Blue Pill ExampleBride gets caught kissing another guy at her hen party... dumb cuck forgives her, marriage still on (self.TheRedPill)

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If this isn't a classic Blue Pill example, I don't know what is.

So Emma and her five friends head out "to celebrate her last few days of 'freedom' as a single woman." While out and about, she ends up making out with a random guy multiple times. Video and pictures start circulating on social media (the special snowflake even gets her own hashtag #LadyCoralina), and it ends up getting back to her fiance. He immediately calls off the wedding, as he should have.

Fast forward a few weeks:

Her boyfriend confirmed the decision to local media, saying that the couple just want to put the incident behind them and get on with their wedding and married life together.

Holy. Shit. This guy, along with his family and friends, sees all of the evidence and STILL wants to wife her up. I don't know what she said or did upon returning home, but she's got this guy cucked. Pretty sure we all know how this one will end up.


  • NEVER reward bad behavior, it'll only enforce the idea that she can get away with more in the future
  • Set boundaries and don't let them be crossed
  • If you see red flags, ESPECIALLY IN THE FORM OF PICTURES AND VIDEO, abandon ship
  • Don't wife up a slut

[–]Usecod 173 points174 points  (13 children)

She will cheat in the next 6 months.Bet on it.

[–]Lvl10Bard 123 points124 points  (6 children)

I'll see your six and raise you three.

[–]therealpkg 103 points104 points  (2 children)

My stack says it's already happened.

[–][deleted] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Well it did... at the bachewhorette party.

[–]RPmatrix 7 points8 points  (0 children)

definitely, But we're betting on guys #'s 3-8 post wedding

(her wedding day "thringles" (thrill tingles, like she gets from being on the back of your bike) will have her fuckin the chauffeur or someone handy)

[–]RPmatrix 4 points5 points  (1 child)

I'll see your nine and fold ... I bet 6 weeks

[–]prodigy2throw 3 points4 points  (0 children)

She's cheating on him right now.

[–]Senior Endorsed Contributormax_peenor 37 points38 points  (1 child)

She has already been told she can get away with it.

[–]omega_dawg93 353 points354 points  (86 children)


my fraternity brother is a male stripper & performs at bachelorette parties all the time.

in short, MOST of the women there taste his cock...with the bride or bride's maid given the honor of finishing him. seriously.

most guys have no idea how nasty women get at these parties.

[–]Chippendork 87 points88 points  (15 children)

I was a stripper for about 6 years starting from the bottom to the top. This only happened when I was starting out as a party stripper in poor neighborhoods. Sounds fun until a dude shows up with a gun yelling in Spanish.

As a side note, don't think being 'alpha' will save you. These girls will cuckold the most alpha guy they can. If her boyfriend is a gang leader, she'll definitely suck your dick and let you bang her raw. If her boyfriend is a grad student, she wants to move in with you.

[–]2Overkillengine 75 points76 points  (10 children)

As a side note, don't think being 'alpha' will save you.

It is a form of Ego defense that is regrettably persistent even in this community. It is tempting to regard 'alpha' as a binary finish line one can cross and be done with the race.

The worst of lies are the ones that a person tells to themselves. The race never ends.

[–]mitzibishi 46 points47 points  (8 children)

If you are an alpha with a great body she will fuck some shmo with a beer gut. If you are a millionaire she will fuck a tramp. If you are the perfect husband in every way and she couldn't be happier she will fuck a total douche bag. If you are total douche bag she will friend zone some poor sap at work to be a shoulder to cry on but never give him any of that pussy he yearns for.

[–][deleted] 18 points19 points  (3 children)

This . Was married for 15 years, together for 20 all together. By just about every measure you have heard mentioned here, I was about as good a man as I could be. She wound up screwing up (I will never share that story publicly), and ultimately her issue was not that I was "not enough" it was that I was "too much".

When you are athletic, smart,and earn good money - she may just get tire of that and start pining for some hairy smelly musician dude for ...reasons.

[–]Wilreadit 6 points7 points  (2 children)

It is just the human craving for variation. Like we do not eat the same food right, even if it is the most balanced food with all nutrients and manna.

Same with women.

Moral: AWALT, do not ever wife her.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (1 child)

In other words, don't be boring and some mad ho will fuck you even if you don't do any other game.

[–][deleted] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Sounds hilarious and terrifying

[–]1Soarinc 3 points4 points  (2 children)

Wait, that bridesmaid (or bride) can catch an STD like that and open up a shit-storm for the new married couple right?

[–]Chippendork 1 point2 points  (1 child)

Dude, this type of girl is fucking insane. I'm pretty sure they do this shit just to cause drama.

So, obvious question: did I ever? Yes, once and I fucking paid for it. Aside from fearing for my life for months, I caught the drip and despite it being 'easily curable', my balls still ache constantly almost 15 years later. Could have been a lot fucking worse. I spent the remainder of my 'career' not fucking anybody. Not worth it. Not one bit. The girls don't give a fuck about you, and you are way too easy for some pissed-off dude to track down.

[–]1Soarinc 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Hey! This is the first time I've ever heard this -- I never knew some STD's cause long term ache & pain even after the initial symptoms are treated. Thanks for sharing this I never knew.

[–][deleted] 137 points138 points  (18 children)

I have read plenty of stories and what you said has been confirmed by the numerous stories. The funny thing is the stripper doesn't even ask for it. The women literally just go for it. If I was to ever want to get married, which I don't, I would run for the hills if she wants a bachelorette party with strippers.

