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Field ReportDropcams saved me from a "domestic abuse" allegation yesterday. Consider camming up, guys. (self.TheRedPill)

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TL;DR Trust me, it's worth taking 3 minutes of your time to read. This is what you call a butt-puckering "holy shit I dodged a bullet" moment:

I've known this girl around 2 years now. I'm mid 30s, she's early 30s.

We've been intimate but never officially dating. She's actually been a pretty good bud over the span of the time I've known her. Fishing buddy, hiking buddy, hanging out buddy, whatever.

Her lease was up at her old place and there was a span of about a month where she'd be between jobs and houses. And...DOH!...yes, I fucked up. I offered for her to stay at my place for that short time between.

That was fuck up #1.

Fuck up #2 was allowing her to drag me into a "why did we never date" conversation that quickly...well, you can guess how that quickly escalated on her end. Her feelings of inadequacy, feelings of rejection, feelings of just being a slut...blah, blah, blah, feels, feels, feels.

I remained silent through most of it. Only speaking to calmly re-explain that I'm not interested in a relationship with anyone at this point (basically kindly telling her she's a plate and always will be).

But a man can only take so much yelling and crying and bullshit before he has to just GTFO and take his problems out under the bar in the squat rack so...

Fuck up #3 was me leaving my house to go to the gym to blow off some steam and clear my head.

After about an hour and a half at the gym, I pull back into the driveway and go to the front door, put in my key...doesn't work. Go to the side door and it's slightly ajar...with deadbolt components strewn all over the patio and inside the door.

This bitch tried to change the locks on the doors of my house while I was gone.

I go inside and she's obviously frantic. She threw a tape measure (where the fuck did she even get it? It wasn't even my tape measure) at me and proceeded to scream and lunge at me.

Each time I backed away with my hands up. I remained calm and tried to calm her down but she was having none of it.

I'm not a huge guy...190lbs...but she's a 120lb little blonde female that is, at this point, nothing but hate and venom and swinging limbs.

There is no way I was going to touch her. I can see the headlines now "Ex military bodybuilder batters tiny blonde woman"

The only time I touched her was to deflect her blows and eventually back out of the door from which I came in.

I considered calling the cops but I couldn't see how that would ever end well for me (it certainly never has before and I'm about the most cookie-cutter, upstanding guy in the world).

I ended up just sitting outside on the front porch to let her wind herself down, which she kinda did.

She eventually comes out and hints that she has bruises on her arms and "someone needs to know because you're not going to get away with grabbing and hitting me."

That's when I dropped the bombshell: I asked if she knew that there's not one but THREE beautiful little Dropcams that were pointed directly at every single area that I went into once I was in the house.

The foot path I took every second I was in the house was no accident...I know exactly where those cameras point and what areas they pick up visual and audio the best

They cover as much of the first floor of the house as I can manage with just three (yes, ordering more now) and they do it all in full color 720p WITH sound.

At one point (and yeah i have to pat myself on the back for this) I made sure to mute the TV so I could be more certain they would pick up every word that was said.

All I did was calmly open my laptop (did this still in view of the cameras, of course), open up the Nest site, and show her the entire episode...her screaming, crying, attacking me, and me doing nothing in retaliation...

She was appalled at her actions and within 45 minutes of packing up some clothes, she was gone.

She's now five states away at her parents' house where she will remain until her new place is available.

There has been extremely little texting back and forth but I made sure to say, in no uncertain terms, that her and I will never, EVER be in private together again for as long as I live.

And if, for some reason, there is any reason to ever speak face-to-face it will be in a very, VERY public place with an objective third party there to verify everything "to keep everyone's safety and comfort at the highest level."

LESSONS LEARNED

I think you already know but this was a very loud and clear reminder that this is the world we live in, guys. This girl was a "good friend" (fucking yeah right) and she knew exactly what she was doing and exactly what kind of harm those allegations would have on my life.

Cam up. You dont have to get Dropcams (they're a little pricey, especially when monthly fees are factored in and the fact that Google owns Nest gives me the privacy heebie-jeebies) but get SOMETHING.

If you plan to put them in the bedroom (I am after this incident) then I'd make it a practice to let any woman that goes in there know that there's security cams "but no, I don't watch that shit its just because my cousin had a bad breakin about a year ago and it sketched me out so I had them installed" Whatever works for you. Most women will forget about it in minutes anyway. Everyone is pretty used to being recorded these days anyway.


[–]fastball21 428 points429 points  (121 children)

She also knew exactly what she was doing when she moved in with you for the month. That was Plan A to get the commitment relationship from you. When that didn't work she went with Plan B which was the commitment argument. You were supposed to crack and soothe her with a "yes." From there she went to Plan C... to threaten you with the law to get you to commit.

You were smart not to call the police. You could have been charged and forced to wait six months to get your case through the system. In all that time she would be living in your house with the only set of keys to the locks. Even eventual dismissal of charges is no guarantee she'd have to leave the next day... further legal action would be needed to pry her out. In the interim your reputation takes a hit, you'd have massive legal bills, no income throughout the process and a squatter in your house.

For people here insisting the OP must have seen red flags from her before this, give your head a shake. Flags show up when they show up... there's no intro music the day you meet someone to let you know what may be coming. Secondly, do not underestimate a woman's prime directive: having children. Giving birth is the one thing women can do that men can't. Even women who don't want kids go through a squirrely period as they fight off their body's demands to procreate. Women who want children but don't have the conditions they want are capable of any behavior to create those conditions.

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    [–]fastball21 211 points212 points  (66 children)

    My newsletter says she wasn't appalled at her actions when you showed her the video, she was appalled that you'd immediately removed the trio of gaslighting, plausible deniability and enforced reconciliation from her arsenal. Make no mistake she does not and never will feel guilty about her actions. She may act contrite and hope you think she feels guilt, but there's no guilt there. She did what she did and she failed. She's appalled at her failure.

    [–]IronMeltsinmyHands 59 points60 points  (63 children)

    She's appalled at her failure.

    I've always felt horrible for seeing women as monsters. Part of me wants to be kind and good. Like I was before I bit the pill.

    But if they weren't capable of evil shit like this, I wouldn't have to see every one of them as monsters, just so I could feel safe.

    Life is war. It is all war. The Mexicans that work in the dark corners of your country, the fuckin Cubans bringing in the drugs, the blacks trying to cope with the lack of care they receive by creating gangs and a "killer culture."

    It's all war. Power is your only friend. Don't let anyone convince you otherwise. Don't let yourself be deceived.

    [–]akjoltoy 46 points47 points  (17 children)

    Women are women. It's society giving them the power to do this that's the problem.

    Rail at the system. Just deal with the women. They aren't hard to deal with if you've swallowed.

    [–]TheDialecticParadox 59 points60 points  (2 children)

    This. Women do evil shit because they are:

    a) Human b) Living in post-feminist society that gives them special privileges to get away with evil human shit.

    If it were the opposite, men would abuse the system too, it's our nature.

    [–][deleted] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

    and. . .

    c) Post-wall and desperate to hook a man because her youth and beauty are rapidly declining.

    [–]1oldredder 18 points19 points  (12 children)

    They're impossible to deal with unless you take precautions as described in this post.

    Don't rail at the system, defend all attack surfaces into your life at all times.

    Merely accepting "women are women" is the path to total suicide as women destroy you. You must accept women are often POISON, be it personal reasons or how society lets them be, and care nothing of the reason, merely how to protect yourself.

    If you want to get laid use a burner number and not your real name, never your address.

    If you want a wife & kids you need to do it outside North America.

    [–]PhranticPenguin 11 points12 points  (10 children)

    I have to disagree with you, i.e. it being impossible to deal with. This seems like a bit too paranoid. I agree being prepared (like having cameras in your house) is good, but living in continuous distrust is a step too far.

