Red Pill TheoryHow to Talk to Anyone, Anywhere, at Anytime (A video for your HS mentees about abundance and basic social skills) (self.TheRedPill)

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If a smile is returned, you know that they are, at the very least, open to a conversation. Simply say, “Hey, how are you today?”

Ask them their name and introduce yourself. Remember to practice either breaking or neutral vocal rapport, as we learned in the, “Be Your Ideal Self” video.

I find it best to firmly shake their hand and say, “It’s a pleasure.” This is something that not many people say; and if you become comfortable with it, it will make you stand out in their memory.

After you’ve introduced yourself and shaken their hand, you will ask, “Where are you from?” or “What’s your story?”

The key here is to open a wide range of potential topics. You never want to ask a “yes or no” question when having a conversation, as this provides nowhere for the conversation to go.

From here on out, ask open ended questions about their answers and let the conversation flow. Follow your curiosity.

One of the biggest keys to having a good, rapport building conversation, is to listen intently when the other person is speaking. People will think you a great conversationalist if you simply have the ability to listen. I’ve found that some of my greatest conversations are those in which I only speak ~10% of the time.

What I like to do is make a game with myself when I’m talking to new people. Focus on learning something new from that person, or exploring an idea together. In my experience, there is some unique idea or perspective to be found in everyone, even the most droll people.

Dealing with Social Anxiety

One of the hardest parts of talking to strangers, and even the thought of it, is overcoming anxiety. I remember back when I would viscerally shake when I walked up to talk to somebody. My legs were jelly and my stomach rapidly switched between being on fire and then becoming an Earthquake.

When I first began my job as a greeter at a local car dealership; I would recite my entire spiel in my head, and if the guest had any questions, it would throw me entirely off balance. I spent months researching methods to overcome my massive social anxiety and simply be present. Here are the methods that have worked best for me:

Power Postures

This TEDtalk, by Amy Cuddy, changed my life.

In it, she teaches us that you really can project it until you perfect it, on a biochemical level. We learn that holding a power posture for even thirty seconds induces a testosterone release into your blood stream, increasing your confidence, assertiveness, and reducing cortisol (the stress hormone). Watch the video to see the specific exercises you can do; they can be summed into the mantra of taking up space. If your balls are crushed, you’re doing it wrong.


I’ve found that the intention I have behind talking to someone massively affects the way that a conversation turns out.

If you talk to someone with the intent of getting something out of them, you begin to worry about messing it up and not achieving that outcome.

In order to combat this rapport-destroying mindset, simply be more interested in knowing them, than worrying about the way the conversation will turn out.

Attaining an abundance mindset is absolutely key, gentlemen. It’s funny that the world works this way; but the less you care about your life, the better it turns out. Be relaxed, and enjoy the process.

This exercise is a, “re-framing” of the situation. You take the way that you look at a situation, and twist it around into something that enhances your performance.

“Whether you think you can, or can’t; you’re right” – Henry Ford


This, “re-framing” exercise fits very well into enhancing your self-talk.

A great friend of mine shared an idea that has always stayed with me, “If you’re interestED; you’re interestING.” Conversely, “If you’re borED, you’re borING.”

Know that you are interested and interesting.

If you’re not, change it. Read articles and books about interesting things. Watch TEDtalks and documentaries. Develop a hobby you have a passion for.

People love passion. Whether your passion is being a super badass rock climber, or playing Magic the Gathering; if you have passion for something, and you can teach someone else about it, you’ll enthrall them with your positive energy.


Along with the power postures from earlier comes breathing exercises. Breathing deeply re-oxygenates your body, rejuvenating you and calming you down.

Two of the greatest resources I’ve ever found on breathing exercises are Elliott Hulse’s method of,“breathing into your balls”, and Joe Rogan’s podcast interview with Wim Hof A.K.A. The Iceman.


Timing is everything.

You will find an excuse in less than a second if you don’t move your body. If you see someone that interests you, whether it be a cute girl or a potential mentor, MOVE.

Once you’re walking towards them, you have created leverage against yourself. You’ve now made a decision that you would have to go back on; and you’re literally walking towards that person. At this point, it takes more energy to stop than to follow through.

Don’t worry about whether or not it’s weird. Be empathetic for a second, would you be weirded out if someone was walking up to you, or excited that you’re noticed?

