Summary: Don't ask women for advice. Female solipsism rules their world, they are literally incapable of empathizing or understanding the troubles that men go through.
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Another day, another woman trying to sabotage someone else's love life. Today that comes in the form of a letter written to Eva, a romantic advice columnist for The Guardian.
"Eva?" you ask. "Sounds like a woman... this won't end well." And you're right! Let's dive in.
Dear Eva, I’m 35 and I’ve never had a girlfriend.
I’m pretty unremarkable in most respects – neither fantastically attractive (if only), nor absolutely hideous. I’ve got plenty of friends, male and female. They always express confusion and disbelief that I’ve been unable to get a girlfriend in the 20 years or so I’ve been interested in the idea.
Apart from this, I’ve lived a full and active life, but somehow this particular aspect has passed me by. It’s a cliche, but it really did seem seem like one day all my friends were suddenly shacked up with a partner and squeezing out kids right, left and center.
The older I get, I don’t even know how to go about meeting women – I work in an almost exclusively male environment and most of my interests are male-dominated activities. I’ve heard the advice about salsa dancing for instance, but I think I’d be so awkward that my desperation would be obvious. I’d love to be able to introduce a girlfriend to family and friends, but the chances are surely becoming smaller the older I get. Thanks for any advice you can give.
So to recap, this guy is a 35 year old virgin who just doesn't know how to attract women. Society never helped him, much like it never helps any man who wants to be attractive. Now read the kind of advice that Eva gives...
Reading your letter I can’t help but wonder: do you really want a girlfriend? You note that you’d love to be able to introduce one to family and mates, but what would you want to do with her the rest of the time? If your life is full of other kinds of good relationships – and it certainly sounds like it is – then maybe you don’t need a girlfriend.
Translation: "You fucker, how dare you try to get out of the beta-orbiter zone! Get back in!" Typical female advice. She doesn't want him to improve, even after he's specifically said he would really like to be intimate with girls. She is internally so disgusted by the sight of a socially anxious virgin male that she's encouraging him to basically give up and drop out of the gene pool. Maybe become a gay uncle type of guy down the road, helping with other people's children.
A man would have offered actionable advice on how to improve: lift weights. Strengthen yourself mentally, learn empirically what women respond to the most, keep asking out until you get a hit, start making money.
But no. The advice from women is "meh. Just be happy with what you're got."
I say this as someone who has often found myself feeling a bit bad about being single,
Yes, this is her trying to empathize with him. In female-land, being single for a few months is exactly on par with being a mid-30s virgin male who's never even held a girl's hand in his life. Yessir, those two situations are definitely equal psychologically and emotionally.
That said! If you do want to continue looking for a partner, I think you’re probably a great candidate for online dating: not necessarily because you will meet The One that way, but because it will give you opportunities to meet Some Ones.
"I could go on Tinder and OKCupid and immediately have a hundred beta males offering me their services. I'm sure that the reverse will work in your situation! Right?"
Pay close attention to this letter, gentlemen. This is typical of the kind of female advice that society loves to toss around. Because deep down inside, women want beta males to stay beta. They need a padded group of orbiters to give them stuff without having to reciprocate. If men woke up and actually started becoming romantic successes, that dynamic would change. And that is why girls are scared of the Red Pill. It threatens to upset the current status quo, one that benefits females immensely.
TL;DR: Women don't give a shit about "sexually unworthy" men. Female advice is solipsistic, halfhearted and unhelpful. If you need help, ask a man because that's the only way you'll improve.