    Understanding female reasoning and seeing through situations would prepare a guy better than thinking all women are poison for him. Instead of straight up deflecting, he anticipates.

    (just to clarify, i'm honestly just trying to have a discussion, not burn you.)

    [–]1Snivellious 5 points6 points  (8 children)

    There's a real risk in this sub of misjudging risks, and I think your reminder is a good one. Horror stories are something to be aware of, but they don't define what happens to most people. The human mind reacts to lurid stories out of proportion to their actual risk. Kidnapped white woman syndrome and sketchy white vans offering candy are other boogeymen coming from the same problem.

    Most men won't have an experience as bad as this post, and the problem in this post was outright solved with some cameras. The idea that it's necessary to hide from and lie to all women comes from a serious misunderstanding of how common risks are.

    Frankly, I think people are more likely to die driving to a bar than they are to be seriously harmed by giving a woman at that bar their real phone number.

    [–][deleted] 5 points6 points  (2 children)

    Your comment reminds me of a phenomena I noticed a few years back. There was a certain kind of Vespa scooter clone imported to America and within a year or two I started buying them up after their cranks failed. I went on the internets and found out other scooter guys were seeing the same thing, a steady flow of these scooters with busted/seized cranks. Immediately we all assumed that each and every one of these scooters were shit with shitty bearings or cranks. We contacted the company who was aware of the failure and had been doing the research to figure out what the fuck was going on.

    Turned out the trouble stemmed from a single miscalibrated press in a single parts supplier that was pressing the con rod/big end/bearings together too tight and preventing the flow of oil so like clockwork they would fail at about 5k miles.

    The actual failure rate was about 2%, about 2 percent of these scooters had these nasty overtight bottom ends.

    However since it was such a catastrophic expensive failure, because all of these failures found their way to enthusiasts, and enthusiasts network, it seemed like every god damn one of them was fucked when in reality it was just a small percentage.

    So yeah, hearing horror stories all the time kind of obfuscates the fact that 90% of relationships start, exist, and end relatively amicably.

    I guess what I am saying is be prepared and guard against the worst, but don't assume because you read about so many catastrophic failures that it is inevitable and don't go around assuming every plate is going to attempt to burn your life to the ground.

    [–]1Snivellious 1 point2 points  (0 children)

    I think you're catching something huge here. The squeaky wheel gets the grease, so everyone thinks all the wheels squeak.

    In addition to people remembering the horror stories most, the people with horror stories are most likely to speak up. TRP has useful things to say, but it's a terrible place to get a feel for how many relationships go badly wrong. People come here because they see one of the ones that blows up, so it's not a great place to judge how many people will go crazy on you.

    [–]akjoltoy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

    I agree 100%

    I notice a lot of people are going outside of American women for marriages.

    And surprise surprise these marriages seem to last.

    [–]3NO_LAH_WHERE_GOT 22 points23 points  (0 children)

    I wouldn't have to see every one of them as monsters, just so I could feel safe.

    All guns are loaded.

    I think it was RSD Tyler who was giving this funny talk about how... just a few generations ago, our ancestors were on the African Savannah, and if you made a misstep, a freaking monster would fucking rip you apart and eat you.

    We're spared THAT, but the pretense that Life is any less brutal today is an elaborate sort of fog-of-war. We're fucking animals playing musical chairs with a thin veneer of feigned civility.

    [–]1oldredder 11 points12 points  (9 children)

    rarely ever have I seen a man rise to the same level of evil as a determined woman.

    [–][deleted] 4 points5 points  (6 children)

    Its just a different kind of evil. Women don't have brute force as an option, they have to use guile and cunning. Like that Mexican guy who kept those three girls locked up in his basement. That was some evil shit right there.

    An analogy of female style evil would be a woman cucking a dude and paternity frauding him.

    Both of those instances someone is being robbed of their life, freedom, and their biological prerogative to chose their mate and rear their young is being raped.

    The difference being that because of the womans cunning the cucked man doesn't even know he is being robbed and raped on a daily basis.

    [–]TheLife_ 5 points6 points  (5 children)

    I disagree. The man knows. Implicitly we all know something's wrong. We just can't articulate it and therefore can't make it real. Its deeply repressed in some Freudian part of the brain and we can't give it a name.

    Don't underestimate the power of language to shape our understanding. Knowing more than one language can shape your perception. By coming along to the red pill, swallowing it and opening our eyes, we learn to attribute our thoughts to phrases like "Men love women like women love children," and "Women are the most responsible teenagers in the house."

    We understand they are fundamentally different and ill-equipped for leadership. We just don't know why or how until we are given the vocabulary to explain it. Just like any abstract term.

    [–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (3 children)

    Some paternity frauds might know consciously or unconsciously, I can't argue that point. They just suppress it or rationalize it or are in denial. A lot don't though, especially if the kids real father is similar to the cuck or if the bastard looks like his real children because of the womans contribution.

    Also I agree that learning other languages should be considered part of the lift/read/meditate self improvement trip. French, Arabic, Latin, and of course English over here.

    [–]IronMeltsinmyHands 1 point2 points  (1 child)

    I've seen some shitty men. Real shit men. But to be truly a disgusting piece of shit, I've seen very few men do that.

    I think it's because we don't care about appearances as much as women do. We believe in love because women tell us they love us. Some beta faggots believe in feminism because women tell them they've been oppressed.

    Truly, women have an agenda. It's to be a creature of pleasure. Everything they do, is about that.

    Working out, cheating on your SO, telling someone you love them, having a career. Interestingly enough, [not really, its so obvious] not having kids falls into this category.

    Women believe all men fuck every woman they see because they're jealous of every woman out there. Not because we pay attention to them.

    I'm not being as articulate as I'd like to be this is all still a very... 101 level understanding of it. But I hope you see the point I'm trying to get across.

    [–]aazav 3 points4 points  (1 child)

    But if they weren't capable of evil shit like this, I wouldn't have to see every one of them as monsters, just so I could feel safe.

    THe monster's not under the bed, son. The monster's sleeping next to you.

    [–]Stargazer34 3 points4 points  (0 children)

    Ideology always paves the way toward atrocity

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      [–]caesarfecit 5 points6 points  (0 children)

      This. I was reading that thinking "this is how you become the very thing you claim to hate".

      [–]1Snivellious 4 points5 points  (0 children)

      That was some depressing damn bullshit. It reads like a guy just discovered women can do bad shit, same as men, and now he's terrified.

      The existence of Ted Bundy and Ed Gein doesn't make all men monsters, and what they did was infinitely worse than what this woman did.

      The racist, woman-hating paranoia in that post is truly moronic.

      [–]TRP VanguardtrpSenator 32 points33 points  (3 children)

      One of the less spoken things I notice that happens in certain sections of society is the professional "roommate". I used to see it all the time in socal, and still do today in other parts. It's basically a chick that hates working, but knows how to get guys to do whatever the fuck they want for them. Literally, their career is just getting guys to get them to do shit for them. From fake tits, to condos.

      [–]BigAl265 25 points26 points  (1 child)

      Yeah, don't go busting the guys chops about "red flags" because women can go from zero to fucking nuts in 2.8 seconds. Unless you've been party to it, it is something hard to even comprehend. My grandpa has given me exactly one piece of advice in my life, and in my younger days I just thought he was a bit of an old misogynist, but now I know it was sage advice. He said to me "Boy, let me tell you something, all women are are crazy, some just take longer to show it". He couldn't have been more right.

      [–]1oldredder 6 points7 points  (0 children)

      red flags are a thing that we need to teach each other, like how the immune system needs to keep adapting to new invaders, or how a virus-scan program needs to keep getting updates for signatures.

      It's an arms-race.

      We can bust each others chops a little about it just not to a level that's stupid.

