Red Pill TheoryWomen love knowing that they can break up with you and crush you (self.TheRedPill)

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I have grown up with two sisters, a single mother, and have had countless women around me throughout my years on this planet. One thing that I know almost all of them have in common is how they love knowing that after they dump their boyfriends, those once men are crushed to the point that they beg them to come back or cry to their friends about how they miss her. They love knowing that they are so good, that men weep when they leave them.

This is something that CANNOT HAPPEN TO YOU. Women want to destroy your manhood to the point that you cannot go on without them. Once that happens, they will leave your ass sitting in the shit box that you created for yourself. All the while, they are off having wine with their girlfriends laughing about the fact that they heard for so and so that their ex boyfriend hasn't gotten out of bed for days and has been asking about her.

Do not do this shit. You have to be the man that doesn't give a shit if a woman leaves you. You have to be the man that has his shit together at all times. Not only have I seen and heard first hand women revel in the fact that they crushed their boyfriend but I have also had the pleasure of hearing women upset because their ex-boyfriend has a new and improved model version of a girlfriend lined up right after the chicks dump their boyfriend. They hate that shit even more and will do anything to get you back in their vagina to ruin your new relationship. Why? I'll tell you why. Because women are miserable if they are not destroying a man's life. And what they hate worse, is a man who is happy without them.

Don't be a man that basis your happiness around a woman. Be a man that is happy by your damn self. Be a man that can be dropped off in the middle of the desert without food and water but still find time to have fun drawing big dicks in the sand so any rescue aircraft will see it when they find you.

EDIT: 9/9/2015

Please keep in mind that this is not a woman hating post. This is an awareness post. Some of the things on this forum sounds like we hate women. Granted, there are some men who are waking up that have reached the anger phase. Sure, it turns outward and blames women but really this is just how we, men, deal with disappointment while being blue pill. We whine and blame others when deep down we know it is our fault all along. Always remember, when it comes to all this information about women, YOU CAN'T HATE A FISH FOR SWIMMING. Women have evolved the skills to weed out weak males that will not produce superior offspring. Since women did not evolve in a strength aspect where they could just overpower someone to get what they want, they evolved mentally and physically in a way that manipulates men into doing what they want. From the soft skin, plum lips, and hour glass figure to their mental games. It has all been designed by God to make sure the human race remains at the top of the food chain. So don't hate the player, hate the game. Learn the game and beat the game.

[–]ThrowyMcGruder 258 points259 points  (29 children)

When I was about 16 I started going out with a girl who I was friends with. We lasted about three months and she left me because it wasn't working out, and it really wasn't.

We both felt it and it was a pretty healthy and honest "let's go back to being friends" on both our parts.

About three days later she had a boyfriend who (surprise surprise) she had been spending a lot of time with for the last few weeks.

I was a bit pissed off but said nothing.

Then a really cute girl from the class below me asked me out. She said she had liked me for a long time and that she felt like she had missed her chance when I started going out with the ex.

So she just decided not to let that happen again and straight up grab me before someone else did as soon as she heard I was single. I said "Sure, why not?".

My ex fucking lost it.

She confronted me publicly, screaming about how I didn't even wait a week before finding some "little slut" as if I never even cared about her and our relationship had meant nothing.

She got so worked up about it that her new boyfriend got all pissy with her and dumped her and she ended up crying about how I ruined her life.

[–]warjesus420 65 points66 points  (7 children)

Well duh like of course, you like totally did. She wasn't doing what you were doing you PIG! The thing that she was doing with that other guy, which seems like exactly the same except that it was before your relationship ended, was just what she needed to do to be happy. Nothing wrong with her actions, but you...horrible. Even though you didn't do anything until after breaking up./Sarcasm

If I had a nickel for every time a girl said that bs about how "she's just doing what she needs to be happy" No, no. a penny. Millionaire by now.

The funny thing is if you broke down about her and that guy then the cute young girl would've dried right up. Your ex would've added a notch to her belt of men she crushed. You'd be more depressed and your ex would've never made a fool of herself and your belt wouldn't have the younger-cute-girl-notch it now has.

[–]setzer_ 23 points24 points  (4 children)

Its fucking amazing isn't it. This all being so absolutely obviously true. But just to break it down like that.... its really hard not to be a misogynist I find.

[–][deleted] 8 points9 points  (3 children)

well yeah being a misandrist is like rooting for the favorites over the underdogs who don't get credit for doing literally everything.

[–]redpillersinparis 4 points5 points  (2 children)

You're a special olympian? what does that mean?

[–]TheOboeMan 5 points6 points  (0 children)

You miss-spelled billionaire.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

was just what she needed to do to be happy

Man, that line has been used to justify just about everything short of nuclear war.

[–]One_friendship_plz 91 points92 points  (5 children)

The worst part about stories like this is they're so common that if anyone read this and couldn't relate to it.. they're obviously an introvert who doesn't hang around women.

It's that common.

[–]1jb_trp 8 points9 points  (1 child)

This is why the best thing to do when they leave you is to cut them out of your life and move on.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was at a KFC with my friend when he told me that his girlfriend(of 3 years, he met her when she was 15 he was 20 at the time) just ended it, she graduated from high school and just like that without any talking to him flew off to Ireland to work. Then he discovered a note from her "don't miss me" basically saying that she doesen't care.

Some time later he got to know that she instalny met a 26 or 29 year old doctor there and now they're living together, she was showing it off so everyone knew.

Like 2 or 3 weeks after she started announcing to the world that she has a new BF he started to see a different girl.

He showed me a recent text saying the exact same shit: "as if I[He] never even cared about her and our relationship had meant nothing".

We tried to reason with her but she wouldn't have it and then she even tried to cuck him to save himself for her or something:

"I want to keep an arrangement with you" when he told her: "yup I don't care".

Insane shit.

[–]Hokuto199x 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Good on you for being so big about the situation at 16, though. She obviously wanted you to be at least a little disgruntled, but you never let her see you mad.

[–]skoobled 4 points5 points  (1 child)

The fundamental point is that women fetischise "owning" men. This applies equally to desirable and undesirable men. Of course they would prefer to own desirable men, but undesirable men are good too because it suggests she has the skills to own hawt men also

I'm due to break up with a plate-gone-too-far for this exact same little-by-little-attempts-to-dominate-my-life reason

[–]Nebulose11 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As Nike says - Just do it. Let her go make someone else miserable and get on with fucking women who don't try to own you. Your time is valuable, she doesn't seem like a decent investment, let alone a good one, anymore.

