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Collected Advice and Methods for Beginners (self.TheRedPill)

submitted by MrSimple333

Hello, I am a Asian American, male, age 23, 5'6, 160lb. It's been several years since I have started this journey. Typical bluepill background. Typical Asian upbringing. School smart but not street smart. High school was a dud and I wanted to committed suicide during my junior year. Been told I was cute before but never had the balls to do anything. Been an orbiter, emotional tampon, "best friend", the whole nine yards.

 

My journey started in 2013 when I discovered PUA, then to TRP, then to MGTOW, and now I'm just a guy with a mission in life with bit of knowledge and better boundaries. Went through all the stages of grief and learn to accept women and their.. special ways. They aren't meant to be men so I can't expect them to have the same values as men. It's weird.. Men and women are both humans, we are the same, and yet different.. Kind of funny if you think about it. Now life tends to be more.. amusing and less.. self inflicting drama? I'm way less thirsty and no more asking 'why'. Instead I now know 'why' and tend just shrug things off when they don't work out.

 

These are ideals I came across on, what I learn to struggle with, and the tools that had help me could help you. Use your strengths and minimalize your weaknesses. Accept your quirks and unique hobbies. (I like anime, dancing, and lifting.) Humans are born flawed therefore everything we build is flaw. You aren't meant to achieve perfection in life. And remember Hail Hydra..

 

Note: All books can be purchased on the Amazon Kindle App. Save trees, save space, and read anytime, anywhere. Bonus: If you are an auditory learner, several books have Audio Narrations upgrades.

 

Note 2: If you are a total noob, please read the Redpill Handbook at redpillhandbook.com. TRP is meant to change the foundation of your mind/beliefs first and then build yourself from the ground up. My post is based on that concept. You must change how you think before you can change who you are.

 

 

 

THE FIRST RULE OF TRP IS: YOU DO NOT TALK ABOUT TRP

 

THE SECOND RULE OF TRP IS: YOU DO NOT TALK ABOUT TRP

TRP is not a safe subject. Cue eye-rolls. There are those who would use TRP philosophy incorrectly just like those who use religion or politics to suppress or terrorized others. Keep your mouth shut and your thoughts to yourself whenever these type of topics come up in public. Self preservation keeps you safe and others safe. Let people think how they want to think.

  • Recommend Method

  • Don't talk how 'alpha' you are or how 'beta' someone is in public. It's really sad and pathetic. You wouldn't be here is you were alpha. We all were betas. Be humble.

  • Don't put down or insult women for not sleeping with you after you are 'enlightened enough to be an alpha'. They aren't evil, prudes, bitches, cunts, sluts, whores, or etc because they won't help you get your dick wet. They are just human like us. They have the freedom of choice.

  • Don't go preaching in streets. You are not going to change the world. You will only endanger yourself and others.

  • Keep TRP to yourself mean also means keeping your goals to yourself. Somehow in the brain, if you don't discuss your goals, you would somehow achieve them. It's like those who talk a huge game of losing weight as a new year resolution but fail in the end.

  • TRP is a brotherhood. For those of you who want to help our brothers who are plugged in, please keep in mind of how much you resisted swallowing the pill. Just keep an ear out when they start dropping hints. They will be ready when they will be ready. Don't force it. You can only lead a horse to water, you can't make it drink it.

  • Recommend Youtube:

  • Derek Sivers Keep Your Goals to Yourself - TED

 

Starting At The Mind:

 

Learn to unlearn social conditioning. Humans were born with a clean slate so that why social conditioning was so impressionable and is a bitch to unlearn it. Unlearning Romanticism is the basis for TRP and MGTOW. PUA is basically bluepill mindset but redpill acting. Overall, a healthy dose of pessimism help kill the Disney illusion.

  • Sometimes people hold a core belief that is very strong. When they are presented with evidence that works against that belief, the new evidence cannot be accepted. It would create a feeling that is extremely uncomfortable, called cognitive dissonance. And because it is so important to protect the core belief, they will rationalize, ignore and even deny anything that doesn't fit in with the core belief. -Frantz Fanon

  • Recommend Method:

  • Use the Five Stages of Grief to identify your emotions and state of mind. It WILL be hard and does take a lot time to come to an acceptance. But's it completely normal to feel what you feel. It's ok to feel anger, depression, feel like you have been exploited your entire life. What you are feeling now is the change. You will breakdown. You must breakdown. Then you will rebuild. We men are taught to not express our troubles or negative emotion in public. TRP is a safe and anonymous place where you express your hatred, your negatively, your mistakes, and your grief in the privacy of your own home and your own mind. This is where we can get honest answers and guidance from those who were in the similar situations. Be patience, be kind, and be grateful once you are unplugged.

  • Recommend Youtube:

  • How Romanticism Ruin Love - The School of Life

  • Why Engagement Rings Are a Scam - Adam Ruin Everything

  • Recommend TRP Post: "TRP Stage Three: Bargaining" by DCLdit

 

Unlearn your traditional male role. A few rules has changed from the past. Mother nature will always be the invisible government of the land, however, mankind's 'laws' are always changing, for better or worse. Remember your basic animal instincts and adjust to new environment accordingly. Provider=ATM, Best friend=emotional tampon/orbiter, Marriage=slave, divorce=raped, kids=blackhole, single=freedom.

  • Don't talk like one of them. You're not! Even if you'd like to be. To them, you're just a freak, like me! They need you right now, but when they don't, they'll cast you out, like a leper! You see, their morals, their code, it's a bad joke. Dropped at the first sign of trouble. They're only as good as the world allows them to be. I'll show you. When the chips are down, these... these civilized people, they'll eat each other. See, I'm not a monster. I'm just ahead of the curve. -The Joker

  • Recommend Books:

  • "Rational Male" by Rollo Tomassi

  • "The Rational Male Preventive Medicine" by Rollo Tomassi

  • "Men on Strike" by Helen Smith

  • Recommend Youtube:

  • Tom Leykis -Time Travel Radio

  • Divorce Corp Documentary

  • Men on Strike Helen Smith

  • Dan the Man Stage1 - studioJOHO

  • Fun Fact: It takes a day to get marry, it takes about a year to get a divorce.

 

Unlearn "nice guy syndrome". I almost became a neckbeard. Also learn the difference between infatuation and love. Infatuation is good in small doses but not when it becomes an obsession. Keep your head on earth and not in the clouds of your fantasies.

  • Recommend Method:

  • Don't ever give favors or gifts and expect anything in return. You WILL become passive aggressive when you are disappointed. Especially with women. They are not stupid. They can smell a guy's agenda or ulterior motives a mile away. They aren't going to have sex with you just because you were being 'generous' and 'nice'.

  • Always be upfront with what you want. Always be willing to leave or show anyone the door when it doesn't work out. Especially with potential mates.

  • Recommend Book:

  • "No More Mr. Nice Guy" by Robert Glover

  • Recommend subreddit:

  • Neckbeardstories (for a laugh and self-reflection)

  • Recommend Blog

  • "Love or Infatuation? How To Tell The Difference" by Nancy Van Pelt

  • Recommend Youtube

  • "Rick and Morty - Love" by EigenvectorSeven

 

Learn to control your sexual urges and desires. STOP being so thirsty. We males tend to think with our other head. Sex is great but it's not the one thing in this world you should strive for. Don't let it control you because then you would be willing to give anything to satisfy it. There are risks beside STDs when it comes to having sex. In Greek Mythology, it was said that the Goddess Aphrodite was feared by all, even the gods, because love and lust can affect all and can warp one's reality. Your value as a man is not defined by the quantity or quality of women you can bring to bed. Ask yourself honestly and deeply why you want sex.

  • Destroy the sex glands, whether in man or beast, and you have removed the major source of action. For proof of this, observe what happens to any animal after it has been castrated. A bull becomes as docile as a cow after it has been altered sexually. Sex alteration takes out of the male, whether man or beast, all the FIGHT that was in him -Napoleon Hill

  • Recommend Methods:

  • QUIT PORN and fapping. The urge of sex is one of and the MOST POWERFUL driving forces of man. You are wasting your drive for fake pixels. Imagine what would happen when you harness all that energy into something productive. (This by far one of the hardest thing for me to achieve.)

  • USE A CONDOM and flush it down the toilet after. Sperm-jackers are real. I actually got a vasectomy this year, (recovered fast, 2 weeks).

  • Don't EVER have sex with a drunk girl. You are just asking for a rape accusation.

  • Save screenshot of a "Awesome night" text after a night of sex and upload it to the cloud like Google Drive.

  • Don't EVER 'date' coworkers/clients either. You are just asking for a sexual harassment/assault lawsuit or an income/job lost. Don't shit where you eat.

  • Recommend Books:

  • "The Sex God Method" by Daniel Rose

  • "Sexual Intelligence" by Marty Klein

  • Recommend subreddits:

  • Childfree

  • NoFap

  • MGTOW

  • Recommend Youtube:

  • The Horrors of Children - The School of Life

  • The Science of Pornography Addiction -AsapScience

  • Fun Fact: An average kid cost 250,000$ from birth to 18 year old. (Not including college). Get a DNA test. Family courts are not on your side.

 

Having some god damn self-respect!! Language! -Captain America Learn to create, strengthen, and maintain your boundaries with your family, friends, coworkers, and potential mates. Do not put up with drama and avoid those who are drama. Crabs in a barrel mentality is an easy red flag. The core of TRP is self-improvement but also to stand up for yourself and to take care of your own needs. We want to be better, to be our best self we can possible be. And to do that we have to care how we present ourselves and look at how we treat others. But we also must learn how to care about our own needs first and be realistic on how other people are treating us. We men have been taught all of our life that we matter less, that we are valued less, that we should sacrifice ourselves for the benefits of others. It's time to be a little more self-interested, to never be doormats again.

  • Recommend Book:

  • "The 48 Law of Power" by Robert Greene (BlinkNotes is a great summery guide for the book)

  • Recommend Method:

  • The mirror self-reflection technique: When you are with someone, that person is a reflection of you. If the other person is 'unstable', you might want to take a look with yourself and your boundaries. You are the average of the five people you spent your most time with.

  • Force Field: Imagine a force field around you. Now expand it to your personal space. Use it as a guide for protection against both physical and mental 'hits'. This provide you a mental picture and more awareness of how strong your boundaries are and who exactly is trying to hurt you.

