Rant/VentingThe Unknowing Chad. (self.TheRedPill)

submitted by lolbroxel

DISCLAIMER: I'm not the best writer around and never have been, so the formatting may be shit.

Hello, I'm a 23 yr old Army Veteran who about a year and a half ago briefly and unknowingly ended up being a "Chad" as I think you guys put it.

I was 22. Active duty, and flying through women left and right. I was perfectly content to be single, but then I met her. 5'4" 110 lbs, blonde and a C-cup. My kryptonite. We started talking, texting etc. I told her all my deepest darkest secrets, I showed her my inner demons.

After putting her through "The Gauntlet" as I called it she told me "I'd never date you." To which I honestly replied "I couldn't care less." 10 minutes later she told me she wanted to be my girlfriend.

Things were great, we dated, we fucked (this girl let me do ANYTHING to her) we had fun it was amazing. About 6 months in she told me "Hey work is picking up and we may see each other less for a few weeks." I was coming up on my unit's 2 week Field Training Exercise so I was in the same boat.

After my field training exercise I figured I'd stop by her house and surprise her for some "grown up things." Who answers the door... Her husband... Who had been away on business... For 6 months... I saw pictures that had never been up before. Pictures of them together, pictures of their wedding... She wasn't home at the time.

I could've played it off as a wrong house, but I couldn't do that to the guy. He deserved to know. I explained to him that I had no idea she was married. I showed him texts, I showed him the pictures she'd sent me, I showed him her dating website profile. I told him everything. I honestly thought I was going to get punched.

He was angry at first, but after a few minutes of just taking it in. He said "I should've seen this coming. Deep down I'm angry at you, but I know it's not your fault. And you're a better man than me for telling me all this. Thank you, but please leave."

I left. 2 hours later I get a text from the girl. "Why did you come to my house? Why didn't you text me first? My husband's gonna kill me!"

My response? "Not my problem."

They got divorced and her ex-husband and I keep in touch. He has since given up on women alltogether.

TL;DR I unknowingly dated and fucked a married woman for 6 months while her husband was on business. I felt guilty and told him everything. He's now given up on women.

[–]fundude1 308 points309 points  (39 children)

I don't see how this is your fault though.

Nothing wrong here. Very good that you told him about the slut.

He would have no right to be mad at you over this. She is the bad person here.

[–]lolbroxel[S] 155 points156 points  (35 children)

I don't blame myself for anything that happened. I mean if I had really taken a look at everything I could've seen it.

A 26 year old public school teacher driving a BMW and living in a $450,000 house, wearing designer clothes and all. It's obvious now, but then I didn't notice.

[–][deleted] 75 points76 points  (14 children)

good move dude. He shouldn't give up on women all together, but remember that AWALT. Bring him here.

[–]lolbroxel[S] 82 points83 points  (9 children)

I've tried to bring him here, but for the time being he just wants to focus on himself and his career. And I can't blame him for that. Maybe with a bit more time he'll get back into the game.

[–][deleted] 117 points118 points  (0 children)

but for the time being he just wants to focus on himself and his career

that's already as RP as it needs to be. In fact most of my friends who are the most RP have never been here. You learn this stuff from interactions with people and women naturally. The more interactions with women, the more RP you become. The reverse is also true, so I would expect most people on this subreddit to be men who had little experience with women.

[–]Heisenberg2308 26 points27 points  (0 children)

Isn't this what you guys call monk mode? He's more RP than he thinks

[–]SteelChicken 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Monk mode is very valuable, especially after significant "life-changing" events.

[–][deleted] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

That is RP, to a T

He's already here

[–]Trpidation 6 points7 points  (3 children)

I would even send him this post. If he sees the amount of support we give people in his situation (considering most of us have been through the same thing in one way or another), and specifically to his story, I wonder if he would be more open to it.

Also, I gotta commend you on being straight up with him like that. It takes major balls and is 110% respectable. I like to think I'd do the exact same thing in that situation. I wish the guy my ex cheated with had done this.

Out of curiosity, were you already RP at the time of this whole thing happening?

[–]lolbroxel[S] 15 points16 points  (2 children)

I don't think he'd want all of the details... He later told me his ex-wife refused to do anything with him other than missionary and that she thought blowjobs were "disgusting"... As stated earlier, she let me do ANYTHING and everything to her. She wanted me to play out rape fantasies with her, choke her, you name it.