This leverage forces you to act, rather than hesitate; and you can engineer this process into any social situation.

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After you’ve prepared yourself using these exercises, the next step is to go out and DO IT. I’ve given you all the tools you need to become a master conversationalist, now you must take up the mantle and develop your own skills.

Go conquer, my friends.


[–]bartmanfadi 31 points32 points  (7 children)

One of the biggest keys to having a good, rapport building conversation, is to listen intently when the other person is speaking. People will think you a great conversationalist if you simply have the ability to listen. I’ve found that some of my greatest conversations are those in which I only speak ~10% of the time.

Great Post OP and I would like to dive furthermore on the 'listening' aspect within a conversation.

You can be genuenly interested in the topic at hand that a person is talking to mentally but physically, your not projecting it through your body language and verbal cues.

Body language is crucial. Displaying interest can be subjected through your upper torso being projected forward, the smile on your face and the way your facial expression. They will subconsciously evaluate you and all your body language skills will radiate positive energy, making them feel more comfortable and able to openly disclose more information without having fear of rejection.

All this positive energy will create more of a liking for you and when you want to steer the conversation in a direction that you want to. You can. In their mind, all this positive listening and engaging attitude builds 'brownie points' and I have personally seen the success that is amounted from this. Within my inner circle of friends, I have gone from someone that was sometimes cut off or over interrupted in my conversations, to becoming one of the more captivating members and never being cut-off when speaking since it builds greater respect and ease when people are around you.

OP is correct on only talking for 10% of the conversation and feeling the greatest at all times since both parties feel that they benefited from this experience.

Most of these idea were attained from this video and the rest of his channel. If you personally find yourself struggle/ have difficulties with certain social situations (in my case, group conversations). FOCUS ON IMPROVING IT! I promise you, the results will be the best and attaining them is not difficult.

[–]TheAureate[S] 10 points11 points  (3 children)

Thanks so much bartmanfadi!

Another simple body language tip I've learned is to widen your eyes when you're listening to somebody. It shows more interest in what they're saying.

Next week's video is about how to remember names. I've found that simply remembering someone's name makes them glow. If you can remember, say, an omega's name in a group activity; you've made a loyal acquaintance for life. Noticing somebody who's invisible, and then remembering them is unheard of in their lives.

One other quick point about Nonverbal comm is to make sure your feet are pointed towards whoever you're talking to. It's the same concept as the upper torso you mentioned.

[–][deleted] 17 points18 points  (2 children)

Excellent point at how easy (and often profitable) it is to befriend Omegas.

I learned this one way back in middle school and high school.

Simply treating an omega with basic human dignity and including them in the most mundane activity can mean the world to them and wont be forgotten.

There is one dude from high school I see who grew up to be a real cool and successful guy. Back in the day he was what other kids would have called "weird" or "crazy" or a "loaner".

Simply by giving him basic salutations and inviting him to play disc golf once, ONCE, whenever he sees me on the street he beams and acts like we were besties back in the day. Apparently my treating him decent made it ok for other kids to treat him decent and to hear him tell it made a big impact in his life.

Alpha, beta, omega. These status are fluid and can change sometimes very rapidly. The smallest act of networking can pay huge dividends and you never know which act thats going to be.

TL;DR If someone is jockeying for dominance against you show no mercy. If someone is completely down trodden and no threat at all, it can pay off to be cool to them even if they don't appear to be of any immediate use to you.

[–]TheAureate[S] 6 points7 points  (1 child)

I was absolutely that kid in high school.

I still remember how incredible it was that Matt Lastname invited me to be floseidon the following year at my Latin convention.

A point I would like to build on is about how you mentioned being cool to people with no immediate use to you. I would advocate a smile and basic professionalism to everyone you meet, even if you grow to despise them.

I was just having a conversation with an older gentleman earlier today about how the, "PC Police" as he put it, cannot have basic conversations with people they disagree with. He called it a sad time in the world that we can't simply say, "I respect you. I disagree with your thoughts, but we can move on from that and still treat each other with respect."

[–]BradPill 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Whereas that same PC Police demands we treat everyone with respect... (but then only the ones that are respectable, of course... some are more equal than others....).

[–]interestedplayer -1 points0 points  (2 children)

I strongly disagree with this idea about only asking about the other person and then listening. This keeps being pushed around reddit as such an ingenious way to be the best conversationalist, but it makes you enter a horrible frame and often doesn't work at all!

