Today is my 2nd cake day. I didn't notice until I logged in and posted for the first time in a few months. I looked back on my posts and realized how far I've come and thought I should share with you all.
There is a lot of misinformation on this sub. A lot of (justifiable) anger. Our generation truly got fucked in the male-female relations aspect of life. I think that anger has clouded reality to a point where many people think that becoming an emotionless robot working towards perfection is the way to remedy their problems. I am here to say that is not the case.
Here are the things I have found to be truly the most important things to take away from this sub...
Lift. Just do it. Stop making excuses. If you need to gain weight eat more, if you're fat eat less. This is the easiest part to understand. If you take nothing else from this place, at least lift.
Better yourself. Realize that you have fundamental problems if you have ended up here and that the way to fix those is to take a step back and realistically analyze where you struggle socially. The game is not over when you get your first one night stand, first HB7, first whatever. It is a continuous process, and the sooner you lose your ego the faster you will progress.
Respect your bros. When I first got here I thought "holding frame" at all times meant never being willing to apologize or back down from a petty argument. Those are easy ways to piss guys off and they make you less fun to be around. Focus on finding common ground rather than defending your differences. Bros are key to a happy life and all the things that come with it so do not risk losing them because you are unwilling to accept differences and move on.
Focus on building genuine relationships. It is possible to be a nice, happy person who is also willing to set boundaries and follow your own ambitions. The guys who I've met who have been most successful with women have been legitimately good people who were able to tease/flirt girls in a lighthearted manner and were not afraid to escalate. You do not need to and should not strive to be a prick to be "redpill".
The Do Nots:
Do not listen to the bullshit on here about texting. That was one of my biggest issues with this sub, the advice about text interactions was so bad it will consistently lose you girls. 1-2 word texts about logistics when you've first met a girl will never work. It's just bad game. Don't blabber on with mindless conversations but be fun, make a joke about a shared experience, do something to continue building rapport while working towards the goal of another shared experience.
Do not be a dick for the sake of being a dick. Teasing girls should be light-hearted and fun. If you actually offend them you are not gonna get laid. You are not gonna hang out with them again and have a chance to meet their friends. I think most guys on here err on the side of too offensive after realizing they've been a "nice guy" their whole life, but going straight for the jugular is a surefire way to lose girls and cause problems.
Do not be too quick on the trigger finger. Much of the advice on here says things like "if she doesn't respond once it's a hard next bro". This is crazy. The most successful men I've seen have also been some of the most persistent. So a chick blew them off and went out with her friends for a night. No big deal, she might want to come out next time. A chick pulled away when you went in for the kiss too early. Whatever. If she stays with you and doesn't seem creeped out she will probably soften up to the next try in 10 minutes.
Of course, don't go crazy here. If it's a consistent pattern of ignoring you or shooting you down the effort is better placed elsewhere, but don't get discouraged if things don't go 100% your way 100% of the time. Girls are people with lives too (sometimes).
Anyways, that's all I have for now. It's gotten late. I know some of this differs from the classic "stoic, emotionless, alpha male" picture that's painted here all the time but it's what I've experienced as the truth.