Red Pill Theory5 things you can do to improve immediately. (self.TheRedPill)
submitted 3 years ago * by [deleted]
This post is nothing new - few basic things you can do to improve yourself right now. I added few personal notes of how and why this things worked in my case. It might be useful for beginners and good reminder for old cats.
Always be aware of your hierarchy of needs - but I doubt anyone here is in such a bad situation that he is not in position to do even this. So:
It is funny how regardless of all I did to improve my game and to go after poon, none of it works if I get back
to my old friend named compulsive jerking off. Not chopping the bishop is giving me great ammount of energy and libido. Self doubt is not existent, same as introspection - it is almost gone, and I am much more less of an apologizing bitch. I am more assertive, my voice is deeper, body language stronger, and I want to fuck everything that moves and has
Actually, my dick leads me than. If I look in my history of casual sex for last two years, something is very clear: every, single one, lay, I had in last two years, occured after I did not jerk for week or more. Every single approach I did, was done after I did not jerk off for week or more. Statistics are here and it's amazing.
I do not find useful if I do not fap at all. Once a week is best, so when I have a wish I do it on Sundays.
Other days are not negotiable, and without edging as well.
My big problem was that I was absent all the time. I was either scared about future, or dwelling over past. Both fucked up my body and mind, and I was less present. If you are not present it is even worse then if you are not at there at all. Without presence all I read is useless because I am not there to cultivate it. Presence is pre requsite for strong appearance and charismatic personality.
Consequentially, once when I stopped living in past or future times, I was able to, not just see problems and situations that I did not see before, I was able to focus on them and solve them. Effect was tremendous.
Meditation also helped me with reactiveness, which was another big issue for me. All the knowledge and social skills of the world is useless if you always say or something that's on top of your head.
I meditate 15 minutes a day. If I do it more, I do not feel more benefits. But, I am talking about 15 minutes of calm, present state. Sometimes it takes an hour to get there. Sometimes I also get frustrated and I quit (rare).
Suprisingly, right. Girls love muscles, you will be stronger and healthier, you will look younger longer and you will be more confident. So, lift, and do not be just meathead - do something else for sport as well or at least optimize your training to be efficient at rate of three times per week.
And when I say girls love muscles, then I mean it. Shit works like magic. While I believe fame or money or game can get you even easier between her legs, none of it can make her horny as muscles. And none of it will give her stronger orgasms.
I lift weights three times a week. I do not feel more benefits if I lift more then that. But often, the other days I am on the mat or in front of the boxing bag.
4) Save money
For education, enterpreneurship, single independent living in any major world city..well you will need more money then you can possibly save. I did not have enough money to start my own business even when I saved good percentage of my disposable income. My spending habits kept me three years in the same place. I had to achieve really great heights with saving to achieve something.
Not having enough will make you worry about future. It is hard to unleash your potential if you are on paycheck away from the street. First things must come first. Earn more and spend less. Make sure you have enough to live for six months in case you lose your job. If you want to start bussiness, do not invest anything that you can't say goodbye to. For Christ sake, stay out of big debt.
In case that you do not have a father who will just cash out 40 000 $ when you wish to open a company..prepare for something that will take a lot of balls and time to achieve and break through. Not enough money on account is probably no1 reason which hinders potential of so many guys. World spins around pussy and money and one of them is easy to get. Take a guess.
It is not fair and that is the way it is. Do not even think for a second in that direction.
5) Stop drinking alcohol
Maybe you are finally going to realize how Big City Saturday Night Life TM is shallow. You will also spend less money and eat less junk food. If you are like me, so few drinks become binge blackouts more then you are willing to admit, you will stop doing it as well. And find out what is that problem that you tried to solve with drinking. You will also get one more day during the week! Sunday is great when you stop drinking.
Most important of it all, you will forget what does term borrowed brass means. You will be you without booze.
And those tipsy chicks while you are sober will become so easy that you will think it's hidden camera show actually.
Do this for six months. Then see what changed and do you, and how, want to continue. I recommend, before you start:
Inform yourself about minimum effective dose. That is what you aim in just about everything. In everything we do there is number which is perfect - if we do less it's not effective; if we do more it is just time consuming with same effectivenes at best, and counter productive at worst. Start with more and then reduce.