Think about it, most people wouldn't randomly start rambling about themselves to a stranger.

In a new conversation, you will have to do 80% of the talking at least for the first 5-10 minutes. Impress them, make them enter your frame and become as interested as possible.

[–]TheAureate[S] 1 point2 points  (1 child)

You don't get it man. When you're the one steering the conversation with your questions, you ARE the frame. These people spends minutes or even hours of their time qualifying themselves to you.

Investing so much time answering questions does the same thing as the Benjamin Franklin effect and the sunk cost fallacy. You invest time trying to convince this person that you're worthy of their time and so they must be pretty great, right?

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You don't get it either, while this might work absolutely fantastic for narcissists (most women), this doesn't work for all personality types. Personally I hate talking about myself, so every single question you ask about my life will just drive me further apart, and make me want to talk to you even less.

[–]JohnnyGameGuy 13 points14 points  (2 children)

Great post! It summarizes things that I have been working on for improving myself most recently.

If anybody here has been like me, feeling turned off by your own voice, then, I can recommend a book called the complete vocal technique by Cathrine Sadolin. You don't need a naturally deep voice to command confidence.

It covers everything related to your voice. Best breakdown of breathing techniques I have ever found. If you manage to employ the techniques taught here you will not only learn to love your voice, but you will love to sing.

Going to a speech club, and doing comedy on open mic nights has helped tremendously as well in not only making me more confident in front of crowds, but made me funnier and more interesting as well.

[–]TheAureate[S] 8 points9 points  (1 child)

That's wonderful to hear! I'm proud of you JohnnyGameGuy. Keep on keeping on man

[–]JohnnyGameGuy 7 points8 points  (0 children)

You too brother. Thank you for the contribution.

[–]krieggz 8 points9 points  (1 child)

I love when my feed gets posts like this. This is great content and advice, thank you for writing this.

[–]TheAureate[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You are most welcome Krieggz, thanks for the feedback! You're guys' comments keep me motivated with this.

I would love it if you would share this with your younger friends. I try to make my videos and write-ups regular world friendly. My goal is to help save some misery for younger, omega me.

[–]Betterthanuatlife 8 points9 points  (1 child)

Bookmarked this, this is great. I was tired of all of the beta males who only kept crying about how women are so evil all the time on TRP, but once in a while a post worth reading like this one shows up.

[–]TheAureate[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thanks so much Betterthanuatlife! It means a lot.

[–]Interversity 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Great post with concrete details and conceptual analysis on improving social skills. This is the content I come here for.

[–]LuvBeer 4 points5 points  (1 child)

Hey, not to be a dick, but Cuddy has been thoroughly discredited by other scientists who were unable to reproduce the changes in hormone levels that she claims. I particularly dislike the "power poses" nonsense because it is frequently used by SJWs to imply that the only thing standing between them and a 7 figure salary is steepling their hands. Part of RP is accepting reality. The reality is that you can pose all you want, but unless you have actual skills and ability to back it up, "confidence" alone doesn't cut it. An example of great power posing and confidence but marginal skill.

[–]TheAureate[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey, no problem man. I hadn't seen that.

On the other hand, the placebo effect still works on me and helps me feel good so I'll keep doing it.

[–]theredpillosopher 2 points3 points  (3 children)

I enjoyed and appreciated your points about smiling, as well as your advice as to how to calm down. I do, however, disagree with the handshake - if you're over 24, by all means. However, as a college student, I find a handshake creates distance instead of bridging it, as through the other person's awkwardness and lack of familiarity with it, they then don't know what's appropriate. Personally, I like to meet new people by just treating them as I would a close friend (minus the sexual/political/cruder jokes) - lighthearted, silence is cool, crack a few jokes when you can, generally pretty laidback. About 3 or 4 minutes in, if I think of them as a person who could add value to my life, I ask for their name. Besides that, good post - and of course, as you say, action before deliberation.

[–]TheAureate[S] 2 points3 points  (1 child)

I like your thoughts. It seems to me as if this is simply a difference in style.

I was raised by police officers, and now I'm a young entrepreneur, and so shaking hands is just a natural part of what I do. It seems to me that if you have a strong frame (A.K.A. you're comfortable with who you are/ own yourself - just came up with this definition. Had to write it down) people submit to the way you do things. I don't really intentionally dominate other people this way, but in this example, I value a good handshake and that's what I do.