[–][deleted] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

She got so worked up about it that her new boyfriend got all pissy with her and dumped her and she ended up crying about how I ruined her life.

Halp guyz. I'm a victim in this, don't you fucking see it!

[–]BallisticTherapy 27 points28 points  (0 children)

Hahaha! TIGHT! I LOVE that shit!

Hypocrite bitch thought she got herself some cock & a beta orbiter and ended up losing BOTH!


[–]TRP Vanguard: "Dark Triad Expert"IllimitableMan 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Hahaha. She's totally oblivious to her own branch swinging that she set up before splitting with you (3 days? yeah, that's a branch swing) but she lost her shit when you got with another girl with no premeditated branch swing. Gotta love how full of shit these bitches are.

[–]insaneyoshi 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I can relate a similar story: had my first GF when I was 20. I was dumb back then, and even though the bitch had jumped from one guy to the guy I "stole" her from (not even trying to hide her hypergamy), I thought I was in love.

Turns out she had to go for a while to another country, and we agreed to do the whole long-distance thing. Of course the bitch fucks someone else while over there, and I find out. I didn't know anything about RP, but I had 2 girls interested in me, and I hadn't done anything with them (to remain loyal). As soon as I find out about the GF's disloyalty, I called up one of these girls and fucked her that same night. 2 weeks after that I was going out with a younger, prettier girl as well. Of course the ex-GF cried over messenger, and even threatened to kill herself and what not when she found out. Huge call for attention that luckily didn't cause anything serious.

This bitch is married now, and this was almost 10 years ago. Even though she kept branch-swinging openly, and discarding other dudes on the way, she still tries to call me every time she's back here. Funny how I understood hypergamy the second I read about it here, thanks to this bitch almost a decade ago.

[–]Bwhitty23 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Teeneager to 20 something year old women have no concept of logic and empathy. Her breaking up with you fails because she couldn't handle that people move on. Hell she moved on before you guys broke up but it's your fault? I just don't understand.

[–]Endorsed Contributormonsieurhire2 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ah, that warms the cockles of my heart.

[–]CyricYourGod 112 points113 points  (33 children)

There is always a lesser partner in a relationship. There is always someone who has more to lose when the partnership ends. Don't be the guy with more to lose.

[–]Endorsed Contributorvandaalen 77 points78 points  (2 children)

Or with Patrice O'Neal's words:

The ideal relationship is the one where the woman loves the man and the man likes the woman.

[–][deleted] 5 points6 points  (1 child)

Brilliant. Never heard that one from P

[–]Endorsed Contributorvandaalen 10 points11 points  (0 children)

[–]Scarbane 14 points15 points  (0 children)

"The person with the most power in a relationship is the one who needs the other the least."

[–]Bellum00 11 points11 points [recovered]

This attitude won't work if you have children and a house together.

You can be the guy with more to lose, you just have to accept you can lose and don't let it trouble you. A samurai can be cut down, he just accepts it and doesn't let it trouble him.

You can't avoid the bad that goes with the good, only accept it.

[–]CyricYourGod 1 point2 points  (4 children)

Except that is not necessarily true, women also have a desire for a good provider for their children. If you are a good provider (as well as a strong, attractive male), the woman will have a lot to lose if she divorces you.

But I suppose you're right because it's more of a mindset which signals your position, not necessarily a mathematical equation. When you feel you're not in power you become more clingy and needy which is unattractive to women. People in power don't feel compelled to capitulate to every demand but instead have the ability to choose which demand they will fulfill. They are able to set terms and the other partner must follow them if they want to maintain the partnership. Unless this power is abused, this will set up a healthy long-term relationship.

[–]Bellum00 1 points1 points [recovered]

Forget all that a relationship is a power struggle crap.

A healthy relationship is one where both parties control their own sphere and they both respect that. One party using veto means it's a no go.

A woman that doesn't respect that should be nexted.

[–]CyricYourGod 2 points3 points  (2 children)

You're deluding yourself if you believe every relationship doesn't have a partner with veto power. You either have the lead or you do not. A healthy relationship is one where both partners aren't confused about who is in charge.

The boss may delegate decision-making power but that doesn't somehow make him not the boss. This isn't an excuse to abuse power however, as with any leadership position, power is best used when there is mutual respect.

[–]Bellum00 1 points1 points [recovered]

I'm the boss of my sphere, she's the boss of her sphere, and we both have veto in the common sphere. It either works because you both govern your own and the common sphere in a good way, or it doesn't because one is a cunt.

Nexting is easier than micro-managing someone else. I'm not going to struggle for power if a woman doesn't respect my right to decide my own life or have my say in our shared life, I'm going to kick her to the curb and replace her with one that 'just gets it'.

[–]CyricYourGod 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No one said "micro managing". Do you not understand how delegation works? I feel like I'm arguing with a moron.

[–]Jack_Sophmore 13 points14 points  (22 children)

But that means dating lower quality women then you are capable of getting.

[–]CyricYourGod 33 points34 points  (4 children)

Unconsciously or consciously both partners will understand their position in the relationship and will play the roles. If you date outside of your league you will have power issues.

[–]ShockMonsta 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Power issues or there's a good chance it just won't last long at all.

[–]Boovs4life 1 point2 points  (2 children)

So how do we handle a relationship with a girl that is out of our leagues? Are they all doomed to fail because of the power issues?

[–]CyricYourGod 9 points10 points  (0 children)

As was brought up before, power is a mental thing. If you know the girl is out of your league you've already lost. You must believe that you are above the girl in the way that you believe that you're physically and mentally more capable that an eight year old.

You must believe that the girl needs you and you don't need the girl, that the girl is replaceable and you are not.

Imagine if you were a billionaire, as a 5 in looks, dating a 9 in looks. Do you think you couldn't go to the store and replace that 9 with ten others just like her? Of course you can and your attitude and behavior to her will reflect this.

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[–]AdorableAnt 9 points10 points  (1 child)

They don't just fade, but people get tired of each other. It's completely normal that HB9 in looks won't turn you on any more 3 years and 500 shags later, even if her looks didn't change one bit. After a while, other factors gain importance.

[–][deleted] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

From wise Bill Burr: "At the end of the day, we just want a chick that's just a little chubby. I'm not talking a whale, but one that just has a few of those things that doesn't make her gorgeous. They have more invested and will suck your dick dry and then have a sandwich waiting. We don't want the drop dead gorgeous model that goes on photo shoots and shit, she's a shit bag full of problems waiting to happen."

