This is very basic / beginner material, but spending some time in askTRP, I saw a lot of extensive descriptions of a particular girl’s behaviour, analyzing whether or not she is interested, wondering ‘what if’ etc.
This is a quick overview of some basic principles to avoid this type of over-analyzing and save you some time.
Always judge her by her actions. When in doubt, move on
This is very simple. If a girl flakes on you, doesn’t answer your texts, shows interest in another guy, the answer is always to move on. Her actions show that she doesn’t care.
Don’t waste your time dwelling on that one night she drunkenly made out with you or told you she wants to be with you but is just ‘emotionally unavailable’ at the moment. You will find yourself reaching for signs that she really does care for you. Maybe her phone was on silent? Maybe she was just trying to make you jealous? If this was really the case you would know it and would not be dwelling on it.
It is a bullshit rationalization because you are afraid to move on for fear of missing out on a great opportunity. Remember that she wants you to keep orbiting. She wants your free validation and she will continue to provide threads of hope for you to clutch on to.
When you move on, either way, you win. If she really is interested and just ‘playing games’, she will find a way to clearly express her interest. If she isn’t interested, you save yourself a lot of time and hassle. In addition to this, withdrawing your validation is a lot more likely to change her mind than continuing to pursue her. It shows abundance mentality and non-neediness.
Force her to act
If you understand the above and you still can’t make sense of her actions, it means you have not clearly and effectively expressed your intentions.
If you do not make your intentions clear to a girl, you won’t generate any actions to interpret.
As a man, it is your job to take the risk of getting rejected. You need to take action to find out if a woman is attracted to you or not. This is also known as ‘polarizing’.
Sitting around and wondering if a girl likes you or not and analyzing her behaviour is pointless if you have not polarized her. She may like you, but be too shy to express it. Maybe she is playing hard to get. Speculating on this is a waste of time.
Force her to act. Make a move. Ask her out on a date. Go in for the kiss. She will have to reciprocate or reject you. You have generated clear action that is easy to interpret.
Always judge her by her actions.
She will try to keep you around for validation, even if she is not interested.
It is better to move on than to continue to pursue if there are ‘mixed’ signals.
You need to ‘generate action’ by making your intentions clear.
TLDR: Always make your intentions clear. Judge a girl by her actions. When in doubt, move on.