Married Red PillSwallowing the Red Pill (self.TheRedPill)

submitted by Dazza477

I've been with my wife (yes, I know) for a little over 5 and a half years and all has usually been well.

However, after stumbling upon this sub and reading through the materials, I knew that life had to change because fuck me, I was beta as fuck and I wasn't getting anywhere. Sex happened rarely and the only time it would happen is when it was initiated by me, and you guys know how it is, you can tell they didn't really want it. It was like masturbating with a pussy.

I was fat, constantly on my computer, whilst she ran the house and essentially made myself her 'child'. Fucking hell, it's pitiful to look back upon.

So I made a change a few months ago on my path to self improvement, and to stop being such a beta in life.

I joined the gym and didn't give a flying fuck what anyone else thought. All of my anger at myself I tunneled into lifting as much as I could and I felt like a man again.

I went out more, pursued a social life, and began speaking to people again. I naturally began to open up at work and now I speak to everyone that passes me, engaging in conversation and now people look up to me more.

I changed my diet and began to make more of my own food, and found myself a new passion for cooking. This alongside the gym made the weight just melt off.

It was a sudden change for my wife to see me doing more for myself, going out more and developing a sense of masculinity. I transitioned that life into my relationship and became a man.

As I was going through life on a journey of self improvement, the pedestal I placed her upon began to lower and I took control of everything. Finances, trips out, where we would eat etc. I never asked for permission to do anything, I just did it. It all came naturally to me.

It changed every dynamic of my life and my relationship. She just can't get enough of me and sex has gone through the roof. 8 times in just the last 5 days.

Swallowing the Red Pill requires a complete lifestyle change, but fuck me, it works like a charm.

Thank you to this community for helping people like me get to where we want to be in life. You're all doing God's work for men.

[–][deleted] 65 points66 points  (1 child)

Great post. Not many are able to pull themselves out of such a low place. I'm happy for you!

[–]Dazza477[S] 33 points34 points  (0 children)

I appreciate that!


[–]AHighFifth 123 points124 points  (3 children)

This is the most positive TRP post i've ever seen

[–]Dazza477[S] 40 points41 points  (2 children)

I'm glad I can spread the positivity and show the TRP can really work if you put your mind to it.

Others can do it too!

[–]koolkat182 6 points7 points  (1 child)

I think it's great you caught it before the ship sank. Most don't see it until they lose their special snowflake to a chad.

[–]Dazza477[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Precisely, I knew what I had was special, so I knew I had to hold onto it, but at the same time I was doing all of this to improve myself as a man.

[–][deleted] 60 points61 points  (2 children)

This sub gets a lot of irrational hate for being misogynistic. Let's take a moment to look at this same story from your wife's perspective. She was bored, married to a man she wasn't attracted to, probably daydreaming about a life she could have had, and dutifully putting out sex as rarely as she had to in order to not let her husband go nuts and embarrass her by getting caught with a prostitute. Her husband finds the red pill and swallows it. Now she's fulfilled, excited, and lusting after her husband. Who exactly is the victim here?

[–]Eyeswears 9 points10 points  (1 child)

All of the other unhappy wives and ex-girlfriends.

[–]NeoreactionSafe 192 points193 points  (94 children)


Proof that the universe follows Natural Laws. (Red Pill)

One of those laws is "gender" and that it has polarity.

As you became masculine in polarity it inspires a feminine polarity in her and now she feels attraction.

Win, win.


[–]1v1crown 188 points189 points  (12 children)

There are ~78 genders now bro learn the pronouns you bigot.

[–]NeoreactionSafe 42 points43 points  (10 children)

I know, how funny... I'm "oppressive" for speaking the truth.


Truth is Hate


[–]Endorsed ContributorJamesSkepp 21 points22 points  (9 children)

According to you:

Truth is Hate

Truth is eternal

Power comes by hiding the truth.

Truth is found by having to switch back and forth to the truth which is the Natural Laws.

The death of all Truth is when it is made literal.

The light of truth has a radiance

Truth isn't really hate

[–]icecow 8 points9 points  (1 child)

He wrote all of those things in the past??

[–]NeoreactionSafe 1 point2 points  (6 children)


Truth is found by having to switch back and forth to the truth which is the Natural Laws.


All high level knowledge is abstract.

We must have the mental flexibility to switch between multiple disciplines.

If you encounter a Buddhist you speak as a Buddhist.