Probably totally botched that quote, but it was on his podcast this Monday.

[–]warjesus420 5 points6 points  (0 children)

What you're getting at is: have high SMV

Women who are of higher SMV than you you can't get. Because of her hypergamy she is the one getting a person of "Higher quality" (as you put it) always. They are the ones who get above their SMV, we unfortunately get what is below us.

[–]-IIIII--------IIIII- 14 points14 points [recovered]

IMO guys who date women lower SMV than them aren't fulfilling their potential.

Yes, a consequence of hypergamy is women getting tingles from higher SMV guys only, but you have to remember that SMV is relative. Getting women higher SMV than you is about having the inner mindset, inner game, and inner audacity to ask for more.

Remember, it's all about advertising you. Don't sell yourself short. Even if everyone else thinks she's out of your league, you can get the girl if SHE thinks she's under you.

[–]BallisticTherapy 13 points14 points  (3 children)

Sounds like there's an argument to be had for undermining confidence in women.

Nowadays they call that abuse.

[–]1aguy01 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Women's bread and butter tactics are 'emotional abuse' when done by a man.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And when society undermines confidence in men.

They call that female empowerment.

[–]2red4u 7 points8 points  (2 children)

I don't necessarily agree. I think it's healthy to have a girl who is a few slivers below you on the SMV scale.

If a guy is a 9 and just takes the easy 6's then sure, he's definitely punching below his weight class and that's a safe but kind of cowardly move.

However if a guy is a 9 and shoots for the 8-8.5's, I think it's realistic, has a much higher chance of success long term than a 9 with a 9, and still at least takes some effort and game on his part.

It doesn't need to be a 2-3 point fluctuation.

[–]alveoli1 4 points5 points  (0 children)

No, it just means valuing yourself more than any women.

You should be the prize to be sought after. She should be chasing after you, not you after her.

The second you value her over yourself, you have lost the Game.

[–]Senior Contributordr_warlock 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The power derives from care not SMV differential. However, the smv differential does influence how you treat the other. The idea is to give less fucks.

[–]Glenbert 0 points1 point  (0 children)

...then you are capable of getting.

Define "getting." It could be said that if you love her more than she loves you, you haven't "gotten" anything.

[–]the99percent1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ideally, you want to date a girl who is both pretty and charming.

Whilst you bring provisioning and status to the table.

That relationship is balanced and mutually beneficial.

Aim for this.

[–][deleted] 85 points86 points  (17 children)

OP is right that women looooove to crush a man, it's a big ego boost and that's why they brag to other women about it.

Did she dump you?

Go radio silent and continue your life as if nothing changed. Eat clean, lift hard, and work harder. Read up on game and spend your free time doing fun hobbies with other people.

She will absolutely check in to make sure you are suffering like a good little Beta. Then you can do one of two things:

Continue to ignore her. Or....

Show her a pleasant disposition and act like nothing ever happened. That's right, your non-neediness will intrigue her, and cause her to think she made a big mistake

Ask her for drinks and try and close that night. If she gives you a hard time, go radio silent forever.

If you f-close then it's your call whether to plate her or not.

She never gets promoted beyond plate

[–]ShockMonsta 30 points31 points  (2 children)

I agreed all the way up until you said go out for drinks with her and try and fuck her; just be visibly content and pay her no mind. Who the fuck would want to bang her at this point in the situation?

[–]Endorsed ContributorrebuildingMyself 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I've only banged an ex when she initiated it by literally texting she wanted to fuck. Even then I told her that it's only sex and if she thinks it'll get me to take her back she should just drop it. Got three more bangs before she broke down and wanted me back so I cut it off.

[–][deleted] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Actually you agree with me 100 percent. I said one could do that or continue to ignore her.

[–]Trpdoc 19 points20 points  (8 children)

My 2 year relationship is based on overcoming stupid little shit tests she throws which include trying to crush me. I simply dont give a shit and it drives her insane. It's amazing, she stays with me partly bc she can't take the fact that If we broke up I wouldn't really lose much sleep. Somehow she has convinced herself partly bc of this that we are in love. Its an incredible thing really, beautiful in neuropsychological ways

[–][deleted] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

She loves a man she can't break. The chase is what women love, not the flowers, poems, and candy

[–]TheReformist94 9 points10 points  (6 children)

Its not incredible.its sad and women are pathetic.i pity that they cant love another human in a normal healthy way. When a woman is in love is pathetic and counts for shit

[–][deleted] 17 points18 points  (3 children)

Maybe try and nudge that thinking a bit. Woman can't love men in a way that men love women.

Your use of words "normal and healthy" are screaming that you expect feminine love to mirror masculine love when it's much different. It's more opportunistic.

[–]TheReformist94 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Cool.and they can just get into their heads that men can love more than one woman at a time and comprehend that I want to fuck several women at once

[–]NecroticFury 0 points1 point  (1 child)

I expect them to be held accountable. Society expects them to do nothing. I really don't care how they feel or if they suffer as a result. Justice should be served. Fuck being opportunistic. They should either love in a healthy way or refrain from it entirely.

If they can't learn to do this they can remain a plate until the end of time.

[–]Merwebb 0 points1 point  (1 child)

Thats their normal healthy way. Deal with it

[–]TheOboeMan 5 points6 points  (0 children)

There's nothing healthy about it. It just is.

[–]_the_shape_ 3 points4 points  (1 child)

Disagree with the f-close. Builds a tougher character in the long haul to close the door on her forever than to try to sneak one last dicking in, and works better in reinforcing the perspective that the next one will be better

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am glad you agreed with me then

[–]bp-74 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Perfect summary and action plan.

[–]TheReformist94 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why do we feel such guilt cheating or breaking up with a girl when they can do those things so easily and actually enjoy it.its sickening.theyre sick in the head. I have no remorse for my actions anymore

[–]nomad-oz 30 points31 points  (3 children)

Nothing upsets a woman more than after she dumps you she discovers you're happy as ever.

Back in my early 20's I was unexpectedly dumped one Saturday afternoon when I dropped her off at home after returning from fucking outdoors under the trees. We had actually made plans to go to a party the evening. She told me no longer wanted to see me because she found a new boyfriend, then walked off and went inside before I could even reply.