 

Frame Control. Stoicism is a great philosophy to adapt. Learn imagery training. I have a rather good imagination and tend to play devil advocate with myself. I "test" myself against scenarios with women, bitches, AMOG, betas, white knights, femnazi, and etc. You can do it anytime and envision REALISTIC solutions. It teaches you where your state of mind is and how much control you have over your emotions and reactions. You are your worst enemy and greatest ally. - technique inspired by Dragonball Z.

  • Man is affected, not by events, but by his view he takes of them. -Epictetus

  • Recommend Method:

  • Practice saying 'no' out loud with confident and conviction.

  • Learn to have self respect with your needs and boundaries and with other person's. It's always a give and take relationship. Keeping scores in your head is fine but don't get obsess with it.

  • Pick your battles wisely. You can never change a person's world view overnight. Walk away if needed.

  • Learn to say 'sorry' less and only when it is absolutely necessary.

  • Learn to make decisions for yourself and lead. You are the captain. Let the other person(s) decide if they want to follow.

  • Have a play and/or flirty tone when using backhand comments. It's banter and it's supposed to be fun. Test yourself 'being mean' cautiously. Don't backpetal whenever possible.

  • Take your time talking. Don't rush things and don't let anyone rush you. Be content during those silent pauses. Gather your thoughts.

  • Don't take things personally. Take those mental blows until you can shrug them off.

  • If a person acts like a spoiled child to you, treat them as a spoiled child.

  • Remember to stay amused and keep your frame as strong as a rock.

  • Recommend Book:

  • "Be the Pack Leader" by Cesar Millan

  • "A Guide to the Good Life, The Ancient Art of Stoic Joy" by William B. Irvine

  • Fun Fact: Olympians athletes use imagery as mental training.

 

Pure attraction is based on the your animal instincts and are non-negotiable. A balance must be achieve when two people are together. That's why 'resources' can used as a substitute and exchange for the other's affection when one person is lacking a specific trait. (That's why some women are caked with makeup and some men wave their wealth around.) What we try to achieve here is to increase the chance for pure attraction. The absolute desire to be with one another with a minimal or zero amount of external influences.

  • Recommend Method:

  • The ideal mate list: Think of your ideal partner and write down their traits on paper. Now, can you achieve those same ideals and traits? A lot of people aren't willing, both men and women. They want to have their cake and eat it too. This is why self-improvement is so 'enforced' at TRP and increasing your SMV is the first step.

  • Recommend Youtube:

  • The Ideal Man? One's Woman's 43-Point List Stuns Steve Harvey

 

Explore what it means to be in a relationship. It's basically a balance of closeness and distance. Also, unlearning monogamy (Another social conditioning) is one of the most EFFICIENT lesson you must learn. Monogamy is really rare in the animal kingdom. (Humans are animals too.) You should NEVER depend on one person to fulfill your EVERY single need. That's why people tend feel too much pressure in a relationship or they don't feel perfect for one another. ALL relationships are temporary because you and your partner meet each other requirements for the moment, whether the moment is only for one night or for several years. People grow and change and so does their needs. They fall in and out of love. Love is temporary, never meant to last 'forever'.

  • Nothing last forever, even stars die. -Neil deGeneres Tyson

  • Recommend Youtube:

  • "The School of Life" Relationships Playlist ('Affair' video recommended)

  • Recommend blog:

  • blog.kareldonk.com - Featured Topic - Love

 

Know thyself. You have to know how you see yourself, your thinking process, and how you perceive the world around you. If you are an extrovert, be social with everyone within means; if introvert, be close with your good friends.

  • Recommend Method:
  • Google "MBTI Test" to find out how you think. We aren't all meant to be social butterflies. (I have INTP personality, which is 3% of the population. Really help me out to accept that I think and see things differently from the majority.)

 

Learn to be unattached. Value your independence and freedom above all. What both males and females tend to do is get obsessive over someone, to 'own' him or her and control their sexual freedom. He's 'my" boyfriend or she is 'my' wife. You can never 'own' someone, even if you both imply exclusiveness. There is a Greek legend that men and women used to be one. The God Zeus fear us so much that he split us in half. It was said we were doom to roam the earth to find the part that make us "whole" again. If men can be whole by themselves, we would had been powerful to overthrow the Gods. Learn to be whole.

  • The things you own end up owning you. -Tyler Durden.

  • Recommend TRP Post:

  • Women are like Bowling - OmLaLa (I use the bowling alley metaphor to use as a guideline when I become too thirsty or put too much pressure on myself to make things work. It help create both abundance mindset and 'I don't give a fuck' mentality.)

  • Recommend subreddits:

  • Zerowaste

  • Onebag

  • Vandwellers

  • Recommend App:

  • My Asset Bin (Keep track of the things you own)

  • Recommend Youtube:

  • Minimalism: A Documentary About the Important Things

  • Daniel Norris The Millionaire Pitcher that Lives in a Van

 

Life Maintenance Skills:

 

Learn to manage your money. I don't know why this wasn't taught in school. It's pretty much the one skill you need to survive in today's world. Maybe it was to keep us ignorant so we could be debt/consumer slaves.

  • Recommend Methods:

  • KILL AND AVOID DEBT ASAP.

  • Either be responsible with credit cards or don't get one at all. (I finally cancel my credit card after running it up to the max way too many times. Nearly spent all my savings.)

  • Reduce or eliminate non-essential bills like Netflix, magazine subscriptions, cable/satellite TV packages, and etc.

  • Start an emergency fund and saving fund. Keep it in a separate bank or safety deposit box so you won't be tempted. Start at 5-10% of your paycheck once a month. Do a separate allotment/transfer so you would never see the money.

  • Give yourself 24 hours when wanting to buy something that is non-essential. Compulsive buying is real. You don't need the latest gadget or toy. You live well without it before.

  • Use hard cash more than debit/credit cards. You will think twice when handing over your hard-earn cash. Swiping is too easy.

  • Recommend Book:

  • "The Total Money Makeover" by David Ramsey

  • Recommend subreddit:

  • Personalfinance

  • Anticonsumption

  • Frugal

  • TinyHouses

  • Recommend App:

  • Mint: Personal Finance @ Money (great for knowing your Net Worth, Debt, and Credit Score)

  • Recommend Product:

  • Turbo Tax (Easiest way to do your taxes and receive a refund.)

  • Joke time: What's the difference between a girlfriend and a prostitute? A prostitute guarantee sex.

 

Maintain your assets and home. Be self-efficient and self-reliance. Learn to cook and clean. Seriously, every human (regardless of sex) should know how to take care of themselves, their place of resident, and their own stuff.

  • Recommend Methods:

  • Make your bed every morning.

  • Wash your dishes/pans immediately after you use them.

  • Designated a day like Sunday to clean your place.

  • Vacuum carpet, mop/sweep floor, dust/wipe furniture and bathroom, do laundry, and air out the place at least once a week.

  • If you have too much shit to clean or organized, you own way too much stuff. Less stuff means less cleaning.

  • If you hate taking out the trash, make less of it.

  • If car owner, get it detailed every 2-3 months. It would feel like it's new again.

  • Recommend Book:

  • "Adulting How to Become a Grown-up" by Kelly Williams Brown

  • Recommend Youtube:

  • Tastemade

 

Eating healthy. You are what you eat. This isn't something you can change overnight and it also depends on your budget. But it is the first and most ESSENTIAL part of your SMV; your overall health. This is a very important investment you can ever make.

  • Recommend Method:
  • Give up/limit artificial sugar, processed food, and fast food. Easy way to do it is to avoid food that come in box, bag, or can packages. Soda/pop, energy drinks, sports drinks, candy, chips, cookies, microwave dinners, canned food, and etc.
  • Try to stick to raw food you can eat or cook with. (Meat, veggies, and fruit.) Rice is a good staple food.
  • Do treat yourself once a week. You aren't training for the Olympics. Just don't go pigging out or do a binge. Treat it as a snack/dessert.
  • StillTasty.com - Your Ultimate Shelf Life Guide. Should help with grocery shopping and avoid spoiled food.
  • Buy reusable Tupperware and a lunch bag. This should encourage you to not eat out often and cook more. Plus you can show off your dishes.

 

Using your time wisely. Eliminate/reduce timewaster like: video games, TV shows, Netflix marathons, compulsive internet browsing, porn, cellphone over-usage, social media, and etc. Pretty much anything with a screen. Time is your MOST valuable resource. Less distractions creates more mindfulness and opportunities.

  • The average free time for an adult can range from 4-5 hours per day.

  • 24hrs - 8hrs (sleep) - 1.5hrs (eating/cooking) - 30mins (bathroom) - 8hrs (work) - 30mins (commute) = 5.5hrs free time per day.

  • Recommend Methods:

  • Unplug/limit your home internet service.

  • Reduced all of your electronic devices with screens down to one or two.

  • Hide your laptop and/or cellphone when you are home to reduce unnecessary usage.

  • Uninstall apps like games, Netflix, Instagram, and etc off your cellphone. Try to keep your phone to just a communication device as much as possible. No more endless scrolling or mindless games.

  • Don't be connected 24/7. Disable/silent notifications off your apps.

  • Online "dating" is only for top 10%, attention/validation whores, and thirsty betas. You have a better chance in public. Also 'catfishing' is very real.

  • If you have a Facebook, limit your friends to under 100 and set it to private. (I got mine to less than 50 after I deleted people I either don't know, never talk to anymore, are toxic, or their posts are just drama.)

  • Recommend Game:

  • Phone Stack game during meals. Stack everyone's phone face down on top of each other. The first person to reach for their phone before the meal is over pays a penalty like washing dishes or paying the bill.

  • Recommend App:

  • Quality Time (Keep tracks of your cellphone usage per app)

  • Recommend Youtube:

  • How Is Your Phone Changing You? -AsapSCIENCE

 

School/Job. Honestly, we all know school didn't do jack squat for us in the real world. You learn the skills you need in life by searching it out. That's how you came to TRP. So only go to college or trade school once you figure what you really need to do or want to do. Teens these days take a year off after high school to figure out who they are. Your MBTI personality should give some sort of guide on where your ideal career field is.

  • Recommend Method:

  • There are two types of jobs. One that pay the bills and established your 'time and experience'. The other is a fun dream/hobby. Take care of yourself first by getting one that pays the bill. When you got free time on your hands, work on your dream/hobby job. Take only one or two classes if you are working fulltime to not overwhelm yourself.

  • Recommend Book:

  • "Do What You Are: Discover the Perfect Career for You Through the Secrets of Personality Type" by Paul D. Tieger & Barbara Barron-Tieger

 

Bio Hacks Habits:

 

  • Note: DNA, living/working environment, workout schedule, and eating habits may effect results.