[–]103342 75 points76 points  (17 children)

I'm not really a fan of Stephan Molyneux, but liste to him having Conversation with a male stripper.

[–][deleted] 44 points45 points  (11 children)

I've seen this video before. It's really eye opening to how much women cheat right before weddings.

[–]RancidTurnip 133 points134 points  (9 children)

You should see how many women cheat after weddings, it will blow your mind.

[–]RIPelliott 38 points39 points  (7 children)

When I think about the fact that of my close group of seven, three of our Moms were caught cheating on our Dads. Zero the other way around. And these were the three that were caught - imagine who gets away with it.

[–]RancidTurnip 17 points18 points  (5 children)

Three out of seven sounds pretty likely. In an anonymous poll by Yougov, 19% of women admitted to cheating on their spouse, and 7% declined to answer. Key word being admitted. Of those 19%, 36% admitted to multiple affairs.

Who knows what the numbers would be if women as a whole were even remotely honest with themselves and other people. ("Teehee, it doesn't count if you're on vacation!") Some feminist based sources claim the number is as high as 40%, but they also say 60% of men cheat which is just silly.

[–]RedDeadCred 36 points37 points  (1 child)

60% of men can't get a girl.

[–]yomo86 5 points6 points  (2 children)

60 % of males would also cheat. But biology does not hard wire girls into "just having sex" they want alpha seed and commitment - so the opportunities just don't come up that easily.

[–]RancidTurnip 5 points6 points  (1 child)

True, I just have a hard time believing that 60% of men in relationships can find women to cheat with when taking into consideration that women view 80% of men as below average.

I guess there's something to be said for alcohol and no standards.

[–][deleted] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I read that it's enough that it is considered when doing genealogy studies. So they cheat enough that a nontrivial percentage of children are bastards.

[–]zulhadm 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We definitely don't do that 😂

[–]koolkat182 37 points38 points  (1 child)

A woman will not fuck her bitch.

That's a great piece of advice.

[–]Endorsed ContributorBluepillProfessor 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Or her little boy. Don't be a bitch or a little boy.

[–]meburpme 11 points12 points  (1 child)

Just watched the video and I don't think he was a great mediator... At times he was all over the place, and he could have made it less about himself and more about the male dancer. The host could have asked better questions and try to understand the dancer, and consequently help him understand himself.

He was totally right that this dude in his 30s should've been financially stable by now and I liked that he encouraged him to save. Perhaps he could have encouraged him to go back to school and get a degree that'll help him be financially stable

Overall very enlightening video

[–]103342 8 points9 points  (0 children)

This is what I don't like about molyneux also. Sometimes he just rants for too long about irrelevant and/or talks too much about stuff that are already understood.

But some of his talks are pretty good. I just don't really like the guy.

[–]GreatWhiteCuck 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That is an excellent interview

[–][deleted] 15 points16 points  (1 child)

This pisses me off more than it should.

[–]omega_dawg93 26 points27 points  (0 children)

I can't tell you how to feel but it shouldn't piss you off at all. their behavior is totally natural & expected (by me).

when you get the "brainwashing" rinsed clean from your mind, you will understand that women are TOTALLY capable of giving in to their "let's just fuck" natural instinct.

I have 3 older sisters. I listened to their justifications to cheat on their bf's & hubbies b4 they even did it. they even helped each other cover their tracks. and then I would listen to them say, "oh, we had sex but it didn't count bc my heart wasn't in it."

what the fuck is, "didn't count" when cum is running down your legs? female logic.

[–]Senior Contributor: "The Court Jester"GayLubeOil 52 points53 points  (17 children)

I know a lot of these kind of dudes from my gym. This is true.

[–]knightSwolaire 10 points11 points  (13 children)

What's their gym routine? I wouldn't mind stripping but I'd need more shredded body

[–]RunnerFour 54 points55 points  (2 children)

Stripper bodies are made in the kitchen.

[–]tehftw 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Most likely the same as every other man. Free weights, heavy lifting etc.

[–]Chippendork 1 point2 points  (1 child)

A better answer:

My first show ever, I showed up ripped as hell and my costume was awesome and I could do all kinds of gymnastics shit like flips and handstands. I was a pretty good dancer at the clubs, but really my solo routine sucked, and I bombed like hell.

That was one of the worst experiences of my life. I really felt like I hit a new low as a failed male stripper. I worked on my routine for a whole year before going back to it.

Moral of the story:

Gym bodies don't mean shit unless you can dance like Channing Tatum for an hour straight, keeping it fresh with a different routine every 5 minutes. I've seen guys of all body types do really well if they can entertain. You can't just be ripped and pretty, although both help. You need to seem superhuman.

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[–][deleted] 9 points10 points  (2 children)

for reference, post some pics

[–]Endorsed ContributorBluepillProfessor 9 points10 points  (0 children)

They finish him off and then refuse to blow their husband after the honeymoon. I get it! I can name that song in 2 notes!

[–]SComm 48 points49 points  (4 children)

You don't even have to be a male stripper. I hang out at a club that always has bachelorette parties and I have gotten many a bathroom blowjob from a bride to be. They don't even see it as cheating.