I was in shock and drove home numb. I soon reasoned I had a party to go to so there is no point wallowing about what just happened. I go to the party intent on having a good time and to drown my sorrows. Later that evening She rolls up with her new BB in tow. She tells me she is surprised that I still went to the party. I just wish her well in the future and return to enjoying my self. I leave with a girl 30min. later.

A couple of days later she drops buy. Ends up being a long term plate. Even after marring BB she would visit whenever he upset her. A woman needs her AF.

[–]newls 1 point2 points  (1 child)

I'd like to hear more about this story.

[–]nomad-oz 3 points4 points  (0 children)

She HB8 noticed me in a supermarket the confident way I flirted with a baker girl. Followed me outside and made sure we crossed paths. I had bought bread rolls, cold cuts, wine and cheese for a continental breakfast. I invited her to join me for breakfast. This led to a BJ and goodbye.

A week later I notice her from my office window. I go out to meet her. Apparently she walks past on her way to catch the bus home. She lives in the next suburb so I offer to drop her home. This leads to us going to may place to fuck before I drop her home 5 days a week. We start spending on Saturday afternoons together. Then the occasional weekend evening out. This built up over 3 months.

When I dropped her home on the day mentioned in my post above her mom came out to meet us. Apparently her real long term boyfriend was inside waiting and she dumped me then and there to avoid a messy scene. I had no idea at the time.

Her Boyfriend looked like a Chad and had good family connections. ie. marriage material. He played football in winter and cricket in summer, giving her a lot of free weekend time. Every one here at TRP knows what happens if she is not getting her required amount of attention. AWALT.

She was attracted to my self confidence. I have a Lone Wolf INTJ sigma personality, plus handsome, intelligent, stylish, etc which helps. Being very attractive she was assertive and demanding and knew how to work her pussy pass to advantage, often trying to make me jealous. It never worked... IDGAF. In fact she got jealous when I fucked her GF or when she found I had a 3some the previous night. She got crazy turned on after she dropped by unannounced and met another woman just leaving.... got kinky determined to prove she was better in bed.

Initially she was trying to branch swing but crashed... then thought she still could recover. Later it was that she easily controlled BB and the challenge of trying to control me. Then she got hooked on the excitement of a secret lover.

[–]king_of_red_alphas 23 points24 points  (1 child)

Maybe they do love to do that, but if you've ever seen these same women pumped and dumped by Chad after convincing themselves they could lock him down, you'd know many of them get properly destroyed (repeatedly).

Women don't destroy Chads, they destroy dependent betas.

[–]648262 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It's a healthy reality check.

[–]mrmeyhemn 134 points135 points  (59 children)

when you get to be old enough that almost all of the available women in your "age group" (lol like i want to date women my age) are single moms you have to ask yourself: "what is there to miss about saggy tits, loose skin, stretch marks, the thousand cock stare, BPD, and a pussy you can put your clenched fist in?"

don't let women determine your worth.

[–][deleted] 133 points134 points  (27 children)

Turned 30 a couple months ago and am slowly seeing this:

"I am a proud mother of X kids and they come first. I am looking for a good man with a stable job that can handle this and be OK with me not having that much time for dating"

Yeah....pass. haha

And they try to give me shit for only dating 23 and below women.

[–]Kill_Your_Ego 77 points78 points  (18 children)

I just can't believe how delusional they are. They actually think that they can raise their standards after smashing into the wall at 100mph! I hate to destroy these horrible cunts' daydreams but twenty year old girls have asked me out. They've asked me. And once a big tittied forty-five year old offered me a weekend of carnal delights, paid for by her, and apologized profusely for pretending she wasn't invisible when I turned her down. Why the fuck would I ever date women anywhere near my age? They're so pathetic.

[–][deleted] 78 points79 points  (8 children)

You mean a masters degree in business administration doesn't do it for you? But they are independent and don't need a man to take care of them. That should turn your dick hard right?

[–]BlackHeart89 10 points11 points  (5 children)

masters degree in business administration

Wtf does this even mean? Its so broad. Seems like one of those degrees that are only worth something if you already have the work experience to back it up. My supervisor has a BS in this. Though she had this job before getting it. Now she's going back for her masters. For what?

[–]Haus_of_Klaus 6 points7 points  (1 child)

Business Administration is a catch-all title for many business disciplines. Economists, accountants, and financers all have that degree with concentrations in their fields. And depending upon your concentration, it's a very worthwhile degree that is required for most well-paying business positions. I made over $50k my first job out of college in finance and I don't live in a major city.

Like the person below said, a masters in BA can fetch you $100k. That's why people get it.

Also, Warren Buffet has this degree with a specialization in economics. So, if you think it's bullshit, you just don't know how the industry works.

[–]BlackHeart89 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I definitely thought it was bullshit. Everyone I know personally isn't doing much with it. Thats wild. Good to know.

[–]cutegirlsthrowaway 27 points28 points  (1 child)

To be clear, an MBA is generally pretty prestigious unless you got one from U of Phoenix. Many people with an MBA from a quality school end up very successful in life. The point OP was making is that an MBA does nothing to make a woman more attractive to men

[–]icallmyselfmonster 3 points4 points  (0 children)

M.B.Arts is a social club for people stepping on the business ladder. It needs to be a fairly famous university. I would consider doing one in Hong Kong. But to be honest you meet more influential people in the casinos of Macau. But you have to be able to play poker.

[–]Ivabighairy1 11 points12 points  (0 children)

It means getting promoted from Secretary III to Secretary IV

[–]cariboo_j 1 point2 points  (0 children)

don't need a man to take care of them

Honestly if they stick to that, that's not a bad deal.

I don't want to be financially responsible for some unreliable, over emotional "oldest teenager in the house".

Of course the law will make me financially responsible if she surreptitiously stops taking birth control or we move in together. Regardless of her ability to provide for herself.

Seems like you just can't win these days.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yet they do need a strong man to raise the kids.

The hamstering. It's over 9000.

[–]mrmeyhemn 45 points46 points  (7 children)

they think their pussy ages like wine, when it ages more like milk, or damp tube socks left in a ziplock after a hiking trip.

its unfortunate that delusional is the strongest word we can use to describe this type of thinking.

edit: the older women think they have more to offer, and in some ways they are right, more wrinkles, more cellulite, more labia (majora and minor), more stretch marks, more demands, more..oh fuck it you get the point.

[–]vvancruz 17 points18 points  (2 children)

Labia has nothing to do with age or use. I 've had virgins with 2 inches of roast beef hanging and sluts with 100,000 miles of cock have small pink lips. Don't be fooled or deceived! Increase your sample size and you will come to the same conclussion.

