A quick reminder on initiating contact with women, and a conversation I overheard between my girlfriend and her friend.
So I’m in the kitchen crushing a protein shake and two bananas post-workout. My gf (Ana) is on the couch with her friend (Lucy) talking about some guy Lucy met.
Now, I’ve met a few of the men that Lucy has dated… most of them making over 80k+, driving nice cars, decent bodies etc. Lucy is 25, easily an HB9, and usually dates in the top 10% of men, so I imagine this guy to be nothing short of a high quality man in order for Lucy to consider him.
Anyway, here’s how the conversation went down. I’m paraphrasing, but you know.
Ana (my gf): So tell me about this guy you met…
Lucy: He’s totally perfect and I was so into him the other day, I gave him my number and he messaged me a few days later asking me where I wanted to meet.
Ana: Okay and did you meet him?
Lucy: Yeah we finally decided on going out for tea.
Ana: Ok… when are you seeing him again?
Lucy: I don’t know if I will… he is texting me all the time about his day. Sending me good morning texts, calling me every night. Snapchatting me, liking all my instagram posts, leaving me voicemails. It’s like this guy has nothing else to do. I would rather have him barely have time for me, then all the time in the world.
Ana: Omg, that’s annoying af. Literally, like leave me alone and let me do my thing. I’ll call you when I need you amirite? (…Looks at me curiously… I raise my eyebrow.)
Lucy: It’s so unattractive. There’s no mystery in him, he’s literally saying “I have no mission, I have no other women in my life and I spend all my time trying to contact you.”
Anyway, you know women. They talk in paragraphs about nonsense. So this girl goes off for like 10 more minutes about how this guy turned her off just by the sheer fact of his eagerness.
Needless to say, tied up my shoes, finished my protein shake, and went to play basketball with the homies.
TL;DR: Guy becomes attached at the hip to a random chick he just met. Didn't polarize and made her lose interest.
edit: For those of you in disbelief about the validity of the conversation, context goes a long way here. Previously we were talking about pursuing big goals, passion, purpose, and missions in life. Normally out of the blue I don't hear women blatantly talk like that either. Nonetheless, I prefaced this saying that I am paraphrasing how it went down, and you can substitute mission for "goals" or "things to do". The context of the conversation was about how this guy compared to the last guy she dated who had a ton of female "friends".