Field ReportThis sub has changed my life, literally (self.TheRedPill)

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I stumbled upon TRP 6 months ago.

6 months ago was a rough time for me. I wasn't working out, I did nothing but smoke weed and play video games and jack off, I was working a shitty 8-5 office job. I felt sorry for myself. I wanted others to feel bad for me.

At first, this sub offended me. "How dare they question my nice guyness/emotion?" I said at first. The more and more I read, the less I was offended. The more I read, the more I started to realize just how stupid I was being.

This job of mine had killed every single ounce of ambition left in my flabby body. I would come home every day at 5:15, absolutely exhausted from the work day. I had no desire to better myself. All I would want to do at the end of the day is light a bowl and watch Futurama.

I've been wanting to start my own reselling business on Amazon, so I could afford to finally get out of this job, and move to my dream city, Boulder, CO.

6 months ago, I lacked the ambition to even attempt starting it, however.

Everything I've been reading from TRP started making sense. Nothing was going to change unless I manned the fuck up and took control of my own life. Nobody was going to hold my hand. Nobody was going to pat me on the back and tell me it's ok. Nobody else is going to start up this business. Nobody else is going to get to the gym and get in shape. No. This was all my responsibility.

It was like a light bulb flickered on with the intensity of our home star in my head. I looked back at myself and was pissed at how much time I wasted just sitting on my computer chair, high as a kite, browsing Reddit and fapping to stupid porn.

I got my gym membership the morning after. I've dropped most of my flat tire already. I've also picked up a love for parkour the past couple of months. I'm still terrible at it at the time being, but we all have to start somewhere, right?

I quit smoking weed, too. At least for now. It was transforming from a fun weekend, to having to have it when I come home from work everyday. Having that extra 50-100 dollars a week has a made a tremendous difference, too.

I also started my Amazon business. I'm making a little over half of what I do now at my normal job. I started with $200, so the fact that I'm already pulling this much a month really puts a smile on my face. I'm currently using my profits to reinvest in my business, and help pay off credit card debts from back when i thought I needed every modern electronic and video game.

If all goes according to plan, I'll be out of Indianapolis and in Boulder by the end of the year. I can't even begin to explain how excited I am.

All of this life-changing has really boosted my testosterone, as well. I now wake up everyday with no snooze button. I get out of bed looking forward to better myself, instead of wishing I was still asleep.

I've also noticed an extreme difference in how women are around me. I'm starting to get a lot more looks and smiles than I used to. I've even began striking up small talk with women that I run into, something I would never think of doing as a beta.

Before I get any more circle-jerky, I'll wrap this post up.

Gentlemen, thank you for the help that you have given me. Your words were hurtful at first. I needed them, though. Just like a sick person would need a vaccination. The initial shot hurts, but in the long run, it's helping you out tremendously.

To any person who is currently experiencing what I did. It's time to man the fuck up. Nobody but you is going to make changes in your life. It's time to stop feeling sorry for yourself.

If you want women, money, social status, etc etc, you need to squash any beta tendencies you might possess. Swallowing the red pill has changed my life. It can do the same for you, too.

[–]RedMagnus 215 points215 points [recovered]

Look me up when you get to Boulder and I'll pay the tab for a night out showing you around.

[–]shoonx 61 points61 points [recovered]

Sounds great, brother.

I should be moving around the end of the year. :)

[–]SlappaDaBayssMon 90 points91 points  (3 children)

Fuck what anybody else says this is the greatest community on Reddit.

[–]bleed_red_white_blue 19 points20 points  (1 child)

Seriously. I wrote this place off the first time I saw it as a bunch of dudes who've been jilted lovers or something but at the urging of a friend I gave it a closer look. Holy shit, this place is what I've been searching for. I only wish I'd found it sooner.

[–]Masonjarteadrinker2 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I did the exact same thing, I remember looking at all the red and just reading the bulletins and thinking man these are some angry bitter ass dudes. Little did I know that this random sub would make such a profound change in me.

[–]gangstaman9000the2nd 13 points14 points  (1 child)

How do we know u aren't a feminist waiting to kidnap OP

[–]I_have_secrets 30 points31 points  (0 children)

Because he said he's willing to pay for drinks...

...a feminist would never dare even joke about that.

[–]abdada 126 points127 points  (96 children)

Parkour game technique: if you can't do a push-up with her on your back, she's too fat or you're too weak.

In my 40s, I have lost my push-up strength because I failed to maintain it. But in my 30s, being able to do a push-up with a hot little spinner on my back was huge on DHV, social proof and overall flirtation potential.

Yes, there's a woman sitting on your back and it may come off as doormatting, but it isn't. It's tingling, for her.

Great work. Keep it up, don't lose frame, and don't forget: oneitis can hit you so look both ways before crossing every train track.

[–]EnclaveRemnant 48 points49 points  (1 child)

if you can't do a push-up with her on your back, she's too fat or you're too weak.

You are the Aristotle of our time.

[–]2akurate 92 points93 points  (29 children)

I did this with my ex, I was chilling on the bed and she came laying on me, I surprised her when I started doing pushups, she would be all "oohh you're so strong!". She felt my whole body getting hard under her, it must have been quite the trip.

I would also pick her up by the ass when I was grabbing her, same reaction. Being a beast and seeing the effects it has in your girls eyes is fucking priceless. She is suddenly confronted by the huge gap in strength between herself and you, and she surrenders into her female role, she becomes submissive (ie admit and embrace her own weakness). When a girl is submissive she is entrusting herself in your protection, she's saying "I can be weak around him and he will protect and guide me", you seeing this will naturally take the role that is required of you. Everything falls nicely into place, the gender roles are strengthened thus the bond.

[–]abdada 67 points68 points  (28 children)

Always be capable of lifting a woman off the ground. This is defined as "how a man flirts".

