working on their personality", and it makes me feel sick. To change your entire being just to gain access to a little piece of pussy, I cannot think what one could do to debase one's sense of self further.

You aren't falling short, you're just using a shitty measuring stick! Go climb everest. Go into space. Start your own video game company. Become a professional MMA fighter. Write a book. Go to asia, buy a motorbike and get lost for a year. Do what you want. Focus on you, what you want from life, not what women want from you. Quit worrying about whether women like who you are and what you do and start worrying about whether you like who you are and what you do. That is the path to happiness.

(This isn't an excuse to become a fat, pale basement dweller because "That's what I want to do with my life")

[–]Chinny4daWinny 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I see guys worrying about whether they are fun enough, whether they are boring, "working on their personality", and it makes me feel sick. To change your entire being just to gain access to a little piece of pussy, I cannot think what one could do to debase one's sense of self further.

I found myself trying to do this. I was trying to change from an A student who likes to hang out with friends and become this hardcore partier who smokes weed and drinks everyday with the girls. Needless to say, after 1 day I couldn't fake it anymore. Feels so uncomfortable and it wasn't until my older brother basically told me the same thing you did that it's starting to resonate with me.

In reality, I just want to hoop, study, and have fun.

[–]laere 5 points6 points  (4 children)

This is one of the biggest things to swallow when first finding TRP. When you're so conditioned to change yourself for women, and what they want, you lose sight of your own self and happiness.

Fucking gold man.

[–]Chunkymunkee93 0 points1 point  (3 children)

Do they really make you lose sight of your own happiness? The girls I've ever met were only focused on fucking and their own happiness, kinda like how I was focused on my own happiness and fucking. The more you stop thinking on gender and the more you see that we're all just human, the easier things become.

Edit: I forgot to add, the only person who makes you lose sight of what you want is you. The actions of one person doesn't change you, your response to the action is what changes you.

[–]BobBobCan 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Unless you're well aware of your situation they will definitely make you lose track of your dreams, potential and happiness. I was a football player in my younger days and when I think back of all us young men in their late teen in long distance relationships, wasted effort on chasing money over passion, career goals which has a surplus of chicks...it makes me cringe.

[–]laere 1 point2 points  (1 child)

The problem is that growing up with a blue pill conditioning you're literally "brainwashed" to put their needs above yours. That's where a lot of guys are stuck.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Even the thought of saying something that might make someone uncomfortable makes me physically ill - that's how much I bought into this shit. A faux pas stays in my mind for weeks if I'm denied closure. The idea of flirting by teasing and not being polite, or nice, to girls is my biggest obstacle. I have tried, and it was pretty obvious how forced it was. The one night things went well and on top of it all I got immense amount of preselection from peers I met randomly, I managed to act like a dick - major success with the women. Slipped into beta mode on the dates I got though, never heard from them again.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Go to asia, buy a motorbike and get lost for a year.

Thanks for suggesting this. It sounds like an amazing experience.

[–]BannedBandit 23 points24 points  (7 children)

I would definitely recommend reading the whole book, especially for new people to the concept and young men.

I should read it again.

[–]PookIsLovePookIsLife 9 points10 points  (6 children)


The notes are nice, but don't have the same impact. Pook's writing style is unique and contains many examples to illustrate his point. It's very relatable and entertaining, and I'd recommend everyone here to read it at least once. I've probably read it around 5 times and it's still one of my favorite reads.

[–]jrl1985 7 points7 points [recovered]


The notes are just to give people an idea of what it's about. Every single person here should read it.

I get the feeling a lot of people, like I had, think the book is about PUA. I want to show that it isn't.

[–]PookIsLovePookIsLife 2 points3 points  (1 child)

Yes, it's really about being a man and understanding human nature.

[–]ChadThundercockII 0 points1 point  (0 children)

From your username, I think you are biased. /jk That is exactly what I thought the first time I read it. What still fucks with my mind is how to reconnect with the lost childhood. As to become genuine like I once were.

[–]Pornography_saves_li 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Its, to my knowledge at least, the foundation of MGTOW. Of course, ive already been wrong once today.

[–]BannedBandit 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I remember reading it when I was eighteen and never really saw relationships the same way... I saw so many mistakes I had been making.

[–]EnoughDforThree 9 points10 points  (1 child)

Here is a direct link for those who haven't yet read it.

[–]1RBuddDwyer 5 points6 points  (4 children)

The thing that makes Pook's writing stand it is that it is all solid Red Pill thinking before anyone really started pushing it. The idea of Masculine / Feminine polarity was around before Pook (Deida's Way of the Superior Man was published in 1997), but he is the first one to really distill it down and bring it to the unwashed masses of a new generation. The whole "book" is really just a compilation of his best posts from the SoSuave forums. Before Pook, SoSuave was primarily made up of younger men just stating out in seduction, and the material they were using was dated. Somehow (no one knows how), Pook decided to take things in an entirely different direction. He refrained the seduction style and brought it back to its basic origins: feminine submission to masculine dominance. This was also the same time another great red pill thinker stared laying the theoretical foundations for the red pill movement. Ironically enough, both were active on the SoSuave forums at the same time.

[Edit: fucking autoprediction makes me look like a retard.]

[–]Pornography_saves_li 1 point2 points  (2 children)

Roosh, Rollo, Roissy, and Pook were all active on SoSauve at the same time. It was the melding of these minds with the mrm that created the 'Red Pill', as exemplified with Hawaiian Libertarian's piece, ' Game Is The Red Pill', which touched off a debate that ended up forming what has become known as the Manosphere.

They were interesting times, but more fun is ahead i think...

