I originally posted something similar a few days ago but it was auto-modded because I included a link. Oops.
I don't care if you think marriage is fundamentally incompatible with a redpill mindset. And I recognize that it is ridiculous to involve a government entity into a personal relationship between two people. But I am definitely happy with my choice.
I'm married and in the past I felt responsible for every little issue that my wife had. Something broken? I'll fix it. Need something? I'll buy it. Unhappy? I'll change. Confused? I'll figure it out for us.
On the surface this just seems like good companionship. God knows how much training I got from family, media, and society to be a doting fix-it-upper. But we all know that this is actually beta behavior and things tend to get out of hand with time: trivial complaints, always needing something more, unfocused attention, unhappy for literally no reason at all.
The women in your life lose respect for you if you go too far in trying to please her. It wasn't until reading TRP that I understood I was damaging my position in our relationship by acknowledging every single problem she has. There is a fine line between deeply caring about your woman and doing nice things for her, or, being walked over and used as a manservant.
I don't think she's a nag, or evil. I think she has an innate predisposition to CONSTANTLY check up on the status of things. CONSTANTLY shit test. CONSTANTLY comfort check. It seems like women generally "live in the moment" and getting boyfriend/husband to go fetch something is a drug-like quick fix.
Then TRP flips everything around.
In this country I'M actually the prize and SHE should be the accommodating one.
I shouldn't pretend to care about a childish problem she's having.
I shouldn't depend on anyone else for my own happiness. If she’s unhappy I’ll just go be happy elsewhere.
Implementing TRP mindset was actually easy in my case but your mileage might vary.
Shit-tests/nagging: all from the sidebar
Laughing at the problem, ignoring it, or clearly stating your too busy for something silly like that. They all work to different degrees depending on the personality of the woman you're with. This is a complete 180 from my previous beta style to just give in and try to solve everything.
It works. It confounds me how well it works. I imagine trying this TRP style of argumentation in a serious situation and it's completely ridiculous. What if your boss asked for input on a problem and you just Agreed and Amplified to absurdity? You'd be canned. But for some reason this shit works with women...
For me personally the profound change is just how receptive she has been. I just gradually started standing my ground more, using deeper voice, poking fun at her when she complains, and by now it’s just second nature for me to hand-wave away whatever the issue is.
AND SHE EATS IT UP! Being “told” literally turns her on.
Firmly deflecting complaints is like playful spanking in bed.
Sex: women inevitably get the itch for strange dick some months into a relationship
So laying pipe isn't just a past-time it's a fucking duty!
If she wakes up sore nearly every morning she won't get random tingles out there during the day.
And if you aren't the best sex she ever had then you're relationship will fail.
Remember, I'M the prize dammit! I’m good looking and I make more. If I'm not getting my appetite's worth of sex in return for my providing and breadwinning then I’ll just use whatever’s in my TRP/PUA arsenal to get her juices flowing. But this hasn't really been an issue since I started just naturally turning her on more.
Sexualize her outside very often. Grab her ass in the elevator. Touch skin under her shirt with your arm around her. Kiss a lot.
Image: women are infinitely more influenced by appearances
This truthism isn't exclusive to TRP. It's just that most people try to subvert it or don't openly speak about it.
Improving yourself, working out, wearing nicer clothes... are all pretty superficial actually. I personally prefer reading compared to the gym but wife has literally nothing to gain from reading a book.
So being seen together by many people in our nice clothes, being complimented, and casually letting her witness my interactions with other beautiful women all work in my favor. It really sucks that clothing companies, clubs, and nice restaurants make easy cash from the stupefying cravings of all women but I’m willing to hamster this away as just part of the social contract I’ve made in order to live in a decent country. If everyone stopped buying nice things then we’d all have to go back to an agrarian society. But don’t get addicted to this kind of lifestyle. It’s a much better choice to focus on putting your money into useful things (no matter what she fucking says) and let yourselves be seen together in free places like beaches, parks, boardwalks, downtown, swimming pools, parties, etc. Only occasionally throw down cash for those aforementioned indulgences. Tough to balance.
Psych: Reward good behavior. Address bad behavior. Wife doesn’t get a new pair of heels everytime she gets an itch. She would even subconsciously lose some respect for me for easily giving in and buying something we both deep down know is actually useless. But if I’ve gotten all the sex and dinners I want for a week or two I’ll absolutely hold up my end up the bargain and get her something nice. She doesn’t earn a whole lot of money on her own so financial duties fall on my shoulders. We have spending money after bills, savings, and consumption. That doesn’t mean she doesn’t have to earn it.
But the trick is to be non-obvious about these sorts of things. Don’t waste too much money, don’t give in too easily, don’t spoil her, but at the same time don’t be cold. It’s an unspoken understanding than marriage isn’t terribly different from prostitution in many respects. Right in the foreground is trading good wife behavior for good husband behavior and all too often this is literally just sex and money, house, car, etc. Dress it up as companionship traded for providership if you want but we all know what the bottom line is. HOWEVER, if your relationship is founded purely on money instead of an alpha aura then I would suggest changing some things about yourself. Again, a balancing act.
TRP is divided on this aspect. Maybe I actually am beta bux for buying nice things for her and I'm just hamstering it. But I truly don’t see it that way. There would have to be a dead bedroom or a chad out there for that to be true and I guess if she cheats in the future I'll be sure to redact my post but since implementing TRP we've both been extremely happy with each other. I think good husbands should give good wives nice things from time to time and it doesn’t have to be analyzed too deeply.
Enough about money. Obviously you earn more and buy more but if you’re just a bank then you’re doing it wrong. If I had to weigh each category I’d put communication as 20%, image and money as 25%, sex as 40%, and mentality as 110%.
Mentality: NEVER BREAK FRAME.
Being on your A-game and constantly being firm, rational, practical, and strong is mentally and physically taxing. Sometimes I feel like I'm losing steam so I take time to be alone, maybe just a short shower, to reorganize my thoughts. Sometimes after work I actually feel too tired to have enjoyable sex but I unfailingly just muster the energy from somewhere and do the deed. Sometimes I feel too locked down so I "forget my phone" and go out alone and harmlessly talk to other people. Sometimes she feels a little too comfortable with the situation so I browse the realgirls sub and gonewild sub and comment on their bodies and ask for her opinion. In the past she'd call me an asshole for implicitly comparing her with other women but post redpill she ends up fucking me to make me happy.
Repetition of TRP
DON’T BE TOO ATTACHED. DON’T LIVE IN FANTASY-LAND.
BE HAPPY AT ALL TIMES, LET NO ONE BRING YOU DOWN.
WOMEN ARE GOOD THINGS.
NEVER ENGAGE UNWINNABLE ARGUMENTS.
NEVER GET ANGRY AT RETARDED PEOPLE.
KEEP MOST OF YOUR THOUGHTS INSIDE.
FUCK THE POLICE. LEARN HOW TO PROTECT YOURSELF FROM THEM.
PUT YOURSELF FIRST.
BE PROUD OF YOUR GENDER.
BE PROUD OF YOUR MASCULINITY.
SATISFY YOUR SEX DRIVE.
EMULATE SUCCESSFUL PEOPLE.
STOP READING FEMINIST SHIT I DIDN’T KNOW ANITA’S FUCKING NAME UNTIL I READ ABOUT HER HERE.