Guys always want to know "what's a great line to turn women on?" Well, it isn't verbal, that's for sure.

[–]francis_sandow 45 points45 points [recovered]

So true, and yet so damn pathetic at the same time.

Was involved in a theater production last year. Cast consisted of fit coed dancers and pudgy "theater types". My role had me lifting and carrying some of the dancers for all of two steps during one scene. Every girl I carried for this herculean feat, EVERY one got the tingles and said how strong I was.

Could only shake my head to realize how pathetically easy it is to get women interested. The pudgy guys could spout Shakespeare at them all day long, but a quick lift gets them damp.

[–]abdada 29 points30 points  (9 children)

I'm a small dude (5'8") with small wrists (IMHO leads to lower strength). I've always played coed beach volleyball in summers, and usually with women significantly younger than me.

Even though my reach at the net is weak, I can always lift my partner players up on my shoulders or playfully lift them at the waist randomly to defend against a spike.

They. Love. It. Even if their boyfriends are watching.

It is, quite simply, the fastest way to get a woman to tingle without resorting to PUA tactics that are overplayed and easily dismissed.

Be a fscking man. Lift a woman up and get her giggling and retarded for you.

[–][deleted] 56 points57 points  (4 children)

PUA seems like an even more fitting term now, seeing as physically picking someone up is one of the most basic and effective pick up techniques.

[–]abdada 69 points70 points  (1 child)

holy shit, coffee on my keyboard.

She: "Are you a pickup artist?"

Him: (lifts her up) "What do you think?"

[–]Senior Contributorcocaine_face 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yep, a buddy of mine would always pick girls up and spin them. It always seemed incredibly effective for him.

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Don't think small wrists can't be strong. Mine are smaller than my mothers' and she's no butch! But I can lift twice her weight with one hand easily.

Try some forearm workouts and use grippers regularly if you haven't already. It worked great for this guy.

[–]Endorsed ContributorAFPJ 0 points1 point  (1 child)

small dude (5'8") with small wrists

Not sure about this, 6'3" 220Lbs @ ~9%BF here: small wrists usually mean small waist = amazing aesthetics.

Would never date a chick I'm not able to one arm overhead press. Maybe military press if she's over 5'5".

If you believe wrist size leads to lower strength focus on wrist curls, reverse wrist curls & farmer walks.

Granted, age is a hell of a factor - I'm 30 and it's getting harder and harder to keep making gains.

[–]abdada 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yep, aesthetically I look amazing when I'm just 155#. I go on a ton of cruises (sometimes 3 over spring break each year) and women half my age go nuts for my bod when I'm tanned and can actually dance.

I also look great in a tailored suit.

I'm very thankful for my body structure but raw strength ain't happening. I had many trainers and have done huge macros, but my ceiling has always been there.

[–]Dev_on 6 points6 points [recovered]

85 pounds?

I shoulder press that lady lol

[–]Gunnilingus 10 points11 points  (5 children)

I hope you mean one-arm shoulder press.

[–]Dev_on 7 points7 points [recovered]

[–]Gunnilingus 3 points4 points  (2 children)

A) I'm not a bodybuilder. I'd rather be strong than glamorous.

B) The context of your original comment was clearly focusing on the feat of strength of shoulder pressing 85lbs, not your immaculate form.

C) The context of this entire comment chain is about strength, not aesthetics

D) I was just messing with you, broski

[–][deleted] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

shit testing you*

banter is good practice.

[–]blandboringusername 11 points11 points [recovered]

Always be capable of lifting a woman off the ground.

I submit wife carrying as the ultimate no frills test of alpha. You: strong. Her: petite. See the simple brilliance of it?

If you come in last, you need to make some changes..

[–]abdada 23 points24 points  (4 children)

The downside to the value testing of "can I lift her?" is if you get too strong. Then you end up possibly dating a hamplanet and rationalizing it as "I can lift her."

I do approve of wife carrying as a sport. Unless you're polygamous.

[–]rpscrote 5 points6 points  (1 child)

Then you end up possibly dating a hamplanet and rationalizing it as "I can lift her."

... i have to date her.... i need.... i need progressive overload.... gains....

[–]abdada 5 points6 points  (0 children)

They'll be even more "progressive" if she has a septum ring and pink hair, you cisgendered shitlord.

[–]newls 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Probably no feminists looking to elbow their way into that sport. Apart from some elite shot put girls I'd be amazed to see a girl carry an average sized bloke.

[–]1FrogTrainer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I guess it depends if she is a 1RM or 3x8 with short rest periods.

[–]Senior Endorsed ContributorVasiliyZaitzev 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Always be capable of lifting a woman off the ground. This is defined as "how a man flirts".

Yep. It involves total loss of control for them, which sets the Pussy Tingle Generator aflutter.

Years ago I had a plate who liked to look at herself in the mirror while was boning her. So while she was astride me, I got up off the bed, cock still firmly planted in her loins, and walked over to the full length mirror in her bedroom, so she could "she herself getting fucked better".

She went absolutely berserk. grins

[–]TRP VanguardCyralea 0 points1 point  (1 child)

I've noticed this too. Physicality is the biggest female aphrodisiac. Man-handling your girl is the quickest way to turning her on, if you do it right.

I've found that if you caveman her, pick her up and haul her around on your shoulder jokingly, it works amazingly well. Never found a girl who wasn't responsive to that. They want to feel overwhelmed by your strength.

[–]abdada 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This is also part of why an old dude like me has never had issues competing with young dudes for the coed set: most of the young dudes today are hamplanets who slouch and can't lift their Iron Man logod backpack.

If you're in your 30s or 40s, get ripped (I'm not jacked, just lean and muscular) and join a beach volleyball club. The young onlookers will love the bod and the salt and pepper hair. Pick up one or two and fling then around.

