Summary: Women make absolutely terrible emotional support. She needs her man to be a rock, and if he isn't then she'll take her pussy elsewhere. Do not rely on a woman to help you out through hard times. Talk to your male friends instead; they will actually care and support you.
Full thread here.
Those who read my threads know I don't hold back any punches. When a man is acting like a beta bitch, I call him a beta bitch. It's the only way they learn. But this thread on the OKCupid subreddit tugged at my heartstrings a little bit and I'm having trouble being mean to the dude. It's just sad.
OP has been in a relationship with a girl who is always clingy (read: relies on him as a strong alpha rock). The moment - and I mean the moment he displays vulnerability by admitting that he's worried about passing final exams, her face puckers up and her vagina clamps shut like the security gates at Fort Knox. A few days later she breaks up with him. Read his words for yourself to really absorb what female nature is like...
Mine: It was during the last days of finals. She was already done with hers and had gone home for a few days. She came back to pack up her stuff. I tagged along to help. We pack up her belongings and go down to the pizzeria downstairs. We sit down with our food and shes tells me she wants to break up out of nowhere. Im like what? Shes like ive been too clingy this past week and she cant handle it. I tell her wtf, you've been clingy our whole relationship shes like I know but its unattractive when a guy acts like it. Im taken back, I just wanna stab her with my fork at this point. She eats her food and I dont even touch mine.
We head back to my apartment where she collects the stuff she had left over. She tells me shes going back home today. I'm like stay the night so we can talk and try to fix things. Shes like no shes done. I tell her to call me or text me so I know she got home safe she never does. I had a final the next day but i was too heartbroken and confused to study.
The next day I take my final which I fail. She was suppose to be my ride back from my final to my apartment, but obviously she was gone. I check for the shuttle and its broken down and theres a 2 hour wait. It's a sunday so all the college buildings are locked. I start walking back to my apartment which is 5 miles away. On my way home I walk past our fav eatery when its starts pouring rain. At that very moment is when I felt the saddest most alone in my life.
She didn't look back or feel a shred of remorse. Hell, she didn't even feel emotional enough to stop eating her food during the conversation. And that's the female imperative. "Weakness and vulnerability detected. Abort relationship, branch swing immediately. Bzzzt. In ten, nine, eight..."
The thing is, we at RedPill know this so we don't fall into these traps ourselves and end up getting hurt later. If only OP was clued in to what women are really like, he could have build up some resilience ahead of time, resolved to not display weakness in front of his girlfriend, passed his exams and continued to get sex from her. And hey, who knows, maybe this will be the electric shock to finally wake him up. Maybe this will be the moment he understands that the only person you should emotionally rely on is your mother and your male friends. That's it. Males have empathy, we understand what difficult times are like. We'll help you commiserate over boxing gloves or a stout at the local bar. Females? Females will leave you to go snuggle up with Chad the minute you drop the ball.
Some of the commenter stories in that thread are also enlightening...
Wife cheated, Found out, wanted it to work but the guy she was cheating with had a really fat bank balance which I could never match with my pay grade.
Served me Divorce paper at work out of no where. I went to the rooftop at work, cried like a bitch and lit up a cigarette & burned her pic that I had in my wallet. Saddest day of my life.
Yep. The other guy had Alpha vibes so strong that hubby just couldn't compete.
For nearly four years of coupledom, she'd been asking me to be more emotionally open. Practically begging, at times. I've never been one to talk about my feelings much, and I default to dealing with my problems on my own rather than sharing them with other people. She was very much the opposite: regular sharer, always stressing the need for healthy communication in a relationship, big believer in non-violent communication and so on. It was always a sticking point between us.
Anyway, I'm self-employed, and a few months ago I lost a couple of big clients in quick succession. For once, I opened up to her about it. I told her that I didn't know which direction I was going in, that I felt hopeless, that I didn't know what I was going to do to make sure I could keep paying rent. Well, that was the end of the relationship. Lesson learned, I guess.
^ Four years. These guys were together FOUR YEARS. And as soon as the woman detects that the meal ticket is almost expired, she ejects. Because he failed the biggest shit test in the book, he succumbed to her nagging that she wanted a more "emotionally open man".
Caught my wife cheating of 20 years with coworkers, again. Self confidence had already paid too much a price so I packed my shit up and left.
Had a couple of counseling appointments where her only responses were that it was my fault. Ditched her and my entire friend circle that rallied behind her because I was the asshole. I did nothing wrong that couldn't have been fixed with proper communication, and I lost literally everything and no support system to get me through it.
Came out the other end a tough mother fucker.
^ I wanted to leave this above post for the end because it leaves us on an optimistic note. This guy's wife cheated, he got divorced, tried to go to "couple's counseling" like a good little Beta Bob. Finally grew a spine and ditched his old toxic life to start anew, became a tough motherfucker and is now on top of the world. This is what OP needs to do. He needs to swallow the RedPill and understand that it's up to us, as men, to forge our own path in life. Our women will not help us.
Women only have two purposes. Sex, and passive feminine support that feels good but is contingent on you having your shit together (like cooking dinner, giving backrubs, decorating the house, entertaining guests at dinner parties, etc). Those two are the only things she can ever give you. Don't expect more.
Every man has a story like OP's that jolted him and exposed him to reality. What's your story?
TL;DR: Women are awful at giving any kind of support when your luck is down. Rely on men, not women. The only use girls have is sex and passive feminine energy.