Even though I have previously read (thanks, Rollo) about the subject I am about to address, I find it not to be mentioned here nearly as often as I believe it would prove to be helpful for all of us.
My intent with this text is not to provide advice but to polish your RP glasses a bit more, so that you can base your own actions on a larger absence of blue fog. I will mention a fair amount of concepts we are all familiar with and tie them up together, to demonstrate how even though men and women are biologically different, some similarities can be observed when the broad theme of plate spinning is considered.
What brings me here today is my will to address what I believe to be a fair amount of symmetry in the male/female inter-gender behavioral dichotomy, and the implications of this.
Plate Spinning Symmetry: Sex-Plates VS Attention-Plates
It should be no news for you how men can plate woman for sex by making them try to get some attention, and eventually providing it in the right, scarce dosage. Men can use women as Sex-Plates, because they have something that women want: attention.
Well, woman do exactly the same with men, but in a reverse way: they plate men for attention by making them try to get some sexual intimacy, and eventually providing it in the right, scarce dosage (not even going further than a peck on the cheek will keep the BB hamster thinking progress is being made), also commonly known as the “Friend Zone”.
Women can use men as Attention-Plates, because they have something that men want: sex. This is how a woman “fucks” you the female way.
With this is mind, the next time you go out on a fourth date with a girl and you still end up going home alone to polish your own knob, I want you to understand that she’s already fucked you four times, and you’ve fucked her zero times.
It does not matter whether you paid for the dates or split the bill. What matters is that you gave her your attention at the cost of nothing.
Being a Slut: Sex Sluts VS Attention Sluts
No one respects a slut.
A man might fuck a slut, but he won’t respect a slut. Why? Simply because she gives out what men value (sex) too easily. A man might plate her around for sex, but he won’t respect her.
The same goes for women. No woman likes a man who gives out what they value (attention) too easily. A woman might plate him around for attention, but she won’t respect him.
If you are a man who chases after women and gives them attention at the cost of nothing, they will see you as a male slut. You are an attention slut, and no one respects a slut.
Inequality and Women’s Leverage
Now that we have addressed the resemblance on both men and women’s way to interact with the opposite sex, let us to evaluate from here onwards how the feminine imperative is placing men in a disadvantageous situation from the get-go.
Plate-Spinning Social Acceptance
Attention-Plate Spinning is socially acceptable mostly because it falls into plausible deniability lands (“We are just friends”).
Sex-Plate Spinning is not socially acceptable. Fucking is fucking. There is no “But we are just friends” fucking.
Moreover, society is so biased towards women’s Attention-Plate Spinning that it reaches the point where women keeping their Attention-Plates even when entering an LTR is socially acceptable, unlike the possibility of a man keeping his Sex-Plates.
Contemporary monogamy is not more than sexual, and sexual only, monogamy, strongly biased towards the feminine imperative.
Attention-Plate Spinning is socially acceptable. Sex-Plate Spinning is not.
The Cost of Attention VS the Cost of Sex
Attention is a much more transactional and hence also more abundant product than sex. Once you compare both sides of the coin, you’ll realize their engines run on an abundant good, while ours run on a scarce commodity.
Moreover, most men believe the Sexual Market Place is a mercantile society and thus act on the premise that if we give them enough attention, they will give us sex. Not only is this wrong from the negotiating desire perspective, but also from the angle where you realize men are offering something that exists in abundance while expecting something scarce in return.
Attention is abundant. Sex is scarce.
Holding Out and Promoting
You know how a Plate of yours can eventually be upgraded to an LTR (should that be something you are up for) and start getting your emotional support, in case you find her to eventually meet your demands, and both of you can actually enjoy things that way? Yeah, it doesn't work the other way around. Sex with a woman who has “promoted you” is not worth it.
Sex-Plates can be upgraded. Attention-Plates can’t.
It goes without saying that we can create leverage by understanding the game, since women usually don’t.
Unlike women, a man who spins plates is a man who consciously knows what he is doing, and follows the rules of the game, because he has to. So, even though women do it instinctively due to their acting in their own environment, the fact that they are successful most of the times makes them unable to effectively react to adversity when their game fails.
This one of the main keys for a man to obtaining power in the Sexual Market Place, so use it.
In case this was the first time you have come across the concept of the female way to spin plates, I hope you understand from now onwards that, whenever a girl makes you compete with other men for her intimacy, “fight” for her or simply wait for her to be “ready” to spread her legs, you’re not competing, fighting or even waiting for shit.
You’re being spun.