If you encounter a Mathematician you speak as a Mathematician.

The Natural Laws are very vague and abstract concepts that have proven to be true for thousands of years.

One can ignore knowledge and choose ignorance, but it won't erase the fact these truths exist, but instead it just makes you blind to them.

Ignorance is bliss. (happiness)


[–]Endorsed ContributorJamesSkepp 0 points1 point  (5 children)

How do you speak when you encounter a Tinfoil-hat?

[–]NeoreactionSafe 1 point2 points  (4 children)

You might start by questioning your programming.

What triggers your rejection of the other person's ideas?

Are they being rejected because you are simply ignorant or because you already have deep knowledge of the subject?

If you lack knowledge how can you judge so quickly?

Ignorance is bliss... it's always the easier way than wisdom which requires your effort to know.

Being without knowledge and proud of being this way might soothe your emotions but it doesn't make you a man of any substance.

Rather than fearing knowledge you might considering finding the courage to learn and know.


[–]Endorsed ContributorJamesSkepp -1 points0 points  (3 children)

Your "enlightened abstract level thinking via the masculine polarity of universe" failed you this time, as this...

How do you speak when you encounter a Tinfoil-hat?

...was not an actual question.

[–]NeoreactionSafe 6 points7 points  (2 children)

No, actually you often use such language.

I'm directly confronting that.

If you lack knowledge and your first impulse is to call something a "conspiracy theory" or a guy with a "tin foil hat" then you might consider your programming that triggers you to behave that way.

Break your programming... "Kill the Beta".


[–]Endorsed ContributorJamesSkepp -1 points0 points  (1 child)

I'm not the one posting about "globalist conspiracy" every second post.

[–]1mojo_juju 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah what about the fucking foxkin, lizardqueens, and fuzzybois.

Jeez what an insensitive deusche.

Here Are the 31 Gender Identities New York City Recognizes

Here’s the complete list:



Drag King

Drag Queen

Femme Queen



Gender Bender








Trans Person







Third Sex

Gender Fluid

Non-Binary Transgender


Gender Gifted

Gender Blender


Person of Transgender Experience


If you're such an insensitive fuck that you don't know what each of these means...

you're in luck: Facebook created a guide to their list of 51 (most of whom apparently belong in Area 51).

What Each of Facebook’s 51 New Gender Options Means

[–]Dazza477[S] 21 points22 points  (47 children)

Gender Essentialism. It's true and all TRP knows it.

[–]NeoreactionSafe 42 points43 points  (46 children)


What is remarkable is how even a "confirmed beta" who is stuck in a marriage where he has begun to lose hope and fall apart internally can read the Red Pill and be so awakened as to turn his life around on his own and recharge his masculine polarity and bend the world to his will.

It's a shining example that proves the power of the Red Pill.


[–]Dazza477[S] 17 points18 points  (8 children)

It was a real eye opener for me.

I literally had an epiphany and knew life could be different.

And it's down to the power of the Red Pill, and the huge community surrounding and supporting it.

[–]NeoreactionSafe 16 points17 points  (7 children)

Things are changing in the world.

The Feminist movement seems to be developing "cracks" as "glitches" are popping up that prove the entire mythology is full of crap.

The Red Pill is growing in the population at a rapid pace and frankly the usual power structures at the top that depend on a dumbed down public are getting worried and preparing to crack down.

A year from now it might be possible that everything gets censored and the Red Pill and all it's various other Alt Media / Manosphere / Alt Right variants will be pushed underground.

We live in exciting times. (dangerous)


[–]Dazza477[S] 6 points7 points  (3 children)

I'll certainly have a drink to that!

Things are changing, and men are realising that they don't need to put pussy on a pedestal anymore. It's easy when you know how. But if you go in looking to fuck women, you'll never get anywhere.

The number one rule is to do it for yourself and to make yourself a better man.

[–]NeoreactionSafe 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's the core thing about masculine polarity.

As a beta you are lost in a sea of emotions you don't understand.

With the Red Pill you gain masculine knowledge and the ability to shape the world you live in. (Frame)

A woman can be allowed into your world, but she must play your partner as a feminine polarity in contrast to your masculine polarity.

The concept of "male slavery" to women dies in the Red Pill.

"Kill the Beta".