The sound of girls giggling like retards is what lies at the end of the rainbow.

[–]PlanB_pedofile 9 points10 points  (40 children)

Getting old sucks. Today it feels like I need to put in 2x or 3x the effort to do and maintain what I could easily have done in my 20's.

I used to be able to do 1 handed pushups as easily as regular pushups but now I can hardly do 10 proper pushups.

Though making the choice of "Do I want to drop and do 40 or do I want to take the boat out on the lake?" had a lot to do with it. Lets say the boat won each round.

[–]abdada 23 points24 points  (37 children)

I'm in my 40s and I can still do dozens of pushups and pullups, but the body isn't as happy about them. I do them because I would rather lose strength gracefully than never realize I had lost it.

I just bought a new home last week, and I had my contractors put up a fun little bodyweight fitness "playground" in my backyard. I invited one of my buddies over to do some cleanup for cash, and he tried to hit my pull-up bar. He's in his early 30s and he couldn't even do 1, even though he's not fat by any means.

That's scary to me.

[–]PlanB_pedofile 20 points21 points  (5 children)

he's not fat by any means. That's scary to me.

It is! Age catches up fast. I'm not sure about the facts but it seems as you get older it is easier to lose muscle and gain fat than it is to gain muscle and lose fat.

One of my joys is doing yard work with manual tools. Pushmower over rider, wheel barrel over tractor cart, machete and sickle over brush trimmer. The lady asks "why don't you get out the gas trimmer?" as she sees me clearing brush with the sickle. I simply love the exercise and the feel of manual labor. It's the little bit I can do before the office life kicks back in.

Ever see an overweight Amish person? They barely exist. These men maintain a decent BMI well into their grandfather years and a lot has to do with their manual labor work ethic.

Youth is indeed wasted on the young. The manosphere may save a whole generation from becoming fat slobs and pathetic imbeciles.

[–]coffee_and_lumber 10 points11 points  (4 children)

One of my joys is doing yard work with manual tools. Pushmower over rider, wheel barrel over tractor cart, machete and sickle over brush trimmer. The lady asks "why don't you get out the gas trimmer?" as she sees me clearing brush with the sickle. I simply love the exercise and the feel of manual labor. It's the little bit I can do before the office life kicks back in.

I try to do just about every physical thing the hard way, whether it's taking the stairs instead of elevator or parking in the back of the lot, riding my bike when I could drive, or more intensive stuff like hand planing boards instead of just running them through the power planer.

All that stuff builds strength, patience and character.

Heck, I like to play a little Battlefield in the evenings. If the team loses or my kill/death ratio is negative, I drop and bang out 20 pushups between rounds. It's exercise I wouldn't otherwise be doing. I ought to find some other ways to implement this little practice. Fuck up, do pushups.

[–]MrExpress 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Bootcamp PTSD triggered, so many push ups.

[–]DigitallyAborted 0 points1 point  (2 children)

Yes. I too have been using push ups / sit-ups between match rounds. It definitely adds an interesting dynamic to the experience

[–]coffee_and_lumber 1 point2 points  (1 child)

It's at least better than just sitting down.

Incidentally, there was an interview with a pro gamer on the Joe Rogan podcast recently where he mentioned that while hardcore players of stuff like League of Legends and WoW are your stereotypical lumpy nerds, a lot of the high-level guys playing shooters are actually rather athletic and often have a history of sports in school and still try to stay in shape to aid their gaming performance. Given the reflexes required, that's easy to imagine.

[–]DigitallyAborted 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Interestingly enough, I think S. Korea requires "e-gamers" to follow a fitness routine. But I actually started doing it after I watched some old interview with these programmers who would do sit-ups and push ups while they were waiting for their code to compile. It helped me realize how much time I can reclaim throughout my day.

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[–]coffee_and_lumber 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I'm not sure what happened but it seems like dudes used to be stronger on average.

Seems that way. I try not to judge too harshly (because I was there not long ago), but since I've been lifting and watching my diet, I can't help but notice the vast number of men who are in horrible condition. Makes me appreciate all the guys who are keeping it together, especially the ones around my age (38).

I saw that Dad-bod article along with all the people showing support for it, and just shook my head as I ordered a new kettlebell 10 lbs heavier than my old one. I'm not going to begin to relax until I feel like I'm in better shape than any other time in my life.

[–]rpscrote 0 points1 point  (2 children)

dude who laughs at a kid who does 10 pull ups probably weighs 140 lbs. Yeah no shit, I could do 140 lbs for fuckin days chump. If you're at 200 thats an additional 60 lbs on the lift. Pull ups arent magical. They still need progressive overload and they still are based on a weight being pulled...

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[–]rpscrote 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I stand corrected -- sounds like a really cool dude

[–]babayega 7 points8 points  (7 children)

Get on TRT. Become stronger than 99% of 20 year olds. Got money to blow on pharma HGH? Get better skin than 99% of 20 year olds.

[–]abdada 6 points7 points  (1 child)

My doctor has a few clients who are on TRT in their 60s and 70s. I don't feel the need to supplement hormonally although I will review again on the back half of my 40s!

[–]whip_dealer 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Review it now. You'll thank me later.

[–]imgonnabethegreatest 5 points6 points  (1 child)

Or you could increase your testosterone and lower your estrogen levels naturally.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (1 child)

Been wanting to start, but where do you source it?

[–]rpscrote 0 points1 point  (0 children)

in the us, you get a prescription from an endocrinologist or sometimes even your general practitioner. GPs are stingy on writing the Rx though.

[–]Senior Endorsed ContributorVasiliyZaitzev 2 points3 points  (1 child)

I'm in my 40s and I can still do dozens of pushups and pullups, but the body isn't as happy about them. I do them because I would rather lose strength gracefully than never realize I had lost it.