[–]omega_dawg93 35 points36 points  (3 children)

out of pure curiosity... with the potential for extreme comedy, I'd LOVE LOVE LOVE to hear a woman rationalize how this is NOT cheating. lol.

that's "steroid & crack" fueled hamster action.

[–]Temperfuelmma 27 points28 points  (1 child)

Well, dicks are basically just a human body part, right? Like our hand or our finger, so sucking a dick is basically like sucking a finger and no sensible person would consider sucking a finger cheating. After all it is the act of penetrating that should be considered cheating, that is what causes women to be pregnant, right? How can you consider something cheating as long as you don't get pregnant?

There. That's the best I could do.

[–]rigbed 9 points10 points  (0 children)

They straight up say a blowjob isn't cheating, and even worse, it's not cheating if it's a bigger dick

[–]1Soarinc 4 points5 points  (0 children)

To the lurkers who may self-describe as gullible, how is this possible? Women at bachelorette parties are no better informed about the expectations than are guys on this forum.

How is it possible that bride's maid after bride's maid after bride's maid at multiple unrelated bachelorette parties somehow know the "rule" they are supposed to finish the guy off (or even the bride?)

Serious question -- if you said 20% of bachelorette parties were like that, at least my theory-crafting mind can create a plausible theory. However, you said MOST (unless I'm misinterpreting) of the women at all bachelorette taste the stripper's cock and usually the bride or bride's maid performing full oral on him?

Your post sounds 100% legit on my truth radar; so please interpret this as an honest question -- I'm genuinely curious!

[–]kinmeyy 8 points9 points  (12 children)

Wells am sure we get as nasty as fuck in our bachelor's party...

[–]omega_dawg93 26 points27 points  (11 children)

of course we do, but it's hard for some guys to think of their future wives, gf's, aunts, etc at a "girl" party catching nut from male strippers.

the "sugar & spice & everything nice" thing is ingrained in their brains & they can't visualize their woman getting down & dirty.

[–]blueiron0 24 points25 points  (8 children)

These girls do shit with the random stripper that their beta boy will spend years begging her to do in bed, but the girl will think he isnt worth that effort. She settled for him. Why should i have to put in extra effort to please him? He should be happy just to be able to have me in bed. Meanwhile, dirty dan was all up in that ass.

[–]kanyewost 6 points7 points  (0 children)

These girls do shit with the random stripper that their beta boy will spend years begging her to do in bed, but the girl will think he isnt worth that effort.

Thats THE thing that cracks me up the most

and should make any MAN take the Red Pill LOL

[–]Kenny_Twenty 14 points15 points  (6 children)

Used to fuck this girl. She had a fiancé. She was a dirty bitch and I could tell she wanted to eat my ass. One day I let her. It came up in text convo after the fact. Her fiancé discovered the text messages. After he forgave her, he conveyed his envy. Requested that she do to him what she did to me.

Too bad he never found out that she liked me to choke her, pull her hair, slap her, and spit in her mouth, too. He could've had that fun as well. She mentioned in a FB message recently (that became her new security measure after iMessage became compromised lol) that they just bought a house together. Well, he bought it, of course. She still wants me to come over and dominate her but I grew bored of her.

Honestly, I'm lucky that I have a really hard time connecting with women on a emotional level. Also, I don't really experience a sense of companionship from them. These things are virtues for me, as trying to internalize these them from a purely objective standpoint sounds like it would be extremely difficult.

EDIT - I reread this post and it makes me seem unrealistically... I don't know, stoic? I get emotional sometimes. I get jealous, my feelings get hurt, I have issues with ego. And despite what I said about not connecting well with women, there are exceptions. I've had my feelings hurt plenty of times. And in large part, that is how I've made the "progress" I've made. Being burned can make you callous if you process it that way.

[–]omega_dawg93 5 points6 points  (3 children)

damn. dude was clueless abt what that broad wanted...or worse, who she really was when he was not in her presence.

[–]Kenny_Twenty 7 points8 points  (2 children)

I'm not sure. I think it's the male version of hamstering. He doesn't want to accept reality.

And listen, I'm tall and kinda good looking, but I'm far from a chad. I'm also far from an alpha or an advanced TRP exponent. And I've fucked many taken women.

So to me, imagining what a real panty-dropper can do is jarring. In fact, I don't have to imagine. The most successful pussy hound I've ever met, I have no clue how he does it. He isn't especiwlly good looking or muscular. He doesn't have some kinda strategy (as far as I know), he's just a bartender. And women come in, sit at the bar, and fucking fall for him. Over and over. Literally more nights than not. You could take the most muscular, TRP internalized person on this board and let him take one of his plates into the bar. She'll be writing her phone number on the back of her credit card slip right behind Chad's back.

It's absolutely mind blowing. Whoever you are, there is someone out there who can take your girl from you. This is a reality that must be accepted.

EDIT - I want to make it clear that I'm nowhere near his level. Nowhere near. I only do ok.

[–]dvrzero 4 points5 points  (0 children)

abundance mentality. Thousands of women a year sit at his bar and it's lost its luster to him.

So they want to impress, i guess. This isn't a completely parallel analogy, but i hate meatloaf; everyone i tell this to says i need to try their meatloaf, it'll totally change my mind. Kinda the same thing.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (1 child)

I also don't sense any companionship from them. My relationships never last long because of this. Do you think we are psychopaths or something?

