My boss has this humblebrag story she recites every chance she gets. It goes something like this:
"Its a funny story. Growing up I always wanted to be a teacher. I got my degree and started working as an aid at [white trash district elementary school in the area]. Boy was I in for a surprise. Here I was this cute middle class white girl and now all of a sudden I'm working with all these kids from broken homes. One would say "look" and show me a huge bruise covering his arm. They all had to deal with so much abuse from their families. I would go home crying every day because I couldn't help them. I had to give it up."
Thats more or less her telling verbatim. Her palm stays glued to her chest throughout the entire narration in a pose that screams "I'm being SOOO sososo sincere right now, AS EVIDENCED BY THE WAY I'M CLUTCHING AT MY HEART."
The subtext shes trying to communicate with the story is obvious: "I'm TOO compassionate. My biggest is flaw is that I care about other people TOO much." Before the redpill I would have lapped it up unconsciously and probably walked away from the conversation with a heightened respect for her.
But when you examine her story through the lens of "listen to their actions, not to their words" the subtext falls apart. If you truly gave one shit about these children, why would you abandon a position where you could help them however slightly in favor of pursuing a completely different line of work where you won't be helping them at all? Wouldn't you spend the rest of your life lying awake at night wondering whether you could have done them at least some good?
It just goes to show what is perhaps THE fundamental difference between men and women. Women don't engage with reality, they engage with their emotional response to reality. A woman can't even fathom the difference between the two. They are incapable of comprehending a problem at its source, let alone confronting it. Instead they confront the involuntary emotions that source provokes inside of them. Its not about helping the kids, its only about helping her feels.
And that's the case for everything when it comes to women. You've never had a direct conversation with a woman, did you know? We'll figure out how to have direct conversations with dolphins before we invent a technology that lets us do it with women. Every thing you say to a woman gets translated into feels before she hears it. Its the feels shes responding to, not you.