Late 40s checking in. You are 100% right about what you're doing. As we age, if we don't work out, the decline comes on fast and picks up speed.

I try to keep going even when I'm on the road for work (which isn't often, but is brutal when it happens - 15 hour days). On short time, if I can only do dips and squats, then that's enough to keep going.

[–]abdada 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I want to get to advanced BWF levels this summer.

A kid I work out with outdoors is 100% BWF and he is insanely ripped but not overly jacked. His pushups look horrifying to do but it's a personal challenge.

[–]blandboringusername 4 points4 points [recovered]

I'm in my 40s and I can still do dozens of pushups and pullups

I'm several years older than you and I did forty on Friday (sets of ten) + an easier CrossFit WOD + deadlift + bag training. The guys over at talk about "how to do your first pull-up" all the time. Negatives and body weight rows, etc. Even when I was a little kid in grade school I could do a few. The really strong kids could do ten. Fast forward a few decades and now it's common for average 'Murican grown-ass men to be unable to do one pull-up.

Personal pet theory: man titties secrete estrogen. You heard it here first! :p

[–]coffee_and_lumber 5 points6 points  (1 child)

Personal pet theory: man titties secrete estrogen. You heard it here first!

Processed food, too much alcohol and a sedentary lifestyle must certainly be contributing to lower T in American men these days. I never understood how low my testosterone was until I started lifting. Now it seems to be blasting through my body. I feel like a fucking jaguar walking around. Wake up to boners every single day. I look absolutely everyone right in their eye. And I've only just started really. Amazing how things can change.

[–]redambience 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I started lifting daily a month and a half ago. I stopped drinking completely about three weeks ago. I've been cutting refined carbohydrates out whenever I can.

Coincidentally, I am currently on a rocketship heading to Testosteroneland. I already feel like a completely different person, I have no idea what I will be like in 6 months.

Start now. Just fucking do it.

[–]DikIn1HandPenInOther 2 points3 points  (4 children)

Personal pet theory: man titties secrete estrogen. You heard it here first! :p

"Fat cells produce estrogen as well.[9]"


Basic biology :)

[–]Stinger86[🍰] 4 points5 points  (3 children)

Yah, there is a more or less direct link between bodyfat and estrogen levels. Simply put, getting fat kills testosterone and skyrockets estrogen. There is a reason chicks like rock hard abs on a dude because it means he's flowing with T.

[–]DikIn1HandPenInOther 3 points4 points  (2 children)

There is a direct link. The link I posted is a soft source that estrogen is produced by adipose cells.

[–]Stinger86[🍰] 0 points1 point  (1 child)

Ah damn, ok, no gray area, you are right.

"Fat cells produce estrogen as well." -direct quote from the wiki article you linked

Man that's crazy to think about. I wonder what sumo wrestler estrogen levels are like.

[–]rpscrote 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Man that's crazy to think about. I wonder what sumo wrestler estrogen levels are like

I wouldn't be surprised if at the pro level they took aromatase inhibitors to lower estrogen

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (4 children)

As an 18 year old guy who just started working on getting fit this year and can only do 8 pullups in a set at the moment, it amazes me that there are people who've had more time to develop who can't do even a single one. Props to you for keeping your body in shape as you age, not too many guys bother with fitness past 35.

[–]abdada 9 points10 points  (3 children)

Well, consider this: where other guys "have fun" by watching some shitty TV show or playing some shitty repetitive video game, I have fun by rewarding my brain when my body does something I consider amazing. I'd rather be out on a surf board or a paddleboard than flipping channels or mashing X/Y buttons.

If I want to continue to reward my brain by pushing my body, my body has to keep it up.

My doctor is in his 80s and he still goes sailing. He still plays a fierce game of racquetball. That's a heroic role model, to me. One of my corporate clients I've worked for since the early 90s is now in his late 60s and he can still crush me when we bash a volleyball around in 1-on-1, or when we play tug of war (note: he's taller than me with more muscle mass, but it's still fun).

I can't abide guys who are younger than me and pudgy and lazy. If someone wants me to mentor to them, the first step is for them to start a savings account, and the second step is for them to be able to outrun me in a sprint. Neither of those are difficult to attain, but they're requirements.

Also: abs take 15 years off a man's face.

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (1 child)

A really good way of looking at things, I like your perspective on having fun. And good requirements for mentoring - reminds me of Ramit Sethi who refuses to let you buy his finance/entrepreneurship courses if you have credit card debt.

[–]icecow 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'd think stop doing 10 pushups, and figure out what the weight equivalent is on a free bench press, then do 65-75% of that weight using the bench press, using long range, do more reps, repeat every two days.

[–]zerooneb166er 9 points10 points  (0 children)

This is why, when I'm at home, I literally carry her off to bed. I never thought much of it, but upon reflection I realize that it involves a cocktail of great stuff.

1) Rock solid intent. You don't pick a girl up and throw her in your bed without being 100% sure of what you intend to do. 2) Display of strength. Girls are light, but they still love this stuff. 3) Innate caveman stuff . If she isn't trying to run away, she's literally being dragged off into your cave. Biology ensues. 4) Something unique. Who else does this? 5) Humor. Bump her feet on your bedroom door frame a little bit on the way in. You'll both laugh, and that lightens the mood while getting a little more dopamine flowing. 6) Follow through. Once you plop her down in your cushy and well made bed, she EXPECTS you to have at her. At this point you have momentum on your side. It feels natural and you can't help but have an amazing night. She'll play right along and have a blast doing it.

[–]Dev_on 8 points8 points [recovered]

caveman will win.

My current SO absolutely loved it one day. drunk in Seattle. no idea what happened, I was half out of it, but some dude grabbed her arm and wouldn't let go.