Realize that going too radical about everything at once will make you quit soon. You can't just take this five things and start from Monday. Depends on how much work you need, you might burn. Take one thing, do it two weeks, add another one. When you have all five, do it for six months. And don't stop when you fail which you will. And it's normal, if you did all of this without one single exception at all times during six months well that's also not the best thing.
Sleep - not less then 7 hours a day. I learned the hard way that sleep deprivation is real thing. You can do all of this things, and even much more, but if you are chronically undersleeped you are not going to shine as much as you can. Minimum effective dose counts here as well.
Autistic dislaimer: some steps will change someone; to other it won't help at all. You should have at least basic ideas about what your problems are and how you should solve them. It should be obvious that if you are ripped as fuck that you don't need more weights, if you drink once a month that alcohol isn't root of your problem, and if you are filthy rich, saving money probably won't help you much.
edit: if there is interest, I can write in - depth version of this post where I can explain more about each of 5 things I mentioned here. Let me know.
English is far from my first language. Tolerate it. Thanks
[–]fitnessacctasdf 47 points48 points49 points 3 years ago (12 children)
Out of all of this I'd say not drinking is the best.
I've been cutting so I drink very rarely over the past 5+ months.
You have so much clarity, so much more time. Your body loves you for it.
Plus you're kind of a hipster in the sense that you don't conform to the cultural standard of getting wasted. It's like you're 'over' it. I say this because women have responded well when I tell them I almost never drink. I'm more... in control or whatever. Less desperate for the effects of alcohol.
[–]keytoimmortality 16 points17 points18 points 3 years ago (6 children)
Does nobody have the control to just drink in moderation? I go out with my friends (20y.o) and stick to 3-4 beers and am 100% fine the next day, zero hangover. I just make sure to drink a shit load of water before going out and also when I get home.
This way I don't entirely isolate myself from my friends by not drinking, and I get the social lubricative benefit of being a bit tipsy but still well composed enough to be sure my game isn't slipping.
From a bodybuilding perspective, studies have revealed having a few drinks in a night has no long lasting detrimental effect on test levels, only binge drinking does (would link but am on phone, simple google search should find the article). I've been gyming for 4 years natty and have made great strength and size gains while maintaining a lean physique all while drinking moderately on a Saturday night.
Another factor is just enjoying yourself while you're still young. Yeah I know, it may not be optimal for your health and you may only fire at 95% efficiency the day after.
Don't get me wrong, every now and again I'll exceed the 3-4 drink limit, but when you're old and decrepit sitting in a rocking chair, you'll want to be able to look back on your life and think "fuck I did some crazy shit when I was younger.." Rather than looking back with regret that you didn't have the fun you could have had.
[–]Zinamam 7 points8 points9 points 3 years ago* (0 children)
Yeah having 3-4 good drinks and still saving money seems like a much more enjoyable experience, It's always good to remember the the night and having a good time with pals.
In saying that, there's nothing wrong with getting smashed but lots of people do it to talk to chicks when the real issue is not having enough confidence in real situations - which makes it even worse.
[–]Moldy_Gecko 8 points9 points10 points 3 years ago (1 child)
Not to mention when you go out, your game doesn't get sloppy.
[–]brinkcitykilla 14 points15 points16 points 3 years ago (0 children)
You'll also be able to revisit scenarios more clearly later on.
I used to get so drunk I'd forget how I managed hook up with someone or not remember what I did wrong that blew my chances.
[–]untitled_redditor 4 points5 points6 points 3 years ago (0 children)
I think the lifting thing is equally important. Men want women to lust for us. Having an amazing body gets their attention, and it's within all of our grasp. Also, being fit boosts your mental abilities, etc. Just one guys opinion.
[–]WhySoRuff 130 points131 points132 points 3 years ago (82 children)
What I've learned about nofap, smoking or any act meant to satisfy the need for instant gratification is that it has a psychological effect.I've been having a difficult year of on and off smoking. As soon as I have the first cig of the day I feel a worthlessness come over my whole body. Genuinely wanting to quit anything and knowing all the benefits you will reap, yet failing...is demoralizing.