 

Personal hygiene Caveman Style habits

  • Recommend Methods:

  • Going chemical free (your skin absorb everything). A lot of hygiene products are allowed to NOT list their ingredients. I was able to stop using deodorant, cologne, laundry detergent ( I use baking soda), shaving cream (dry shaving), and shampoo (My hair and scalp feels and looks so much better. I use tree oil to keep my hair and scalp 'hydrated' and healthy). Girls that I been with love my natural smell and possible pheromones.

  • Take cold showers. Another mental exercise over your fear. Observe the excuses your mind makes up, clear your mind, and then jump right in. (Training this method everyday will make a good habit for doing cold approaches). Health benefits and save money too. Using too much hot water can dry and damage your skin and hair.

  • Shower every other day and within a 5 minute duration (within reason please). Showering everyday could also damage your skin and hair.

  • Recommend subreddit:

  • NoPoo (No Shampoo).

  • Recommend Youtube:

  • Benefits of Cold Showers Comfort Zone Killer- The Improvement Pill

  • Fun Fact: Cold showers was coined as "The James Bond Shower".

 

Go outside more often and into nature. It's one of the few healthy things you can do for FREE.

  • Recommend Methods:

  • Vitamin D from the sun (tanning). Improve energy, mood, and appearance.

  • Earthing/Barefoot. (I don't believe in the whole 'energy' crap and didn't buy any products. My experience is that I feel more relax and it's cool to feel the texture of the earth.)

  • Recommend subreddit:

  • Barefoot

  • Recommend Youtube:

  • What If You Stopped Going Outside? -AsapSCIENCE

 

Increase your testosterone. Google the benefits. IT'S OVER 9000!! -Vegeta

  • Recommend Method:
  • Take some zinc supplement
  • Obtain a medical test to see where your level is at.

 

Be less hairy overall so girls can see your face and muscles.

  • Recommend Methods:

  • If you can't grow and/or maintain maintenance a beard, shave (Don't be a neckbeard or have a pedo-stashe).

  • Manscaping. Learn to pick and trim your eyebrows, ear hair, nose hair, chest hair, back hair, and pubic hair.

  • Have a hair style that doesn't required a lot of maintenance. Buzzed, short, shaved haircuts gives you a clean look. Do a Google image search for your ideal men haircut. Print and bring it to the barber. (Balding is not a choice. However, a shaved haircut is a choice.)

  • Maintenance schedule for manscaping and haircuts: At least once a month.

  • Recommend Youtube:

  • Beauty and the Geek Makeover

 

Teeth whiting. A smile can be improved with greatly with white teeth. Takes about a month or two using a store brand.

  • Recommend Product:
  • Any store brand whiting strips or dentist procedure for instant satisfaction.

 

GET MORE SLEEP.

  • Recommend Methods:

  • Less screen time mean more sleep.

  • Darken your room as much as possible.

  • Sleep naked and also on hard surface (floor, flat bed frame). It help with neck and back pain and improve better posture.

  • Recommend Apps:

  • Bluelight Filter for your phone

  • f.lux for all your computers

  • Recommend Product:

  • LightDims Stickers 5.99$

  • Blackout Curtains

  • Recommend Youtube:

  • What If You Stopped Sleeping? -AsapSCIENCE

 

Hydrate motherfucker! -James Doakes. 60% of your body is made of water.

  • Recommend Method:

  • Drink only water, all other drinks are fill with a ton of sugar. Place a reusable water bottle in plain sight at your work area to help remind you to drink.

  • Recommend Youtube:

  • What If You Stopped Drinking Water? -AsapSCIENCE

 

Take three deep breaths anytime of the day.

  • Recommend Method:
  • 5 seconds in and 5 seconds out. It help clear your mind and/or calm your emotions. Work wonders.

 

Get RID of bluepill music.

  • Recommend Method:

  • Take some time to go through your music collection. Listening to music have been proven to affect your subconscious. I love music but I get so irritated now with songs that have lyrics like 'waiting for a girl' or 'she is the perfect one', or 'how can I live without her.' Makes me want to gagged.

  • Recommend App:

  • Soundhound/Shazam (Identity any song, anywhere)

  • Recommend Website:

  • youtube-mp3.org ( For auditory learners when they find good podcast videos.)

 

Minimize or eliminate mind/body alternating substances.

  • Tobacco: You already know smoking is bad. Endless campaigns about that. (I also hate kissing girls who smoke.)

  • Alcohol: I limit myself to 3 drinks when I go out. It gives me a good buzz while letting my mind/body relax without being sloppy. Save me money and from potential beer goggle (ugly chicks). (I also like to play a game of trying to get strangers to buy me my third drink.)

  • Drugs: Never did drugs before so my only inputs are I don't like things that mess with my mind and prefer no marks on my records.

  • Caffeinated Drinks: Lower your dependence on coffee, energy drinks, and etc. If you are eating healthy and sleeping well, you shouldn't need it much.

  • Recommend Youtube:

  • Addiction - Kurzgesagt In A Nutshell

 

Your Exterior Self:

 

Getting in shape. If there was ever a first step to attracting women, this is it. Start now is the best time to do it. I was a skinny 130lb in high school. Now I'm 160lb and been call "bigger" and "muscular" which is a confident boost.

  • Recommend Methods:

  • Lifting (Duh). Use free weights and something similar to the 5x5 workout program.

  • Running. It's FREE to do anywhere, anytime. A mile a day keeps the doctor away.

  • Designate a time and place to work out. It will give you the mindset of the sole purpose to workout. Try to not use your home as a gym. It has too many distractions. Your home is a place of relaxation.

  • If you are skinny/hardgainer like me, you have to train to eat a lot. I drink 3-4 protein shakes a day with three large meals.

  • Find a workout buddy that who knows what they are doing. I needed help to stay motivated and committed to the workout program for the first few months. I was dragged kicking and screaming along the way until I learn to shut up and stop wasting energy complaining and making bad excuses.

  • Your time resource is 24 hours everyday. Use at least one hour to workout.

  • Document your progress by taking body pics once a month, writing down your weight once a week, and your max weight for each exercise every two weeks. The fitness process is very slow so you need to see that you are improving every month.

  • Recommend Products:

  • Protein shake: Pro JYM (4lb 55$)

  • RSP nutrition Creatine Monohydrate (16.99$)

  • bodybuilding.com

  • Bonus: Working out is also a type of dynamic meditation. My mind tends to go blank when I focus on my form and movement. It's similar to monks who practice mindfulness when doing chores. (I honestly can't sit still and think of nothing. I'd fall asleep.)

 

Learn the basics of men fashion and apply it to your wardrobe. It's like a video game. Increase attractiveness +5. Once you have the basic down, get rid of all unnecessary clothes. That way you look stylish all the time.

  • Recommend Book:

  • "Dress like a Man, A Style Guide for Practical Men" by Antonio Centeno

  • Recommend Youtube:

  • Alpha M.

 

Learn speech and body language. The percentage of types of human communication are consist of: 55% are body movements and facial expression, 38% are voice tone, volume, and pauses, and finally 7% are words.

  • Recommend Methods:

  • Stand tall by using the pencil posture test and fix your forward neck by using the 'hang by your teeth' technique.

  • Use a computer stand to level your screen higher for a better sitting posture.

  • Place a pen in your mouth and start reading out loud. You should be able to pronounce every syllables, talk slower, take breaths and pauses, and get rid of 'umms' and 'uhh'.

  • Record yourself reading out loud. To focus on your tone and volume, place your recording device at different distances away from you. This should give you the idea of how loud and clearly you must be speak in order for the person to hear you. You should also listen to pitch of your voice and make sure it stay low.

  • Move slower by focusing on feeling every step you take. Pretend you just got a new body and are 'testing' it.

  • Eye contact game: Try to memorize what color of the person's eye.

  • Smile less often. When you do make direct eye contact, do a slow smile, like it was meant for that person.

  • Pretend neither you and the other person can't speak. Use your body, hands movements, and facial expression to communicate. Basically charades.

  • Recommend Books:

  • "Verbal Judo" by George Thompson PhD

  • "How to talk to Anyone, 92 Tricks" by Leil Lowndes

  • "What Every Body is Saying" Joe Navarro

  • "The Voice Book" by Kate DeVore and Starr Cookman

 

Learning seduction. Only when you are at a healthy mindset, have good habits formed, and got your shit together.

  • Recommend Methods:

  • Make sure your logistics are in order before going anywhere, anytime. You will never know when the next opportunity will arise. Transportation? Check. Bedroom clean? Check. Condoms? Check.

  • You must LEAD at all times. YOUR responsibility is to make the FIRST move and every move after that. The approach, the flirting, the kiss, the numbers, the future plans, the sex. Judge her interaction and adjust accordingly.

  • 3 second rule: When you see an attractive women, don't think, approach. This gives your brain no time to develop any excuses. Don't restrain yourself to just weekends or night venues. Women are everywhere.

  • ACCEPT REJECTIONS GRACEFULLY. You CAN'T have sex with every attractive woman you see. There are too many factors to why a woman rejects you. Just say 'thank you for your time' and move on.

  • For first few outing, keep it fun, interactive, cheap/free, kino friendly, and low pressure. No dinner. No movie. Get ice cream cones, bowling, arcade, laser tag, walk around the park, putt putt golf, hiking, swimming at beach/pool, board games, and etc.

  • Topics to avoid: religion, politics, past relationships, work related, family issues, feminism, kids, her age/weight.

  • Topics to use: music, movies/tv shows, food you love/hate, your/her adventures, places you have been, happy childhood memories, scary stories, jokes, people watching, and the surrounding environment.

  • Don't be afraid to touch her! Sit next to her, hold her hand, high fives, hugs, fist bumps, make her twirl, hand slapping game, and etc.

  • Kino map: hands/knees -> upper arms/upper legs -> hair/lower back -> face cheek/ass -> lips (kiss) Hint: When going for the kiss, make sure to isolate her from the public view or from people she knows. A person's public reputation can greatly differs from their private desires.

  • Keep the sexual tension alive. Use sexual innuendos. Wink, lick your lips, stick your tongue like a kid, blow kisses, smirk, grab/slap her ass playfully, rub/slap her thighs playfully, and etc.

  • Push and Pull during the interaction. You're not sprinting to the finish line. Escalate and rest on your terms. Give her room to chase too.