      He said to me "Boy, let me tell you something, all women are are crazy, some just take longer to show it". He couldn't have been more right.

      I wish I had that from my grandpa, either one, because neither lived in my country and one died before I was even born.

      [–]80smadmaxonly 9 points10 points  (1 child)

      This happened to me by my wife but I had no idea at the time how lucky I was. The cops came because the neighbors called about the fight but the cops hauled HER in. I should have bought a lottery ticket.

      We were getting divorced and she came over to get pictures. I shut and locked the door when she went outside so I could get a family heirloom from her purse. She flipped and banged on the door until the glass shattered and then came in and attacked me. I just let her attack me and did not defend myself (she was petite). I just stood there while she hit and scratched me.

      Most likely it was because she had just started using drugs and had had interactions with them before--they knew who she was--previously she had been arrested for being really wasted at a bar and refusing to leave. They arrested her and called me to get her at the jail rather than prosecute (she was 19). I was completely wasted (couldn't drive), too broke for a cab and literally carried her home for two miles (she was nearly comatose). The cops saw this, I think that is why they took my side and arrested her after the aforementioned fight.

      I was a saint at the time. I believed the world was a dark place but if you were the shining beacon of goodness that the world could change. This was pre-Red Pill (90s).

      One of the cops said when I was carrying her out, "You sir, are either a fool or a saint."

      I said, "a saint" but NOW I know I was both. I ended up getting PTSD from many similar incidents during the divorce. Fun.

      [–]cariboo_j 2 points3 points  (0 children)

      Another reason to never get married. For all the caterwauling of feminists about women being victims, they are the most protected, safest group in Western society. They can literally assault you then cry crocodile tears and have you arrested. One false accusation can ruin your life.

      I used to date a girl that had a habit of randomly punching guys in the face and running away when she was drunk.

      One time she gave a guy a bloody lip at a party. We ran into him a few days later and his lip was still swollen. She was like "Sorry about that I get rowdy when I drink teehee." He just laughed it off. "Well maybe I deserved it, I was kind of hitting on you..."

      She pulled that shit on me a few times. Slapped me in the side of the head for talking to another girl too long at a party. My ear was ringing for the better part of the next day. I just laughed it off like "aw that's cute she was jealous."

      The double standard is pretty crazy when you think about it. I was never scared for my safety because I had like 70lbs on her and knew I could overpower her easily if necessary (although in retrospect I should have been worried about white knights assuming I was the aggressor and jumping in to defend her, or her claiming abuse if I deemed it necessary to physically restrain her.)

      But imagine if a man behaved like that? Slapping his girlfriend for talking to another man too long, punching some random girl in the face and giving her a bloody lip for hitting on him? "You're not good enough to hit on me! WHACK!" ... "Teehee I get rowdy when I drink."

      He'd be hauled off to jail and/or beaten up by white knights. However it's supposedly cute when a girl does it.

      Fucking hell, the double standard.

      [–]bluedrygrass 22 points23 points  (16 children)

      Secondly, do not underestimate a woman's prime directive: having children. Giving birth is the one thing women can do that men can't. Even women who don't want kids go through a squirrely period as they fight off their body's demands to procreate. Women who want children but don't have the conditions they want are capable of any behavior to create those conditions.

      Nope. Completely false. Are you aware of that little problem the West has since decades, called demographic suicide? Basically bitches ain't popping out enough babies to replace the people dying.

      You can't pretend (hamster) that a woman's imperative is to give birth only because you, as a male, find the whole concept fascinating and riveting and you think it's a wholly awesome and unmissable experience for a woman.

      It isn't. A statistic research found out more than 50% of women admit of having felt no emotions for their spawn right after having given birth. Those were just the women that admitted it.

      Giving birth, like every single other thing in the life of a woman, is only a whim, an experience, something to gain status toward other females and to obtain attention and resources from males.

      This explains why only the women living in poor countries where they don't have alternatives in life, produce considerable amounts of offsprings.

      "Advanced", civilized, rich women have a lot of more ego-fulfilling and satisfying and easier things to do.

      Like working, posting new photos on instagram, drinking mojitos with slutty friends, gossiping, watch netflix, travel to exotic locations with someone else's moneys, and so on and so forth.

      Interestingly, women often do the specular hamstering toward men's drives. They argue that men are obsessed with them due to their imperative to inseminate women and have rich offsprings, and yet the alphaest, richest men are the major users of vasectomies, or in general very rarely have more than 1, maximum 2 sons (which is still under the safe number of 3 minimum).

      [–]ChiefBigLeaf 3 points4 points  (11 children)

      3 sons minimum? Minimum for what? Why is 3 necesary?

      [–]RedPillScare 11 points12 points  (0 children)

      The population stability rate is 2.something, and fractional children are an expectant parent's worst nightmare.

      [–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (1 child)

      Its not just sons but for population stability in modern times I think you need 2.1 or 2.2 offspring per breeding couple. Statistically one in 5-10 children will die or be incapable of reproducing or be so omega that no woman would breed with them.

      So basically the two kids are to replace mom and dad, and the .1-.2 are the buffer for those that die or are infertile or aren't quality enough to reproduce.

      And since you can't have .2 children it has to be three. Or more realistically if you have five couples they need to have 11-12 children between them.

      [–][deleted] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

      I am going to go ahead and disagree there. Baby rabies is a real thing. The reason reproductive rates are dropping are many. For one birth control. For two societal programming isn't just for men, women are told they need to be strong independent women so even if she wants to listen to her evolutionary programming and pop out these babies she doesn't want to lose status in society by not having a career. Third women today think they can just do it later. They don't realize that after 30 their likelihood of conceiving healthy offspring begins to take a nose dive and fast. By the time they realize that societal programming was stupid and that she will never be satisfied without children its too late. Four is the unhealthy modern lifestyle. Being super fat, eating dirty, living in polluted ass places, inferior genes being perpetuated because modern medicine can save people that probably should not reproduce, etc. degrades womens chances of conception.

      Women don't start freaking out on the baby rabies until maybe mid-late twenties and some much later, but when they do its sooooo obvious and so obviously biological programming.

      I mean just on an evolutionary level any organism that isn't driven to reproduce would die out, not become a planets dominant life form.

      [–]1oldredder 8 points9 points  (0 children)

      incorrect: MEN are doing their best to avoid being pinned for a child against their will so women are finding they have to give birth with NO finances, or get an abortion. The woman wants the fucking baby. No question. More men are refusing to get suckered and those who want children... many of them STILL can't afford it. With a couple that willingly wants a baby but sees the bills & income in a crashing economy and says "but how do we pay for this?" many are realizing they can't.

      [–]I_is_the_best 1 point2 points  (0 children)

      I like the phrase commitment relationship. I'll have to add it to my dictionary (obviously as something to avoid)

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        [–]1oldredder 12 points13 points  (2 children)

        if they haven't had kids already they go nuts. Just batshit nuts over it. There's rarely an exception to this.

        [–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

        Yup10x.

        See cat lady, women who kidnap newborns, that time recently a pregnant woman was cut open to get at the unborn child, flying to a third world country and exchanging large amounts of currency for defective children, and above all else check this.

        https://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_detailpage&v=D1nC-6p1oTg#t=756

        [–]RedPillarOfSalt 4 points5 points  (11 children)

        You were smart not to call the police. You could have been charged and forced to wait six months to get your case through the system.

        While possible, this would generally be unlikely if he could show the responding officers the video evidence at the scene. Any officers I've ever heard of would gladly watch the video before deciding on a course of action, as it will generally help cover their own asses against an improper arrest & detention lawsuit, as well as improve their conviction rates. This is standard practice most places, for any video evidence (shoplifting, store robberies, etc).