[–]rpscrote 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Increase your sample size and you will come to the same conclussion.

How very scientific of you, "Hey baby I wasnt sleeping around I was just proving a hypothesis, gathering evidence"

[–]mrmeyhemn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

my sample size is fairly large already. im aware that what you are saying holds truth. its genetic and not directly linked to n count. it is more a stab at them. although it still doesn't matter if she has pink lips if you can slam a clenched fist in it.

[–]LetsGoAllTheWhey 25 points26 points  (1 child)

More misery, more hard-edged voice, more aggressiveness...

[–]mrmeyhemn 10 points11 points  (0 children)

the list is endless haha motherfucking ha. single moms are fucking losers and have 0 clues.

[–]TheReformist94 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The worst thing is they actually dont age like milk if they take care of themselves.the majority of famous celebrities who are in their mid 30s are still marrying women neat or at the wall,despite having hoardes of 23 year olds to fuck.unfortunately men love too deeply to see past a few crows feet on a 29yo face if we've been with them for years

[–]mrmeyhemn 47 points48 points  (2 children)


"I am a woman that makes bad choices, since my kids are my meal ticket i put them over everything else. I am looking for someone that is capable of contributing to my fluffy lifestyle as a single mom so you have to have steady income. you must be ok with me continuing to ride the CC because, well, im gonna. please submit 3 most recent check stubs and a full body picture."

yeah i know the type all too well. they really hate it when you go for the younger fresher meat, they can't stand it when the wall comes and they start losing their ability to get whatever they want from men, so they try to shame us into "dating in our age group". you know, because its "the right thing to do" to give washed up, blown out, post wall skanks your resources, for the kids you know.

[–]__528491__ 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Yet they all forgot how on the CC years they would only want to bang older guys.

[–]spicedncoke 1 points1 points [recovered]

Hey, I'll gladly fuck them if they're attractive enough but if they don't have time for me dating them, I sure don't have time for them either.

[–]mrmeyhemn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i will still fuck them as well, but im not about to "date" them. i ain't got nothin but hard dick and conversation for single moms.

[–]scarletspider3 18 points19 points  (11 children)

I'm 32 and I wouldn't touch none of my ex's no more. They mostly all hit the wall and are already used up.

[–]2 Senior Endorsed Contributorvengefully_yours 22 points23 points  (10 children)

I'm 46, my youngest ex is 33. Yeah, not hoping that one comes back, nor any of the others who are over 40 as well as over 240. I hear it all the time, date older girls. Why do that when I can fuck multiple college girls for a while, then get another when one wears out?

[–]mrmeyhemn 16 points17 points  (4 children)

I hear it all the time, date older girls. Why do that when I can fuck multiple college girls for a while, then get another when one wears out?

thats what i love about uni towns, i get older they stay the same.

i was on the "date in my age group" blue pill bullshit for a good minute. im pushing 40. yeah well, fuck that, not anymore.

about to move to a large uni town known for partying as an independent artist. i have my shit together and do fun things for hobbies. its going to be like a smash and grab at a jewelry store with no security.

[–]2 Senior Endorsed Contributorvengefully_yours 8 points9 points  (3 children)

My go to when they ask what I do is either artist or simply "I build stuff" which are both true, but neither pays my bills, that's my hobbies. Damn theres a ton of them this year.

[–]IDefyAxioms 1 point2 points  (2 children)

What kind of things do you build and create?

[–]2 Senior Endorsed Contributorvengefully_yours 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My home, muscle cars, hot rods, I draw, sculpt, and paint, but I don't tell that to girls I want to fuck.

[–]scarletspider3 11 points12 points  (4 children)

I still have this one chick that calls me every now and then that I used to have oneitis for during my late teen-early 20's to try to hook up or something. I just talk for a min and then blow her off. Like does she really think that I worked this hard on my career to take her back now that she has 2 kids and is all used up?

[–]2 Senior Endorsed Contributorvengefully_yours 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yeah she really does think that. If they look ok I might fuck her a few times, but that's the extent of it.

[–]Nebulose11 5 points6 points  (1 child)

Women think that if a man had a crush on her 20 years ago that he still has that crush going for her. Well we kind of do. But it is a crush on that 18 year old body she does not have anymore.

[–]Solitary_Wolf 12 points13 points  (11 children)

the thousand cock stare

could you explain this. i dont know how to identify it.

[–]-Quotidian 30 points31 points  (1 child)

This glazed, almost deadened look in a woman's eyes when she starts remembering the miles of dick she's had. Not regret, but a kind of numbed remembrance. Look it up, some people have linked articles or written about it here. Hell, Google "Thousand Cock Stare" and you'll know it when you see it.

[–]frequentlywrong 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Compare a young innocent girl to a 30 year old party slut. Vastly different eyes. The old chick has no femininity left.

[–]nuc22 43 points44 points  (3 children)

When people have sex their bodies release a hormone, oxytocin. Oxytocin is also released in a woman during childbirth. Its function is to "bind" two people to each other, male/female during sex & mother/child during birth. With women now free to have sex with whomever they please, the hormone's effect diminishes. So with every different man a woman fukks, her ability to bind to a man lessens. The "thousand cock stare" is the dull, sad face you see in women who can no longer "bind" to a man because their bodies no longer respond to Oxytocin

[–]Endorsed ContributorPopeman79 6 points7 points  (0 children)

This is actually a very good scientific explanation. I mysrlf found that sluts with a high count had difficulties to pair bond, but I didn't have an explanation for it

[–]iamirishpat 1 point2 points  (1 child)

So couldn't this happen to me, too?

[–]EriGorman 1 point2 points  (0 children)

To a sertain extent, yes. However, males are programmed to spread their seed as much as possible, and only settle down when that task is complete. Meaning, as long as you fuck around, the less likely Oxytocin is to be the dominant hormone when it comes to relationships

[–]BlackHeart89 12 points13 points  (1 child)

Honestly, the stares look just like any other stare to me. Its not really something you can see in a picture if you don't already know the person. Its something that you'll notice when you can match it with the person's demeanor.

I really can't explain it. But some women have this really confident look while still playing innocent. It implies that she's been around and is well aware of how to play the game. And by confident, I mean confident in her ability to seduce and play you. Not just, "I know I look good".