[–]Kenny_Twenty 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Fuck no. Psychopaths are generally not introspective. Nor would they even understand the idea of companionship - other than as some kind of abstraction. Furthermore, it would be no issue whatsoever. They would just fake whatever emotion necessary to get what they want out of the relationship.

They just literally don't think in those terms. They don't feel companionship from anyone because they literally don't have the capacity for it. Imagine an emotion that doesn't exist for humans, you cannot miss that. It's almost less than nothing to you. That is what companionship is for psychopaths.

[–]thewrightstuff88 15 points16 points  (1 child)

It also has to do with how men and women perceive mating. Men don't have to be "emotionally" invested in the sense that the stripper is "better" than his wife to be. Look at how women are perceived on military bases, 3s become 9s after long enough. We have the urge and get it over with after orgasm.

Women on the other hand are so fucked in the head that they can have consensual sex, and think that AFTER the task was said and done, they can consider it "rape" because they had buyers remorse or even one negative thought about the experience turned her off to it. To have sex, women must be "emotionally" invested, in the sense that she perceives the male she wants to fuck, as better than you. In this case, it's the stripper, a guy who is ripped with a 6 pack.

There's plenty of strip clubs where female strippers can range anywhere from 2/10s to 9.9/10s (in looks) but male strippers are almost always ripped.

A woman must "feel" that you are better than her. If she doesn't, then she knows that she can get away with a whole lot.

There's a saying, "Everything is about sex, but sex, is about power."

[–]omega_dawg93 1 point2 points  (0 children)


but the way I see it, women are human = animals just like us.

and when they are in their "pack mentality" mindset, i.e., girl's night out or bachelorette party, they relax their restrictions and react on physical instinct = "let's all be sluts." it's the physical representation of the group think mindset. no judgment allowed bc we are all being bad.

men are typically afraid of this PURELY PHYSICAL female "creature," and women are often ashamed or have buyer's remorse from this aspect of their nature.

[–]1KyfhoMyoba 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Male stripper AMA: "Every single bride to be touched and handled his junk. All but two blew him and he fucked all but four."

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (1 child)

I've seen a bunch of these vids on porn sites and you can so easily read the body language of every woman in the room... They're so hungry for cock. Kinda assumed these things didn't actually happen and they're just paid to be there though.

[–]Nudity_Is_Freedom 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Cmon now. Those are studio porn videos. You were right in that last sentence.

[–]goldnhorde 93 points94 points  (19 children)


This guy is ridiculous. The one thing we HAVE to do as guys. and I mean we HAVE to do it. But we have to break these chicks from this "sex and the city"/"tyler perry movie"/"Bridgette Jones"/"Pretty Woman" tunnel vision problem where they decide they want to live in a movie.

It makes women fall in love with "the idea" of things and not explore the reality and consequences of actions. they think everything will work out, they think someone will rush to catch them when they fall, they think that when something goes wrong, it was the guy and mr right is just over the next hill.

I hate this leap that women take and this guy just supported it. he gave her the happy ending to her wacky rom-com. so yeah, she'll do it again .... this time as more of a drama .... her married life so boring ... she runs into a stranger .... we've all seen "unfaithful" ... that will be this bitch. and I bet she even says lines from the movie.

NO!!!! Stop this cycle. when this happens to you .... split. if she comes crawling back, let her give you whatever you want and she is wiling to give. then AFTER ... say "that was great .... but I deserve to be treated at least as well as I treat you" and walk the hell out.


[–]Seoul_Brother 26 points27 points  (2 children)


Ex cheated on me and we were still living together. I wanted to keep the apartment as she was the one that cheated and she didn't want to live in the apartment anymore. As she looked for a new place to move, I woke up, read TRP religiously and played along with her weird fantasy of still seeing each other after she moved out and just nodded my head or said "we'll see." Still had sex, she asked me to be rougher with her in bed, but also asked to "make love." I saw a girl on the side (through Tinder) while this was happening and slept with her a a couple times, came home late.

Eventually she moved out and moved all her shit and after about two weeks I told her I didn't want to see her face again. Afterwards she promptly started seeing the guy she cheated on me with and even hamstered a crazy story about how I was abusive when I didn't lay a hand on her. Good luck to that guy lol. It'll only be a matter of time until she shows her crazy and this dude gets cucked.

Don't doubt that during this time she was probably still seeing the dude she cheated on me with simultaneously, but I was off sleeping with other girls and going on dates after work (Game theory: I would have been a fool to not be sleeping with other chicks during this time). Meanwhile ex finds out I did this to her and she bawls and cries and tells me I was being an awful person lol. The hamster is real as fuck.

[–]Yashugan00 2 points3 points  (1 child)

Her telling people that you were abusive is just pre emptive, make people not judge her like a slut for what she did

[–]Seoul_Brother 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Which I knew. Lol too bad her going public with that article just made everyone know for sure that she was a cheater.

[–]RPmatrix 19 points20 points  (2 children)

Spot on bro

It makes women fall in love with "the idea" of things and not explore the reality and consequences of actions.

AWALT ... that's why those types of movies have always been a success, becoz they teach young girls to " they think someone will rush to catch them when they fall, they think that when something goes wrong, it was the guy and mr right is just over the next hill."

which is just what the people who made them want!

sigh .....

"soap operas" didn't happen 'by accident' (in the 1940's!)

[–]Zahoo 7 points8 points  (0 children)

they think everything will work out, they think someone will rush to catch them when they fall, they think that when something goes wrong, it was the guy and mr right is just over the next hill.