        So if you have video evidence, there is little reason to worry about calling the police, especially for your own home.

        [–]fastball21 9 points10 points  (1 child)

        So if you have video evidence, there is little reason to worry about calling the police, especially for your own home.

        Logic says 'yes' to this statement, but it's not a guaranteed outcome. More than one study has shown that a male victim of DV has a better chance of being arrested than the female perpetrator, despite the fact he's the one who called 911 and he shows obvious injuries while she doesn't. It's just as possible an outcome that the police arrest him first and choose to gather evidence later, video or no video.

        And if she's living there, the police will consider it to be their home whether her name's on the lease/deed or not. Ten minutes after he's put into cuffs she can ask for a restraining order.... boom, he can't go home even if he's released the same day. Even if he's never charged with dv, he now has to go through the courts to get the restraining order removed, which may take months. If that's successful he then has to go through an eviction process. And all this time he has to pay the mortgage and find a new place to live.

        [–][deleted] 7 points8 points  (1 child)

        If there's one thing that Reddit like to repeat to look cool but that is very good advice is to never talk to the police.

        [–][deleted] 31 points32 points  (4 children)

        The really crazy thing is that we have created a society where women can often get away with crazy shit like this. As we saw in cases like mattress girl, even when she is proved to be a liar, people (feminists in particular) will still stick up for the woman. That just does nobody any good.

        This sub has a history of getting me to change my mind on things. One of those was my total opposition to Islam, no ifs or buts. I still have little time for it, but I have come to see that some of the things the media portrays as 'misogynistic' about that culture actually have some basis. I understand that under sharia a woman's word is worth half that of a man, isn't that right? I begin to see where that idea came from; they seem to have realized long ago that women will do crazy shit like this, and lie easily, and therefore their word is less reliable. Not totally to be discounted, no, but less reliable. Similarly, the provision that an accusation of rape has to be backed up by testimony from a 3rd party man. Too far, but again I begin to see where it comes from, when the stories of how commonly and without regret a woman will lie about being raped and ruin a man's life are heard. There was a link to a youtube recently about that.

        [–]1cover20 5 points6 points  (1 child)

        Yes western culture is too matriarchal. Islam is too patriarchal. Each one appears crazy to the other. Nobody seems to have yet devised a culture that's "just right", although I think the old Chinese culture (before the Cultural Revolution) was pretty traditional and patriarchal -- polygamy was allowed if you could afford the wives -- without some of the extremity of Islam.

        [–]dogextraordinaire 4 points5 points  (0 children)

        Confucianism was red pill as fuck. Women stayed in the village taking care of the kids, the father was the head of the household (captain of the ship), respect of ancestors and learning of wisdom through ancestral stories, understanding and respecting one's lot in life, learning peace through being one with nature, etc, etc. Pity Mao stamped most of that shit out because he loved his mother so much.

        Fun fact! Foot binding was banned by Mao because he saw the effect it had upon the women in his life. It was pretty horrible (a social practice that only went ahead to make women - who were deemed classier/more wealthy if they had small feet - appear more desirable to potential suitors) but giving an inch ended with the regime giving a mile. The one 'great' social impact his entire regime had upon the country was doing his best to ensure the equality of women. Luckily the current communists -come oligarchical capitalists- are too concerned with making money to bother with women's rights for now. Guaranteed as Western culture continues to impact the East this will change however, we are already beginning to the emergence of women's rights in Japan (although you could argue this is because of many males dropping out of the dating pool and becoming 'omnivores' over there).

        [–]anothercarguy 80 points81 points  (12 children)

        Smartest thing I did was record the conversation asking my ex why she felt she could touch my groin after we broke up. Her "I thought it was funny" was perfect. Admitted to sexual assault and abuse. Palimony is nice

        [–]redpillersinparis 22 points23 points  (9 children)

        You actually used that in court?

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          [–]1oldredder 7 points8 points  (0 children)

          if I had a beer/coffee right now I'd be wearing it and so would my computer

          lucky this time!

          [–]anothercarguy 10 points11 points  (5 children)

          If I did she could have lost her medical license so I didn't need to, just in drafting the docs

          [–]RamsayRedbeard 87 points88 points  (6 children)

          Im sold. My place is going to look like the set of a movie by tomorrow.

          [–]vacationlife- 7 points8 points  (3 children)

          its not just your house

          you can google a dallas judge, his drunk gf tried jumping out of the car and then said "you pushed me", luckily he was recording on his phone

          it doesn't cost much to buy a Sony pocket recorder that runs for 72 hrs on one set of batteries. They weigh nothing and you can put them in a pocket and leave them on the whole time you're with her.

          You can also put a gopro in your car. THe house cameras are a must, but due to some laws you may not be able to use the audio recording or even the car recording (unless you've told them before hand you are recording them). But I guess even with non-legal audio recordings, you can still deter her from calling the cops by showing her the audio recording and she wouldn't know it's not admissible in court.

          Of course you can avoid most of these situations by not getting into relationships with drunk sluts, and secondly not inviting them to live with you like OP did.

          [–]through_a_ways 5 points6 points  (1 child)

          THe house cameras are a must, but due to some laws you may not be able to use the audio recording or even the car recording (unless you've told them before hand you are recording them)

          I don't understand this. Are you allowed to get away with shoplifting if you "didn't know you were being recorded"?

          [–]Cant_Tell_Me_Nothin 40 points41 points  (5 children)

          Well OP, I guess now you figured out why she is still single in her 30's lol Or maybe the fact that the wall is nearing it's making her all kinds of crazy.

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            [–]Cant_Tell_Me_Nothin 24 points25 points  (3 children)

            Man, if she trying pulling that shit, I would check everything else in that apartment. Who knows, maybe she put detergent on your protein powder jug and you don't even know it

            [–]lizzardbwain 17 points18 points  (1 child)

            Worst story that I have heard from a girl living with other girls. One put muriatic acid in her shampoo.

            Just insane beyond comprehension.

            [–][deleted] 43 points44 points  (114 children)

            How many locks was she planning on changing? Did you not consider calling the police and having her thrown in jail since you knew all the data was being recorded? A psychopath is still walking the streets.

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                [–]machimus 24 points25 points  (0 children)

                This. You don't have to press charges, but please file a police report of what happened and include copies of the tapes. Not that it will happen again to you, but if it does God forbid, you will have documentation that will make your case 1000% easier. Maybe more importantly, it will come up if she tries to do it to some other poor bastard. Always, always, always document.

                [–]wanderer779 8 points9 points  (12 children)

                I knew a guy who was drugged and assaulted by his now ex-wife's family because he disagreed with her over some petty BS. Woke up covered in blood with the police standing over him. Who do you think the cops assumed had committed an assault? If you answered, "the man", despite the fact that he was the only one with a mark on him, because he he's a man and a woman said so, you get a gold star.

                The cops are there to protect the woman, not you, at least that has been my observation. This woman has scratches on her arms. Having video doesn't seem to matter either - look how many incidents there have been recently of a man being arrested for defending himself against a psycho bitch.

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                  [–]SpawnQuixote 51 points52 points  (3 children)

                  She thinks feminism is "dumb." That's what's crazy and so out of character for this chick and why it completely caught me off guard.

                  She thinks whatever she thinks you want her to think.

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                    [–]SpawnQuixote 8 points9 points  (1 child)

                    Listen to yourself, "she uses feminist tools, has been dishonest with me, but yeah, what she said about hating feminism? totally true."

                    She was what you wanted her to be. As long as you hold frame, that's who she is.

                    Most women have no interests besides the superficial. They are like clay: for the skilled artist they have potential and for the unimaginative? Rubbish that has no value.

                    [–][deleted] 71 points72 points  (37 children)

                    Assault (battery?) for starters. More importantly next time she pulls this (she will) there will be evidence that she has done this in the past. You could literally be saving some unsuspecting guys life by pressing charges. Seriously, call the fucking cops. It pretty much what they are for.