  • Recommend Books:

  • "The Manual What Women Want" by W. Anton

  • "Models: Attraction through Honesty" by Mark Manson

  • Recommend Youtube:

  • What Actually Makes a Man Attractive? - BuzzFeedVideo

  • Recommend subreddit:

  • Seduction

 

Texting, emails, and any online messenger are only for logistics and goals. It is a inefficient tool to use for displaying any form of emotional communication.

  • Recommend Methods:

  • Text with the PURPOSE of meeting up/making plans. Don't text just for the sake of texting. (Like asking how was her day was or what your goals in life are.) Save that for when you are together in person.

  • No wall text.

  • No double texting.

  • No instant text back if you can help it.

  • PLEASE write out your texts in compete words, sentences, and correct grammar.

  • Use 'statements' formats more often than 'questions' format. (Example: Instead of asking her if she is free, tell her a time, location, and activity of what you will be doing together. Take the lead and assume attraction.)

  • Do not drunk text or send nudes (blackmail materials).

  • Make a phone call every once in awhile. Show that you got some balls.

  • Easy 'nexting' tells: If she responds back to reschedule, she is into you. However, if she 'stalls' without rescheduling, she is not into you. 2-3 strikes and she's out.

  • Recommend acronym:

  • KISS (Keep It Simple Stupid)

  • Recommend Youtube:

  • How to Text a Girl - sWooZie

 

Additional Recommend Skills:

 

Learn to dance as if no one is watching. Great for getting out of your comfort zone. Dance in public to get over your self-impose fear and learn not give a fuck. It's a great mental exercise. I have been called a professional dancer before but I just think I dance like I was high on something. Girls notice though and there is the whole "how you dance is how you are in bed". Create better stamina too.

  • Recommend Method:

  • Movie "Suckerpunch"-close your eyes and imagine an adventure with the music.

  • There are two types of dancing style. Individual and partner. Take beginner classes for both. You are with people with two left feet in those classes. Partner dancing helps with being comfortable touching the opposite sex and leading. Individual dancing help with being comfortable with your movements and with yourself overall.

  • Recommend Youtube:

  • Howcast

  • Will Dancing Get You Laid? - AsapSCIENCE

 

Learn to fight. Self defense is a good way to learn how to reinforce your boundaries and not put up with bullshit.

  • Recommend Method:
  • kickboxing or some sort of martial arts

 

Learn to sing. For some reason, singing tend to bring people together. When you and another person know the lyrics to a song, it's really cool feeling. Great for singing during car rides and karaoke nights. Great indicator of putting yourself out there. Just have fun with it.

  • Recommend Method:
  • Take a few singing lessons from a tutor to learn breathing and pitch.
  • Record yourself is also a good method.

 

Storytelling. Our stories are who we are, what we experienced. Share the jokes, the 'what the fuck' events, the scary adventures and your brainfart moments. If you don't have any, go out and do something to at least have one story.

  • Recommend Method:
  • Make sure to be positive or sarcastic. Even if your story is negative, share it in a good light. Make sure use a small amount of body movements like you are talking to a deaf person. Don't rush it, its your story.

 

And Lastly:

 

Don't take life too seriously. Somewhere, someone else has it worse than you. You are at the bottom but the only way now is up. Work hard but enjoy all the little moments and small achievements when you can. Laugh at your mistakes and look at how far you had come. Don't compare your life to others or how perfect it should to be. Your success in life is when you can smile and say 'yeah, that was fun'.

  • The life of every individual, viewed as a whole and in general, and when only its most significant features are emphasized, is really a tragedy; but gone through in detail it has the character of a comedy. - Arthur Schopenhauer

  • Recommend Youtube:

  • The Philosophy of Rick and Morty - Wisecrack

  • How Far Can We Go, The Limits of Humanity - Kurzgesagt In A Nutshell

  • The Lottery of Life - The School of Life


[–]Foothill_r34 105 points105 points [recovered]

This is an outstanding submission, much appreciated bro.

[–][deleted] 36 points37 points  (1 child)

Thank you random citizen. - Metro Man

[–]Wilreadit 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Seriously, one of the best posts in recent times to hit the forum.

[–]sedecim_02 208 points209 points  (50 children)

I think I'd have to disagree on is not showering everyday. Sure, it might work for you but in times like the summer it's not really an option to not shower everyday.

[–]TheUnknowen 59 points60 points  (43 children)

Yeah I had the same question. As someone who works out 6 times a week and having a Regular 40h job, how the hell am I supposed to not shower every day?

[–][deleted] 33 points34 points  (38 children)

Well the parts the body that produce odor, (armpit, crotch, feet, and ass) you just wash with some water and wash cloth. Your skin on your legs, upper torso, back, arms, and face don't produce any odor. Harsh soap and hot water could had been drying out your skin and cause rash and pimples. Your skin is the large organ of your body and it can maintain itself. You are supposed to have good baterica growning on your body. Showering everyday is a recent new trend. Even now a few known celebrities and a survey of Britain people are showering less.

[–]Aids_by_Google 69 points70 points  (18 children)

OP if you are of Korean origin you most likely dont produce the chemicals that make sweat smell. Most Koreans don't use deodorant in Korea, many Chinese have the same genetic trait of not smelling from sweat & many other Asians too I would guess.

[–]MrSimple333 30 points30 points [recovered]

It's possible. I'm Vietnamese American, 1st Generation. And I don't sweat alot either.. huh. And I'm also living in South Korea right now. XD lol

[–]dareealmvp 39 points40 points  (4 children)

Indian here. And I'm not going to make that mistake again. God my body smells awful within 24 hours of not showering. Even though I do lots of cardio and sweat a lot before showering, I still like to keep it clean.

Although I have to admit, I was using warm water to shower, will change it to cold now.

[–][deleted] 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Cumin and other spices in curry and the like is what produces strong body odors and gives indians a rep for being smelly.

Eat without it and you may or may not smell better.

[–]Foothill_r34 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Me too, I am way too sweaty and stanky to not shower daily.

[–]Seoul_Brother 5 points6 points  (4 children)

Definitely think it has to do with racial backgrounds. I'm Korean (obviously), and I found that I could go days without showering and smell just fine if not better, but some people smell all sorts of god-awful if they don't shower.

[–]bornredd 7 points8 points  (1 child)

Hairy euro-mutt here. I stink within a day easily. Of course, it's over 100F here in the summer.

[–]joseph177 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You are what you eat. Stick to meat (25%) and fruit/vegetables(75%) and things will improve. Dairy is also best to avoid, our ability to break down galactose is lost after weining. This causes pimples in many white males.

[–]reddumpling 1 point2 points  (1 child)

Is it also because of the weather there? Except for summer Korea is pretty cool right?

[–]Seoul_Brother 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Nah, I live in the US. Korea gets unbearably hot during summers and frigid cold during winters though. Clothing they wear in summer is definitely more linen based for that reason and lighter.

I live in the Northeast US, but it gets pretty hot during summers. Still don't see too much issue with B.O. even without using deodorant though. It takes a couple days for me to start being smelly.

[–]trpthrowaway2003 1 point2 points  (1 child)

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What is this?

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your service. The weather has not change one bit. lol

[–]WhySoRuff 10 points11 points  (1 child)

There are no chemicals in sweat that smell. Sweat is usually odorless until it reaches the bacteria/dead skin cells that have collected in your sweat pores and that's the combo that stinks.

[–]Aids_by_Google 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Indeed - you may have read my comment incorrectly.

[–]beachbbqlover 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It's related to dry earwax. You still smell from other factors, it's just you don't produce a particular oily protein mix that bacteria love to feed on.

[–]sassypaella 35 points36 points  (3 children)

Drinking water is a recent trend too, as our ancestors had to drink beer and wine to stay alive. Humankind evolves.

Adjust your showers to your body and your habits. If you workout, you need to shower: it's not only that a certain part of your body sweats, but that very sweat will end up covering your skin. Disgusting.

[–][deleted] 20 points21 points  (1 child)

I personally cannot sleep if I have that fine layer of disgusting sticky sweat on my body.

[–]Brichess 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I agree, but they drank boiled drinks like coffee and tea to survive because boiling the water killed bacteria, and they might as well make something if they're going to boil the water. Please don't try to hydrate on alcohol

[–]Ou-tis 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm doing more or less like you.I take cold shower and soap only in the smell spots.And I use starch or a starh soap.I clean my face only with water or starch. And if you have short hair is the same to wash your head.

[–]TheUnknowen 0 points1 point  (7 children)

So you are recommending showering only every second day and using water plus some kind of rag to clean those odor producing parts?

[–]Jumala 17 points18 points  (0 children)

People of East Asian descent (Chinese, Koreans, and Japanese) have fewer apocrine sweat glands compared to people of other descent, and the lack of these glands make East Asians less prone to body odor. The reduction in body odor and sweating may be due to adaptation to colder climates by their ancient Northeast Asian ancestors.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (4 children)

Better much. Just baking soda for your most smelly area. It would take several week for your body to adjust.

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[–]CryptoManbeard 4 points5 points  (1 child)

FYI you shouldn't put baking soda directly on your skin. It basically gives your skin a chemical burn and can cause it to get rough and leathery. You may be able to tolerate it but it's still not the right pH and others might get burns from it.

Skin products with baking soda have a very low amount for that reason and other products to balance out the pH.

[–]truthyego 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Use apple cider vinegar instead. Great for skin and hair.

Afterwards, use povidone iodine on arm pits.

I have tried every deodorant known to man, this is by far the best. Won't stop sweating or make you smell nice, but it kills odors on the spot.

[–]A_local_guy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't have problems with harsh soap

[–]Awotwe_Knows_Best 1 point2 points  (2 children)

I have been taking cold showers my whole life. using hot water to bathe is kinda a nuisance. what is the advantage of cold showers over hot showers?

[–]TheUnknowen 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I started taking cold showers recently. I do feel better post showering but I can't feel that much of a difference tbh.

[–]adam_varg 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Better immunity, less anxiety and depression, more body resilience against weather, etc.

I do it for years, above are real benefits which you will feel, but for me best one is it is non time consuming discipline exercise i do every morning.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (1 child)

It's fine to shower every day, or even multiple times a day, as long as you don't use soap on most parts of your body. Soap washes off the protective oils that the skin produces and is in no way helpful (sweat is water-soluble so you don't need soap to wash it off). I only regularly wash my "smelly" areas (armpits, crotch) with soap, to get rid of odors (although just water also works for some people, depends on your body), but soap my whole body very rarely, only when I'm really filthy.