I mean this is what happens though. They is usually someone willing to white knight who thinks they need to "take care" of a girl whenever she gets herself into trouble.

The movie Gone Girl did a good job of portraying this when the main female lead is in trouble and goes to the home of the guy who had a crush on her to seek refuge.

[–]redolas 11 points12 points  (10 children)

I mostly agree with you. I just want to add this: You can't change women. 2000 years of "civilization" is nothing compared to millions of years of evolution. Just accept them as they are and never marry. It doesn't matter what each of us do, their nature will not change. Even if the whole world turned muslim and covered women in burkas, they would still find ways to cheat.

[–]pjleo85 171 points172 points  (5 children)

I'd bet my next paycheck that they didn't only make out.

[–][deleted] 96 points97 points  (2 children)

On vacation in Mexico, drunk and obviously loose enough morally to make out with a stranger in public at your bachelorette? No chance they didn't fuck.

[–][deleted] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

And if it wasn't that guy for some reason, it was DEFINITELY someone else.

[–]Kenny_Twenty 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You don't know what you're talking about. You're even approaching the idea from an incorrect perspective. You're projecting male traits onto it.

Men generally will try to push any positive reception as far as possible, with the end goal being sex. This is because women are more selective than men, so we need to take advantage of opportunity more aggressively.

Women don't need to. They can get it wherever they want. Is it likely that she cheats before and after? Yes. But women are free to have super casual dalliances, ranging to various extremity.

And with women possessing inherently Machiavellian characteristics, it's unlikely she'd sacrifice her status for something as low a value as sex.

[–]makeitproductive 65 points66 points  (0 children)

Here's the sad part, even it was just a mistake as all these cucks believe he's still fucked if he takes her back.

He has 2 choices either:

1) He dumps her, proves he has some semblance of self-respect. She will know she fucked up.

2) She takes her back, so even if she liked the guy she now sees he has no self-worth, and that the boundaries don't really exist. He's fucked, and she's fucked.

So she made the decision for him, there is nothing he can do now. It's over either way, most of these guys don't realize that.

No one, let alone a woman, can respect a man who doesn't respect himself. And there is no "love"/attraction without respect.

[–]aherne18 31 points32 points  (4 children)

She's pretty and looks quite pure. This is a good reminder for those waiting for Ms. Unicorn;)

[–]massivewang 51 points52 points  (17 children)

His problem is he probably succumbed to the pressure of his family/friends. His first response was right, but I'm assuming he didn't have anyone affirming his decision. In fact I bet everyone was telling him the opposite. So he succumbed to believing the lie.

His sense of self probably wasn't very strong to begin with either.

[–]Jaereth 37 points37 points [recovered]

I have a friend who got pressured into the "socially correct" marriage he didn't really want. Sucks to be him but myself and his brother both went to him and told him not to do it and he did anyway.

These people made their own bed. Whenever you see a woman controlling a man, odds are the man wasn't controlling his own life to begin with before the woman's influence.

How does the phrase go? "And nothing of any value was lost" ?

[–]massivewang 25 points26 points  (12 children)

People pleasing. Doing shit you don't want to do to make other people happy. It's a fucking miserable way to live. It's how I lived my life up until 27. I miraculously swallowed the pill and started to move forward. It's some empowering life changing shit when you realize you can say no and choose to do whatever the fuck you want.

No Mr Nice Guy changed my life, best book I ever read.

[–]supremelummox 3 points4 points  (5 children)

I'm where you were. I've read the book. I'm trying. Not working..

[–]massivewang 9 points10 points  (4 children)

Takes time buddy, years. One step at a time.

I remember I went on a trip for work shortly after reading the book. I arrived in Brazil and at the client site around 1pm. The client asked me if I wanted to eat at the cafeteria, I did because I was starving. Nice guy me was saying "no he already ate you should start working and suck it up". But remembering what I read, I said yes. So we went to the cafeteria and chatted a bit while he watched me eat. I got to work on a full stomach and not be pissy about missing out on lunch.

I celebrated that moment, because that's how fucking remedial my emotional intelligence/boundaries/sense of self was. I was such a people pleaser, I actually took a step to do something practical for myself, and it wasn't an issue. Part of being a people pleaser is that you make decisions out of fear. You don't pursue what you want because you're afraid of how people are going to act. The biggest take away from that book was I needed to make decisions that were in my own best interest regardless of how people reacted. Most of the time, people don't give a shit and are cool to let you do your thing. But even when they're not, I realized that they can go fuck themselves because I don't need anything from them, and they are not sincere anyway most of the time.

Work on the little things, and celebrate the little steps. You'll fuck up here and there, but soon enough you'll start growing and building on your previous victories.

[–]Op2mus 5 points5 points [recovered]

The squeaky wheel gets the grease. If you don't stand up for yourself, nobody else will and people will walk all over you. That's something I realized after years of not standing up for myself, even when I was given the perfect opportunity to do so.

The irony is that 99℅ of the time if you are just honest, everything works out with zero conflict.

[–]massivewang 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yeah, part of the book talks about how people pleasers constantly make decisions out of fear of fucking up or making people mad. The reality is that most of the time:

  • nobody gives a shit
  • People are cool with you doing what you need to
  • Even if you make the bad decision, the consequences are nothing serious.

[–]menial_optimist 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Great progress, I'm in a similar situation.