                    [–]1User-31f64a4e 15 points16 points  (5 children)

                    Conversion; depending on your jurisdiction, criminal or civil or both.
                    From wikipedia:

                    Criminal conversion is a crime, limited to parts of common law systems outside of England and Wales, of exerting unauthorized use or control of someone else's property, at a minimum personal property, but in some jurisdictions also applying to types of real property, such as land (to squatting and/or holding over) and/or to patents, design rights and trademarks. It differs from theft in that it does not include the element of intending to deprive the owner of permanent possession of that property.

                    Conversion as a tort (applicable in the US as well) is

                    A conversion is a voluntary act by one person inconsistent with the ownership rights of another.

                    When your property is in care of another, a bailment is created. In a case where the other person is the primary beneficiary ( i.e. not giving your coat to the coat check, not giving your car to the mechanic - these are for your benefit / part of an exchange ) then they have a duty of strict care. Fucking with your locks is not in keeping. So you could recover damages for a locksmith, and perhaps (?!) mental anguish/pain and suffering.

                    DISCLAIMER: I am not a lawyer, this is not legal advice.

                    I merely to point out that that there are all sorts off odd legal things most people have never heard of.
                    If something seems off - it certainly did here - then consulting an actual lawyer is the best way to find out.

                    [–]putsch80 3 points4 points  (4 children)

                    I am a lawyer. In must jurisdictions, you can only convert personal property, not real property. Also, conversion is not a crime in most jurisdictions; rather, it's a civil tort. You can recover damages for the converted property, but not have the convertor prosecuted.

                    [–]Thunder_button 1 point2 points  (0 children)

                    So, should he call the cops?

                    [–]DannyDemotta 1 point2 points  (1 child)

                    On the record still helps though. The next burned guy's lawyer is going to search criminal AND civil suits against the crazy woman.

                    [–]thegman84 2 points3 points  (0 children)

                    Yeah at minimum the OP should file for a restraining order. He would certainly get one with video of her tampering with his locks and threatening her.

                    That way they were at least be a court record which a defense lawyer could find that she has a history of this kind of stuff.

                    [–]Sir_Shitlord_focker 9 points10 points  (0 children)

                    Hum doesn't stop her from using feminist laws against you... not so dumb when she needs it. As for reporting it, you really should, could be ammo for the guy who doesn't have a hidden camera.

                    [–]RPmatrix 7 points8 points  (1 child)

                    Changing my locks?

                    what crime?

                    wilfull damage

                    [–][deleted] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

                    its a damn shame 'not knowing your goddamn place' isn't a crime.

                    [–][deleted] 7 points8 points  (14 children)

                    Battery for starters. You probably handled it the right way, never invite the man into your life. But you also got kinda lucky. These coulda gone much worse. Id say you broke frame a little, letting her move in and letting her drag you into the feels conversation. She saw the opening and tried to nuclear option dread game to flip the script on you. That failed but what did she have to lose in her mind. You havent blocked this bitches number? Did I read that right? You already told her you will never be alone with her, so what possible value could she hold to you? Nothing. Unless you want to talk about her feelings some more and take part in her drama party.

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                      [–]A_Roasted_Peanut 7 points8 points  (1 child)

                      what crime was made?

                      Battery.

                      Attempted illegal eviction of the rightful owner/tenant.

                      Criminal damage.

                      Attempted blackmail.

                      Congratulations on protecting yourself. No congratulations from allowing some psycho to commit many crimes while getting away scot free because you don't want to fuck up someone's life... when she would be more than prepared to fuck yours up.

                      The white knighting because THINK OF THE POOR WOMAN is pathetic.

                      [–]SilentForTooLong 1 point2 points  (0 children)

                      The white knighting because THINK OF THE POOR WOMAN is pathetic.

                      I know. I was really hoping TRP was the one place this didn't happen at the end of the stories... I thought for sure this was going to end with her behind bars, for at least a night, or something =/

                      [–]bluedrygrass 2 points3 points  (1 child)

                      TBH, what crime was made?

                      Now don't act blind. Would you still be wondering if it was a crime, if instead of a woman irrupting in your house in your absence and trying to steal it from you and locking you out, had you found a male doing the same things?

                      Yes, you see what crime was made.

                      [–]Requi3m 1 point2 points  (0 children)

                      Domestic violence assault was the crime. By not pressing charges you are allowing her to do this to someone else who won't be so lucky. She needs this on her record. Oh and the DV tag will prevent her from ever buying a firearm which is a nice bonus.

                      [–]RPmatrix 6 points7 points  (7 children)

                      matey just one question, 'where did she get the locks from?' esp IF as you say you sat out front whilst she cooled down?

                      How planned might this have been?

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                        [–]Endorsed ContributorRedBigMan 7 points8 points  (0 children)

                        Yeah I was going to ask the same question.

                        That said it's kinda impressive a woman with enough skill to swap a lock on her own without calling a locksmith certainly puts her at least a bit above average... for a woman.

                        Probably to no one's surprise here, she picked the shittiest locks in the world. Like $40 for 3 deadbolts. I mean, if youre going to try to steal my house, at least try to give a damn about protecting what's inside it, lady. Damn!

                        Probably bought the cheapest ones she could find because that's all she could afford... Also all your shit inside it isn't anything she's had to work her ass off to purchase so she doesn't give a fuck what is inside just that she can lay claim to the building itself and deny you your property.

                        As someone who comes from a family of locksmiths realize that a lock only keeps honest men out and mildly dishonest ones. If a real crook wants to get into your house they will either by picking the lock (if they want to be subtle about it) or by kicking the door in (if they dont give a fuck).

                        [–]RPmatrix 12 points13 points  (0 children)

                        She ran out and grabbed them immediately after I left to hit the gym.

                        whoa! she's already thought about this!

                        man, you dodged a mortar, not just a bullet!

                        well played bro, well played!

                        [–]akjoltoy 1 point2 points  (1 child)

                        Uhm... he went to the gym and then came home, she was doing this and after that was a period where he was sitting in front.

                        So obviously she got them when he was at the gym.

                        [–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

                        She'll just do it to another guy and will probably be successful in ruining his life.

                        [–]Sir_Shitlord_focker 27 points28 points  (7 children)

                        "That was fuck up #1."

                        No kidding, with domestic violence laws that's like agreeing to marriage pretty much :D

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                          [–]Sir_Shitlord_focker 13 points14 points  (4 children)

                          I've had the exact same case, SUPER FUCKING HOT UKRAINIAN BLOND, Huge tits, crazy good lay, doll baby face. How can you say no that that in your own bed ?

                          But When she stayed for 2 nights in a row and asked me if she could move in some stuff I went to "I have family coming, can I put you up at the hotel on my CC".

                          She stayed a week in this shitty hotel on my CC, tried everything to get me to commit and when she failed, she bounced.

                          [–]1oldredder 1 point2 points  (3 children)

                          disaster. No question she probably could get your credit card number & other info for it plus knowing your address... she could already have new credit cards in your name you never know about. I shit you not.

                          I know a woman... someone in her family said that's bullshit. But she knows how to do it. So she did it to that person just to show it can be done. Not to be spiteful... no permanent financial damages but the point was made.

                          Secure your shit or be taken to the cleaners.

                          [–]Sir_Shitlord_focker 10 points11 points  (2 children)

                          Nah... I'm devious that way, I told the hotel no sharing my CC number with the room occupant please, she's a troubled young lady and I'll hold the hotel responsible if you give it out, and they informed me that she tried to get it ;)

                          With women, assume the worst, then double it.

                          [–]robo23 1 point2 points  (1 child)

                          Why didn't you stop paying for the hotel at that very moment?