[–]Senior ContributorSkorchZang 25 points26 points  (0 children)

This behavior is so cookie-cutter typical for women that after a while you can't even get all that angry, you just laugh. Bitches are hilariously deceitful.

Seeing it happen over and over, both from the perspective of being the cheated beta male and in the next breath, the clueless Chad in a woman's scheme, you realize a valuable thing - why swear off women or beat yourself up, if it was never personal in the first place? They do this to everybody, it's the female modus operandi.

[–]Trpidation 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ahhh good point, fair enough.

[–]charlesbukowksi 4 points5 points  (2 children)

Why shouldn't he give up on women? If you can only relate to women at a physical level, and you have higher aspirations than physically pleasuring yourself, why would you pursue women?

Edit: Obviously if their father has lands you'd like to acquire.

[–][deleted] 7 points8 points  (1 child)

this is anger phase bullshit. Women can and do enrich your life, as long as you maintain a healthy relationship with them.

[–]charlesbukowksi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're making far too many assumptions about who and what I am.

[–]pwnerofnoob 4 points5 points  (2 children)

And she still needed more. Never satisfied.

[–]tallwheel 2 points3 points  (1 child)

Of course she wasn't. She only had her beta bucks. The absence of alpha fucks left a hole that could only be filled by a chad.

[–]pwnerofnoob 7 points8 points  (0 children)

And to think, i can fill that void with the seven dollar chinese buffet...

[–]voomer53 4 points5 points  (3 children)

What did you think she was teaching?

[–]lolbroxel[S] 104 points105 points  (2 children)

Man I was a 22 year old soldier who was getting his dick sucked regularly by a gorgeous girl.

I didn't ask questions.

[–]2 Senior Endorsed Contributorvengefully_yours 25 points26 points  (0 children)

Been there done that, I never gave a fuck if she had a Bf or husband as long as she wanted my cock. The real don't ask don't tell of military life is if she has someone, because most often they do. Sluts around military bases are all cheating, expect it to be like that and be surprised when they're not.

[–]1Dark-Ulfberht 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Dude, no one can blame you on this one.

Dependas be slutting it up.

[–]ColonelMitchell 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Better you do it to her than someone else

[–]StoicBeard 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Those actions I get more satisfaction than deadlifting 400lbs. Good job sir.

[–]redpillersinparis 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Umm how does a public school teacher make so much money?

[–]arnieschwarz 0 points1 point  (8 children)

And this slut is teaching young children. Imagine the consequences....

[–]1feminazis_stalk_me 12 points13 points  (1 child)

She's a woman. There are no consequences, remember? It's never her fault.

[–]as_above_so_below 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Her husband didn't give her enough attention...

While he had her sat up in a BMW, 450k house, probably access to all his funds and then took half in the divorce.

[–]Mightyskunk 1 point2 points  (5 children)

I've had a lot of friends tell me that school teachers are the sluttiest girls they've ever dated.

[–]user_none 1 point2 points  (2 children)

Can confirm. I've dated a handful of teachers, and while they've all been very pleasant, they're sexual monsters. I fucking love teachers.

[–]LateralThinkerer 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Can also confirm with a scattering of teachers over the US. They're kinky-assed freaks.

I love fucking teachers.

[–]unassumingusername7 22 points23 points  (0 children)

He didn't act on his anger. That's all you can really ask for.

[–]beginner_ 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Very good that you told him about the slut.

I don't really disagree with you. Just wanted to point out there is a serious danger in getting involved in such drama. You never know if he or she is a psycho and some harm will come to you from interfering. Often "doing the good, moral" thing will only lead to trouble you could have easily avoided. Especially because you are not wrong and have no moral obligation.

[–]MysterManager 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've always looked at it as a you can't blame a dog for eating steak scenario. If I leave a steak on a table no matter how loyal a dog is to me or how I stress to it not to he is going to eat the steak, after all he is a dog. If I am married to a woman the steak is her pussy, if she puts it out there guaranteed some man with get a piece. Who's fault is it though? The dog who ate the steak or the butcher that set it on the corner of passing dogs?