[–]bigk12345 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am in the same boat as you.

Starting to say no/ yes to little things that you want is key.

This builds confidence. It takes time.

Just a simple fucking concept, yet took years to realize this.

You will also notice how some people will not like the new you. And that is totally fine.

[–]RPmatrix 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Whenever you see a woman controlling a man, odds are the man wasn't controlling his own life to begin with before the woman's influence.

well put bro, bears repeating

[–]RatsSewer 0 points1 point  (1 child)

Is he doing ok in the marriage? What reason did they have for them to say that?

[–]SouloftheVoid 47 points48 points  (2 children)

He will be raising another man's kids within a year or two.

[–]Your_Coke_Dealer 19 points20 points  (1 child)

And prepping the bull within 5

[–]menial_optimist 5 points6 points  (0 children)

And prepping the spare bedroom of his house he pays for for the bull to move in within 6

[–][deleted] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Fuck marriage, how can anyone sign a business contract with zero gains with a partner that literally broke the contract before signing it. Absolute retardation. I say let the gays marry each other.

[–][deleted] 39 points40 points  (9 children)

It's funny because the guy is actually decent looking and if he wasn't a freaking cuck, could dump her and find some good or decent looking chick to hook up with. Unfortunately, he is a cuck willing to marry a chick who made out with someone else and the best part is, it's on video for everyone to see.

Even before TRP, I wouldn't stay in a relationship with a woman who made out with some dude during it.

[–]RPmatrix 3 points4 points  (0 children)

whatever happened to that tv show 'Cheaters'?

[–]Op2mus 3 points3 points [recovered]

And don't forget, nothing ever goes away after it's on the internet. This will haunt him for the entirety of their marriage.

God forbid they have kids, eventually the kid will find out about it from a friend or overhear it from an argument. This guy is totally fucked.

Edit: forgot to add that everyone he and she knows will never forget about this. This thing is NEVER going away, he should me running for the hills.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (2 children)

Let's be real about this. In no time, his girlfriend is gonna be fucking dudes in front of him and is probably get pegged by her. He's a pussy.

[–]Op2mus 1 points1 points [recovered]

She will of course continue to cheat, no question about that. Whether he continues to willingly get cucked is up for debate. Sometimes that's what it takes for a man to swallow the red pill.

I would venture to say that most men are driven to TRP after being schlonged by an ex, can't blame them as they have been lied to all their lives about how women operate in the real world.

He is clearly off his rocker and delusional enough to think this situation won't be a recurring theme.

[–]1empatheticapathetic 0 points1 point  (0 children)

His initial instinct was correct. He'll get back there when the moment is right and he is cheated on again. This is just his journey.

[–]juliusstreicher 0 points1 point  (1 child)

One thing to note is that all of his coworkers and casual male acquaintances will be thinking "I can hit that, and bitch boy won't do a thing about it." Some McDonalds clerk can recognize them and know that the guy is a duck. He may even comment about it, and hit on the wife. What can the husband do at that time???

[–]RealMcGonzo 13 points14 points  (3 children)

Where are the groom's friends? His father? Hasn't RP made enough inroads that somebody could have clued this guy up?

[–]vagbutters 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Some overweight/scrawny BP's are beyond help-- it takes the harsh teachings of reality to wake some of them up, and even that may not be enough for the especially cucked. This is what a system of blue-pill brain washing does to a man. Makes him effeminate, weak, and easy to manipulate.

[–]offthebeatmeoff 29 points30 points  (4 children)

Stuff like this bothers me mainly because it isn't even just bluepill. It's just a total lack of common sense and respect. This guy lacks the common sense to just say "wow this behavior is present now, it will probably only get worse or it'll be a trend", and he lacks the self respect to cut ties with a woman who clearly lacks any respect for him. The video and pictures only add another level of social humiliation that would put any guy over the edge. The worst part is, that dumping her wouldn't even have any negative social repercussions on him. Most guys would agree with him and even most women would, obviously not the gf or her closest "friends" but still. He lacks common sense, self respect, and even basic judgement. He deserves her

[–][deleted] 9 points10 points  (1 child)

Exactly. Even before TRP and when I was more "blue", I knew that if if a girl cheated on me, whether just a kiss or full on sex, that you have to break up with her. The relationship is over and trust can never be rebuilt. Zero tolerance for cheating.

[–]norAsian 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This this this, zero tolerance

[–]Op2mus 1 points1 points [recovered]

You're 100℅ right here, but I'm gonna assume this guy is very co-dependant and obviously blue pilled. He has complete oneitis, and I'm guessing even though he knows deep down he shouldn't go forward with the marriage, he doesn't have the ability to hard next her.

It's easier for him to keep pretending he lives in a fairy tale land with his unicorn instead of accepting the fact his 'true love' is just a run of the mill cum guzzling whore.

[–]offthebeatmeoff 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ever since this election started, I started following Scott Adams and I began his persuasion reading list so let me give my hypothesis based on that. This guy decided to call it off with this girl completely after that and listened to his instincts/male friends or what have you. She came crawling back and hit his emotional buttons. This is what separates the men from the pussies, but he decided to give her a chance by rationalizing away her behavior or listening to what he wanted to hear from her. By making the decision to get back with her despite the evidence against her and the fact that she hasn't changed, his mind experiences some serious cognitive dissonance that leads him to actually being happier with her now than he was before. It's basically a sales technique where you pull out the rug. You make promises to lure the individual in and get them to make the decision. Now you pull out those promises you made, but they're committed to the decision and they rationalize it to themselves that they really genuinely like whatever piece of shit they're getting.