Normally, I am the gentlest guy ever, I choke slammed him into a picture frame, cut my finger a little on the glass...

I was the mighty hero for months after that. Only thing that came close was busting into first aid mode when some poor bastard at a coffee house had an insulin seizure, and I was the only one who had any clue what to do other than surround him and stare.

So yeah, regardless of what they say, a show of strength (minus the bragging) is nothing but catnip for chicks

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

In college I thought it would be a good idea to bench press one of the girls I was hanging with on her bed. I don't think I did it with perfect form :). I wasn't an overly jacked juice head either. Just a cockstrong athlete with lots of testosterone pumping. Anyway, yeah, things turned out well that night.

[–]leredditaccounts 1 point2 points  (2 children)

I envy you. I was a fat cunt until I was 19. Then sorted myself out now. But i'm a 5'8 manlet and I struggle to eat a caloric surplus. I'm trying to cut currently so I can fit back into my smaller pants and then hopefully start making real gains.

[–]rpscrote 1 point2 points  (0 children)

drink more of your food if you cant fit it all in on a bulk. Also train stomach capacity -- overload. Did this personally and I went from barely being able to put down 2500 calories a day to putting down 3000 cleanish calories in a meal. Used to be the typical overly skinny kid. But I got too good at bulking and put on fat. Still searching for that happy medium

[–]abdada 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I struggle on bulks for about two weeks. Then my stomach can handle it.

I do a lot of precooked meals so I can eat when I get hungry and not lose my hungry window.

[–][deleted] 38 points39 points  (3 children)

Posts like this are what keep us guys that have internalized the redpill philosophy and no longer need to constantly read the sub's material coming back here. By giving back, we are choosing to allow other men who would have otherwise gone through life never realizing their full potential become the powerhouses they were born to be.

Without male spaces for men to give uncensored real talk advice to their younger peers we would never know what it feels like to push ourselves to become great.

[–]rpscrote 11 points12 points  (0 children)

the most satisfying part of all of this is seeing the lightbulb turn on and knowing that man's path is irrevocably changed for the better

[–]rich_ripped_redneck 4 points5 points  (1 child)

Also I keep coming back because new posts can create new understandings. TRP has the best real content on reddit.

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Real content on the internet, tbh.

[–][deleted] 43 points44 points  (1 child)

Always look forward to these posts, still waiting to see one of these made in the purple pill/blue pill section.

Thanks BP/PP because of you I became the ULTIMATE cuck!

[–]Brian_Official 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Time to start my affiliate blog marketing my ebook of 10 tricks women wish men knew! I'm really considering it

[–]justmanthings 15 points16 points  (17 children)

Are you just doing basic arbitrage with amazon? Buying discounted items and then shipping them to FBA for them to handle?

Curious because im getting into importing/ecommerce myself.

[–]shoonx 8 points9 points  (16 children)

Yes, that is exactly what I'm doing.

I highly recommend at least trying it. I have never looked back.

[–]justmanthings 5 points6 points  (1 child)

Very cool. I just set up my sellers and FBA account. I know there's a ton of courses and guides available. Do you have any favorites or recommendations?

[–]wuneternalround 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Would love a reco on how you started with Amazon FBA.


[–]turn30left 2 points3 points  (12 children)

Can you go into more detail? I'm right on the precipice of a startup.

[–]shoonx 16 points17 points  (11 children)

Not a problem.

I go into big box stores(Walmart, Target) and scan down every aisle that I can. Don't just go to the clearance aisle. The best items are usually full-priced.

I'll use Frozen as an example here.

Let's say I find an Elsa doll at the local Target for $10.00. It's currently listed on Amazon for $30.00. The prices are so different it sounds unreal, I know, but they're out there.

I can guess that after Amazon takes their cut, and any other small fees are addressed, I would end up with around $10 in profit off of a single unit.

It's kind of hard to get into too much detail without writing a novel, because every item can be different.

A lot of prices on product remain stagnant, too. This means that you can continuously go into that same store, buy the same product, and sell it for the same price. Hell, 30-40% of my profits come from renewable sources.

There are a lot of people on the internet that can give you better information than I can. Do some searching around the internet, and you'll find a lot of useful info.

All of the information you'll initially take in will be overwhelming. Once you start picking up on everything, you realize that it's actually fairly easy to make it in this game. :)

[–]frys180 3 points4 points  (3 children)

Thank you very much for this info. By the way, as far as what people are willing to buy, do people generally buy anything you put up there? In other words, is the demand great enough that it attracts a vast array of consumers to the extent that almost everything you put up will be sold at some point?

[–]shoonx 5 points6 points  (1 child)

Yea, basically any group of items will have profitable things to buy.

So far, I've sold anything from toys to cleaning supplies. Go into a store and scan, scan, scan. Scan every aisle you can. I guarantee you will find at least one thing that you can profit off of. :)

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So basically you buy things in real stores and sell them for more money on amazon, am I corect? (english is not my main language)

[–]newls 1 point2 points  (1 child)

Out of curiosity what app do you use to scan and compare items?

[–]shoonx 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I just use the Amazon Seller app

[–]turn30left 1 point2 points  (1 child)

I took the plunge and bought a hundred dollars worth of stuff today. Thanks for the info.

[–]shoonx 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Let me know how it goes, brother!

[–]whyalwaysm3 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Just commenting here so I can read this when I get home. Mobile is being whack right now lol

[–]onetowatch 13 points14 points  (4 children)

Great motivation brother. I work a freelance job but spend most of the day on the net, wasting my fucking time. Your post has lit a fire under my ass, and I appreciate it. I quit weed a few years ago and felt much better, but spent a few days getting high a month or go and lost hella motivation for the past month, regressing into blue pill ways and sinking into fucking depression, but I know I need to pull myself out of this alone. Can I just ask what routine you're on? I tried starting strength and 5x5 but hated them, and had a 5xweek routine which just left me exhausted. Props for any advice, and thanks again for the motivation.