In any case, both methods work excellently, and if you're not as intense a person, definitely follow theredpillphilosopher's method.

[–]RPmatrix 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was raised by police officers, and now I'm a young entrepreneur, and so shaking hands is just a natural part of what I do.

Ahh ... to me your advice sounds a bit formal and 'stiff' and now I understand why.

However, I'd also like to play the devil's advocate about a couple of things you mention

You seem to think you can manipulate people to suit yourself. I'd be very careful playing games like this in the mistaken belief it will strengthen your 'frame'! Bro, seriously, any hard core Dark Triad would have you in their spell in no time (if they wanted to), as it's easiest to sell to a salesman, and a hot BPD female would use this to her advantage before you even notice! (unless you're hard core RP)

We live in very sociable times and I'd be very careful about 'faking' your feelings to people (esp people like myself who are over 40 and grew up without internet memes and minimal RL social interaction) as many will notice immediately that 'somethings not quite right here' and be suspicious.

They may not know why but they've learned to trust their 'guts', and IMO so they should, I do.

Although we won't show it, and you wont know it, but I'd immediately suspect you have an alterior motive to meeting me and I'd most likely discretely exit the situation, unless I was morbidly fascinated, which happens occasionally! -- keep your friends close and your enemies closer type thing)

People who are desperate to sell something (their, ph, computer, car, etc) are the extreme example of a 'friendly person with an alterior motive'of some type, who due to their desperation, find it hard to walk away from the immediate deal.

You see this behavior all the time in those shows about pawn shops where the person takes 20% of what they initially asked for with the pawnbrokers capitalizing on this factor, as pawnshops are usually a person's last option for credit

IMHO The ability to be able to 'walk away' or say no is just as important as being able to say hello!

Toxic relationships are worse than No relationship and certain types of people are much better players at manipulating people that most could ever hope to be!

Women with BPD are an example, (NSYDIC - But, you'll be the last to know with a BPD female) and once in their snares and she's playing the long con, you're going to spend a lot more energy leaving the relationship than you did starting it!

Divorce rape is usually more straightforward than evading the BPD females wrath!

[–]JB31885 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You maybe right about the handshake with females but a strong handshake goes a long way even in a college setting. If someone gives me a half assed handshake they're more then likely not very sure of themselves or are being completely disrespectful, as if they couldn't be bothered to put in the effort. Telling the difference is usually pretty easy based on the persons attitude. I wouldn't be too quick to get into the habit of not shaking hands when you meet someone. Older people who can help you further your career or goals will respect you a lot more for it and younger guys will jump at the chance to shake your hand if you have a strong frame and friendly demeanor. If some half a wise ass leaves you hanging don't let it rattle your frame. I like to comment on it and make them look like the asshole.

[–]bowie747 2 points3 points  (1 child)

I've had some pretty significant battles with social anxiety in recent times, and lifting and meditation help but don't completely abolish those nagging thoughts. I live on a very busy street in a major city and I've recently taken to saying hello to every single person that walks past. Not every person, you know I keep it reasonable. A person every 30seconds or so. People don't mind. A friendly "hey, how's it going?" will earn a positive response 99% of the time. Does it help the anxiety? So far I'd say yes it does. The point is that people are generally friendly. If you present yourself in a strong, nonthreatening, confident way, people are happy to give you the time of day. The biggest obstacle is your own doubt.

[–]OptiLaSeR 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This . "The biggest obstacle is your own doubt."

Don't be a jailer of your own mind - Tyler (RSD) .

A man should be grounded , purposeful and his mind should portray freedom from social conditioning .

[–]Senior EndorsedMattyAnon 2 points3 points  (3 children)

This is a great post.


This is a double edged sword. Showing your intention with a woman can be incredibly sexy for her. But it can also colour your interactions and make it seem like you're forcing an outcome. It's a fine line. Be outcome independent, but do lead things forward.

“Where are you from?” or “What’s your story?”

This is defined as a micro aggression in some contexts with the SJW field is strong. (US campuses, etc). Be careful accordingly. Yes it's dumb as fuck. Still, the world is as it is.