[–]voomer53 13 points14 points  (1 child)

His dilemma is AWALT..he's got to decide to drink or not to drink the marital Kool-Aid... then he'll have to decide if the cheating slut he's got now would eventually be better or worse than whatever cheating slut he could come up with later.

[–]blackormonkey 32 points33 points  (2 children)

I mean yeah the soon to be wife is a slut, big time. But fuck man, how much of a fucking doormat loser pussy do you have to be to to still want to marry that bitch?

[–]graffix13 12 points13 points  (1 child)

Exactly. This guy isn't even beta...he's more like an omega. Totally pathetic.

[–]RPmatrix 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Omega's rarely get wives ... not enough women come to their bedroom/mum's basement

This guy's sadly Blue Pill AF ... apt title

[–]RPmatrix 5 points6 points  (0 children)

bahahahaa ha! when will people start thinking for themselves, I wonder?

The guy what he knew was the right thing to do with "PrincessCoralina" BUT "expectant grandma's and grandpa's" (and other vested interests) talked this (and many other) guy out of it!

grow some Balls and live your life .... Not the Life "other's Tell you 'you should"

mother''s are great, but fuck me if most aren't still solopsistic women! The amount of people i meet living "the 'normal' Life I'm supposed to" (sheeple) who will "do what's expected of them (by who?) sadden me and always end up with many regrets

But the Black Sheep gets .... well, you know ... to be part of some of The Most Unique wool in the world

[–]powerwinch 4 points5 points  (1 child)

Stuff like this makes me want to stop reading trp, I would have been better off not having knowledge of these events

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Don't for your sake. Before shit like this would turn me off the truth but the bitter truth is better than the sweetest ignorance. Knowledge is power when you can use stuff like this to your advantage. Basically a real life presentation of these hoes ain't loyal.

[–][deleted] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Since this isn't a publication from the Sun maybe now people will understand shit isn't what it seems. AWALT is a simple concept for a reason.

[–][deleted] 3 points4 points  (4 children)

Don't wife up a slut

What if they're all sluts and you still want to settle down eventually?

Become a hermit? A monk? A priest?

[–]palaceposy6706 0 points1 point  (3 children)

Bro, don't get married. Just don't. The social and legal climate of today makes it an unwinnable game for a man. The safeguards that were in place to somewhat make it work have been struck down.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (2 children)

I know what you're saying is rational... but honestly I don't know if the loneliness is worse or the heartbreak. I've had both, I honestly can't tell.

[–]chances_are_ur_a_fag 0 points1 point  (0 children)

not getting married =/= loneliness. really?

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (3 children)

This was in Mexico?! A generation ago, the bride to be would have been offed and the guy who kissed her would have had his tongue cut out.

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[–]Kite23 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's a lot more conservative

[–]Ricardo2991 2 points3 points  (0 children)

One of the "friends" is her mom. Runs in the family.

[–]jason1009 2 points3 points  (2 children)

this guy officially deserves what is coming to him. ten years from now when he loses half his shit, half his retirement, is paying alimony/child support, and is living in a one bedroom apartment while she lives it up with his money while getting pounded by chads, he deserves it. every ounce of it. you could not have given him a brighter neon sign warning to not marry this girl.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yep. I feel bad for the guys who didn't know what their wives were doing behind their back and then found out AFTER marriage. This guy is literally given the biggest red flag, telling him to stop and break up before marriage and he's still gonna do it. What a bitch.

[–]Kidy88 4 points5 points  (7 children)

Both are lame but I get why he still wants to marry her (that blue pill mentality) but why girls in this situation still want to get married????

Maybe they lie to themselves like: it's not gonna happen again, I love him, he is the love of my life, I am not a cheater and bla, bla, bla but in the end they know is not true!! It's going to happen again.

[–][deleted] 24 points25 points  (1 child)

Girls in this situation want to marry to lock in resources. This pathetic beta is probably gonna get divorce raped, when she's "bored" and wants to seek out "excitement"

[–]MuhTriggersGuise 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Plus the vast majority of women want a wedding, especially when they're young enough to look good in a dress. It isn't just getting married, it's the wedding day. They love getting to spend a small fortune to play princess for a day. The icing on the cake is they get half their new husbands shit and a stipend for life.

[–]Endorsed ContributorInvalidity 11 points12 points  (2 children)

Because it's convenient, and he probably proposed to her.

You're asking why she doesn't behave rationally... are you forgetting that she is female? Now, not ALL women will behave like this, but most will. The only time those women won't behave like this is when they have a lot to lose (potentially high value partner or few to no options remaining).

[–]Lsegundo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't normally go for "you fucked it up for the rest of us men" This guy did. All the women seeing this story are going to think they can go get fucked on their bachelorette and get away with it too. Good thing us Reds are never getting married

What happens in the video is bad enough. We all know she got fucked at the end of the night except for the dopey blooper groom.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I wouldn't get too angry, I mean look at the guy, he's a stud, hopefully he 'fucked up' too

[–]Samwir87 1 point2 points  (0 children)

hm, surprised she didn't straight out fucked the guy. #spermwars

[–]zoot-suit 1 point2 points  (1 child)

He puts up with her shit because she is a hot piece of ass and maybe rich.