[–]lucid8 4 points5 points  (0 children)

If you go to gym 5 times a week, you should eat and sleep a lot more than you do now. Otherwise, you'll exhaust yourself. Consider looking into supplements (whey protein, creatine) if you want faster recovery.

[–]rpscrote 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Go every other day instead of 5x a week. IMO, it's way more satisfying to go really hard every other day than to hold back so you can go more often. Id recommend you stick with starting strength, just do it every other day/3x a week instead of 5. It'll be a lot less miserable that way.

On a bulk you can up it to 4x a week and eat more. On a cut, reduce intra workout volume, but still go 3x a week, and keep your weights heavy to maintain strength.

Your routine should have deadlift, squat, bench press, barbell row +back flies, chinup/pullup and overhead press. Add in 1-2 accessory exercises to target small muscle groups that need developing (especially rotator cuffs and rear delts, keeping these strong will prevent shoulder injury down the line)

[–]redbluepilling 2 points3 points  (1 child)

Why did you hate SS / 5x5? Consider this time a great opportunity to practice reframing useless, hindering, negative thoughts. SS/5x5 should be simple. Lift heavier and then heavier each time, feel like a beast, and see the numbers rise. When you stall and reset, you accept it as part of the process, review if you have areas to improve, and continue to focus.

Lifting is a metaphor of a man's life.

[–]onetowatch 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not sure if anyone will see this, but what the heck. The OPs post has been in my head constantly for the last week, and I'm fucking planning my goals and life and not letting anyone tell me what the fuck I can't do anymore.

Regarding SS and SL, I tried both for quite a few months, The huge problem was that, even though I hated squats I pushed through them, but my thighs are already huge and just became monstrous, while the rest of my body was kind of the same, just more bulky. Very much considering http://www.powerliftingtowin.com/greyskull-lp/ but for now will get back into running and get the bodyweight going until I can get to 100 on pushups etc. Good luck anyone else changing their lives, the OPs post is huge for mindset, at least for me.

[–]BroChapeau 12 points13 points  (0 children)

This post made me realize -- I think Los Angeles area TRP people might really like the mens group I'm forming. We make commitments to one another every other week, and keep each other accountable to upholding them. On pain of $50 next meeting.

Define your objectives and hustle for your own success. They must be specific and measurable.

We meet in South Pasadena.

If you're interested in this kind of iron sharpens iron brotherhood PM me.

[–]seattleron 16 points16 points [recovered]

I hear Boulder is sweet, just make sure you don't get sucked back into smoking every night. Ya know, because legal.

[–]shoonx 7 points8 points  (4 children)

I plan on using Cannabis again once I quit my day job.

The only reason I smoked so much is that I was trying to get as much out of my "away from work" time as I possibly could.

Once I quit this job, that won't be a problem anymore. I'll be able to use Cannabis in a way that doesn't kill my drive to better myself. :)

[–][deleted] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I've found the best way to smoke without being a lazy couch potato is only smoking outdoors. Only smoke when you're out and about doing shit, not when you're sitting at home being a lazy shit. It also incentivizes going out and doing shit, and makes just chilling at home much less appealing.

This'd be easy for you to do up in Boulder, the mountains are beautiful there and you'll be right at the base of them. Don't even need a car to get up to them, it's just a medium walk or a short bike ride. Great city, and you can get your hands on any drugs you want.

[–]1aguy01 5 points6 points  (1 child)

Get yourself a portable vaporizer. They are pretty cheap, less than $100. The high from vaped weed is much less 'lazy' and you can still get stuff done. And it filters out most of the carcinogens and shit that builds up in your lungs.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

To add to this, there's two types of Cannabis: Indica and Sativa.

Indica is the easiest to remember because it's a heavy pain killer sleepy high. People call it "In Da Couch" instead of In-di-ca.

Sativa is different. It's a much more alert buzz. It will not make you as lethargic. In fact, you might get some energy to create or do something while vaping Sativa.

[–]Wilhelm_Stark 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's probably one of the reasons he's moving there. You can still smoke weed and do shit. You just need to keep yourself in check.

[–]Nicholas_ 6 points7 points  (5 children)

I've recently mastered doing one legged pistol squats which made normal squatting seem piss easy in comparison.

It jumped my 205 squat for 10 reps into 235 for 20 (not even bullshitting).

[–]thermodynamik 1 point2 points  (3 children)

Agreed. Nice going. Do you keep your leg straight out no problems? I can do them but my flexibility is lacking.

[–]Nicholas_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I try to but it isn't really needed so long as you can go down ass to grass with your one leg.

When things get really hard, I'll hold onto my bedside post for stability when I'm pushing 12+ reps. Feels good though having that functional strength, much akin to gymnasts and such.

[–]Nicholas_ 1 point2 points  (1 child)

Also to expand upon what I wrote. What really helped me excell in any type of rep-range and getting stronger was to sort of get into a deep breathing trance if you will and then to just give it your all.

I used to suffer getting stronger and better by being too scared to push it that one step above for fear of getting injured, but then I realized that even if it happens, it's the only way to get better at something.

[–]thermodynamik 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Cool. I dont suspect i suffer from being too scared so to speak...but it might seem fair to say i am either often too lazy or averse to the pain to go those extra reps..or that i dont want it bad enough to sacrifice. I want it...but only to a point.

[–]rpscrote 0 points1 point  (0 children)

bulgarian split squat is super helpful in that regard too

[–]Elodrian 4 points5 points  (1 child)

Just like a sick person would need a vaccination. The initial shot hurts, but in the long run, it's helping you out tremendously.