[–]rpscrote 1 point2 points  (0 children)

imo its a lack of reaction to things that would cause a less... experienced woman to react

[–]BlackHeart89 10 points11 points  (1 child)

"what is there to miss about saggy tits, loose skin, stretch marks, the thousand cock stare, BPD, and a pussy you can put your clenched fist in?"

Lol in your age group? Dude. I'm 25 and damn near all the women over 18 have kids, fat as fuck, and/or have had at least 8 dicks ran up in them. The first two make it difficult for me to even hold a conversation with them, let alone fuck. At that point, they could have only had 1 partner and I still wouldn't date them.

[–]mrmeyhemn 1 point2 points  (0 children)

bro, im sorry. where i am there are fattys, but there are still plenty of 24-25 yo women without kids. one of the women i was planning on plating a few months ago got herself pregnant at 27. then again its a really conservative town with churches on every corner. of course the hood rat bitches are dropping out kids at 15 but there isnt much of that here. sorry for your luck

[–]rtron36 50 points50 points [recovered]

Women want to destroy your manhood to the point that you cannot go on without them. Once that happens, they will leave your ass sitting in the shit box that you created for yourself.

My latest ex kept on contacting me and wanting to hang out after the breakup, but was careful to stipulate "ONLY AS FRIENDS," i.e. "you don't get to have sex with me." She wouldn't even drink alcohol for fear that her defenses would come down. I only agreed to this twice, and both times she was a condescending cunt the whole time. I thought to myself, why does she even want to hang out with me? Answer: to re-frame the breakup (my idea) as her idea, i.e. put me in my shitbox. Once I realized that, I asked her not to contact me any more, and she hasn't.

[–]mrmeyhemn 34 points35 points  (5 children)

they like to keep you around after a breakup so they can try to get the knife in there, and twist that shit slowly. they get off on tormenting men.

[–]rtron36 9 points9 points [recovered]

Yep. Very sadistic. She would actually have a smile on her face while she'd talk down to me . . . I really do believe that it was fun for her.

[–]Blood_Red_Phoenix 2 points3 points  (2 children)

It's women like that that being us to TRP, and future alphas like us who will bring women like that to their knees

[–]rtron36 3 points3 points [recovered]

After the breakup, she went and got her cats' names tattooed on her arm. Two cats. She doesn't even own them any more, one died and she gave up the other to her aunt because she couldn't take care of it. So not only is she a cunt, she's a total idiot.

[–]mrmeyhemn 2 points3 points  (0 children)

they always do stupid shit like that. my last ltr went and got 3 LARGE dogs from the pound in 1 week. granted she had room for them on the property but she was planning on moving to a smaller place. ended up moving back in with her parent who have a tiny yard.

they don't think shit through, ever, they just do what their feeeeeelings tell them to do.

[–][deleted] 20 points21 points  (1 child)

Bravo. Good shit hearing you got out fairly quick. Next time, if they are not down for the quick fuck, they are just trying to use you. The whole "only as friends" BS can be turned around if you reply text "only as friends....with benefits".. And if she replies "NO"....break all contact. If she replies "You only wish". Then she is being playful and you should follow but if it doesn't go down on the first meetup then next her.

[–]BlackHeart89 6 points7 points  (5 children)

I've had this happen before. But I never told them not to contact me again. They often jump at the chance to talk to me. If post something on snap chat, or send a mass text, etc.

I treat them just like any other friend. They often try to imply that I like them or something. I just laugh and pretend it went over my head and continue on like nothing.

At the end of the day, if I'm not fucking them, we are just strictly friends. I'm not even making an effort to be anything else other than that.

[–]JumpXVI 4 points5 points  (4 children)

I'd be careful with this, since women derive a lot more from "friendship" with the opposite sex than men do. Any ex of yours that you treat just like any other friend is likely to frame it in her head as you being her orbiter, and the emotions of a breakup is extra fuel for that kind of hamstering.

[–]BlackHeart89 5 points6 points  (3 children)

That doesn't bother me at all. I'm not out to make sure women aren't happy. I'm just trying to make sure that I'm happy. If we both end up happy with the arrangement, then so be it. She's welcome to utilize the hamster all she wants.

[–]rtron36 3 points3 points [recovered]

In my circumstance, 100% of her speech and actions were very subtly 'putting me in my place.' Keep in mind, she's a feminist. She was constantly negging me. Very blatantly putting me in the "beta orbiter" box. I've been friends with other exes and even had a long term FWB situation that was better than the relationship itself. But I'd rather put burning hot coals on my eyeballs than give my latest ex the time of day.

[–]BlackHeart89 0 points1 point  (1 child)

n my circumstance, 100% of her speech and actions were very subtly 'putting me in my place.'

I have next to no patience for that sort of thing. Lol I would have started dissing her and everything she held dear from that point forward. But in nonchalant manner. "Hey... why do you dress like that???" "You remind me of Ren and Stimpy".

[–]alclarkey 12 points13 points  (2 children)

So we should do this: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PVrEwCa8nSA when a chick leaves us?

[–]reigorius 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Makes them go batshit insane. See how they hamster away the relationship with warp speed.

[–][deleted] 11 points12 points  (2 children)

I've seen situations in which the woman dumps the man, the man gets promptly gets back on the horse, and the woman gets mad at him for moving on so fast, like she expects him to be crying over her for the rest of his life. I can certainly believe what you're saying.

[–]Starcruiser28 7 points7 points [recovered]

I've seen situations in which the woman dumps the man, the man gets promptly gets back on the horse, and the woman gets mad at him for moving on so fast, like she expects him to be crying over her for the rest of his life. I can certainly believe what you're saying.

I can attest to this reaction, my ex did the same when I decided to move on, she did not like it one bit and thought I should be pining over the loss, I said F*ck it and got another LTR, my ex tried everything to sabotage my relationship, calling me names and what not. So typical, AWALT, acting like children

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, like it's your fault for not falling into a chasm of self-pity. You horrible bastard, you should be begging your ex to take you back, not enjoying yourself.

[–]Temptationn 21 points22 points  (6 children)

My first real ex dumped me after me laying down some depressing stuff on her and I spammed her wanting her back, which lead me here. Anyway new gf gets stressed with school says "I think we should be friends do you want that?" I replied lol and went to bed. Woke up to 30 instagram notifications (commented on all my pics) tweeted me on 3 accounts and texted me probably 200+ times I ignore for a whole day to let her think about her actions lets just say I gave her another chance (Because she's been a good ltr and has a nice ass body) and she now knows I'm not the type to play these games with or scared to leave her for good

[–]DoesNotMatterAnymore 13 points14 points  (1 child)

haha, few months ago, one of my plate was coming over to my place, so i was busy cleaning the whole house. We chatted a bit on Messenger ON MY DESKTOP and i left the window open. So i went to clean a bit for a few hours.