[–]Endorsed Contributormonsieurhire2 152 points153 points  (11 children)

"'Why did you come to my house? Why didn't you text me first? My husband's gonna kill me!"

My response? 'Not my problem.'"

Now that's a fucking hamster right there. That has to be the biggest one I've ever seen on here. She implies that it's YOUR fault that she got caught out cheating on a husband you didn't even know existed because she never told you, as well as cheating on you, but somehow, YOU created the situation.

[–]Gawernator 13 points14 points  (1 child)

Exactly! It's just insane.

[–]Wtfisthisgamebtw 11 points12 points  (0 children)

"men are such pigs, they are all disgusting! I cant believe he did this to me"

[–]floppymammarygland 9 points9 points [recovered]

Simple answer to why she had that response. She wanted to keep it going. Why spoil the fun?

She most likely assumed this dude knew. Remember, women are FAR more advanced with regards to SMP intelligence than men are. She probably just assumed that since dude was a Chad that he implicitly knew and was going along for the ride.

[–]Endorsed Contributormonsieurhire2 20 points21 points  (2 children)

But she never told him and hid all the pictures that had her husband in them! How was he supposed to know?

Until you have lived a long life and have a lot of experiences, it is VERY easy to be taken advantage of.

Also, it has hard for men to have a lot of sexual experience in terms of different women. Many of them just get one or two girlfriends and pork the hell out of them until death, or it falls apart. Only after multiple failed relationships would a man even have a chance of intuiting something is wrong. Remember, we're brainwashed to chase anything with a vagina and put it on a pedestal. I know SO many men who have been deceived in a variety of ways by these scheming sociopathic women.

[–]1sardinemanR 2 points3 points  (1 child)

It's not that hard if you are intelligent and observant, but most men are pretty stupid.

The average woman, when it comes to this type of stuff, is far more intelligent than a man. She naturally knows what to do and isn't bothered by random social rules, as women make up the rules as they go along in the first place.

Now granted experience certainly helps. Just like in anything. But you also don't need to put your own hand in the fire after watching the 20 guys before you get burned doing that.

[–]1feminazis_stalk_me 7 points8 points  (0 children)

This. Women bend reality to fit their narrative. This is how they can hamster their actions - by never taking blame or being at fault in their own minds.

[–]cud_chewin 3 points3 points [recovered]

She most likely assumed this dude knew.

I agree. This is related to how many times if you ask a woman if you can do something, she'll say "No.", but if you just do it she'll happily go along. She may want it but isn't willing to admit that she does. As long as it's unspoken she'll enjoy herself, but once it's spoken about plainly, she'll have to defend her "good girl" image. Of course she's likely to presume that the man operates the same way.

So yeah, she may have figured the guy knew exactly what was going on but was playing along. Wink wink, nudge nudge. Then he shows up at her house, ruins the party, and she's all confused.

[–]Squeezymypenisy 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I got it as similar. It seemed like she was wondering why he would come to her house if he wanted another good fuck. That he loved her pussy so much that he would never tell her husband.

[–]TRP VanguardHumanSockPuppet 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The hamster serves the feels. The feels must be protected at all costs. Shifting blame protects the feels, so she blames someone else. Never mind how stupid or insane it makes her sound. She gets no feels from appearing smart or rational.

[–]TRP VanguardArchwinger 65 points66 points  (3 children)

Lots of guys are unknowing "Chads" and never figure it out. If a woman wants to lead on 20 guys at once, and they all think they're the only one, it's not like it's hard. Especially if you're generally trusting and have no reason to doubt her.

You did good in the heat of the moment. Seconds after figuring out what was going on, face to face with the man whose wife you'd been screwing, you quickly did the upstanding thing. Her husband deserved to know, and you took responsibility for your part, even though you were misled.

And, of course, on cue, at the end of it all, the girl blames you for ratting her out. Like, how could you? What a betrayal!

[–][deleted] -4 points-3 points  (2 children)

I personally think he shouldn't have told her husband. Sexual strategy is amoral. AF/BB is the female strategy. Can't hate her or judge her for it because AWALT.

[–]WilsonSelf 102 points102 points [recovered]

To this day I can not put myself in the shoes of a person who is willing to humiliate, hurt & drag the person who loves them along a trail of shards of glass & fucking dirt.