[–]bigkids 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think he means, do not use shampoo or soap everyday. I don't see anything wrong with taking a "water shower", the colder the better since the hot water comes from a water heater tank that might not get drained every year as it should.

I recently emptied a tank for a friend and the better part of the water that was drained was rusty and brown coloured.

[–]Entrefut 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also depends how long you shower for. Those 2 minute cold military style showers are where it's at.

[–]RedPillFreedom 26 points27 points  (4 children)

Enjoy the format.

Good Post especially for Newbies.

[–][deleted] 6 points7 points  (3 children)

Thank you. The 'formatting help' help a lot. I tend to get a headache when reading post with no paragraphs or lose track of where I was reading.

[–]Red_SL4 2 points3 points  (2 children)

I don't know if you do already, but reddit enhancement suit (RES) allows you to preview your post as you write it, formatted and all.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (1 child)

I don't know how to do that.

[–]reddumpling 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It is an add-on/extension you install on your browser. It has a ton of customization that literally enhances your reddit experience.

[–]RPmatrix 24 points25 points  (37 children)

Great post bro, This is very good advice. You have encapsulated most of The Most Important things here OP and given good practical examples.

The only thing I would add is in the 'biohack' section -- Especially if you have any anxiety or depression issues, Take magnesium and vitamin D supplements too.

And when I look back on my life, without a doubt the two most significant yet simple things you can do for your health are; cold showers and proper breathing.

As it's an 'autonomic' function, we don't usually notice our breathing until it's hard to do. This is a mistake.

We can go without food for weeks, we can go without water for days, yet we can't go without air for more than a few minutes --- learn how to breathe 'properly', i.e. diaphragmatically, it's your connection to the Life force.

There's an added bonus to focused breathing, it's a form of meditation. The more control you have over your body you have over your mind and vice versa!

Also, too many guys neglect their cardio side for swole, another mistake. Don't miss "heart days"!

What's the point of being swole if you can't keep yourself going hard for more than 30secs?

Take up riding a bike if you can't run (I injured my knees skiing and later in a MC crash ... I can't run long distances without risking injury but I sure can ride a bike) Swimming is not a good cardio exercise, ideally you need to be able to push your heart rate up to 80% of maximum and keep it going for several minutes..

High Intensity Interval Training is very effective, but so is riding your bike 10kms to work and back, 5 days a week. I like how I can combine part of my training with commuting, whereas if I'm doing HIIT I still have to allocate at least ~1 hour every second day, which for me is too disruptive to a busy schedule compared to including this exercise as part of your daily commute. I can easily put in 30second bursts of 100% effort followed by 60second rst periods on the bike, 3-5 times in a 5km ride.

As I live in the inner city and my bike is my primary form of transport. I'd easily ride a 100 kms a week. These days I have no trouble smashing out a 5km trip through traffic in < 15mins, and do 40km trail rides for fun. I'm the fittest guy I know my age outside of a handful of pro athletes.

I am also the only person I know my age who's religiously taken cold showers after hot showers since I was 16. It's the strangest habit which I often had this love hate relationship with!

However. combined with a good diet, the benefits are tangible. When I was 30 people I didn't know would guess I was in my early 20's, and people consistenly guess my age to be 10-15yrs less than what it is. I find it amusing and I don't mind. From across a room people will even guess lower! Nobody comes close to my correct age (50) and most are very surprised when I've told them.

Excellent synopsis OP, you'll go far with your knowledge and attitude

[–]JihadDerp 18 points19 points  (9 children)

Swimming is great full body cardio. You just gotta swim faster/harder, as opposed to lazy lap swim. Try to sprint 100 meters in a pool. Your heart will be trying to escape from your chest. Do that with 30 seconds rest in between for a set of ten? Good luck.

[–]mmmoreos 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It also just takes at least a couple weeks of swimming a couple days each week to get adjusted to the water again and be able to swim hard for long distance without needing to go slow or do intervals. That is if you already have good form. Swimming is the most meditative exercise for me though. No music or sounds except some flowing water and I'm completely focused on breathing and form. Once I get in the zone my mind is free and things come naturally. It's a commitment to get to that point but worth it.

[–]Way_Of_Man 5 points6 points  (0 children)

The only thing I would add is in the 'biohack' section -- Especially if you have any anxiety or depression issues, Take magnesium and vitamin D supplements too.

Doubling on the Vitamin D if you live in a cloudy area or a place that has long winters. It makes a tremendous amount of difference in your overall well being.

I'll add onto this comment that there is an increasingly growing awareness of the benefit that probiotics have in your mental state. It's been long known that having healthy bacteria in your guts is good for digestion. But there seems to be a growing body of evidence that having that good bacteria in your gut helps to curb stomp depression.

Anecdotally, I've been taking some form of probiotic on an almost daily basis and just feel better in all areas of my life the last few months.

[–]eraser851 1 point2 points  (13 children)

Hot shower than cold shower? Do you finish your shower and turn off the hot for a few minutes?

[–]RPmatrix 2 points3 points  (12 children)

pretty much,i have a nice hot shower and when I'm done I turn off the hot and spin on the cold for 30-60seconds

Great in winter as you become warm when you get out

in fact I only ever miss one in very hot weather when the opposite applies

[–]Dollar_thief 7 points8 points  (11 children)

Try to get in the habit of fully cold showers all the time. Within 4-5 days you become adapted to the cold, and in 1-3 weeks you become comfortable in it - as in you don't feel the cold.

I've done this for 3 months now and cannot describe how much it has changed my morning routine: shorter showers, feeling of joy/satisfaction in the shower, warming up when leaving shower instead of cooling down, and feeling buzzed and ready for the day.

There is a Dutch man called Wim Hof who has an excellent documentary called "Inside he superhuman world of The Iceman" who swears by cold showers and ice immersion, he uses it as a tool for proper breathing and has done extensive research on the physiological and psychological affects that it has on the body. He has developed the power (that we all have) to control his "autonomous" systems: endocrine/vascular/nervous etc.

I believe that this should be one of the end goals of every red pill man. I have been meaning to write an extensive post about this topic as there is so much valuable information to give.

If you take nothing else, take the documentary, it's 45 minutes and, like the red pill, will alter your perception of what is possible of the human body and send you down a rabbit hole of research into the body and what the scientific community is only just beginning to understand.

[–]PragmaticRedTruth 1 points1 points [recovered]

I don't get this, why do cold showers make this much of a difference? I plan on watching the documentary next week when I have more free time at home... But can you sum this up?

[–]Dollar_thief 9 points10 points  (6 children)

  1. The cold burns fat - activates brown fat which increases metabolism levels, uses blood glucose to provide energy to heat the body, blood sugar levels decrease to more natural level.

  2. Mental toughness - psychologically, overcoming an extreme condition at the beginning of the day gives mental clarity and feels like an achievement each time (start the day as you mean to go on).

  3. Increases immune function - like weight lifting you are stressing your immune system and it gets stronger each time you do it. It increases the number of immune system cells which fight disease and infection.

  4. Better heat regulation - The body is more comfortable in different temperature, I quite literally feel warmer during the day compared to before starting cold showers.

  5. Redefines comfort - people think comfort is watching tv and eating crisps, it's not, comfort is being in tune with your natural self - we are a tiny percentage of human history to have central heating and warm showers, we've lost the ability to properly control our bodily systems and survive cold weather conditions and I believe this lack of connection between our lives and our natural state causes us to enter "easy mode" in life which has damaging psychological issues and health issues.

  6. Full body cold exposure has been proven to significantly reduce depression levels.

  7. Increases energy - it awakens you from your sleep, some believe it can treat chronic fatigue.

  8. Great for your skin and hair, noticeable differences after a few weeks.

  9. Increases testosterone levels.

  10. Lowers stress levels - whilst showering adrenaline (stress) levels increase and then rapidly decrease afterwards, like a reset.

  11. Improves circulation - again it's as if you are training your vascular system by putting it in extreme conditions.

This turned out to be longer than I thought it would be. Tell you what, I'll start writing my list tomorrow on the cold showers and breathing techniques and will let you know when I post it.

[–]PragmaticRedTruth 2 points2 points [recovered]

Thanks for putting the time into the write up. Okay.

[–]RPmatrix 0 points1 point  (2 children)

haha I've been having cold showers religiously for 35yrs bro! And only a few months ago was I able to convince my (very Red) best mate to start doing the same .... and then I find out he's become a huge Win Hoff fan! lol

yeah mate, they sure are amazing for such a simple thing to do

also Wim does these cool hyperventilating exercises ... which I highly recommend to anyone who hasn't learned about how important your breathing is

[–]Dollar_thief 1 point2 points  (1 child)

Yeah his hyperventilation is incredible, you get into a completely peaceful, mindful state and I'd even go as far as to say that it's one of the best forms of meditation.

Next step is ice baths haha, not sure I'm looking forward to that so much!

[–]reddumpling 2 points3 points  (5 children)

My friend has a hairline crack along the length of his shin due to traffic accidents and he cannot run very far without worsening the pain.

Is there any cardio you would recommend for him?

[–]RPmatrix 2 points3 points  (3 children)

definitely cycling ... it's high intensity (if you want) and low impact (unless you crash)

[–]adam_varg 1 point2 points  (1 child)

And if walking/cycling is too high impact for his injuries at the moment there is always swimming.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (1 child)

Thanks. I totally forgot breathing methods.

[–]RPmatrix 1 point2 points  (0 children)

no probs, and great post bro, thanks for putting it together

[–]AnthonyMimming 22 points22 points [recovered]

OP, i want you to know that it is actually a genetic thing with "asians" to have very mild body odour/smell. Us non asians need to shower more frequently. No im not joking, it is scientifically proven.

[–]JackGetsIt 6 points7 points  (2 children)

I still think he's right about the skin thing. If you can reduce showering you're going to keep healthy oils on your skin and improve skin health.

[–]xray777 5 points5 points [recovered]

Its a balance between what was ideal for a human living in the woods and working strenuously and our modern, sterile ideal world.

Just because you may have reached a nice equilibrium with yourself and open-minded people doesn't mean your boss or your love interest in high society is going to agree.

One of the fundamental problems is that modern society's conventions, expectations, and accepted ideas and behaviors do NOT match what we are still wired for.

That's a Red Pill fundamental.

[–]geezertrp 17 points18 points  (1 child)

Great post overall.

One very minor nitpick:

Learn to dance as if no one is watching. Great for getting out of your comfort zone.

That's absolutely true. Learning to hold frame, to fail in the process of learning something new, and to not care about what random people think are all important things for newbies to learn—and dancing in public can help.