From here on out, ask open ended questions

simply be more interested in knowing them

Yes and no. This is not the best way with women. Avoid interview style questions. Definitely talk more about yourself especially at first, don't be trying to get all the value from her with a few questions rather than leading/saying things about yourself. But don't talk nonestop about yourself either. LEAD the conversation, don't be a leaf in the river.


This is often called momentum, which is a better word for it.

Something else... is looking busy and distracted with other things rather than focussed on that one person. This is a fine line, especially if you want the conversation to continue and the other person to invest. But it's part of the being-passionate thing, and the abundance-mentality thing. Works best with short periods of intense interest with someone then being busy again.

[–]TheAureate[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks so much MattyAnon!

I agree completely with everything you've written. After thinking about it, I wrote this post as a more general social skill post than specifically oriented towards women.

To everyone who is reading, your interactions with women you're interested in will take a more active role.

[–]pnt9 0 points1 point  (1 child)

Be outcome independent, but do lead things forward.

This is one of the hardest things for me to understand about TRP. If I want something, I will act on it and I will go for it--which means I want an outcome. How then do you achieve "outcome independence" when you're intentionally trying to form a connection with a girl?

[–]Senior EndorsedMattyAnon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I struggle with it too.

Imagine gambling where on average you win, but each roll of the dice often loses. You don't care overly when you lose, because on average you win. You want to win. But the losses aren't really harming you, you're winning on average, so you don't care.

Versus rolling the dice where you need to win, you're losing on average, and each loss really hurts you and upsets you and you need a win.

The solution is abundance mentality.

[–]tallwheel 2 points3 points  (0 children)

“Hey, how are you today?”

“Where are you from?”

“What’s your story?”

Great post, but forgive me for saying the above does not exactly look like earth-shattering advice. When someone opens a conversation with the above lines, sure I'll talk to them if they look friendly and cool enough, but the desperation to start a conversation with someone is all too palpable. It looks kind of pathetic to me. Certainly they could have at least said, "Hey, that's a nice shirt," or "What beer are you drinking?" instead.

[–]OptiLaSeR 2 points3 points  (2 children)

Steps to opening :-

  1. Opener doesn't matter . Use anything .

  2. Lower your time of reaction . The more you wait the more excuses pop up into your head (human nature) , so just start moving your legs and open them .

  3. Calibrate after the opener . Once you've opened , you can focus on what to talk .

  4. If it is a girl , be MAN to WOMAN in the interaction . Don't do friend zone shit talk .

  5. If it is a girl , get her to react to you , take her on an emotional roller coaster , you do the 90 % talking and she does 10% . Let her react to you and experience you . When the rapport is built up , you can forget this 90/10 rule .

  • Credits to RSD Julien

[–]Shankar_ 1 point2 points  (1 child)

Is there a specific video where he lays out what you just said? Would like to know more details

[–]TRPDispenser 1 point2 points  (7 children)

Thanks for the guide, very helpful.

What I need the most help with though, is not cold approaching. I don't give many fucks, so approaching people in the college is not a big deal. But after having done the above steps, I have a very large circle of just acquaintances.

What I want to know is how to develop a deeper connection apart from superficial Hi's and Hello's. For example, I met a girl who is a friend of a friend. I'm not interested in dating her, but I would like her in my social circle. How do I go from just casual greetings to something more? How do you make a lasting impression in your subsequent interactions?

[–]TheAureate[S] 2 points3 points  (6 children)

Here's a post I made a few weeks ago entitled, "How to Build Meaningful Friendships". It's all of my thoughts about your exact question.


[–]tangman 2 points3 points  (1 child)

What I want to know is how to develop a deeper connection apart from superficial Hi's and Hello's

I'll share some strategies for this, and you can write about them if you like them.

Create Mutual Agreement: Find commonalities and talk about things that make you go "yeah, I know right?" The nice thing is you can do this even with very mundane topics.

Reaffirm connections: "I'm glad we see it the same way." "It's really cool that we agree on this/have this in common"

Foreshadowing: This is more for dating but I you could use it for anyone you want to see again. Paint a verbal picture of a fun future event. Can be anything. "Imagine if we went dancing, everyone would cheer us on.." If she agrees then all that's left is logistics.

[–]TheAureate[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey man,

I like your observations! One thing I would recommend, however, is to throw in a few shit tests and general teasing as well.