This is without a doubt the single most fucked up thing about women. When they cheat, they put you in an illusion where you are blissfully ignorant of the fact that you are at war with Chad McFucknut. In their minds, everything you now do is judged in comparison with the other guys actions. And they WILL see you as the loser. For not finding out. For not inspiring tingles. For your charms diminished effect on her emotional landscape because of years past. For your snooring. For not fucking her (as good, if you're lucky).Everything shitty she doesn't get to see him do, YOU get judged for. The fairytale effect. You're nothing but a wallet. Or something practical. Like a lamp. Or a fucking fork. To be used when needed for something practical.

A stoic exit will inspire tingles if you find out & if it's not too late by then. But fuck her.

OT; Good on you for telling him. Honor among men is the most beautiful thing to witness.

[–]2renzy77 43 points44 points  (7 children)

In their minds, everything you now do is judged in comparison with the other guys actions. And they WILL see you as the loser. For not finding out.

Everything you say is corroborated by Michelle Langley's book Women’s Infidelity: Living In Limbo:

Some of the women resented their husbands’ lack of suspicion. . . . Although females never give males any indication that they are anything less than 100 percent faithful, [they] seem to think men are stupid for believing them. Fe­males just think males should know that when they say “I would never cheat on you,” what they really mean is “I would never cheat on you . . . as long as you make me happy and I don’t get bored.”

It’s not uncommon for women to eventually feel less for their husbands than they would for a stranger on the street. . . . When women start being specific to men about their needs, it’s usually only to let their husbands know all the many areas in which they have failed. In other words, their husbands have already been fired; their wives are just giving them the reasons for the termi­nation. . . . She already has another “Mr. Right” picked out or is eager to find one. She is looking for the feeling of excitement again.

“the word used by the majority of women I interviewed to describe their husbands [was] ‘pathetic.’” When the full extent of their hus­band’s emotional dependence upon them comes out, women are not moved or gratified; they feel contempt for what they see as weakness.

[–]elCIDdaKid 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I understand these books are pretty expensive on Amazon. If anybody wants to "rent" a PDF formatted Women's Infidelity I and II, send me a PM. El Biblioteca de Capitan Cid is open from 12am-12pm-12am, every day.

EDIT- I also have 6 GB of fitness books and another 6 hours of video, some of it dealing with bodyweight workouts, some with SEAL/Army SF/AF PJ/MARSOC fitness, and some with mass gains and weightlifting.

[–]NecroticFury 8 points9 points  (0 children)

which is ironic considering how pathetic they themselves are

[–]2awalt_cupcake 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Well back to the anger phase

[–]Nodeal_reddit 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is that book worth $40? It looks interesting, but the price is way too steep.

[–]GarrusShotFirst 0 points1 point  (1 child)

"Pathetic"..... Until he flips and murders you and the offspring.

But oh yeah, I forgot in Western Civilization there are very little REAL consequences for women cheating.

And we wonder why the social decay is all encompassing.... Gee I wonder.

[–]2 Senior Endorsed Contributorvengefully_yours 30 points31 points  (4 children)

That is exactly right, it's difficult to compete with someone new, even if you're ripped, and doing well financially. The newness is part of the alure, the shiny toy looks better because it's not available all the time. She can see the scratches and faults on the toy she has, she knows it all too well and she wants to discover the new one.

That is exactly why I no longer LTR. It's why I don't let them live with me. Familiarity breeds contempt, the new excitement wanes after a while and she starts looking for the new exciting toy. That is how I've fucked so many of Chad's girls. I'll never trust a girl to have honor or loyalty, even my daughters don't have it. They simply aren't wired that way.

[–]WilsonSelf 11 points11 points [recovered]

Right on the money. I'm actually pro-LTR and yet I have complete understanding for men who choose to opt out & stay out. It's a fucking warzone. I just don't get the same kind of intellectual stimulation and excitement from ONS' or plates. LTR's feed you the pill and test your abilities on hardmode. It is also the place where I get my theories (and others) tried out and confirmed.

It's easy being BB, it's easy being AF. It's hard as fuck to maintain AB.

[–]2 Senior Endorsed Contributorvengefully_yours 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I get my intellectual stimulus from what I do every day, don't need girls to get it. They're fun to have around sometimes.