But what about those with two left feet who really want to learn how to dance better?

Would you tell someone headed to the gym, "learn to lift in public, just put on the soundtrack to Rocky and wave some dumbbells around?" Probably not.

Some resources that helped this old guy get some better moves:

http://lifehacker.com/scientists-discover-the-ideal-dance-moves-for-men-1647760223

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z7tbdF6lSK0

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4EIl1qh9lqU

This guy, douchey hat aside, will teach you some things that help with rhythm and footwork, but he's short on the big upper body moves that indicate you're alpha on the dance floor. So you can start there, but move on.

https://www.youtube.com/user/HowToDanceForMen

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks. I'll write in my post on how I learned to dance.

[–]HungLikeA_Moose 29 points30 points  (9 children)

A vasectomy at 23? Yea, I also thought I had it all figured out at that age. Hate to break it to you, but you don't. What an idiotic decision.

[–][deleted] 7 points8 points  (4 children)

Well you should go over to subreddit childfree. There is are a bunch of us idiots. Recently there was one guy who was able to get it at 20 years old. A new record. XD

[–]hahhwhat 5 points5 points [recovered]

M8, you wanted to kill yourself 6 years ago. Recall how much your mind can change in the span of a few years next time you make such a drastic decision like a vasectomy.

[–][deleted] 11 points12 points  (1 child)

I don't why people think I made a drastic decision. It took several years of thinking and a lot of research on vasectomy. I read stories of parents who regret having kids and those who wishes they had kids. I play scenarios in my head. I babysit other people's kids. I would actually see how much money I would need per month in order to raise a kid if I was either single or have a spouse. Did you really think I just walk into a clinic and just ask for one? For god sake, it's a knife surgery to my balls. That's something any guy would take time to think about.

[–]orangepolenta 6 points7 points  (3 children)

Agreed. Im 33 and for christs sake my 23 self was a maniac. Would not trust him. It can be reversed though no?

[–]asymptotic_salvation 12 points13 points  (8 children)

Brilliant post. One thing to add:

If you're going to learn to fight, learn Brazilian Jiu-jitsu or Mixed Martial Arts (MMA) at a competition gym.

Even if it's only once a week.

Bjj is widely accepted as the most effective 1-on-1 martial art (see the history of the UFC), second only to MMA -- which Bjj forms an enormous part of -- and will have the largest carry-over to a street fight.

A competition gym will ensure that your training is always practical and efficient, and the competitive environment will repulse the feminine types that have turned martial arts into a glorified body-pump class.

Apologies for formatting, on a mobile.

For the record, I've trained Muay Thai & Boxing and then MMA, bjj and sub wrestling at a couple of gyms.

[–]guest123420 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Agreed, I've been training BJJ for 3 years now(some boxing/stand up), there has not been a single choice and commitment that I have made that has prepared me more as an alpha, MENTALLY and physically. Knowing I have no fear in an altercation is one thing, but knowing I can defuse nearly any situation having that confidence is even better. I was never a fighter, though I did just fine, and now that I can handle myself in a fight I have even less desire to ever be in one. 99-100% of the time NO ONE wins in a street fight. Sure, you might beat the guy, but did you get hurt along the way? did you break your phone? will charges be pressed? was it worth it? My advice is stolen and simple: if you want peace, prepare for war. On my way to Jitz right now!

[–]powderhound100 2 points3 points  (1 child)

Krav Maga is also a great option. It is not a competition sport so very based on what works, no rules balls, eyes etc are part of the equation. Will also learn how to defend against knives, guns, how to get out of chokes etc.

[–]asymptotic_salvation 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My only quam with Krav Maga is precisely that it isn't a competitive sport.
You miss out on all the masculine benefits of physical competition, and more importantly you can't be sure anything works if you've never used it.

[–]PawnToKing 11 points12 points  (1 child)

Since this post is practically perfect, I'm just going to point out the two or three things I personally disagree with. Firstly, you mention running right after weight training, but for cosmetic purposes. Running is something one should do for either health or leisure. Do not recommend running for building a physique. It's a time waster. I plan on doing a detailed post on proper efficient training later.

Second, you said to learn to manage your money or cancel your credit card. In 21st century America, it's imperative to have credit. It's easy to build credit with no danger to yourself. Every small purchase you would usually make, simply put on your credit card. Set up monthly autopay and pay in full. Get a card with no annual fee. This way it will cost you nothing to use it, but because of cash back you will actually MAKE money, while building credit. Especially since you stress the importance of self control and discipline, not being able to control yourself with spending is no excuse.

Lastly, you don't mention leisure. Being a high functioning, driven male is all well and good, but in Cal Newport's Deep Work, he cotes research that shows we only have a finite amount of self control we can use in a day and a finite amount of hard work we can do. This means to keep a healthy emotional state, we must practice leisure. Go climbing, play music casually, read books (fiction!), Or even waste time on Netflix or video games.

That's my two cents. Feel free to disagree, and of course, congrats on a top notch post.

[–][deleted] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

For the credit card, I had auto pay, no late bills, had a card that gave me airline miles which I used several times. My credit score is 751. I just didn't have self control and tried before to be discipline.

I didn't mention leisure is because I know for a fact none of us can grind our self improvement everyday. We get lazy, bored, sidetrack and want something fun to do. There nothing wrong with it. It's part of being human. I mention that I like watching anime. That's my leisure.

Thank you for your input.

[–]Hang10Dude 8 points9 points  (0 children)

"Now I'm just a guy with a mission in life and better boundaries."

There's a lot of debate about what the 'end state' of the red pill is. I'd say that just about sums it up.

[–]thismaytakeawhile 8 points9 points  (3 children)

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What is this?

[–]EddieTH 7 points8 points  (3 children)

>advises to cut out screen time

>recommends and app/youtube channel with every point

no wonder the internet thinks this sub is full of inbred idiots

[–]chaseemall 6 points7 points  (1 child)

Your comment contributes absolutely nothing of value. Fuck off.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

lol The irony was not lost on me.

[–]ghengiscock 7 points8 points  (1 child)

Aaaaand saved.

Love that you included School of Life and The Philosophy of Rick and Morty.

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks. I can't wait for the 3rd Season.

[–]FilthMonger85 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Best post ive seen on here in my short 3 months. Thank you very much.

[–]EvrythingISayIsRight 5 points6 points  (1 child)

Also -

Attempt to curb reddit/facebook/twitter/etc use & drinking/smoking/whatever

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks. Totally forgot about substance abuse.

[–]RPFlame 4 points5 points  (2 children)

Recommend Youtube: The Philosophy of Rick and Morty

I have to disagree with Rick and Morty's viewpoint on existentialism and Nihilism. Especially the latter, where everyone interprets Nietzsche as if he was pushing Nihilism as the end of all. Nihilism was the means towards a better end. Like grabbing a rubber and erasing everything that sucks. Rick and Morty is based on a half-assed high-schooler's understanding of what existentialism and nihilism are.

Also, existentialists tend to be very dutiful people. Morty's quote "life is meaningless bla bla can I watch TV" is beyond retarded. Our actions still matter now not just for ourselves but also for our family, friends, business. It sounds similar to those who think they can take a shit down to traditional values and build from nothing. There's no way you can build anything without foundations, for starters. We don't get the choose the moments when what we do matters and when what we do doesn't, that's hamstering.

I'd suggest people who are interested in learning more to read multiple existentialists, instead of taking my point of view or even a TV show's point of view at face value, and form their own opinion.

[–]Aywing 4 points5 points  (1 child)

INTP as well, thanks for the post, easy to come back to.

[–][deleted] 4 points5 points  (1 child)

A few points since I finally took the time to read all of this.

Learn to manage your money. KILL AND AVOID DEBT ASAP. Either be responsible with credit cards or don't get one at all. (I finally cancel my credit card after running it up to the max way too many times. Nearly spent all my savings.)

Debt is something you take on that you can't afford. Loans are something you can.

When you're signing up for a loan, it's an honesty check- you're either lying to the bank or yourself- about your ability to pay. Now, sometimes there is a perfectly good reason to take a loan over paying in full- having your money now is more important, even if it translates to paying more over the term of the loan- but in broad terms you should never sign up for a loan you couldn't pay down immediately.

Loans aren't bad. Liars are bad. No one likes a liar, and your credit score is a good indicator of how honest you are. And if your response is, "well I didn't know I'd lose my job in four months!" then you're just a delusional idiot who can't plan, which is arguably worse than a liar.

Learn to cook and clean.

There's a certain vanity to not wanting to cook, but being perfectly willing to throw money at whatever joint you buy something from. Whether it's a subway, pad thai, burritos, burgers, chicken, whatever, you can do it cheaper at home, and usually in roughly the same amount of time. No one's asking you to make crown rack of lamb or a baked Alaska or flambe, but you should be able to make something like pulled pork or a good seafood pasta. Fast food is what you eat when you're new in town or living out of a hotel and don't have much of a choice.

Plus being able to make a good home cooked meal is an excellent test for anyone you'd consider LTR material. A woman who's just prostituting herself to you in return for expensive meals out and nice things isn't going to have a lot of patience for thrift minded home cooked meals. Similarly, being able to cook is a sort of dog whistle for women who actually want someone who's a frugal, self sufficient adult. You're not a teenager anymore, stop living out of the freezer.

QUIT PORN and fapping. You are wasting your drive for fake pixels. Imagine what would happen when you harness all that energy into something productive. (This by far one of the hardest thing for me to achieve.)

Nofap is a bunch of nonsense, but it's perfectly necessary in a society where it's 'normal' to beat it once a day. Testimonials from people who'd have you believe they started shitting gold once they gave up the habit should really tell you something. Once a week would be on the extreme end- relative to a plausible goal that should be something like once every other week to once a month- but quitting these adult subjects is completely pointless if you're not willing to fill the gap with something else. Like any other addiction that lacks a chemical component- tobacco, heroin- if you don't have something else to fill the gap, you will absolutely fall right back into the addiction. It's not about quitting, it's about replacing bad habits with positive ones.

Some people work best with a cold turkey method, some people can control themselves. Do what works. The only person who's going to know if you fuck up is yourself, so you gotta ask if you can be honest with yourself. Remember what I said about lying? Lie to other people, you're a dishonest scumbag, lie to yourself and you're a delusional buffoon.

Shower every other day and within a 5 minute duration (within reason please). Showering everyday could also damage your skin.

