Summary: OP asks why there are so many frustrated lonely men out there. Commenters admit that it's probably because these guys are weak and low social status. Validates longstanding RedPill theory about dichotomy between alphas and beta.
Ah, AskWomen. I've long suggested they establish a business partnership with PetCo, because that subreddit seems to have an endless supply in hamsters and hamster products. Good money in that.
Anyway... OP asked "I've seen thousands of guys on Reddit say they are above average in every way, yet can't even get a date, because women are too picky. What do you think is the real reason for this?" Knowing RedPill theory, we can empirically offer hypotheses as to why this is: the guys may not be physically superior looking, or rich, or dominant enough. Basically, betas. And surprisingly, AskWomen couldn't help but agree with us in their response to the thread (I guess even female rationalization has its limits).
Let's take a little look-see through the wonderful emotional and confused world that is a woman's mind.
A lot of guys overestimate how good looking they are. I think it is because there are so many shows where the chubby funny guy has a supermodel wife. Girls do this too.
Well... I'll give it a passing grade. You almost got it, honey. Since the 90s, the feminist-influenced Hollywood media has always portrayed the dopey, sweet guy getting the girl in the end. It's a lie, of course, but it's a narrative that they want to push, so they do it. It's resulted in an entire generation of lonely men who are depressed and suicidal because women have fucked their minds so thoroughly that they can't even get a date.
I imagine they're looking solely for women within the league of perfection that they think they're in when they are not in fact actually in that league. Basically, they think they deserve a certain kind of women who is (somehow unbeknownst to them) out of their league. Meanwhile, they ignore the attention they get from women that they aren't interested in and thus delude themselves into thinking they can't get any women. They just can't get the ones they actually want. I've also noticed a lot of those guys list the bare minimum traits as if they're amazing things to have (e.g., "I'm a nice guy", "I have a stable job", etc.), which suggests to me they think women should flock to them just because they're not a total loser. They fail to see that people want more than just the bare minimum. You're not a terribly good prospect if your only redeeming quality is that you're not an asshole.
Ding ding ding. The plight of a beta male described succinctly. The nerd with no fashion sense and weird hygiene isn't even on the cheerleader's radar, and that has nothing to do with his "good personality" or "kindness" as feminists would have you believe. It's because he's not primal enough. He doesn't exude physical strength. He's probably not tall. Probably doesn't get sexually aggressive with girls. If he did, he may have a chance. But all he can do is pine for her in the corner.
I've tried to be a lot more self-aware lately of how I state my experiences with guys in high school. I used to say, "Oh guys didn't like me in high school" or "I never got asked out in high school." But I realized that, while I definitely didn't have many guys interested in me, especially when I compare myself with other (often very pretty, stylish, and popular) girls, that several guys did either ask me out or indicate interest in some way, but that I either wasn't interested or it didn't pan out well. So I'm consciously trying to switch to say "I really didn't date in high school" or "Not many guys were into me in high school." I realized it's kind of shitty and dismissive to act as if "no one" liked me, as if people don't count until I decide I like them back.
I'm glad this one is a little self-aware, but this mentality is shared by millions of women out there. "Ugh, I got asked out by so many low-value men whom I didn't want to be associated with because of social norms, but the captain of the lacrosse team wouldn't even look my direction! That's basically the same as being foreveralone, right? Women can be foreveralone too, see!"
I'll stop here but read the rest of the thread. You can almost SEE the truth trying to claw its way out of the hamster's throat. Betas make women so disgusted that they can't even sugarcoat it. Not even on AskWomen.
TL;DR: Women absolutely despise betas and won't come within 3 feet of them. Despite constantly talking about how much a good personality matters, how much they value guys who are nice and considerate, etc... they will drop their panties in an instant for a muscular confident alpha.