She was writing to me on messenger, and since it was the desktop app from her side it looked like i've read her messages, but since i was cleaning i did not reply. When i was done with my work, i checked my phone. I laughed my ass off.

SHE WENT MENTAL! since i was "reading" her messages (25+), but not replying to it. She was at the point of, what an asshole i'm, and she will never gonna talk to me again. You know, the typical shit: "What's wrong?", "Did i do something wrong?","Please talk to me","Should i come over?" Eventually she did come over...

This was a great reality check of understanding the power of silence.

[–]newls 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Was that MSN Messenger? Man that takes me back. I can still hear the jingle sounds.

Anyway, great story. The core lesson is that girls are addicted to validation, and if you go radio silent and ignore them, they go nuts like crack addicts.

[–]BlackHeart89 7 points8 points  (3 children)

texted me probably 200+ times

I assume thats an extreme exaggeration. But if its not, soft next her the next chance you get.

[–]RedDeadlift 2 points3 points  (2 children)

Maybe not. I had a buddy who broke up with a girl before we went to hang out. Over the next 3 hours, she bombarded his phone, calling him 80 times and sent over 300 text messages. He had it on silent after the first few so we weren't bothered.

[–][deleted] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

that's like desperate crackhead/dopehead trying to get a fix time

[–]LionLaw 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Women don't have power anywhere outside of their control over (beta) men. Women are obsessed with power, so they naturally abuse any power they have since they love being in control and love having the power to influence the lives and well-being of anyone they can. The problem is that women are usually complete shit at being responsible with any power they have, so make sure to be the one in control of yourself at the very least.
This is all a shit test, she needs to know that a man absolutely does not NEED her to be happy, and the moment she sees that your life is the same or made better after she leaves she will do whatever she can to get back with you or make your life a living hell. Don't underestimate what lengths women will go to to have their way.

[–]antihostile 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Like a cat toys with a mouse with a broken leg.

[–]havelbrandybuck 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Goes both ways. There's nothing worse to women knowing that ending a relationship does not bother you, and that they lost a high value guy. Once the relationship is over, you move on to other women and she's stuck getting pulled along with unreliable, low status guys, she will quickly reflect back at what she had.

[–]Myrpl 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Can confirm. Years ago, my oneitis was reported to be dancing "oops, I did it again" in a club, 1-2 days after rejection.

Knowing they are wanted so much they make men go depressive/miserable when they're not around is their drug.

I'll go a step further: Don't let external things outside of your control define your self-esteem and self-worth. Because failure is part of life in both personal and career ways. Instead, make it internal.

Know that you will try hard, know that you will fail and brush it off. Sure, it's not desireable to fail an interview, an approach or anything, no matter how much you believe in abundance there will be a girl that you'll go "damn, I wanted that lay to happen". But be certain in your ability to learn from it. Be confident that you grow even through failure.

It's a balance thing. I'm not suggesting that shit will go down in life, you'll lose your job, your wife and suddenly take a health hit and instead you'll be "lalala life is wonderful". I'm saying that even when that happens, know deep inside that you're indeed capable of going through these rough moments. You're capable of handling it.

Edit: A better metaphor is that of the professional poker player. His skill isn't defined by whether he lost the last 1-10 hands, but from his ability to perform after a fairly large amount of hands played. So, feeling that he's shit player just because he lost the last few hands is irrational. Same deal with your self-worth. You shouldn't feel like you're worth jack shit just because you had a couple of days that everything goes to shit, your approaches don't work and job suddenly sucks. Always have the bigger picture in mind. That should be what controls your self-worth and mood. If, after careful and wide examination, you see that something sucks, time to take action to fix it.

[–]Hippo_Kankles 15 points16 points  (2 children)

"Be a man that is happy by your damn self" -nemaxofredpill

See that there? I'm in a LTR but this is damn sure getting framed next to my bathroom mirror. God that just sounds so crisp.

[–][deleted] 4 points5 points  (1 child)

Ha. Put this one above your door so you see it when you walk out into the world:

Felicem te esse hominem

[–]Trpidation 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Don't be a man that basis your happiness around a woman. Be a man that is happy by your damn self. Be a man that can be dropped off in the middle of the desert without food and water but still find time to have fun drawing big dicks in the sand so any rescue aircraft will see it when they find you.

Many people are probably going to overlook this as just being a silly joke, which it is. However there is also a lot of wisdom to this. The kind of man who can have fun in ANY situation is the most attractive because it shows he is unafraid even in the most dire of circumstances.

Look at the famous ladies' men in movies; even in situations where there is no hope for the protagonist, he still cracks witty one-liners and such. That's because he isn't letting the severity of the situation unnerve him.

An example: in Casino Royale, James Bond is tied to a chair being tortured with that ball-smashing whip thing. Between his screams of pain (come on, if you don't react to your balls getting smashed then you should probably see a specialist), he says "I have an itch down there, do you mind?" The villain says something like "you are a funny man, Mr. Bond! I will break you of that" and then delivers an even more violent ball-crusher. At this point Bond yells "no, to the left! To the left!" The villain gets mad and gives him another junk thump. Bond starts laughing and says "the whole world is gonna know you scratched my balls".

Such a classic example of holding frame even when being at a disadvantage, and also making a funny joke about balls.

I like your example for this reason. It's holding frame even when no one's necessarily around, it's merely making the best of a shitty situation. Ultimately all you have control over is your own mindset. No one can take that from you. Good post, thanks for sharing.

TLDR: dick jokes are funny and make sure you always hold frame.

[–][deleted] 13 points14 points  (4 children)

After I found TRP I realized how I should have handled it when my high school sweetheart broke up with me.

Her: "I think we should see other people."

What I said: "No. I love you. Please don't do this."

What I would say now:"Oh thank god. I'm so glad you said this. I've been unhappy for months. I stuck with it because I thought things might change once we started college. You are totally right. We should end it."

What she said: "Let's just try being single for six months. If it doesn't work out let's get back together."

What I said: "Really? Okay I guess."

What I should have said: "Nah. I need someone who can commit and really contribute to a relationship and I don't think you will change in six months. Bye."

