If you ever want to know if you can hang longterm with an LTR go on vacation together. Nothing beats the dreaded whiny woman when you are trying your best to relax and enjoy some time away from the rat race.
Us married guys get the thrill of not only taking the whiny woman but also taking our kids! And this time, My parents as well.
So how do you survive a family vacation/work trip/wedding weekend/whatever as a redpill Alpha male.
First- MOST families I know- the wife takes control of the vacation. She plans it, maps it out, and does all the prep work. Well sad sack dad works some OT to pay for it. Is this a good idea? NO. If you want a vacation that is stress free and drives your SO into the sack with you- you need to plan that shit.
Sure, get her input. Have an idea of what she wants. She will hate you if you decide that you want a paint balling vacation in an Alaskan winter. But you get the idea.
Want to know the secret to planning a great disney vacation? Get someone else to do it for you. There are a million different sites/people/organizations that will do it for you. With about 10 minutes of emailing back and forth, I had a great Disney vacation planned. You can do the same thing for ANY vacation/day trip/whatever. Spend 20 minutes with google and get a plan together. People love spending all day online talking about how great they are at taking vacations while they eat cheetos and hit the wall. Take their endless online dribble and make a plan. Women LOVE it when a man has a plan.
Second- Kill the "what do you want to do? Where do you want to eat? Do you think this is a good idea?" Conversations. I have three kids. And was dragging my mom and my dad (who is competent enough). There was no way I was going to spend one second discussing what everyone wanted with two women who never know what they want. So I took 5 minutes every morning to plan out the day and they just followed me around.
I told them when and where we would eat. What rides to go on. Made decisions about ride length and when to wait. Simple.
Third- bat those shit tests/dumb women stuff. My mom loves to get really anxious for no reason. What are we doing next? Cant we make it? OH MY GOD IS THAT (I stopped listening).
The key- become the type of man that can say "I got this, just follow me" and watch as the women just soak up this idea. They shut their mouths and enjoy themselves. BUT you do need to be the type of man that can illicit this response.
Fourth- don't let your guard down. Maintain that frame. There were times when I was tired of making all the decision. Resented my wife for not being able to make a simple decision. But I sucked it up and kept going. Because I knew what was best for the vacation and the family.
After a few days at Disney, we went to the beach. Same thing. I dictated the daily schedule, told everyone what we were going to do, and we did it.
The effect? First- my mother. Normally she is a pain to be around because she doesn't stop talking, whining, and worrying. Typical Womanly Behavior. This time around? She was almost fun to be around. Amazing. Because the anxiety of decision making was taken from her hands. She could just sit back and have fun.
The kids? Well, we were at disney for three days and we had zero meltdowns. The kids were on point all day long. Which is a fucking miracle. But that's because I made sure they had adequate sleep, plenty of water, rests, suntan lotion, and decent food.
The wife? Couldn't keep her hands off me all week. Did not stop complimenting me. She raves about how great of a job I did. Versus the pre-red pill days when we would have argued all week, stone cold physically, and she would have resented me for at least a year about the quality of the vacation. She was so fucking at ease all week she could stop the crazy and have fun.
Did I have a good time? Hell yeah. Mainly because it was a test of my development. We as MEN need to test ourselves. This isn't exactly climbing everest or defeating the mongol hordes but the idea is the same. Place yourself in difficult positions so you can test where you have weaknesses. Where you have strengths. And what you can do to grow and achieve greatness.