As soon as I take a few hits I regret it and I feel my confidence drop. As for nofap, the next day I have this void in my chest similar to that sinking feeling. If you can erase the bad habits from your life, they act as building blocks for self worth and confidence. Cut out the unnecessary bullshit to set the foundation. Positive habits will be much easier to add into your life because you know your foundation is strong.
[–]Godtiermasturbator 84 points85 points86 points 3 years ago (23 children)
I wonder if it's also a dopamine drain...I'm no brain chemist but I do know the high from actual sex or accomplishing a big goal is far better and longer lasting than fapping or drinking. Not all rushes are the same. Yes and I know my username.
[–]WhySoRuff 9 points10 points11 points 3 years ago (0 children)
Anticipation of completing your goal spikes dopamine levels which aids in mood and motivation. This is your bodys way of providing you with positive reinforcement to ensure completion of the goal.
Pretend you told yourself you would be tobacco free for 30 days. If you light up a cigarette after 10 days of not smoking, the stress hormone cortisol is released causing anxiety and decreased mood. If you make it to 30 days without lighting up, your dopamine level will peak then drop because you have achieved your goal.
Since dopamine makes you feel so good you will be looking for your next fix. This is the perfect time to start your next goal if you havnt already. If you continue doing what you set out to, the pattern of progress will train your brain with a positive feedback loop. The hunger is born.
[–]Evileddie13 13 points14 points15 points 3 years ago (21 children)
The no drinking thing hit home for me. As for dopamine, I think your on to something. Times that I quit drinking for more than three days in a row, I'm just BORED. Nothing intrests me. It's like depression without the saddness.
[–]bowie747 7 points8 points9 points 3 years ago (3 children)
I've had a hard time feeling any happiness about anything unless I'm into a few beers and joint. The more you practice the easier it gets, same with everything.
[–]Barely_Intrepid 6 points7 points8 points 3 years ago (2 children)
And it's much easier to do it sooner. When happiness requires the perfect combination of coke, weed, and whisky. That's when the chemical dependency really hits home.
And that's all bush-league bullshit compared to the heroine and meth crowd.
[–]rowan771 7 points8 points9 points 3 years ago (1 child)
Fuck regularly taking drugs yes...buuuuut, a rave in the deep Australian bush with chill like minded people, MDMA, LSD, psychedelic music and lighting. Worth every second.
[–]Barely_Intrepid 5 points6 points7 points 3 years ago (0 children)
I agree, what I mean to say is fuck what happens when a weak personality meets the right drug
[–]SmilingWatermelon 7 points8 points9 points 3 years ago (1 child)
I understand that completely. You need a hobby, as do I. Something needs to replace the drinking.
[–][deleted] 3 points4 points5 points 3 years ago (0 children)
Once you find a hobby it will happen. I hunt and fish, both generally require either an early morning Saturday or Sunday. Pretty much have to choose between getting outdoors or not for the sake of a few drinks and a mediocre night.
I always choose the hobbies now. I got bad FOMO at first but I got over it.
[–]NeoreactionSafe 14 points15 points16 points 3 years ago (8 children)
Times that I quit drinking for more than three days in a row, I'm just BORED. Nothing interests me.
Times that I quit drinking for more than three days in a row, I'm just BORED. Nothing interests me.
That's seriously wrong.
My advice is at most to drink once a week and only in social settings.
You know the old saying:
"Never drink alone."
And another piece of good advice is to just not buy alcohol at the grocery store. That way the alcohol is not available when you are home. If you want to socialize go to the bar. Learn the drink specials too. I'll order a pitcher of beer for the price of about two or three beers (typical discount) so you save money that way.
Drinking every day is just bad for your system in many ways.
[–]theDarkAngle 4 points5 points6 points 3 years ago (6 children)
Otoh, alcohol is much more expensive in the bar.
[–][deleted] 3 points4 points5 points 3 years ago (1 child)
True, but you don't hit the bar for booze. You hit the bar for booze in that social setting. I always viewed that extra cost as simply an added fee to drink there.