No. This is stupid, especially if this leads to you working up a good sweat and then not washing it off. Plus some people really do just chronically sweat like a pig. You can shower as often as you want provided you're not nuking your body with hot water, scrubbing it down with aggressive, anti-bacterial soaps, and ruining your hair with shampoo before throwing some conditioner on it to recover some of the damage. More on that later.

Take cold showers. Another mental exercise over your fear. Observe the excuses your mind makes up, clear your mind, and then jump right in. (training this method everyday will make a good habit for doing cold approaches). Health benefits and save money too. Using too much hot water can dry and damage your skin and hair.

Hot showers have their uses, but if we think of showers like drugs, a hot shower is a relaxant, while a cold shower is a stimulant. You take a hot shower after a hard work out, or if it's a hot, humid summer night and you want to fall asleep, or if you have a sore muscle. If you get sinus induced migraines, the steam can also help with that. Hot showers can generally help with dealing with, say, a bad cold as well.

All other showers should be cold. Hot water damages your hair, causes you to sweat- this runs counter to the point of showering to clean yourself- and drives important oils from your skin, out to the surface. While all of this is minor in scale, if you're doing it every day, it will absolutely add up.

On the subject of BO

Since I've seen it discussed in the comments, I felt it necessary.

BO is caused by a broad variety of factors, including genetics, environment, dietary habits, hygienic habits, stress levels and things you probably don't think of, like remembering to dry off properly after showers.

The root of BO is caused by the fact that your skin will retain a lot of goodies some bacterial strains like to chow down on. If they have a wet surface, these bacteria will spawn like there's no tomorrow, making you stink. So the contest becomes an issue of how well you can stay dry. But some times of year you can't really help it, and other times you don't really think about how, say, a spicy meal can make you sweat. Or alcohol. Or how some components in foods- sulfur specifically, but red meat has also been associated with it to some degree- will actually sweat out of your body. If you ate a meal that was basically a plate of onions and garlic, people would be able to smell it, and it wouldn't just be your breath. This is also part of why obese people are said to smell like sausages.

Of course, chronic sweating- especially cold sweats- can be indicative of uncontrolled diabetes. It can be worth the effort to talk to a doctor about your sweating if it feels uncontrollable.

Increase your testosterone.

It's a hell of a lot more complicated than getting more zinc in your body. Vitamin D- dietary sources are as important as being in the sun; eat those eggs- has been found to have a direct correlation with testosterone production. Though it isn't known which is the critical component, high carb- by which I mean sugar, you're eating too much sugar- diets, and obesity have both found to have negative impacts on testosterone production. Fats- especially saturated fats- are also important. Your diet should include meats other than fish and chicken, and other sources like olive oil and avocado should not be ignored.

Getting enough veggies in your diet- particularly bad estrogen cleaning cruciferious veggies like your leafy greens, broccoli, cauliflower, radishes, kale, cabbage, spinach, and collard greens- is also important. Remember to lay off the booze. A drink here and there is fine but you're not just getting a beer gut when you hit the bottle.

Get RID of bluepill music.

Excluding a handful of AM stations, radio in general is cancerous. If it's not shitty pop music, phoned in, "I want my royalties check" songs, or dumb love songs it's masturbatory radio ads trying to get you to spend money on insurance to follow a Dream(TM). The good stuff isn't worth wading through an ocean of piss mist waiting for it to come on.

But I swear to god if I see you in a car with head phones on as the driver I will eat your limbs. The radio sucking is no excuse. Headphones do far more to block out external sound than your car's stereo system.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is what I want. To have people think about my post. To do research and decide for themselves. I said that these tools that help ME 'might' help you. It's up to you to find out for yourself. Thank you for your post.

[–]Turiluca 3 points4 points  (1 child)

As an INTP myself I find your post really enlightening. I have a thing or too to try and somethings I disagree that are deserving of some thought. Cheers mate

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks. It's always great to meet other INTPs. I hope you find your self experiments interesting. Cheers.

[–]JustTitDirt 4 points5 points  (2 children)

"Shower every other day."

Hah. Two questions for the guy who wrote that. Where do you live and what kind of office job do you have?

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (1 child)

I do realize that this method isn't meant for all. It's more of a suggestion for those who want to self-experiment who have similar background, generics, or work environment. They could had issues with their skin or hair and this could be their solution.

[–]TomFoo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If I was you, I wouldnt post this. Asian American stationed in ROK at a certain base. Not too hard to id.

[–]vsimak 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Take an ayahuasca journey. Go to a Vipassana retreat.

Break into the silence.

[–][deleted] 5 points6 points  (1 child)

Mr.Simple333, now this guy knows his shit. This is the best post I have seen on here in a while. Basically a self-improvement primer. I applaud you MrSimple333, my brother from another mother.

[–][deleted] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you. It took a lot work and time to get this far and I hoped to repay back to community as much as I can. We are all brothers in arms.

[–]aewiggin 2 points3 points  (3 children)

Agree with everything except shower frequency and deodorant use.

[–]truekejsi 1 point2 points  (2 children)

and maybe...shaving my legs? srsly wtf

[–]orangepolenta 1 point2 points  (0 children)

no. Just no. Thin out? fine. Clean shave legs? wtf is happening to us?!

[–]serious_bs 2 points3 points  (2 children)

Logged in to say that sleeping on a hard surface is bad for your back. Buy a decent pocket spring mattress with a box spring or decent water bed. Go lie in a bed, check your body (or have it checked) before you buy it.

Source: I have a bad back since 10 years, have spoken to dozens of specialists and physical therapists, MRI scan, ...

[–][deleted] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I actually get back pain when I sleep on a mattress or couch. Self-experiments. Took about a week or 2 to adjust.

[–]Theotropho 2 points3 points  (1 child)

pretty good. Needs more meditation.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks. I had add which methods of mediation has work for me.

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (1 child)

limit caffeine intake. Makes me anxious and uncomfortable alot of times in social situations

[–]Starshitlord 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Finally someone else who promotes the cold shower, best feeling ever, especially after a gym workout. Winter or summer cold is your friend.

[–]ModeratorPaperStreetVilla 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Well, if this isn't the building of a self aware man who owns his shit.

This one will go far

[–]Forcetobereckonedwit 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Great basics. Thanks for your efforts.

[–]zetayshow 1 point2 points  (1 child)

This should go to the sidebar. Great post op.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks. That would be a great honor.

[–]sharpie711 1 point2 points  (1 child)

[–]cwilson830 1 point2 points  (1 child)

Limit your social media accounts and usage. Recommend Methods: Online "dating" is only for top 10%, attention whores, and thirsty betas. You have a better chance in public. If you have a Facebook, limit your friends to under 100 and set it to private. (I got mine to less than 50 after I deleted people I don't know, never talk to, and toxic ones.) Don't be connected 24/7. Disable notifications off your apps. Reeks desperation.

Good post, but I don't agree with part of this.

I do agree that in person > online dating, but I don't agree with cutting out all online. Sure, if you're in the top 10%, you'll clean up, but I've seen plenty of regular guys do just fine with minimal effort.

Also, online dating and general social media should be two separate things. Definitely limit SM usage, set accounts to private, and disable notifications. And I don't get the point of the 100 limitation. If you do the first three things, this isn't necessary.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For online dating, I seen awesome guys get nothing. It's more a personal experience kind of thing, sexual market value, and location, location, location.

For social media, Dunbar's number is a suggested cognitive limit to the number of people with whom one can maintain stable social relationships. These are relationships in which an individual knows who each person is and how each person relates to every other person. 150 is the limit. To make your Facebook personal and not have strangers snoop, you should only include people who you care for. If you want a massive follower count, create a Facebook page. The majority of the population tends to friend request everything they touch.

[–]PranksterLad 1 point2 points  (1 child)

Saved. Downloaded f.flux too for my mac. Legend. Any other cool apps or things, I love little things like this

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks. I'll go through my phone and start listing apps that I have found useful.

[–]saiyanmentality 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Saved, one of the more useful posts since the last few days

[–]ArtistBlock 1 point2 points  (1 child)

Good post, do you have a before and after pictures? No offense, all these points are great but anyone can theorize and put together a list. Any videos of you learning dancing? Whats your profession? Do you have any proof that this works or is it YMMV? I'm not hating at all but I've seen self improvement list like these on this subreddit. What's your ethos? Your word?

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I wasn't exactly taking pictures of myself through out my journey. I do have a Facebook where I see my past self to today. However, Reddit is meant to be anonymous. Have dance in airports before and seen people take videos of me. Profession is military.

This is definitely YMMV. Life is YMMV. I'm not the overall benchmark of achievements for men. There are those who accomplish more than me and those who accomplish less. It's always all about self-experimentation. Parents raise children hoping they would not go through the challenges they went though. Parents want their kids to have an 'easy' life. But humans have painstakingly go through the same motion and challenges over and over. You have to learn for yourself. Experience it for yourself.

My ethos/words? I would say it took me nearly three years to create this post. There are tears, pain, soul searching, losses, gains, and wins behind these words. I can't walk to path for you. I can only show it and give you tools that I think would help. There are no guarantees in life. There is only how much you put in and how efficiently your efforts are.

[–]GentlemanGengar1 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is a gorgeous post, good job my man.

[–]Warrior_For_Hire 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Best fucking post on the red pill. Much appreciated.

[–]orangepolenta 1 point2 points  (2 children)

Incredible post. Thanks. Saved.

Dont touch the eyebrows unless your rockin the unibrow. My experience with woman is the shit guys get for pluckin brows is serious. Theyll know if you do, nothing wussier. Be proud.

2c

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (1 child)

I don't know how anyone can rock the unibrow. lol It took me several trial and errors to learn how to pluck and trim the eyebrows. Just don't get them wax. Go for the natural look. Alpha M. on Youtube shows how you can do it.

[–]PM_Your_8008s 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You said you couldn't sit and think of nothing without falling asleep, but I'd highly highly recommend trying that kind of meditation. With even just 20 minutes a day it's pretty helpful in cutting through the bullshit running through your head and helps so you 'respond' to a situation rather than 'react', which is huge for me because I have a real temper and some of the shit girls say and do can really bother me, but not so much anymore. It helps keep that amusing, light attitude towards stuff, so you can shrug it off easier.

Anyway that was my little bit on meditating, rest of the post was great and I saved it in case I want another read through now and again. I appreciate it

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (1 child)

Hello, I am a Asian American, male,

So you're good at math and have a small pecker?

I kid, I kid!