[–]rpscrote 1 point2 points  (0 children)

good responses. I think fewer words imparts a cleaner message, imo. might also just be my personality vs yours. But in any case here's how id personally respond

Her: "I think we should see other people." You: "Sounds good, seeya around" then leave.

Her: "Lets just try being single for six months, if it doesn't work out lets get back together" You: "im not going to do that" then leave.

[–]eagleclaw457 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I read this as I was listening to "gangsta rap made me do it" it made me feel pretty boss

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (3 children)

Be a man that can be dropped off in the middle of the desert without food and water but still find time to have fun drawing big dicks in the sand so any rescue aircraft will see it when they find you.

Not sure how drawing big dicks in the sand ties into all of this but yeah, good post.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Because it would be entertaining and funny when the rescue plane flies over. Or you can draw DickButt which would be even funnier.

[–]Meech_the_raver 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I needed to read this. Thanks

[–][deleted] 6 points6 points

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[–]Myrpl 3 points4 points  (0 children)

His main idea, that there are women who enjoy rejecting even the hot man who approaches them just to get their ego boosted, holds a lot of merit.

As to "what happened to this sub": Hyperbole happened. That doesn't prove they're wrong, that just proves they're overreacting (erroneously in my opinion) to prove a point that can be proved without it.

[–]NPK5667 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think this quote sums up what OP is saying quite well


[–]1favours_of_the_moon 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This type of power is precisely what gives them #tingles.

[–]SadKuntVegeta 4 points4 points [recovered]

Could it be beneficial that at 19 I've never been in a relationship, or would that potentially make me more attached when I finally do enter into one. Ive had a few chances, but have turned them all down due to some issues in my personal life at the time, some social anxiety, and the fact that I was not where I wanted to be in life yet. A lot of my friends and acquaintances seem puzzled by this and are perplexed as to why I am still a virgin and also why i feel the need to reach my goals first (told my friend I want to be in the shape I strive for first as well as get into the college I want as well). Do you think i should just continue down my personal path to get where I want to in life, or should I attempt to get in a relationship or at least have sex?

In regards to not letting a woman become the center of your happiness, I completely agree and feel that it goes in lockstep with outcome independence and abundance mentality.

[–]3rdLion 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I'm 21 next month, I've had multiple sexual partners but I've never been exclusive with a girl, I've never had a girlfriend.

I'm about to enter my second year at university, I have a fairly high SMV on campus and a lot of girls are interested in me. Since my campus is small and all of the girls talk, they all know that I've never been in a relationship. I'm starting to believe some of them think of me as a challenge, they're curious enough to sleep with me and see what the fuss is about but once they do, they try put their hooks into me. I almost see it as an advantage as they know I'm happy by myself and I don't need a female to define me like a lot of my friends on campus.

I'd wouldn't mind a LTR for a while but if the right girl doesn't come along I'm happy just doing my thing man.

[–]Philhelm 10 points11 points  (29 children)

Do you think i should just continue down my personal path to get where I want to in life, or should I attempt to get in a relationship or at least have sex?

Why not both? Frankly, even if you develop a high SMV, you would get mired in shit tests after revealing (intentionally or otherwise) that you're a 20/25/30-year-old virgin. It would be viewed as a red flag that you haven't had much experience with women, and it would probably show.

[–]Endorsed ContributorMetalgear222 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Agree with most. The fact that they have to be destroying a mans life or else the they're miserable is just plain dumb. Have you forgotten the captain first mate dynamic?

[–]oldstrangers 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Because women are miserable if they are not destroying a man's life.

Kind of sounds like someone made a bitch out of you.

[–]KartagoPill 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is 1-milion dollars advice:


[–]insaneyoshi 4 points5 points  (1 child)

There used to be this blog called "laidnyc" which had a great article called "Closure is Bullshit". I saved that shit, so reposting here as comment:

Closure Is Bullshit

As a man, you don’t need closure.

A girl either wants to fuck you or she doesn’t. A long, emotional conversation will not change this fact.

Girls, however, need to put a man they are dumping into a desexualized box and wrap a pretty bow of closure around it. By participating in the closure process you are helping her tie the bow around your desexualized fate.

If a girl breaks up with you: Do not talk about your feelings Do not talk about her feelings Do not argue with her reasons

Just accept it and grieve on your own time.

This is hard.


Because a woman will never give her ACTUAL reasons for breaking up with you. She will only give you society-approved bullshit that makes her look innocent.

She will never say “you didn’t fuck me good enough” or “you’re too nice and not exciting” or “no other girl I know wants to fuck you so something must be wrong with you”.

She will say “I’m really busy with school and work and don’t have time for a relationship now” or “you’re great but I”m not ready for anything serious” or “I care about you as a friend”.

Sometimes the reasons she give will be SO false, such obvious flowery bullshit, that you will feel a deep burning need to set her straight, to correct her misunderstanding.


You can’t logic a woman.

You can say “okay”, walk away with a smirk and never contact her again.

Being robbed of emotionally dripping closure, she’ll always feel a little incomplete. Why didn’t he fight harder for me? Did I really not get to his emotions? Am I not as desirable to him as I thought? Is he more desirable than I thought?

Girls have egos. They WANT to know you’re emotional about her breaking up with you. It validates her. So don’t do it.

You want a girl dumping you to question her reasons, not verify them.

When a girl dumps you, you want to be able to look back on how your handled it with pride.

When you give a girl closure, you give her your pride.

[–]hebola4lyfe 1 point2 points  (0 children)

well said.

It's posters like you that make this sub feel like home to me .

thank you

[–]foldpak111 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I regularly tell women who shit test "what would you do if I did this with another guy" me that I would have more time to code. That's my fuckin passion right there and I don't bend that passion for no one.

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Every woman (even the ones that have dumped me) finds a way to contact me and either, A) tell me they miss me or B) tell me I clearly never gave a fuck and I'm a sick bastard, when I go out and find a hotter version of her to fuck for a little while. This was even before I found TRP. It was liberating.

[–]NeoreactionSafe 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I mentioned this rule on a different thread and it still applies:

"Whoever had to change themselves the most to adapt to the relationship will be hurt the most when it ends."

...let women adapt to your frame.

Never be beta and bendable.

A 100% masculine man will not adapt to a woman at all and she will love you for it.

By being a rock you prevent future tears.


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[–]SheriffBart42 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Like Patrice said, they won't leave you if they think it won't hurt you that much. Follow op's advice not only for yourself, but because it keeps women at your side.

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