[–]jashleyren2 1 point2 points  (1 child)

You guys speak volumes to me. I've been adrift as a married man, with 2 daughters, long enough. Lowered myself to the pos that would cheat on his wife, serially. I'm cleaning that up. Correction: cleaned that up. But I control how I react to stress in my life. Not asking the wife's opinion for sh&% unless I just want to. No sense of having to do anything. Thanks guys.

[–]Dazza477[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Take control of everything.

Don't ask her where she wants to eat, do shit around the house without 'showing it off' or mentioning it, control the finances etc.

Be a man she wants to fuck, not the man she 'has to live with' just because you're married.

[–]poochman 1 point2 points  (2 children)

Part of me (skeptically) thinks the decline and collapse is inevitable as it was for the Roman Empire. And that We are too far gone for the infection to be completely reversed. It's going to kill us at some point. TRP is just prolonging that from happening eventually. maybe it's an inherent flaw in Western Civilization, a glitch in the matrix that causes it to crash and restart every 1500 years or so. I really hope I'm wrong.

[–]SetConsumes 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Feminism is a drop in the bucket compared to our banking system.

[–]NeoreactionSafe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well don't forget about the Globalist Tyranny.

This is "controlled collapse" driven from the outside.

Wikileaks even recently revealed how the "shadow government" runs things and this confirms everything we know.

The Blue Pill is a poison pill to kill the West in order to bring forth a centralized world government and a slave (beta) planet.


[–]aanarchist 0 points1 point  (25 children)

it's really hard to stay in that state, like sometimes i have it and other times i just feel drained. when i'm "on" it's like the world is at my fingertips, but eventually my energy runs dry and i feel like things start to collapse. when this happens should i just retreat into solitude and let myself recharge?

[–]NeoreactionSafe 0 points1 point  (24 children)

Why not?

If you can't win then why play?

I know there is no worse condition than being in a weakened state and "having" (for whatever reason) to be involved in something.


[–]aanarchist 0 points1 point  (23 children)

well yea it's like if i'm gonna be in a situation where i'm not able to be at my best, and everything is just going to shit. i mean i can stick it through but it's like why would i stay in a situation that is unproductive to me and adds no value to me in any way. as an example why stay with a woman who has proven herself to be low quality and possibly fully committed to the 666 lifestyle. it becomes self abuse and letting yourself be ruled by the cycle.

am i missing something?

[–]NeoreactionSafe 0 points1 point  (22 children)

No, you should abandon situations that are hopeless.

Just move along... do something else.

You used the word "cycle" at the end and before getting to the word I was thinking of the MotoGP racing. (already decided) There is a point where if you crash and are even a minute behind the pack you might as well just head to the pits and park the bike.

Life is like that in that some times you just have a bad day and just say "fuck it" and go home and prepare for the next.

Excessive time spent going over past "negatives" are a waste of time.

If you have a "losing hand" just dump it... focus on your next chance.

We call this "Next".


[–]aanarchist 0 points1 point  (21 children)

what are some signs to look for to be a definitive next? i feel like i'm the kind of person who gives up on things too early, but on the other hand i also can be a stubborn fuck who won't let the dead sleep. or maybe that's something only i can decide for myself, since i know who i am, my limits, what i'm willing and not willing to do etc.

[–]NeoreactionSafe 0 points1 point  (20 children)

The primary question:


"Is she teachable?"


A girl that has been on the Cock Carousel™ too long will have the Thousand Cock Stare™ and lose the flexibility of being trained into being anything remotely human. Her soul will be so badly damaged as to be incapable of anything but reacting impulsively to reality.

If she always screws up and you have given your best Game to steer her into your Frame then it's beyond hope.

The lower the N Count the fewer the "bad habits" you have to deal with. (better starting material)


[–]aanarchist 0 points1 point  (19 children)

funny i use the term damaged soul too. i'm not always on my best game like i don't have the time or energy to sit there and have perfect game every day and micromanage someone. i've noticed that even young girls who aren't even legal and shouldn't have any n have started gathering up addictions and bad habits like some damn feminist. they have the internet to jump start and accelerate their "education", and thanks to their degenerate parents and internment camps they call schools, they've learned to almost exclusively react based on raw impulse, and they just start following that hedonistic lifestyle and it becomes so hard to stop, it's really hard to stop chasing those highs and lows and seek balance. i learned to seek truth and balance through experience, i realized how unhappy i was, but for a woman to go through the conveyor belt the same way they end up post wall cc riders who only start to open their eyes(if you can call it that) once the cocaine they have stuffed down their throat has run out, and they realize that there's a world outside of feels.