                          [–]PetrolFlavored 25 points26 points  (24 children)

                          If you plan to put them in the bedroom then I'd make it a practice to let any woman that goes in there know that there's security cams.

                          Is having such a conversation required by law in the US? Can't you just slap a 'Smile you're being recorded' sign on your garage wall and call it a day?

                          [–][deleted] 9 points10 points  (1 child)

                          I'm very interested in knowing this.

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                            [–]Endorsed ContributorRedBigMan 10 points11 points  (0 children)

                            I would just do what stores and shit do.

                            Post signs saying 'These premises are protected by video surveillance'.

                            [–]absolucion 2 points3 points  (3 children)

                            Better to be safe than sorry. The last thing you want is for a woman to try and press charges for recording her.

                            [–]DannyDemotta 2 points3 points  (2 children)

                            If its not in writing, how safe is it? It'd be incredibly easy for her to just deny you said anything.

                            But signs everywhere, inside and outside the house, that friends/family have all seen - that are on video, themselves - not as easy to deny.

                            [–]absolucion 1 point2 points  (1 child)

                            There are ways around it. If he captures audio & video, all he needs is verbal confirmation from her that she understands that she is being recorded. If it's video only, he can make sure to get her to acknowledge the cameras.

                            Edit: And I'm not saying that having signs alerting visitors that they're being recorded is a bad idea. There are obviously degrees of caution here.

                            [–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

                            this gives a down and dirty, but get a lawyer.

                            [–]Endorsed Contributorvandaalen 3 points4 points  (0 children)

                            Can't speak for the US, but in Germany you just need to place a sticker in a visible place which says something along "This place is being video monitored". It's assumed that a person, after being informed about the recording, gives consent by entering the monitored area.

                            "Visible place" just means a place where the one recorded is able to notice it. So putting it on the garage door, where that person will not pass, or putting it at the wall under a table, won't do, but you also do not need to put it on eye-level on the front-door. It should be obvious that you are not trying to hide it.

                            A judge can decide to use the recordings as evidence even if the person's recorded weren't informed though, if he regards it as important enough. This applies especially if serious offences are involved.

                            I personally also don't think that you need to hide it. If somebody asks you about it, just say something along "It's a dangerous world." Might come off as a little bit weird, but it's rather minor and you can brush it off fairly easily.

                            [–]NightGod 3 points4 points  (2 children)

                            It would likely depend on your states consent laws. In a one-party state, I don't believe you'd even have to have the sign up, in a two-party state, you'd at least have to have the sign in a conspicuous place, but probably would have to tell her.

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                              [–]NightGod 8 points9 points  (0 children)

                              Yeah, your research there reminded me that it's only the audio recording portion that needs to be mentioned. I live in Illinois (for 6 more weeks) and have the audio disabled on my dashcam because of this. One of the first things I'll be turning back on when I move to Texas, though.

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                                [–]Lt_Muffintoes 8 points9 points  (2 children)

                                The breach of privacy makes the evidence inadmissible. You should really fucking care.

                                [–]thegman84 1 point2 points  (1 child)

                                tldr; You're totally wrong. Evidence illegally obtained by private citizens is absolutely admissible in court.

                                What you're talking about is called the Exclusionary Rule.....

                                Here's some quotes from Wikipedia:

                                Evidence unlawfully obtained from the defendant by a private person is admissible.

                                The exclusionary rule is designed to protect privacy rights, with the Fourth Amendment applying specifically to government officials.

                                Need a better source than Wikipedia? Here's a quote from page 286 of the 2010 book, "America's Courts and the Criminal Justice System", by Neubauer and Fradella:

                                Evidence obtained from a source independent of the constitutional violation, *such as from a private citizen, is admissible** (Segura v United States 1984).*

                                The exclusionary rule is intended to protect people from having their constitutional rights infringed upon by the government. It has nothing to do with private citizens. You may be criminally liable for illegally collecting evidence, but you can't be prohibited from using it to defend yourself.

                                [–]Lt_Muffintoes 2 points3 points  (0 children)

                                Ah cheers for the info.

                                Hmm, so previous false take allegations on the part of the whore are inadmissible, but if you find out about then add a private citizen, would that make it admissible?

                                [–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (5 children)

                                Its dependent on state law. Find out the law where you live. Its the difference between saving your ass and having wiretapping charges thrown at you.

                                [–]SpawnQuixote 1 point2 points  (4 children)

                                It's mainly about the audio. You can put stickers on your door that say you're recording all conversations in one two party states and be fine.

                                edit: One party states you don't even need the sticker.

                                Thanks commenter below me.

                                [–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (3 children)

                                In a one party state you don't need any notification at all. You count as the one party. Also, I am not a lawyer so people need to get formal legal advice.

                                [–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

                                I'm in a one party state. my lawyer said I was within my rights to record conversations with my STBX

                                [–]Endorsed ContributorRedBigMan 1 point2 points  (1 child)

                                You may be better off putting the sticker up anyways. If someone is in your house talking with someone other than you then you're not technically a party to the conversation. This is why every 800 number you call always tells you 'this call may be monitored for quality and training purposes'.

                                [–]arrayay 1 point2 points  (0 children)

                                You may be better off putting the sticker up anyways.

                                Not arguing this, but if someone is in your house they are not in public. They are on your private property.

                                [–]Endorsed Contributorredpillbanana 14 points15 points  (1 child)

                                You dont have to get Dropcams (they're a little pricey, especially when monthly fees are factored in and the fact that Google owns Nest gives me the privacy heebie-jeebies) but get SOMETHING.

                                I'm sure they are pricey, but a criminal defense lawyer is pricier, not to mention spending years in jail.

                                Well done, OP. In today's environment, where women can make false accusations with no reprecussions, rock-solid proof is the only defense.

                                [–]1sardinemanR 23 points24 points  (2 children)

                                Stuff like this is why a lot of dudes go MGTOW. At some point this elephant in the room really has to be addressed, as well as STD transmission from spinning plates. It's like playing Russian Roulette really.

                                [–]ChairBorneMGTOW 15 points16 points  (0 children)

                                Pretty much, yep. The difference between TRP and MGTOW is simply the outcome of a cost/benefit analysis.

                                [–]through_a_ways 1 point2 points  (0 children)

                                Whenever I see a CC rider, they always look physically worn down, as if they've aged 10 years more than their peers.

                                I used to chalk it up to the hormonal effects of always being rejected from long term relationships, as well as general genetic predisposition (meaning that girls predisposed to ride the CC are also predisposed to age badly, as both are unfit traits).

                                Now I also wonder how much of that is due to STDs. Women are far more likely than men to contract them, due to the plain physics of the vagina, the fact that women prefer experienced men, and that women have far greater access to sex than even the most attractive man in the world.

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                                [–]TheSkeletalGent 10 points11 points  (4 children)

                                How in the honest fuck did she justify this to herself? I mean, you get caught trying to change the locks to someone house, assault the person you wronged, then after they walk out on you, you try to threaten them?

                                Did she try to explain herself at all? Honestly, better that you avoid the media circus but I'm almost hoping you'll bring it out there just to have one of those cases that gets everyone jaw dropped.

                                [–]1oldredder 2 points3 points  (1 child)

                                justify? Women feel men are their slaves and pawns until shown otherwise using the law, using force, using logic, using whatever is needed. A lawyer/cop showing a woman her way to jail: that shows her. Her using force and finding out you can withstand it and deliver more: that's teaching her. Her using arguments of feelz and you using logic to shut down all feelz: that's showing her.

                                Women don't want / need justification. A few don't act this way but many feel like entitled children as if you are not even a person with rights whatsoever - if you are a man you are to obey her orders or other men will do as she says and jail/beat/kill you for punishment.