[–]foldpak111 1 point2 points  (1 child)

It's more fun to focus of fitness, finance, and male friends anyway.

[–]2 Senior Endorsed Contributorvengefully_yours 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I focus on what I want to do, be it buildingmy shop, cars, or playing with my dogs. Come to think of it is been so busy they're a bit starved for attention. It's dog time.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (11 children)

Chris Rock: "Men lie more often, but with smaller lies. Women lie much less, but the lies are massive."

[–]1sardinemanR 15 points16 points  (9 children)

That's nonsense. Women tell big lies, small lies, constantly. They are just pathological liars. I don't think I've ever met a woman in my life who if you spoke to her an entire day could go without lying at last once.

[–]NecroticFury 3 points4 points  (0 children)

except women lie more often as well as with greater intensity.

[–][deleted] 50 points51 points  (2 children)

Lesson for us all. Women require constant supervision and validation, so long distance relationships are usually doomed.

Hot young wife, probably loves male attention, no kids (I'm assuming) and plenty of time on her hands while hubby was away for 6 months. TRPers know exactly how that story will end.

OP was the right Chad at the right place at the right time in this situation. Kudos to him for letting hubby know so he had a chance to get out of the marriage before she really sunk her claws into him.

[–]lolbroxel[S] 24 points25 points  (0 children)

Yeah, luckily he hadn't put a baby in her yet. I'm not sure how the divorce went but at least he doesn't owe child support.

[–]aherne18 33 points34 points  (6 children)

Interesting story. I've also "dated" a married woman: she was very beautiful and absolutely shameless. She badmouthed her husband, told me they were "actually separated", admitted on multiple other "affairs". The usual stuff: including a bad character, always in shit test mode. Felt like being stuck in a toilet with her...

[–]lolbroxel[S] 69 points70 points  (1 child)

90% of the time the husband doesn't know they're "separated."

[–]Kill_Your_Ego 8 points9 points  (0 children)

All three of the married girls I fucked told me that they were separated after I discovered that they were married. The one who I already knew was married had this long sob story about how they were separated and she slept in her own separate room. One of the other girls told me that she was "technically separated" and later told me that this was true because she often slept on the couch.

Of course the men didn't know that they were separated. They thought they were married. Never told any of them.

[–]TRP VanguardCyralea 18 points19 points  (1 child)

She badmouthed her husband

I noticed this one too, common trend. They have some insane contempt for their betas. This one used to shit all over him as pillow talk. She was in my extended social circle. Thought it was funny, but when I actually met the dude I saw that she more or less treated him the same way to his face, in public.

Felt bad for the guy, but I wasn't about to get my hands into that mess.

[–]rundownweather 2 points3 points  (0 children)

"but when I actually met the dude I saw that she more or less treated him the same way to his face, in public."

Ouch. This hits too close to home.

[–]Turn_Coat 4 points5 points  (1 child)

Ah, I too did that, ended up having a relatively pleasant chat with her husband after a week or so. I don't think they divorced, but I certainly hope she realizes, at this point, that there are plenty of guys out there that will enjoy fucking her, and then equally enjoy letting her hubby know what happened.

[–]aherne18 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I don't do that, because most cuckolds would vent their frustration on me instead of their precious whores. Why bother? If they ask me, sure I'd tell them the truth.

Girlfriends I've had also fucked other men behind my back. I don't remember being told anything by guys they fucked...

[–]Senior Endorsed Contributormax_peenor 47 points48 points  (1 child)

I told her all my deepest darkest secrets, I showed her my inner demons.

Why in the world you would ever do that? Don't ever do that again. You were lucky she was a horned up beast at the time. Women will fucking destroy you for doing shit like that.

[–]techemilio 20 points21 points  (0 children)

100% truth in this statement. Never expose yourself to a woman, she will use it against you when you least expect it. Women are not your bros , they wont have your back. Women will only have your back if it means she gets what she wants

[–]PlanB_pedofile 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Glad to see someone with honor. Most chads would run under a rock in this situation. Though their marriage certainly is not your problem it's good that you told him. At least now he can be set on a better path.

[–]GhostOfAladdin 14 points14 points [recovered]

Chad T,

Did the husband get divorce raped?