[–]TheRationalMale.comRollo-Tomassi 0 points1 point  (1 child)

I've been a mod and a member of SoSuave since 2002 (before the 2nd incarnation of the forum). To my knowledge (unless they were using different aliases) Roosh and Roissy were never members of SoSuave.

[–]Pornography_saves_li 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hmmm. I doubt they would use aliases.... I know pook was there, and i coulda swore i saw them both o there (ive never been a member myself, just read a lot). Roissy got his own thing going pretty early, maybe it was just the frequent mentions on Roissy in DC that im thinking of....

[–]fap_the_pain_away 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That was a great summary. Just wanted to add one major thing you left out: the DJ Bible. The Don Juan Bible was a collection of top posts with pook and others. The common idea around the forum was, instead of copying Mystery with funny hats and canned pickup lines, you became the best man you could be. Women would naturally flock to you. It was all about being a natural winner.

Then the forum site owner hid the DJ Bible because he didn't want a giant digital tome giving men all the answers. He preferred they kept coming to the site to post more questions on the forum and generate clicks on seduction product ads placed everywhere. Basically he sold out.

You can still find the DJ Bible online. It's basically the Book of Pook, only expanded with different authors and perspectives.

[–][deleted] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Great post! its not the typical 'AWALT' thats usually posted, its completely focused on what you should be doing to improve yourself

[–]DalekJay 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Great post you deserve a medal!

*on lesson 4, has a typo "area" you meant "are a"

[–]bebestman 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Put a whitespace between an asterisk and your text, then Reddit will correctly make a list.

[–]garrettruskamp 2 points3 points  (1 child)

I really wish this book came in a non-online form that's what has led me to read other books and not hit this one yet

[–]Pornography_saves_li 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It is available on Amazon. They may offer hardcopy.

[–]Dark_T100 1 points1 points [recovered]

Question: You say girls are attracted to your passions, your goals, and what you do for fun, but then you say not to talk about yourself.

You must mean not talking about emotional baggage type shit that we are supposed to have in order. We should only seek to pique interest though talking about our goals, aspirations and cool shit that's happened in our lives. At the same time, we should only give this information out like bread crumbs, as telling her everything would make one seem like an open book. Am I correct?

[–]laere 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Constantly talking about yourself and laying everything about you on the table is anti-seductive in itself. So is all that stupid ass emotional shit nice guys throw in there.

I recommend The Art of Seduction by Robert Greene. He goes into various characteristics that make you seductive and anti-seductive. Very good book.

[–]TheAureate 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is great man! Thanks for taking the time to put it together!

[–]ell000 0 points1 point  (1 child)

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[–][deleted] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You've know it's a shit test, right? And the easiest way to deal with any shit test? Agree and amplify.

"You Treat me like a sex object!"

"We obviously not enough! We're talking right now!" or "Speaking of which, take your clothes off"

Don't be afraid of her getting pissed. That's the shit test. She wants to know if you are afraid of her getting pissed when she challenges your masculinity. If you ARE afraid of her getting pissed, you lose.

[–]camper182 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think i like "Corey Wayne: How to be a 3 percent man" more but these tips are really nice!

[–]sedatedinsomniac 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can you edit OP with a link to the book?

[–]Temptationn 0 points1 point  (1 child)

I looked on amazong for the book and "The Rational Male" came up, is this the same book?

[–]Pornography_saves_li 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The Rational Male is another must-read. But it is written by Rollo Tomassi. There are now 2 rational male books, by the way.

[–]rod_of_ram 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Love this post. I'm gonna have to get this book for a more in depth study. Thanks man

[–]N165 1 points1 points [recovered]

Thank you for doing this; I think I'll read the book. Pretty much all of these points sound reasonable, make a lot of sense and don't seem to have the usual "women are shit" attitude that I see around here a lot.

player=always tries to control the chick, remains a mystery forever, never gets love

I wish we could have more discussion about this. Some of us want to have great sex AND great love and don't think it's impossible. However, I do find that r/redpillwomen has a LOT of insight about making LTRs work.

[–]fap_the_pain_away 0 points1 point  (3 children)

Women are incapable of love, but be my guest and don't stop trying. Ever.

[–]N165 1 points1 points [recovered]

I think "incapable" is too strong a way of putting it. I know many people in stable, long term, loving relationships. Like I said, r/redpillwomen has a lot of interesting things to say about this.

[–]reigorius 0 points1 point  (1 child)

Care to do the same as OP; making a list of the things he learned?

[–]-Quotidian 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nice. I actually have a set of notes on my phone as well, and skim the book from time to time when I think I've forgotten some important lessons. The Fifteen Lessons, Few Harsh Truths, and Words of a Don Juan are fun to look back on--Pook's compiled writings are a masterpiece of self actualization, and it was actually stumbling upon the Book that started my unplugging.

Thanks for the reminder.

[–]Gunnilingus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

All solid advice, especially for those new to the community. Only one that I really take issue with is lesson 4 (don't be bothered by other guys flirting with women in your presence) - I think it isn't clear enough on how you should deal with other guys trying to poach your woman. If the women are merely in your presence, sure: don't let it appear to phase you. However, if the woman is clearly with me, then a guy who comes to flirt with her is clearly displaying a lack of respect for me. It still shouldn't bother you, but ignoring it completely is not the way to go in that scenario, IMO. I would proceed to AMOG him until he either leaves or falls into your Alpha orbit.

[–]madrealworld 0 points1 point  (0 children)

you posted all this from your phone? goddamn thats impressive. and thanks for sharing!

[–]NeoSamwell -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Can someone send me a link to this book? Edit: Nvm, Google is awesome.