You don't vaccinate people who are already sick. You're thinking of antibiotics.

[–]shoonx 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Ultra-derp. Yes, that's what I meant.

[–]Kolbykilla 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I'm always skeptical about stuff like this, how do you make such a profit with amazon. They literally take 15 to almost 20% of your profit margin. You have to be getting an incredible deal to actually make a profit with that amount being taken out of each purchase.

[–]OnTheSpotKarma 5 points6 points  (4 children)

I'm exactly the guy you were, I have a 20$ / hour job in a call center, I hate call centers it feels like I'm trapped. I work 9-6 but because I'm using public transit I leave at 7am and come home at 7:30pm. I never had any social circles or real friends. I smoke weed from 7:30pm to midnight and if I don't, I can't sleep. I walk about 2km a day and that's about it for sport, other than that I'm on my couch.


I have a very good looking face / eyes, I never weighted more than 160 and I'm 26. I eat whatever I want and I never exercise. Where ever I go, beautiful womens will stare at me, smile at me, fixate on me. I have a naturally deep voice.

I grew up without any friends, raised by a single mother, always alone but respected / accepted by others just because of my looks. I feel like they way I look is the only reason people have interest in me.


I'm still the nice guy who gets no woman, can't really engage on a meaningful level. I transformed my insecurities at a very young age into a desire to live alone, apart from others, because I seriously feel like this world is increasingly turning to shit with this increase in technology and decrease in human interactions. I hate everything about it, the meaningless jobs doing meaningless shit for meaningless people that in the end, negatively impact the human race as a whole. I hate people that think about themselves in terms of how much money they got or the possessions they have. At the age of 18 I decided that I was strong enough to not interact with any of this shit and do my own thing and stay sane by sticking to my values. Everyday I try to find joy in the simplest thing, just looking at nature and enjoying it. I'm disgusted by womens who screw left and right without any considerations for who they will end up hurting. I feel like today society is more and more dysfunctional at a fundamental level. You can see it when you look at how many people increasingly suffer from depressions, You can see it with the way today society takes care of its elders. You can see it when children leave school to go to daycare until 7-8pm because both parents are working thanks to feminism and new age values.

I thought I'd be able to ignore this fucked place my whole life but increasingly I'm depressed, sometimes thinking I should just end it. I wish I could have a relation but I feel like destroying myself in the process is not worth it.

I never really opened up about this before but I read your post and identified with you and thought I'd share to see what you guys think. My english is not the best and it might not be structured very good but I hope you understand the way I think and I'd like advice I can use to better myself, give myself a meaningful reason to wake up.

[–]shoonx 5 points6 points  (2 children)

I absolutely agree with you, man.

Society is fucked beyond belief at the moment.

My job is a call center, as well. I'll be quitting in 2 months, thank Flying Spaghetti Monster.

The depression sucks, I know. It took a lot of motivation/effort for me to start bettering myself.

Trust me. Once you better yourself, you will NEVER regret taking time out of your day to do so. Yea, I worked a shit ton at first, balancing my normal job and business at first. Now? Now I'm close to quitting my job. I'll only have to worry about my business. I love my business, so I don't even consider it worry.

Do you know how great it is to wake up during a week day, and NOT have to report to some stupid office? It feels astounding, my friend.

Your English is great, by the way. Much better than the average English speaker, to be honest.

If you're looking for a way out of your shitty job, I highly recommend doing what I'm doing. Anybody can do it. You'll gain so much free time, and the stress will disappear. :)

[–]OnTheSpotKarma 0 points1 point  (1 child)

I really appreciate your answer, I tried a couple times to start businesses with no investments but never succeeded. Can you elaborate on how you started your Amazon business, what category of product are you reselling?

[–]shoonx 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I sell all kinds of product.

Anything is profitable. From cleaning supplies to toys.

I simply set up my Amazon account, and used the free app to browse stores.

The sub FulfillmentByAmazon has some great information for beginners.

If you need any further help, don't be afraid to PM me. I'll be more than happy to help a brother out. :)

[–]redhurtsdonut 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Your story hits close to home. I think I am in the same boat you are. Physically, I am a facially attractive guy and have always been in good shape. Being raised in a family full of loud women and not having basic money crippled me socially.

I worked in a call center too. Money was okay but it was life draining. Find your way out mate. Save up for a car. Find a better career. Dress well. Do everything guys in this sub preach. It is worth it.

[–]Austinthelamp 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This doesn't have much to do with this sub reddit but I would like to know how your business works if you have a minute to explain it.

[–]delasjefe 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Good shit man, taking control of your life is invaluable.

[–]StoneTiger40 2 points3 points  (2 children)

What's your workout program and diet?

[–]shoonx 3 points4 points  (1 child)

I lift 5 days a week, run 5-6 miles/day, and meditate and stretch and night.

My diet is just eating as cleanly as possible. A lot of eggs, sweet potatoes, chicken breast, rice, and olive oil. You can cook some good shit and still eat healthy. You just have to find the right recipes.

I highly recommend the sub eatcheapandhealthy for anyone who's looking for healthy meals.

[–]momomotorboat 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Won't get all crazy and say this needs to be sidebar material, but this should be part of a standard archive to reference when SJWs and the likes start labeling what we do. It's stuff like this that we promote.

[–]Damnsonnicethrowaway 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Holy shit this motivates me so much man.

[–]Temptationn 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It was transforming from a fun weekend, to having to have it when I come home from work everyday.

I fell into this loop, months ago and still stuck. Lucky for me I refuse to smoke during the day. I wake up around 10 head to class come home read trp then go to the gym as soon as I get home and eat I just want to smoke. what turned to just smoking on weekends has turned into smoking a blunt every night.