                                [–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

                                They dissociate from reality and then rewrite it based on their own narrative. This woman sounds a bit psychopathic after all; such mental trickery would be as easy as breathing

                                [–]TylerDurdenRP 7 points8 points  (0 children)

                                You said she was living with you, so does that mean she had a key to your house? If she did, have you changed your locks? Who knows what she is capable of. I wouldn't put revenge past her...

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                                [–]tekn0_ 6 points7 points  (1 child)

                                God. Seriously. WTF is wrong with this woman? This is borderline psychotic behavior. Who tries to change the lock of a house that is owned by someone else. Jesus Fucking Christ!

                                OP, thank the fucking god you had those cams. You held frame pretty good, and shoved her shit at her face. I think I will probably be putting up cams when I own a home, and when I seem like an easy target because of all my wealth in the future.

                                [–]MazeMouse 2 points3 points  (0 children)

                                Nothing borderline about it. Changing the lock on someone else' house is criminally insane.

                                [–]collidoscope 6 points7 points  (2 children)

                                This is a friendly reminder that no woman is your "buddy". They are great for relationships, having sex, etc, but they are never a replacement for a male "activity" friend.  

                                However, I believe that the most important takeaway is letting a jobless person crash on your couch is always a bad idea, regardless of gender.

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                                  [–]collidoscope 2 points3 points  (0 children)

                                  Okay, that wasn't clear. Yes, that does make it much worse. She might feel you're setting the expectation that you want to get more serious.  

                                  But yeah, if someone is jobless and crashing at your place, remember that without you, he/she would be both homeless and jobless. You're telling him/her "it's okay to depend on me for survival and I will ask for nothing in return". It's opening the door for someone who thinks that kind of behavior is okay (parasites and abusers).

                                  [–]Senior EndorsedMattyAnon 5 points6 points  (0 children)

                                  She was appalled at her actions and within 45 minutes of packing up some clothes, she was gone.

                                  She was appalled at getting caught.

                                  [–]1sardinemanR 22 points23 points  (3 children)

                                  And people on this sub bitch at me for using the fade. I should "man up" and let women blow up like this instead.

                                  [–]absolucion 2 points3 points  (0 children)

                                  It's your life and almost everything that people tell you here should be seen as nothing more than a suggestion. Sometimes there are situations where a fade is more effective. I've had two instances where I tried to be direct (which is just my preference) but should have gone with the fade instead.

                                  [–]1RXRob 5 points6 points  (0 children)

                                  I don't know about your local laws, but you could legally make this public in the UK.

                                  If it was me, and I wasn't planning to press charges, I'd put it on YouTube. I foresee that having the double strike of embarrassing her for her actions and reeling in some sympathy pussy.

                                  [–]foldpak111 2 points3 points  (0 children)

                                  I can see CNN scheming how good clickbait this is. Keep the retards busy while we make the big plays.

                                  [–]Squeezymypenisy 4 points5 points  (0 children)

                                  A relative of mine put cameras in his office after a disgruntled worker sued his wife and made up a lie that she was assaulted. Cameras are a really smart investment for legal protection.

                                  [–]MazeMouse 4 points5 points  (0 children)

                                  This is not dodging a bullet but escaping a tactical nuke.

                                  [–]Adolf_ghandi 3 points4 points  (0 children)

                                  Where is the black knighting part please?

                                  She tries to roally fuck up your life and you don't even let it backfire? Sigh...

                                  [–][deleted] 5 points6 points  (7 children)

                                  Despite agreeing with the conclusion of the article, am I the only one fearing a 1984 world where we live permanently under camera even in our homes.

                                  [–]1oldredder 2 points3 points  (6 children)

                                  if it's cameras under only your control what's to fear? Know the tech & film only what you want.

                                  [–]dvrzero 1 point2 points  (5 children)

                                  dropcams save video on "the cloud", owned by google.

                                  Now i have "cloud capable" cameras at my house, but they don't ever connect to the internet. They just take a picture every second and save it to a storage array. Motion activated stuff gets saved to SD card/storage array.

                                  OP even said the privacy aspects concerned him.

                                  [–]Barrebaron 3 points4 points  (0 children)

                                  If anyone is interested here's a bit cheaper Linux solution. For home security. https://youtu.be/uzJKqDUsUqc

                                  [–][deleted] 3 points4 points  (2 children)

                                  Shit op. Dash cam, house cams, within 3 weeks they'll be installed. Fuck.

                                  Just fuck. What even was the plan to switch locks? "oooh if its my keys it's just mine now".

                                  JESUS.

                                  [–]1oldredder 1 point2 points  (1 child)

                                  my personal policy is women don't get to know where I live. They have proven unworthy of that level of trust. They don't sleep here, fuck here, visit, nothing.

                                  [–]rp_divorced 3 points4 points  (0 children)

                                  what a fucked up world we live in when you have to have cameras INSIDE your house to protect yourself.

                                  [–]1RBuddDwyer 3 points4 points  (0 children)

                                  Kids, that is what we call Borderline Personality Disorder.

                                  [–]∞ Mod | RP Vanguardbsutansalt 2 points3 points  (0 children)

                                  I've said it for years now:

                                  RECORD EVERYTHING

                                  [–][deleted] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

                                  Please be careful, this could be the tip of the iceberg.

                                  I had a bipolar ex file a false rape claim against me a week after we broke up.

                                  This same girl then waited a full year and sent me some text messages to get me to respond to her. She then filed a restraining order against me based on false allegations simply because she knew my address and where I could be served. I had to pay a lawyer to defend myself against her false allegations even though I hadn't seen or spoke to her for a full year.

                                  [–]theinfiniti 5 points6 points  (1 child)

                                  You're not going to attempt to file a lawsuit against her? She attempted to restrain you from accessing YOUR PROPERTY and (possibly?) caused damage to your belongings. You have the evidence, use it properly, get this manic bitch in jail or a mental facility. You'll be doing a favor to many people; considering the facts here, this is probably not the first time she tried to pull something like this, and with her conning, innocent people may be jailed due to her psychopathic nature.

                                  [–]aphelion3342 5 points6 points  (0 children)

                                  He's got nothing to win. She has nothing to get from him. It sucks that he can't do anything to prevent her from future freakouts and can't serve justice. But it is what it is. And he can't exactly call the cops either:

                                  [–]lizzardbwain 2 points3 points  (3 children)

                                  You should've called the cops when you saw your house was broken into.

                                  Lease expired = No money to extend it/Getting kicked out

                                  [–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (2 children)

                                  it wasn't broken into at all. She was living there and had access to the house. It was her domicile by agreement.

                                  [–]lizzardbwain 2 points3 points  (1 child)

                                  That's up to police to sort. When I see broken hinges on ground, keys don't work, open doors - I'm not putting myself in danger, police are paid to do the risk management for me.

                                  I'm not gonna risk my life confronting an intruder.

                                  [–]absolucion 2 points3 points  (0 children)

                                  She wasn't appalled by her actions. She was shocked you had that much foresight. Christ, you couldn't have been in a better position to deal with that situation. I wouldn't be surprised if she tried to reach out under the guise of apologizing and mending your “friendship” to try and figure out whether or not you're going to hand the footage over to the police.

                                  A buddy of mine at work buys flips electronic equipment. First thing I did was buy a set of security cameras and a digital recorder. The kit retails for several hundred bucks but he gave it to me for $50. Best investment I've made in a long time.

                                  [–]1favours_of_the_moon 2 points3 points  (0 children)

                                  I think you already know but this was a very loud and clear reminder that this is the world we live in, guys. This girl was a "good friend" (fucking yeah right) and she knew exactly what she was doing and exactly what kind of harm those allegations would have on my life.

                                  Cam up.

                                  That's what society is now. Women know that all they ever have to do is point a finger at someone and BAM. They win.