The way I shit test women is I'll ask them what they think about something. When they go on to say its either the greatest thing since sliced bread, or the worst thing since Hitler; I'll simply disagree by saying that I think the opposite. If you're doing the conversation right, they'll scurry to supplicate to you, firmly establishing themselves in your frame.

[–]cucumber_vaccine 2 points2 points [recovered]

I think there's an additional dimension. Shared experience is one part, people sharing themselves is another. You may have seen the experiment going around a few months back where participants were paired off and asked each other 36 increasingly personal questions and it rapidly built intimacy.

I think it's one of those strange loops in the human mind - if you've trusted someone with really personal information, you tend to feel closer to them. (If you weren't close to them, you would not have told them that, right?) A similar observation has been made that if you agree to do a small favor for someone, you tend to come out liking them more.

[–]TheAureate[S] 0 points1 point  (2 children)

This is a massive point that I'm lacking in my own life. Thanks for bringing it up! I've pretty much cauterized my ability to share myself with people due to an insistent need to become self reliant.

Do you, by chance, happen to have a link or search term for that article? I'd like to work on this on myself.

[–]cucumber_vaccine 2 points2 points [recovered]

I know the feeling. In my case, it was a general sense that people weren't really interested in my deeper thoughts or even my hobbies. So I stopped telling people things, even people I just met, and that has made me come off as opinionless, hobbyless and boring.

After digging through a zillion buzzfeed-style reblogs of crap ("try these 36 questions to make you fall in love!"), I found the original paper. As with a lot of psychology research, it was done on a class of psychology students, and that means the cohort was mostly women, and that means that the pairings used in the study were either women-women or women-man. That doesn't mean you should write it off entirely, but it is something to keep in mind.

I also note that the questions in the closeness-building study sound much more interesting than the ones used in the smalltalk study.

[–]TheAureate[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow, thanks for your work cucumber .. I really appreciate it. I'll be checking this out.

[–]david_kimba 1 point2 points  (1 child)

The best part about your post is your attitude, no butthurt, no anger. Life after really digesting the pill is very fun.

[–]TheAureate[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you David_kimba! These comments mean a ton. A great mentor of mine once told me, "Gratitude has the seemingly magical ability to turn the seemingly ordinary into the sublime."

[–]Hippo_Kankles 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for that TED link. I'm only halfway through and have already learned so much

[–]J_AsapGem 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is brilliant written, definitely sidebar material.

[–]Teatach 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Really good informative post!

Wim Hof's method is truly amazing, I was sold after seeing Vice's documentary about him: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VaMjhwFE1Zw

What you say about moving is also incredible important. It was the most important thing I learned from years of martial arts. In a "situation" if you just stand still, your brain might as well freeze up and you won't be able to act no matter how many techniques you know. It takes as little as a side-step for your brain to start functioning again. Different angle, flow within body. So, keep moving your legs.

[–]aazav 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's simple. Just start doing it.

[–]TRP_out 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Magic the Gathering

Step back, men. I've got this one!

[–]TheMGhandi 0 points1 point  (1 child)

That guy in the yt video gave a guide on how to have the most thoughtful conversation ever. Fuck that. All you gotta do is ball bust (shittest) a guy. If he passes, you got a friend that will make you laugh because everyones balls are getting busted (no homo). Not only that but you can apply the video's advice and have a deep conversation as well.

[–]TheOneWhoKnoxs 0 points1 point  (6 children)

An easy way to start approaching people is to find people sitting alone and to sit next to them. No one enjoys sitting alone and if you have enough confidence, the person might even be grateful that you sat next to them. A good opener in dining halls or cafeterias is: "I don't like eating alone, you're going to keep my company."

I do this all the time at work, because there is large cafeteria with 6+ restaurants, and its a good way to meet new people from different departments.

[–]xxmaymayxx69 1 point2 points  (4 children)

Do you still do this if you're at uni and it's a brony? just to girls right?

[–]TheOneWhoKnoxs 3 points4 points  (3 children)

If I don't see any women, I'll talk to anyone. My life isn't just about sex, it's about always being productive and bettering myself. I'd rather talk to a brony than eat by myself.

Besides, the entertainment value of asking a brony about MLP and hearing him passionately talk about it... it feeds my soul how pathetic it is. For the lulz.

[–]LarryLove 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm dying to talk to one of those lunatics

[–]OptiLaSeR 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I like your second last line .