i think anyone can be teachable, they just have to want to learn and be willing to listen. if i'm her prize and the reason why she's listening and learning, all it takes is another dude with game and me having 1 bad day for everything to fall apart. mark passio himself described hypergamy as something bad. if she's always looking to upgrade, well frankly she's always gonna find an upgrade, but i'm not cleaning up after chads mess if she decides to go that route.

when i think of good starting material i think very young girl with loving and mentally healthy parents. i strongly believe that such a family environment is very rare. she already has some sort of stable internal framework so all you have to do is show that you're not some goober and everything should work out. otherwise you're teaching a half grown child from scratch things that rewrite her reality, when her current reality is full of 555s and 666s drugging her daily, and the reality you want to introduce her to is an uphill walk where there world is basically against you. like how do you make an attention and validation junkie put it down and say no? lock them in a cage cold turkey? also if i do something less than ideal along the way, how do i hold myself accountable without looking like some backpedaling beta? from experience women hate it when you apologize to them, for anything.

[–]Gravityflexo -1 points0 points  (10 children)

I'm not sure if I see the difference between taking the red pill and just leading a healthy life. Sure the parts about taking control of the finances, what trips you take, and being overall more assertive as a male is all red pill stuff. But is exercising and eating right, which leads to confidence and a higher smv actually red pill?

It seems the biggest benefit of the red pill is just living a healthy life lifestyle. Most of the other stuff happened as a result. I'm not a big fan of the woman bashing part, there are just too many different women to generalize. Also, i think it's basically what the crazy women do to men, bash them as a whole, so i don't see the point. Although I do find tons of useful info about avoiding those types of women.

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    [–]Gravityflexo -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

    I've always heard the phrase life isn't fair, but going by you're philosophy, life shouldn't be fair because that's how you've made it for yourself

    [–]SubbaHubba 4 points5 points  (4 children)

    You're drinking the blue Kool-aid. If you really think women can't be generalized, you just haven't been around enough of them to "get it."

    [–]Gravityflexo 0 points1 point  (3 children)

    In certain aspects, of course, they can be generalized. But saying they are all the same is just not accurate

    [–]haxurmind 1 point2 points  (2 children)

    AWALT means All Women Are Like That, not all women are the same.

    Like means similar to, not exactly the same.

    [–]Gravityflexo 0 points1 point  (1 child)

    Ok.,.I'll fix it. - But saying they are all a like is just not accurate

    [–]Ou-tis -1 points0 points  (0 children)

    AWALT is a model,like the model of the atom.It's a support to understand things.

    [–]rathyAro 1 point2 points  (0 children)

    The red pill core essentials are obvious as fuck. Sadly some people don't embrace basic shit like good health, being social, and being a more helpful spouse. Glad op did and I it doesn't really matter what the source was if it worked. Now leave op and never come back!

    [–]NeoreactionSafe 1 point2 points  (0 children)

    Truth, health, objectivity... that's what the Red Pill is after all.

    By shifting towards a masculine polarity you clear away the fog of subjectivity and see reality better.

    Red Pill is healthy and more truthful... we destroy mythology.

    We "Kill the Beta".


    [–]ChanmanVXIIX 0 points1 point  (0 children)

    It seems the biggest benefit of the red pill is just living a healthy life lifestyle. Most of the other stuff happened as a result.

    Because that's pretty much it, modern society has steered away from that. Why do you think the first thing it's always said to new people is lift!

    [–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

    My anecdotal experience with TRP:

    Dread game leads to better outcomes for both parties. Men are obviously happier, but the woman is happier as well.

    Nu males being lead to terrible outcomes. Men are unhappy and confused why the woman is even less happy. The willingness to bend over backwards is awful for both parties.

    [–]anooblol 33 points34 points  (1 child)

    Posts like these are really why I like this sub despite the massive hate it gets. At the end of the day, it helps men get more in tune with who they are, and what their role is as a man, and in the end, you're happier, your wife is happier, and all you had to do was make positive changes in your life.

    Good for you man.

    [–]Dazza477[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

    Thanks man, I appreciate it.

    It's not all about fucking women and spinning plates, sometimes it's just a way to be a better man.