[–]Kill_Your_Ego 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Of course he did. He's a man.

[–]jcrpta 8 points9 points  (0 children)

"Why did you come to my house? Why didn't you text me first? My husband's gonna kill me!"

Ah, so now she's cheating on her husband and she wants to make it somehow your fault.

Hamsters gonna hamst....

[–]Gawernator 6 points7 points  (9 children)

Is it me or is "Chad" just a new name for "Jody"?

[–]lolbroxel[S] 11 points12 points  (8 children)

Lol I don't think most Civi's know who "Jody" is. I didn't know that reference until I got to Basic Training.

[–]kaspell 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Navy we always had 'Sancho'. I figure the Air Force doesn't have one, but the marines probably have a fun name for Chad

[–]Gawernator 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I can't remember who first introduced me to Jody. I think I was in for at least a year or two before I learned about that mess. Can't recall...

But really Chad is Jody lol. I like Jody more

[–]FatTyrtaeus 1 point2 points  (5 children)

As a Brit, can you please explain 'Jody'?

I've been in the military and I follow several U.S. Military Facebook pages (OAF, Terminal Lance, Mbest and his crew) but us Brits speak a bit differently so I don't get the meaning of it.

[–]foldpak111 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Military- Jody

Ghetto- Jamal

College- Chad

[–]razorwan 3 points4 points  (0 children)

OP you're a very good guy for letting the husband know-- I think you deserve praise for that. Lesser men would keep the dirty whore's secret and let the husband continue to suffer from a parasite he never knew of.

[–]tedcase 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You are a good man. There should be more like you (and less like her).

Well done.

Make sure you jump at the chance to be witness in ther divorce hearing. Dont let the poor sap lose his money.

[–]DrMrPepper 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I give you props for telling the guy. Very few guys would have done that. A mark of a man.

[–]Ali0_o 9 points10 points  (0 children)

what a fucking whore that girl is. utter filth.

[–]Regnuvium 3 points4 points  (10 children)

Fuck man I think I'm in a similar boat as you.

[–]lolbroxel[S] 5 points6 points  (9 children)

Seeing some similar red flags?

[–]Regnuvium 8 points9 points  (8 children)

Well they were more past events so I guess I'll never know, but yeah there were a lot of red flags like you describe, I just never questioned things like that back then. There were a few women who told me their husbands were okay with it too when I did realize, which I just found strange.

[–]lolbroxel[S] 24 points25 points  (5 children)

Word of advice, the husband is never "okay with it." Even if they're in an "open marriage" chances are he's now just getting no action from his wife or other women but he went along with it for fear of her fully leaving him. I saw this a lot in my Army days.

A guy in my unit was a beta provider married to a woman who out of the blue cut 25 lbs, got fit as hell then brought up the open marriage topic. He agreed. For 5 months she just wantonly fucked any alpha she saw while he sat back saying "Yeah I'm totally cool with this, we made this decision together."

[–]2 Senior Endorsed Contributorvengefully_yours 5 points6 points  (1 child)

In the open relationships I've had, I always got more pussy than they got strange dick, and I continued to fuck them. That is exceedingly rare though, especially if the man is fat, weak, and has no game.

[–]BraisedShortribs 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Had a friend a while back ago have his girl push through an open relationship. He said OK, why not.

Cut to about 6 months later, he had started going to the gym and was fucking girls left and right, and she could barely pull the fat guys from clubs. She wanted to renegotiate the open relationship at that point, because she realized it wasn't at all what she had envisioned.

He said fine, we're done. It's like a modern fairy tale..

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That's fucking horrifying. I learn what NOT to be on the red pill every day

[–]Turn_Coat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I know one guy who is "okay with it" and actually is. Why, I haven't the faintest idea, they have a screwed up relationship and she's stated on multiple occasions "I'm done with that sort of thing" before doing it again a month or two later.

Maybe she just needs constant validation, she's not even very attractive.

[–]PlanB_pedofile 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Hahahaja.... no husband is okay with it, unless he's a total beta cuckold.

[–]suddenlytrp 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've only known one who was. And he was into the, "watching some guy do my wife in a creepy way," cuckold thing. To each their own, I guess.

