Tl;dr Every woman has a big red button for a psychological nuke called acceptance in her mind. Learn to revel in her psychotic desperation for approval at large and hone your cool indifference to societal norms for maximum tingles.
Loser is a beautiful word for men. It signifies so many things in such a subtle way. Most people hear loser and can immediately dismiss it, but for many women, the word loser instantly dredges up her past.
Most women battle with horrible insecurities surrounding their place in society. For most, they are told from a very young age that their beauty is what determines their self worth. It is drilled into them, even if they come from a supportive intelligent family. In this day and age, beauty being the end all be all gets to all women no matter what.
So why not call a woman ugly?
For the non autistic amongst us, we can tell calling a woman is too obvious an insult. Calling a woman almost always comes across as incredibly bitter, and that bitterness offsets the cutting effect of an insult like loser. Calling a woman ugly is almost never a wise option, but loser... loser gets to the heart off matters without coming across like a complete fedora.
When I was younger there was this one "popular" girl (she developed DD cups pretty friggin early) who would call other people loser. I never understood it, because while I would have years where I would be full on pariah mode and then years where I would be very popular, I never felt affected by the word. It wasn't until later that I started to see how critical it is for a woman to be a part of a group and feel accepted.
Mean girls came along and I sensed women resonate with this feeling of never being loved or accepted. I watched girls hate Regina George for the stratification effect she had on everyone around her. I watched the lovable goth and gay war against the plastics (you guys should really give mean girls a chance, it's actually an amazing critique of the modern woman) and inevitably win.
Unfortunately in real life this desire to be accepted for women continues on FOREVER
Many women are desperate for marriage not because of the security it affords them, but because they want to remain a part of an extended social circle. Only the married are part of the in crowd, and the singles are completely miserable.
The single women are the losers
So by now I hope you've realized I've been trying to communicate that for women, social structures are infinitely more important than anything else. In settings where I have an aloof positive standing, women on the outskirts will fight with one another to defend me and stay in my good graces.
Yes it's that fucking important to them.
So here is the lynch pin to this post, and probably one of the most important tools you will ever have in the battle for tingles. If you aren't seen as a complete loser, have a few friends in a group with good standing and have a genuine indifference/bemused attitude, they will instantly rank you above them. Hold frame, call them a loser in a bemused way and watch the tingles flow.
Lessons Learned: Women desire group acceptance more than anything else. Having good standing in an accepted group and then mocking a woman's desperate need to be accepted can be one of your most powerful weapons.
EDIT - Guys get this post some visibility, it's getting brigaded, people clearly don't want this becoming too common