    [–]kindablack 20 points21 points  (1 child)

    Taking control of your life in whatever way you see fit as a man. I hate when everyone purports TRP as though every person who "swallows the pill" has to spin plates and fuck sluts. A women will love you passionately and tend to your needs but that love is never unconditional. Her actions are a direct response to your passion and motivation of towards yourself. But I hope you feel like everything is much more within your control. Best of luck to you as you continue to strive on your journey to true Alpha status.

    [–]Dazza477[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

    I couldn't have put it better myself, thank you for your luck. You don't have to fuck sluts and spin plates, it's about taking the pill to be a better man.

    [–][deleted] 16 points17 points  (1 child)

    This was a pleasant read and shows how simple being a man is: handle your shit, be the shit. Thanks for the inspiration Dazza.

    [–]Dazza477[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

    No problem, good luck on your journey! I know mine isn't over yet.

    [–]glockbtc 11 points12 points  (1 child)

    And they say we're only about degrading women. No it's how they tick and sometimes it's the man's fault

    [–]tallwheel 2 points3 points  (0 children)

    It's always up to the man to change, because in most cases women never will. A first mate is only as good as her captain moulds her to be.

    [–]nightmancommeth 67 points68 points  (6 children)

    Head on over to Married RedPill. Way more relevant to you.

    [–][deleted] 33 points34 points  (5 children)

    TRP created the Married tag for a reason: to bring it all under one roof (especially with some of the pro-marriage 2.0 attitudes over there). If you don't want to read married content, skip it.

    [–]nightmancommeth 29 points30 points  (4 children)

    I am a married RedPill guy.

    [–]jashleyren2 8 points9 points  (2 children)

    Same here. But I'm still me. James. 41. Active fitness enthusiast for 20+ years. I eat right. I smoke too, whenever i feel like it. i wear a pair of speedos if I feel like it too, and don't worry about the stupification that some women pretend to have at it's sight, when I know it's the bulge that they are really intimidated by. I am growing a fucking mustache that won't quit, and I'll sew my own clothes if the mood strikes me.

    [–]sadconfessions 49 points50 points  (32 children)

    That's great you should post this in deadbedrooms

    [–]Faymozilla 4 points5 points  (1 child)

    this just inspired me to take this red pill thing seriously congrats on making it to the other side man

    [–]lilbro1984 4 points5 points  (0 children)

    Redpill: Doing God's work for men.

    [–]Specter242 2 points3 points  (0 children)

    Awesome post. Shows one of the many benefits of the redpill and serves as an inspiration to others to transform their lives for the better.

    [–]thejusner 1 point2 points  (1 child)

    I was literally searching for married TRP posts, since it's coming up soon. Good read and thank you!

    [–]Theophagist 1 point2 points  (0 children)

    [–]enkae7317 1 point2 points  (1 child)

    I really like this post. Short, and simple--to the point. Shows how you were a beta and admitted that you were; and made the necessary steps to improve your life.

    Bravo comrade. Bravo.

    [–]TimeNdevotion 1 point2 points  (1 child)

    The number of I's in your post is really astounding. You went from passenger to driver seat - well done, sir!

    [–]Dazza477[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

    I didn't want to come across as selfish, but the point of swallowing the Red Pill isn't to fuck chicks, or game women. It's to make yourself a better man so you can move through life being self sufficient.

    [–]DouglasPR 1 point2 points  (0 children)

    LTR here, implementing red pill: can confirm, it works. Not easy, not quick, but gets easier and easier as results show. I changed for the better, she did too. I watch for blue pill relapses, constantly check the side bar and posts here.

    [–]BetaSupreme 1 point2 points  (0 children)

    Does abuse "work" if it keeps someone too afraid to leave that relationship?

    [–]CaptainStardust 0 points1 point  (1 child)

    She's going to divorce you anyway.

    [–]sirencow 4 points5 points  (0 children)

    He's probably aware up that having swallowed the pill and won't get raped in the process

    [–]Kenny_Twenty 0 points1 point  (1 child)

    Jesus. This is great. Really happy for you.

    [–]YoJK 0 points1 point  (0 children)

    If I only found this subreddit a bit sooner.

    I'm really happy for you man! That's the way to go!

    [–]grandmazboy -2 points-1 points  (2 children)

    Yeah, well if it "came naturally to you", you wouldn't be here. Well done.

    [–]Dazza477[S] 9 points10 points  (1 child)

    I just wanted to share that The Red Pill really works and to inspire others to give it a go.

    Thank you!