[–]GOATmar 1 point2 points  (0 children)

cuck. he probably loves it - smells like a hoax for quick fame.

[–]yomo86 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't mind having a hen party. But this situation is the most BP reaction I have ever witnessed. The call-off of the wedding is even socially accepted - bride-to-be is unfaithful shortly before the wedding. Fuck this world I even lost respect for most of the guys out there.

[–]drqxx 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My heart aches for this poor stupid man.

[–]JohnnySkidmarx 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The guy probably enjoys losing at sports as well. What a loser.

[–]Redasshole 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Dont wife up anyone.

Also, shitty post: no analize whatsoever, only drama. You dont know what she said to make him act like this? Fucking learn before posting.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Quite often on TRP I will see racial, ethnic and political flame wars. But one thing is certain, the Beta is the reason we are all here.

He has created the world in its current form and he is fully to blame.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Stag and hen parties are just about fucking around (usually a hooker in the guys case) before two plebs settle for each other.

It's common at hen parties that they fuck random guys.

British pleb life is truly miserable and disgusting.

Working some shit job, living in shitty housing, settling for someone both parties barely accept and getting drunk at the pub every day so you forget about your miserable life and randomly starting fights to let out your frustration.

[–]MigueDG 1 point2 points  (2 children)

No crei que llegaría a ver esto aquí!

When I saw all this Lady Coralina bullshit on facebook, RedPill instantly came to my mind. Some stupid feminist bitch linked an article on the incident from a feminist blog and when I read it I didn't even knew if I should laugh or cry because god damn it how can someone be so fucking crazy?

Basically this feminist "writer" circle jerks around the idea that women are not responsible for their acts because there is always something or someone else that should be held responsible; she writes in a sarcastic and ironic tone "a woman does not have a sexual slip because of alcohol, she is a slut" critizicing how people called this Coralina girl a slut.

Anyway... it's in spanish but if you guys want to read it here it is. It is pretty fucking stupid though.


[–]mpjr1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Jaja también me sorprendí al ver esta publicación relacionada a #LadyCoralina aquí.

[–]Endorsed ContributorBluepillProfessor 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Dead Bedroom in 4...3....2....1

[–]Vasallo7G 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I will block TRP for October CAN NOT HANDLE THE TRUTH

[–]_Trigglypuff_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

All I see in this is that hitting on married women is going to be far more rewarding in future.

[–]Faymozilla 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm disappointed with men nowadays where have all the good guys gone to? Seriously what's with all these beta cucks? I'm tired of seeing it.

[–]rossiFan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hope he has a prenup... if there's a such thing in Mexico.

Funny thing is that she's pretty cute, but she's kissing a fat fucker in a circle of fat fuckers.

[–]Putins_Masseuse 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is beyond red pill blue pill. The man is a fucking moron.

[–]menial_optimist 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She looks exactly like my younger friends older sister. Puts on an aura of "innocent pure woman" but I can't shake the feeling when ever shes around that its all a facade. She's getting married soon to a cuck who happens to be an engineer. Can't wait for their falling out.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lucky for the boyfriend that he will be protected from her infidelity and divorce rape by the strong vows of marriage.

Don't wife up any bitch ever

[–]1empatheticapathetic 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This thread depressed me more than TRP stuff usually does. I would have been so proud of him if he walked away but by actually deciding to walk and then changing his mind, he has totally fucked himself. Maybe because I have a huge scarcity mindset as well and wonder if that would ever be me and that you can never win.

[–]rocacu 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hope he discovers TRP before is too late...

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The mere fact that she even thought she had a leg to stand on in her own defense speaks multitudes about her, along with the fact that she still wanted the wedding to proceed despite her clear-cut case of infidelity.

They will try to defend even the indefensible, and they will always have a wide berth of women backing them up. The game is "push the envelope". How much can we get away with, if we have enough people screaming over it?

[–]Temperfuelmma 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Anybody else notice she's doing a fake smile the picture with her fiance?

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What a faggot. I bet even his dad is ashamed of him...or maybe he is actually gay and is just getting married for show.

[–]chances_are_ur_a_fag 0 points1 point  (0 children)

that's just what was caught on camera. all them pretty hoes going on a whoreliday together? right. cock bonanza went down and she's lucky the only things that leaked was the kiss.

[–]Totsean 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dumped girls for lesser things, he is an idiot for sticking around. YOU HAVE THE WHOLE FREAKING WORLD TO FIND GIRLS MAN. I moved out of my Country to another Country and now I am swimming in pussy. Seriously.

[–]TheRedStoic 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He doesn't want to wife her he just wants a wife.

If he wanted to wife her he either wouldn't have cared, or would've realized this isn't the girl he wanted to wife.

He's complacent to the dream, and because of his lack of abundance can't see the pit he's wallowing in.

I guarantee his sphincter clenched, he felt sick, and his first thoughts "how could this bitch do this" were immediately reinforced by "but there isn't anyone else".

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

she will cheat on him again. what a cuck

[–]gjs628 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would bet my house that she ended up fucking the guy she kissed and probably 6 other chads and "it doesn't count because it was before marriage".

[–]prodigy2throw 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lol the woman who cheated is a more red pill man than the guy could dream of. Gets caught cheating, suggests calling off the wedding, runs dread on the guy who forgives her.

Epic. Men, don't forget that TRP can work on you just as well as it works on these hoes

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