[–][deleted] 3 points4 points  (1 child)

Hopefully you will be his RedPill mentor and can make him into a future Chad

[–]1jb_trp 4 points5 points  (0 children)

They got divorced and her ex-husband and I keep in touch. He has since given up on women altogether.

I remember breaking up with my last girlfriend before TRP. I was crushed. And then one day I was in the pub and I ran into my ex-girlfriend's previous ex-husband. He was nice to me, we talked, he bought me a beer, invited me to come work out. Now that I've swallowed TRP, everything he told me over that beer makes complete sense.

[–]surfjihad 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Good on you for being man enough to tell the husband about his wife. If I was him Id be appreciative

[–]slurms_mac 5 points6 points  (1 child)

Knock off that demon talk, especially if it came from overseas. If you start opening up about the "feels" that came from deployment, she'll put you on the same level as the "homeless vet" begging for cash, or any guy in a "crazy vet" story.

Lots of guys lose frame after they come home/discharged, and it drives away a lot of people. If you do need help, go to the Vets Center.

[–]Endorsed ContributorDoxasticPoo 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Good on you for being straight with him knowing full well he might take it out on you

[–]Gawernator 2 points3 points  (2 children)

That's crazy man. YOU WERE JODY!!!! lol.

Hopefully your friendship with the guy can help ease him out of that negativity and he can find some emotional healing

[–]stevehokie 1 point2 points  (1 child)

Hahahah. But instead of "Jody got your girl and gone..." Its more like "Jody found out your girl was fucking around on you behind your back, then made an honest disclosure to you about her whorish behavior for the past six months." That doesn't fit into a marching cadence as well though...

[–]2johnnight 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Lack of honor, nothing unusual.

For men honor means keeping the word, not breaking the rules, not backstabbing teammates and exposing transgressors. That's why OP did it and that is why the other guy understood.

For women keeping honor means just not being exposed as a slut, nothing more. That is why she could not understand what the men did. It's outside of her frame of understanding.

[–]Rufio0331 5 points5 points [recovered]

glad I'm not the only veteran(Marine here) that feels the same way. Same exact story, kryptonite. Bitch knows all my deepest secrets and demons. I was fucking around with this girl for 6 months until last month who had a boyfriend. She lied to me the whole time about him being a recent ex and how they were still friends, and I knew they were out doing things together all the time. I told him everything, showed him pictures of me and her together, naked photos she sent me, screenshots of conversations me and her had. He's still together with her after getting cold hard evidence of her cheating. It's not black knighting or blackmail, every dude needs to know. Even if he is some beta bitch loser that can't get another girl if he left her. I actually got a call from the cops shortly after to leave her alone, and lost a circle of friends that I guess really weren't real friends after all.

Fucking another dude's girl isn't cool, you wouldn't want it happening to you so why should you do it to another man? If a girl is that unhappy with their significant other, do it the right way and break up with them, but nope there's the crazy ones out there like what you had and what I had that like to carefully manipulate their situations.

[–]aherne18 0 points1 point  (1 child)

That's exactly the reaction I always expect, both from the jilted bf/husband and so-called "friends". Telling them while unasked is a risk not worth taking (considering you can own firearms in US)...

But taking the risk is still commendable.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Revealing the truth to her husband immediately after you found out was fucking perfect. That's balls and I admire you for it a lot.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well done on telling him, that takes a lot of balls.

[–]invader_red 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Good on you for telling him. Seriously.

[–]jaredschaffer27 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Everyone else has covered this pretty well, but I'd just like to say you are a solid fucking dude for telling the husband and then cutting her off. You could have had some wild pussy with no repercussions, but you took the high road. Honor is the ultimate masculine trait.

[–]Rougepellet 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He's gone into Monk mode. I'm thinking that's a natural response for men in situations like this.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (1 child)

Once again proving that it's only men who can keep women from cheating. If monogamy is ever coming back, it's because men like you dug it out of the cold earth.

[–]lolbroxel[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I doubt I stopped her plan. She's probably found another beta provider to drain while she rides the carousel.

[–]YoungHef 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good read. Thanks for sharing.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good on you for doing the right thing. I probably would have chuckled and walked away.

[–]razorwan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The saddest part is that the husband still got the shit end of the stick; that is, he was probably divorce raped.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

you must be a good looking mother fucker! haha

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (1 child)

How did you guys originally meet?

