I get forwarded an email from the female Head of Diversity and Inclusion where she basically mocks my asking if we are celebrating International Men's Day. What is my best course of action?
Im going to preface this post with the acknowledgment that this technically should be posted in askTRP but we all know that page is not as active as this one and this is quite urgent. Also, I would like to update this thread as the saga continues. Im looking for serious advice and opinions here guys. Its a tricky situation that I'm in and any help would be greatly appreciated.
Some background: I work in HR for a large finance company in Sydney, Australia. In March of this year, I remember there was a big hooplah made about International Women's Day around the office. This was, of course, headed by our female head of Diversity and Inclusion(D&I).These celebrations involved everything from bake sales to morning teas and awareness events, including talks from influential women in the finance sector. The global budget for these events was a staggering $25,000 AUD. A drop in a pond for a company as large as this. Seeing as International Men's Day(IMD) is on Thusday 19th November, I raised the question with a friend and senior manager(also female) in D&I if we are celebrating IMD and if not, why not? She escalated this to the head(actually there are only 2 members in the D&I team, both female, hows that for
feminism diversity) of D&I and she made the mistake of sending me on her response in a private chat. Here is the exact correspondance, word for word:
[Head of D&I] - this may seem like a silly question but do you know why we dont recognise/acknowledge IMD? [OP] has asked me about this a number of times and all I said to him is that we consider IWD a more significant international celebration aligned to our Diversity goals and that IMD is generally not celebrated. Just wondered if you have any other commentary on this.
She also said linked the site at the bottom stating how IMD is focused on men and boys health.
The response received is nothing short of disgraceful
Possibly because at [Company Name] they are not under represented at senior levels and hold most positions of power, nationally they earn more than women for equal work, internationally they have better access to education, etc etc
Now, if this woman had even had the courtesy to open the link sent to her regarding IMD, she would have seen that the main goals are:
* More focus on men and boys health
* Improving gender relations
* Promoting gender equality
* Highlighting positive male role models.
Unfortunately, I think its pretty obvious what happened here. She opened the email, saw that it was for men and totally disregarded the idea using arguments that have absolutely nothing to do with the core tenets of IMD. Not the behaviour one would expect from the head of D&I now, is it?
My question is how best should I tackle this situation. Short of posting on Yammer(basically work facebook) about my disappointment of us not celebrating IMD and raising awareness myself, Im struggling to see what the next best move is. So I ask again for all serious advice on this matter. I cant post the private conversation, or even my knowledge of it, for fear of getting my mate(the senior manager who raised it) in trouble also. I would also like to not damage my future prospects within this company.
Help me TRP, you're my only hope.
So its pretty clear that there is one common theme to 99% of the responses below. I've decided to keep my mouth shut and say nothing as realistically, its a lose/lose situation. I am undecided as of yet whether or not to completely delete this sub to further protect myself and my career. Unfortunately, they win this round.
I want to thank you all for your insights and opinion. They were all read and most were appreciated.