                                  [–]MadeSomewhereElse 2 points3 points  (0 children)

                                  Well looks like amazon is going to get some cash from me.

                                  [–]vicious_armbar 2 points3 points  (0 children)

                                  I went though the same thing. Just be glad you didn't knock her up first. My plate tried to set me up on false DV charges after she trapped me because I refused to marry her. Luckily none of the charges stuck.

                                  After she pulled that I got the hell out over there and never looked back. But since then she's hit me with false accusations of: Child neglect, child molestation, refusing to provide my son with medical care, and the list goes on. She's taken me back to court 3 times in 5 years over bullshit accusations, and I've paid $12,700 in lawyers fees to slap them down so I can stay in my son's life. If you count the savings I had from the military that I blew supporting her because she refused to work after she got knocked up the total climbs to $31,000.

                                  Never trust a woman when she says she can't get pregnant guys. Either make her use a form of birth control that you can visually verify: Iud, Spermicidal insert, sponge, etc. Or wear a condom and put hot sauce in it when you're done. And as the original poster said security cameras save lives. Not only can they save you from false DV charges, they can also save you from false rape accusations. You can buy a Foscam wireless camera that hooks to your computer over wifi for $60 if you want the low end version, or $80 if you want the high end version. That's a steal compared to having to pay a lawyer $300 an hour to defend you from false accusations.

                                  [–]herewegoaga1n 1 point2 points  (0 children)

                                  It shouldn't have to be this way, but I'm glad you protected yourself. That girl sounds psycho though.

                                  [–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (6 children)

                                  What did she say over text? I can't even fathom how you could continue to....just yeah

                                  [–]I_is_the_best 1 point2 points  (0 children)

                                  Having cameras is a great idea. How exactly does it work ? Is it a webcam that streams to a server ?

                                  [–]1raceAround126 1 point2 points  (0 children)

                                  Be right back... filling my home with CCTV cameras.

                                  Seriously, I just dropped £500 worth on some new IP cameras. I have one in the living room, but thinking I need to expand my coverage. If not for burglars but you never know when some crazy fuck will decide to set her Big Brother aka the cops on you.

                                  [–]thinktankman 1 point2 points  (0 children)

                                  With the drop cams you should have called the police and report it at least leave a paper trail.

                                  [–]1oldredder 1 point2 points  (0 children)

                                  I ended up just sitting outside on the front porch to let her wind herself down, which she kinda did.

                                  FRAME CAN NEVER defend you. Cameras can.

                                  Never let a plate live with you - never let ANY woman live with you - and if your locks get changed just phone the locksmith and say "someone's broken into my house and changed the locks. I'm the only owner here, let's fix this" and the cops too if you must since it's a B&E as far as you're concerned.

                                  You "didn't know" someone else could have / would have done this who has access since it's your place.

                                  [–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

                                  "someone needs to know because you're not going to get away with grabbing and hitting me."

                                  Ho-lee fucking shit, this is pure evil/blackmail.

                                  She's actually been a pretty good bud over the span of the time I've known her. Fishing buddy, hiking buddy, hanging out buddy, whatever.

                                  This meant nothing to her in this moment. Briffault's Law all the way.

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                                  [–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

                                  can you link to the cameras you bought? what make/model or type? thanks

                                  [–][deleted]  (1 child)

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                                  [–]cR3dd1t 1 point2 points  (0 children)

                                  Not sure if this has been asked already or not, but any suggestions of good drop cams, esp. the good quality ones with sound, just like you have or may be better...

                                  [–]redditplsss 1 point2 points  (1 child)

                                  In this particular situation, was it a viable option to call the cops as soon as you noticed that she tried switching locks? Im asking because what if you didn't have cameras.

                                  [–][deleted]  (2 children)

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                                  [–]S74RK 1 point2 points  (0 children)

                                  Great post, I have definitely been thinking more and more about "camming up". I also recommend everyone get a simple audio recording app on their phones.

                                  That being said, there is a slight possibility that this post is some amazing content marketing for Dropcam/Nest. Show me how a product helps against crazy bitches and AWALT and I'm sold ;)

                                  [–]cxj 1 point2 points  (0 children)

                                  Dear lord this explosion of bad behavior sounds exactly what my ex did to me, except i naively called the cops and was arrested for domestic battery and preventing a 911 call (seriously). You really truly did dodge a bullet, I've considered getting cameras before, but my lawyer told me that he once had a case where a woman bruised herself in the process of attacking her boyfriend, it was on video and the guy still got convicted of domestic battery. So idk, there really is no winning nowadays, females are an inherent and extreme risk unto themselves.

                                  [–]kbbroiler 1 point2 points  (0 children)

                                  Wow. What a story but you learned never fall from tears from a woman. I actually like to see them cry now. I get a big laugh out of it. I'll start laughing like the million dollar man Ted Dibiase. These women are cry ang the fact she tried to change the locks shows how fucked up she is.

                                  [–]watersign 1 point2 points  (0 children)

                                  talk about a dodged bullet dude. for fucks sake

                                  [–]LifeAtPeace 1 point2 points  (0 children)

                                  If it were 5 years ago, I would have dismissed a post like this as troll. But based on my experiences with women in the past 5 years, I cannot help but believe everything written in this post. Good job OP!!!

                                  No matter who she was, your friend, coworker, relative, girlfriend or wife, women can and will you use anything they have against you to destroy you. This is the lesson I have learned.

                                  [–]WhiskeyGrin 1 point2 points  (0 children)

                                  I've seen cameras literally save men from having their entire life ruined.

                                  [–][deleted] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

                                  Thanks for the report.

                                  Two things:

                                  1. You should have called the police and got her jammed up in court for domestic violence/assault, and WTF with the locks and shit. I'm almost certain there is a charge there somewhere. Trespassing, destruction of property/vandalism, something. In the state of Kentucky if someone enters your home and attempts to force you out of your home unlawfully that is justification for lethal force ie. shoot the fucker. So, it's a serious crime here and she should be punished for that kind of shenanigan.

                                  2. Don't put them in your bedroom for a couple reasons. First is that while you may be diligent in telling them they are there there is always the chance they will "forget" and claim you unlawfully recorded sex without her consent. That's a predator list offense btw. And second is that if that video should be "leaked" then she's going to sue your dick off for it.

                                  Best to leave the cameras out of the bedroom. It's enough that there's video of her entering your home, going into the bedroom, and leaving later on in peace and perfectly willing.

                                  If you are seen making out on the couch, or the stairs, or where ever and you end up in the bedroom then "her word against you word" will be backed up by enough video evidence to sway opinions. Plus any sexy in "common" areas has a lower expectation of privacy such that even if it's filmed no one has a "reasonable expectation" of privacy.

                                  That said, put a sign on your front door stating that your home is under video surveillance. Make sure the sign/s are visible in the cameras so that no one can say there were no signs or they didn't see them. Anyone can say you didn't tell them and I'm pretty sure you would have to "tell" them every time they entered. Having a few signs should be enough.

                                  (end/Internet Lawyering)

                                  [–]DoNotEatTheTail 1 point2 points  (5 children)

                                  Can you explain why you would allow someone you're upset with to be alone in your residence without you? I know you said it was "Fuck Up #3", but how do you ever let that person stay in the first place?

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                                    [–]lizzardbwain 5 points6 points  (0 children)

                                    Sometimes (usually) being a good guy gets you fucked/ran over.

                                    Lesson learned. Even for me. Thanks OP

                                    [–]RedPillarOfSalt 0 points1 point  (0 children)

                                    "TL;DR Trust me, it's worth taking 3 minutes of your time to read. "

                                    C'mon man, you're better than that. Do a proper tl;dr or don't add one. *edited to sound less like an asshole

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