Summary: Woman complains to reddit that her husband is having tons of affairs...except she was the one who cheated first with an ex boyfriend. Now she "doesn't know what to do".
Pure gold from dead bedrooms: https://archive.is/eFdP8
Here are some nuggets from the text:
I've been married for 5 years and have a baby son. We've had a lot to go through and a couple of years ago I cheated with an old boyfriend. It was one time and hasn't happened again, nor have I had any contact with him. I should add that at the same time my husband was also actively looking for other women to have sex with, and had a one night stand on a night out with his friend. My husband found out about my cheating and has used it as essentially emotional blackmail to force an "open marriage", i.e. he will fuck whichever random skank he wishes.
Translation: First off, I have a baby son, so feel bad for me even though I was the one who damaged our marriage. I am a victim. I cheated on my husband of 5 years with my alpha ex (oops) and suggested we should have an open marriage. He agreed. To my surprise, my alpha ex never returned my texts and had no desire to fuck me again. But now, my husband has downgraded me to plate status and I have no idea what to do!
He says that these dozens of encounters, including at least 3 which I would definitely call affairs, don't count because he doesn't give them any emotion, but they make me die inside.
Translation: He flipped my own script on me and the hypocrisy is killing me.
We do still have sex about once a week but I feel physically repulsed by him.
Translation: My past doesn't matter. But his does and it disgusts me.
I have told him that the cheating makes me feel this way but he tells me that essentially I deserve it. I know there is no excuse for my cheating but he simply has callous disregard for my feelings.
Translation: He's right. Shit. I do deserve it. But...my FEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEELLLIIIIIINGGGGGSSS (note: his feelings were not important when I fucked my ex)
The last time we had sex I asked him to choke me because I literally wanted to black out until it was over.
Translation: I am hoping if I degrade myself and give him the alpha sex he wants, he'll treat me special again. Plus, I do enjoy being choked during sex.
I don't know if there is anything I can do about this. Maybe I just accept that for 75% of the time we have a nice marriage and just tell him that if he wants sex he can get it from these others.
Translation: This open marriage thing is working out for him the way I wanted it to work for me.
I cannot financially afford to get divorced and I don't want to deprive my son of either a mother or a father.
Translation: I am either full of shit or I make more money than him and am now getting a taste of my own medicine, realizing how ridiculous child support payments and alimony would be after consulting my lawyer.
Of course, the comment section is FILLED with comments calling this abusive on the man's part. Nobody even addresses the fact that she opened the floodgates by cheating first. That was just a "mistake".
Look at this choice comment:
You are in an abusive relationship. Get help now
No act by you justifies his behavior and you are exposing your child to the same abuse whether he is present or not. Find help. You will not be depriving your child of a father, you will be protecting him from the fallout of the abuse you are being subjected to.
Lessons Learned: Redpill strategy and abundance work as a great chess maneuver, even in marriage.