[–]JesusTheCridge 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I know I'm reading an old post but you have some great advice and general reminders that I can always improve my life. Thank you man

[–]sjkevinlee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel bad about myself for not taking proper care. Thank you OP, for sharing your wisdom

[–]TryHardDaily 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I disagree with the get more sleep part somewhat. Sleep is definitely important but sleeping in 90 minute intervals is almost more important than just sleeping a lot. I work two jobs atm, one is 40 hours/week and 1 is just a side job that I do online for a little extra cash, and I time my sleep based on when I go to bed, either I get 7.5 hours or 6.

[–]FireFoxImr 1 point2 points  (1 child)

This is an amazing post, you have my respect for that.

[–]drew967 0 points1 point  (9 children)

OP im also Asian and lifting. Like you I also started off very skinny, but how long did it take you to reach 160?? Currently at 151-152lbs from a year and a half of lifting.

Were you just on a constant bulk like me?? Or did you have periods of cutting?

[–][deleted] 3 points4 points  (5 children)

Well I started this year since the middle of March so about 3 months. I was at 145 lb and I was almost skinnyfat. What my coworker/personal trainer, got me doing was:

  • eat 3 large meals a day (Used to intermediate fast.)

  • a protein shake with creatine before a work out and a protein shake after the workout.

  • A protein shake first thing in the morning, and protein shake before I go to bed. (Our metabolism are ridiculous)

  • Everyday workout a muscle group. Chest/Abs, Back/Running, Shoulder/Arm/Abs, Legs. You 'rest' when you don't workout one muscle group but work on another. So technically, one muscle group 'rest' for 3 days until the next rotation. Took me awhile to made a habit of working out everyday but it just setting aside 1 hour a day for it.

  • Lift heavy. Do 6 reps of 3-4 sets. Always increase weight if too easy. You should be struggling to muscle failure. Keep perfect form though. Don't jerk or heave. Always stay solid and straight.

  • So basically eat a ton and lift heavy. You have to EAT AND EAT.

[–]drew967 1 point2 points  (3 children)

Well thats kinda what ive been doing, my main 3 meals and 2 or 3 smaller meals of actual food not just snacking. But seriously 2 protein shakes a day. where do you buy protein for so cheap.

Ill def give creatine a try i heard it works but for rn i need to finish off the rest of the BCAA's my other friend once recommended me.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

www.bodybuilding.com. Don't buy from stores. They jack up the price. Also you need good protein formulas and creatine. Some products are made from shit. Protein shake I use is Pro JYM (4lb 55$) and creatine is RSP nutrition Creatine Monohydrate (16.99)

[–]Lightning14 1 point2 points  (1 child)

I recommend myprotein.com. They frequently have deals that bring their 8.8lb bag of unflavored whey isolate down to ~$60.

[–]kenstripe 0 points1 point  (2 children)

Hey there, chiming in, also Asian and also 5'6". Eat like it's your last meal 3 to 5 times a day. Go with an easy to prepare meal with high protein and moderate fats/carbs. If you're the type that hates eating the samething over and over again, then it means you don't want this enough. Lift heavy and do it often, always with good form mind you. You'll make it, from my experience at least. I'm a personal trainer, with a few wins in powerlifting and going on to bodybuilding.

[–]drew967 1 point2 points  (1 child)

Nah ive been on a Frozen chicken from costco and Peanut Butter Sandwich diet for the longest time. I throw in vegetables and fruit whenever i can tho.

Oh and rice, cant forget rice xD

[–]Endorsed ContributorMetalgear222 0 points1 point  (0 children)

this right here. Been on brown rice and quinoa and chicken breast and a protein shake with whole milk and peanut butter for months. Costco FKN wins.

Went from 130-160 in less than 9 months and still 10% body fat. I train 6 times a week hard tho

[–]mikeylongshanks 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Awesome write up. Two men that went unmentioned (and deserve an honorable mention) are Chad Howse and Brett McKay.

Chad Howse usually posts motivational videos specifically for men and Brett McKay's (Art of Manliness) blog covers everything in this post from being frugal to how to boost testosterone to how to dress.

[–]PantyLiquidation 1 points1 points [recovered]

OP - I was thinking about getting a vasectomy, but I've heard a couple of horror stories about how some guys have excruciating pain down there for years after the procedure. Do you regret anything about getting a vasectomy? Is there any pain or discomfort that you feel? How much did the procedure cost?

[–][deleted] 5 points6 points  (1 child)

Well those are just horror stories. It's weird, I just to fantasy (obsess) over girls before but I never picture having kids with them. I don't regret anything. If I ever feel like having kids, I'll just go be an uncle to my nieces and nephews. That way I can give them back when I had 'satsified' my paternal instincts. I went under during the procedure. (They gave me a choice) Only took them 30 mins. There was pain for 3 days but you get pills for that. A bit of bleeding for 2 weeks and then you can go lift. The stitchs were biodegradable and I can't see any scars. I got mine for free from the military. It was a little difficult to convince the doctor at first but I presented a small binder of my reasons why, other testimonials, and answers to questions I know the doctor would ask. He said I knew what I was doing and display alot of personal responsibility on my part.

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[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks. It took me three years to get here. You can't become redpill overnight. It's not how life works. Change take time. A lot of time.

[–]Kingofmyworld909 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sleep naked and also on hard surface, help with back pain and better posture.

Deadlifting and rowing (with proper form), and other accessory movements focusing on back, will also help reduce or eliminate back pain.

When I was a 250 pound fat fuck and even when I was lighter but hadn't started lifting, my lack of back muscles (and strength of my back) was horrendous and I would always tweak my neck and back and also accumulate more pinched nerves than necessary.

[–]A_Crabby_Patty 0 points1 point  (1 child)

Canceling your credit card because you max them out is stupid, just spend less.

Credit cards offer you anywhere from $0.01- $0.05 per dollar of spending. It's literally free money.

Credit cards also offer you protection against theft. Lose your debit card and the thief spends your money? Shit out of luck.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (4 children)

I heard creatine converts test into DHT speeding up male pattern baldness. Anyone know if this is true or not?

[–]Glassland 1 point2 points  (1 child)

Yes, that's true. But only if you have the genetic disposition to have male pattern baldness in the first place.

I don't have it for example. My father has full hair and so do I. I take creatine every day and my hair remains the same.

You will have to watch your hair if you don't already do that.

There is also to say that DHT is a much more useful and stronger variant of testosterone. More DHT is usually better.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've used it for a year before and I haven't seen any noticeable change before but that was before I seen the study about male pattern baldness. I'm going to start taking it again and if I notice anything than I'll just stop.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (1 child)

I'm pretty sure lot us don't have degree in human biology. You should try asking your doctor or certified physical trainer.

[–]Churoflip 0 points1 point  (1 child)

Not all drugs are bad, some can help some can break you. Rejecting them all is not wise in my opinion

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree with your opinion. I am curious of some drugs that have been listed as 'soft' and even medically benefit people's sickness. But my career field doesn't allow it and I need my source of income. It's just a rule I have to abide by until I can find another career field with more 'relax' rules.

[–]WolfofAnarchy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't agree with the insignificance but great post!

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (1 child)

Hydrate motherfucker. Love it.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was hoping someone got the quote. XD

[–]skuuurtt 0 points1 point  (1 child)

Why do you think that the "tabula rasa" is a valid theory?

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wouldn't call it a 'valid' theory. I'm still mulling over it, leaning toward one side. I just use aspect of the theory to conduct my self-experiments. It is the basis for my foundation of teaching. I guess that everything has beginning. It's a great tool to use for estimation of the ideal 'pureness'. DNA and society upbringing does have an impact of one's self though.

[–]David_029_Tredecies 0 points1 point  (2 children)

"PUA is basically bluepill mindset"

Why is PUA and effective on meeting women considered a bluepill? Is it because of routines or even some NLP stuffs? That reminds me...some of my friend while chatting about Mystery. I thought Mystery is awared in his social situation after he got master the art of meeting women and his alphaness after he has slumbered from his introvert state. The last issue I recalled is Mystery having a custody issues with his daughter Dakota while his wife Amanda (I think) took away his two beloved children.

[–]IronManAlan 0 points1 point  (2 children)

Great submission OP, much appreciated. I'm glad you touched on personality type, turns out I'm an INTJ (3-4% of the population) Just reading up on this has given me a better understanding of "The way I think and how I perceive the outside world"

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are welcome. It's a major aspect of one's mindset. You have to know yourself first before you can change anything. Socrates says that people make themselves appear ridiculous when they are trying to know obscure things before they know themselves. Plato also alluded to the fact that understanding 'thyself,' would have a greater yielded factor of understanding the nature of a human being.

[–]eatgodseeacid 0 points1 point  (3 children)

Near choked on my coffee when i read 30 minute commute per day.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (1 child)

You should see the 'Morning commute' traffic in Los Angles. I don't know how can people live like that.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I included both forward to and back from work.

[–]net_ripper 0 points1 point  (4 children)

How did Dragonball Z inspire Image training? I'm very curious

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (3 children)

There was scene where Gohan and Krillin are onboard the Namekian spacecraft on their to Namek with Bulma. The craft had very small space so they couldn't do any physical combat training without damaging the ship. What they did instead was the 'telepathic' training against each other.

[–]net_ripper 0 points1 point  (2 children)

Interesting how you took that scene which might appear completely useless to most, and learned something from it. Thanks for the advice man.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks. It's the same technique Olympic athletes uses. Visualization.

[–]gsmate 1 points1 points [recovered]

where can I get the 48 laws of power blinknotes

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I apologized. It doesn't look like the book is no longer available on Amazon Kindle. I would try several samples of other summary books of the 48 Laws of Power.

[–]the1mancircus 0 points1 point  (1 child)

If I may make an addition you cats may find to be of value. Wim Hof, "the iceman". He, on the Tim Ferris podcast, episode 102, expounds upon what he and his team of research scientists, take to be a potential cure from things spanning depression and disease. All things that inhibit us from living life maximally. He's also on the Joe Rogan show along with, I'm guessing, a whole host of other interviews.

A teaser of whats on the podcast:

Methodological breathing is hugely important. Combining that with other activities, e.g. cold showers etc., combine to recalibrate the regions of the brain surrounding the brain stem, in such a way that ailments like depression more or less can disappear, along with restoring pH levels to where they ought be, etc.

Give it a listen. I think you guys will dig it.

Episode 102 of the Tim Ferris show.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

lol it's funny. I was looking through my Amazon Kindle app and found out I had already download his book. I'll start reading it today.

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