How did you manage to quit cold turkey? I usually have great will power but I can't seem to get out of smoking, it's not effecting my work or making me lazy but spending that extra money is where I need to stop.

[–]RationalistFaith1 1 point2 points  (1 child)

Awesome writeup! Do you have advice on how you'd introduce TRP or red goggles at least to your former self?

[–]pellibr 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for sharing, I know all about that but sometimes I'm dragged back into a shit way of life and I need something to snap out of it again. Closing Reddit NOW and going on with life.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Whats your Amazon business?

[–]TRP VanguardCyralea 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I looked back at myself and was pissed at how much time I wasted just sitting on my computer chair, high as a kite, browsing Reddit and fapping to stupid porn.

It's so fucking hard to realize this until you're past it. A long time ago I was a serious videogame addict. Used to sink hours and hours straight into it without a thought, didn't see it as harmful in any way.

I got fed up the way you did and went cold turkey for a while. What a difference it made. It's like I couldn't run out of motivation. Gaming shortcuts our work-reward pathway, makes us lazy as fuck.

You don't have to go entirely cold turkey, but if you're not happy with your life there's absolutely no reason to be wasting your time with mindless gaming. Same goes for TV-watching, getting high, or any other non-improvement activity.

[–]1kick6 1 point2 points  (2 children)

Now that you've quit smoking weed: Maybe you want to re-evaluate your "dream city" too? Having lived in Golden, CO for 5 years...I have to imagine that most people who would choose Boulder as a dream city do so because of weed.

[–]SkyrimCory 1 points1 points [recovered]

Yeah. My dream city would be in the PNW. Boulder is where I live now, and I have friends at Mines. I love Boulder, and Colorado is pretty cool, but I feel like OP has too much hype for this college town if he's older than college students.

[–]1kick6 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The reason I was in Golden for 5 years was Mines. I appreciated that CU girls were slutty and hotter than the almost-nonexistent mines girls, but other than that...I thought Boulder kinda sucked.

[–]ENTangl3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Fuck yeah. made me smile reading this

[–]TheDerpyDonut 0 points1 point  (2 children)

I just stumbled here because everyone mentions TRP, is this all it's about? Bettering yourself? I should probably look around more first but I'd just like someone to explain what exactly goes on here.

[–]shoonx 2 points3 points  (1 child)

Most of TRP is how to fulfill your natural role as a man. Whether that be women, money, responsibilities, etc etc.

Don't listen to some of the lesser parts of Reddit. TRP is not some "misogynistic male circle jerk", oh no, my friend.

This sub is for men to have civil discussion about our gender in general. Welcome to TRP, brother. :)

[–]TheDerpyDonut 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Most of TRP is how to fulfill your natural role as a man. Whether that be women, money, responsibilities, etc etc.

Hmm, alright. It may or may not be relevant to me as I'm not ultimately concerned about women. I'll definitely lurk for a better idea/curiosity though.

[–]JackBrush 0 points1 point  (0 children)

why boulder? weeds legal in Denver you know. plus the night life isn't as shit.

[–]Heizenbrg 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Great FR. This was me two years ago, now I'm realizing just how hard it is out there when reaching for success. Unless it's a minimum wage job, nobody will give you a shot unless you got contacts or can prove yourself someway.
In my opinion playing video games and being a recluse is very detrimental to your social skills, better stop or you will pay the price, for years if you don't change your mind set.

[–]milugan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Boulder, CO. should be the title of this story.

[–]redhurtsdonut 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Six months and you have made some great progress! You don't know who I am but I am rooting for you.

Thank you for posting this. I am in a similar situation to you and your post reminds me that I do not struggle alone.

[–]VanillaVeku 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your words were hurtful at first. I needed them, though.

Yes, this sub is in the business of telling people what they need to hear, not what they want to hear.

Glad you're doing better for yourself mate!

[–]jamaicanleprechaun 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Great Post Man,glad things are working out for the better! I am curious about your Amazon reselling business and want to start something,would you be able to explain how/what you do? Cheers

[–]kitso78 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh shit man, read the parkour part and just got so happy. PM me. I've been doing that shit for almost two years and might be able to help you out a bit.

[–]krakosia 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What's the amazon business?

[–]coffee_and_lumber 0 points1 point  (3 children)

Regarding quitting weed...I don't know your response to the stuff, but it absolutely supercharges my workouts to a furious state, alongside a marked increase in fluidity of form. It's really great at showing me what a weak, silly little bitch I'll be if I don't put up just ooooone more rep, even if it feels like it'll kill me. Oh ho ho, little man, how about one more rep on top of that one? And so forth.

And when the munchies hit, post-workout, I just bang down a Rocky Road-flavored protein shake (Optimal Nutrition Gold Standard) with some coconut milk, banana, ice and a few strawberries. Delicious.

In the same way weed makes sitting around playing games and looking at porn better, it can amplify all the productive shit you do too. Your mileage may vary however.

[–]shoonx 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do like weightlifting when I'm high.

I plan on smoking again once I quit my day job. The only reason weed is bad for me at the time being is that I want to just unwind and get high after the long work day. Once I no longer have to worry about that, I'll definitely be toking again.

It also helps my Crohn's Disease, a lot.

[–]gzmaster -2 points-1 points  (1 child)

Bad advice. May be the case for you, but honestly, do not recommend.


[–]redambience 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This guys arguments can be countered with "Vape weed but don't be a lazy shitass when you do it."

Video is full of shit. YMMV.

[–][deleted] -1 points0 points  (2 children)

Reselling is shitty online jobs.

[–]scholarly_pimp -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Fuckin' awesome man! You've inspired me as I've hit a comfortable spot in my life. I need to hit the pavement and hit it hard. NEVER GET TOO COMFORTABLE!

Keep up the great work.