[–]lolbroxel[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

OKCupid. This was before I'd discovered the magic of Tinder.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

you are a top bloke, worthy of respect. you deserve the red pill medal of honor.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"Bitches will be bitches as i smash in the chevy"- in the words of the late Snoop Lion

[–]w4rtortle 0 points1 point  (1 child)

Can someone explain to me what Chad means, i'ts not in the glossary of terms.

[–]DalekJay 0 points1 point  (0 children)

the Avatar of Redpill, mostly unachievable awereness of the Red Pill, we all get some parts of what her is.

[–]iateapricklypear 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good on you man. I've been an unknowing Chad, and in the end I didn't have the guts to let the guys know. Just cowardice, or callousness, but I look back on it with shame

[–]Disillusi0n 0 points1 point  (1 child)

I was almost in this situation. New girl at work showing interest towards me but then I find out she has a fiance in the army. I'd heard about women doing this all the time but it's the first time I've seen it first hand. I just stopped talking to her. The man she supposedly loves is off in some shit hole dodging bullets and IEDs and she's trying to fuck around on him.

[–]lolbroxel[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Enlisted servicemen actually don't make a whole lot of money. That's part of the reason women cheat on military so much.

[–]GarrusShotFirst 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Never feel bad for a marriage and the failings of another man. It happens. Women are emotional vampires. Just use them for their holes.

Now that you know you're of high sexual prowess your eyes are opened and hopefully your mentally tough enough and not stupid to never fall for the Long Con, AKA Marriage/LTR.

Good luck. You have done well.

[–]1PantsonFire1234 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You showed real character man, I'll remember this story.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Did you tell him about TRP?

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[–]lolbroxel[S] 10 points11 points  (6 children)

Please, that girl didn't know what unit I was in or where I was stationed. I made a point of pulling girls at least 50-75 miles away from base. I don't even think she knew my last name.

"Yeah some Army guy with the first name of XYZ is an associate to adultry. Find him and charge him."

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[–]lolbroxel[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Never underestimate the Army SPEC-4 Mafia haha.

[–]Gawernator 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Ha! One of my old ex GF's actually called my little brother asking for my command and CO info LOL!!!! wtf

[–]Gawernator 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't think you could be convicted anyways if you didn't have knowledge of the marriage

[–]tallwheel 0 points1 point  (1 child)

You told her all your deepest darkest secrets and showed her your inner demons, but your last name never came up?

[–]lolbroxel[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I said I don't think she knew my last name, not that I know for sure she didn't.

I never wore my uniform around her so she didn't see my tapes, never showed her my ID. And even if she did know it, nothing came of it so I'm not concerned.

On top of that my first and last name are rather common, so I think I'd be safe regardless.

[–][deleted] -3 points-2 points  (2 children)

This wont be popular but I see no reason to high five you for telling the husband. I can see why you dumped his wife but its not your responsibility to save the dude from a marriage that you are not part of.

Most of the time you will not get a brohug. You will get blamed and alot of unnecessary drama.

[–]jorgander 5 points6 points  (0 children)

... but its not your responsibility to save the dude ...

I see it more as a charitable action than a responsibility, similar to how it's not my responsibility to give a homeless guy 5$, but it may still be a good thing to do.

[–]kaspell 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I see it more as being accountable for your own actions. You help make a mess and cleaning it up doesn't make the thing worse, then you do it. It's how I try to do life in general, but i tend to like the notion of Karma. Sometimes it isn't safe or reasonable to go back and try to make things 'right-er'. Knowing that, I find it helps me to really evaluate my actions, for my own peace of mind. Then if shit goes pear shaped, I don't have to feel much in the way of guilt or regret.

In regards to this post though, it wasn't like he slept on it and went back and found the guy and came clean. He opened the door and choices were made. Well played.

[–]prodigyx -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Good on you for being a man and leveling with the husband. Good on him for holding his frame and realizing that she was the one in the wrong.

The situation sucks for both of you, but hypergamy reigns supreme. It is just how things are.

[–]drqxx -1 points0 points  (0 children)

[–]switters15330 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Nice job. I hope you at least sent him the link to our happy institution of higher learning, when it was all said and done.

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