Married Red PillTips To Look After Your Husband - (Excerpts from a 1950's Home Economics text book) (self.TheRedPill)

submitted by Hakametal

Over the holidays, I went to my parent's house who wanted the attic cleaned out. I stumbled across what was a framed picture that displayed rules that a woman should take to look after her husband. It states that it's taken from a 1950's Home Economics book.

Keep in mind, the following material is a glimpse into a pre-feminist era. Have fun reading this stuff.

Have Dinner Ready

Plan ahead - even the night before to have a delicious meal on time. This is a way to let him know that you have been thinking about him and are concerned about his needs. Most men are hungry when they come home and the prospects of a good meal are part of the warm welcome needed.

Prepare Yourself

Take 15 minutes to rest so you will be refreshed when he arrives. Touch-up your make-up, put a ribbon in your hair and be fresh looking. He has just been with a lot of work-weary people. Be a little gay and a little more interesting. His boring day may need a lift.

Clear Away The Clutter

Make one last trip through the main part of the house just before your husband arrives, gathering up school books, toys, paper, etc., then run a dust cloth over the tables. Your husband will feel he has reached a haven of rest and order and it will give you a lift too.

Prepare The Children

Take a few minutes to wash the children's hands and faces (if they are small). Comb their hair and if necessary change their clothes. They are little treasures and he would like to see them playing the part.

Minimise All Noise

At the time of his arrival, eliminate all noise of washer, dryer, dishwasher or vacuum. Try to encourage the children to be quiet. Be happy to see him. Greet him with a warm smile and be glad to see him.

Some don'ts

Don't greet him with problems of complaints. Don't complain if he is late for dinner. Count this as minor compared with what he might have gone through during the day.

Make Him Comfortable

Have him lean back in a comfortable chair or suggest he lie down in the bedroom. Have a cool or warm drink ready for him. Arrange his pillow and offer to take off his shoes. Speak in a low, soft, soothing and pleasant voice. Allow him to relax - unwind.

Listen To Him

You may have a dozen things to tell him, but the moment of his arrival is not the time. Let him talk first.

Make The Evening His

Never complain if he does not take you out to dinner or to other places of entertainment. Instead try to understand his world of strain and pressure, he needs to be home and relax.

The Goal

Try to make your home a place of peace and order where your husband can renew himself in body and spirit.

[–]ChrisBenRoy 536 points537 points  (70 children)

What's funny about this is that people look at it and think "Oh how misogynist they were back then, this is disgusting!" but the sheer fact of it doing stuff like this for someone you apparently care enough about to be in a relationship/marriage w/ is just a nice thing to do.

[–][deleted] 56 points57 points  (0 children)

"That's disgusting, how could people have subjected themselves to living like that, didn't women have any respect for themselves?"

/goes back to flicking through Snapchat for 8 hours while making bitter comments about how much the world sucks and where are all the good men???

[–]Elevate5 204 points205 points  (55 children)

I agree. My wife (who does not work) went through a hyper feminist phase, where she did not want to do anything for me as her husband... because she was seeing any kindness as somehow sexist and repressive toward women. Some of these tips are ways to be to supportive of someone you love who works. They could be followed by either gender.

[–]spassa 206 points207 points  (36 children)

i just cant wrap my head around this thinking. you are sitting at home living of the money someone else is earning 8-10 hours per day. still, you can't be bothered to do maybe 30-60 mins or work to show him your appreciation? you even label it as repression?

i hope you told your wife that if she feels oppressed, she should get a job and pay half the rent. then you could talk about splitting the housework

[–]Senior EndorsedMattyAnon 112 points113 points  (0 children)

i just cant wrap my head around this thinking. you are sitting at home living of the money someone else is earning 8-10 hours per day. still, you can't be bothered to do maybe 30-60 mins or work to show him your appreciation? you even label it as repression?

Look at it this way:

It's not logically deduced, or truth based.

It works like this: "So if I stamp my foot and claim victimhood, I can just shout sexist and misogynist and then I have to do nothing at all right? And my husband has to support me in this and keep working and I get to sit around all day doing nothing? where do I sign up!".

There is always a material advantage in this sort of victim behaviour. Either increased support towards her or decreased effort from her.

The correct response should always be "you don't have to do anything honey, and neither do I".

[–]dancingkungfy 28 points29 points  (2 children)

I got divorced and one of the major reasons was financial, specifically around the stay at home mom philosophy. I believed that we would be stronger partners if we both worked but my ex not so much. The house was always a mess when I got home, I did all the cleaning, cooking, and even giving the kids baths. And this was after eight hours or so at work.

Needless to say, I am a much healthier and happier man now. Our children are also happier especially since they do not have to endure the arguments anymore. My ex has tried many times to have us get back together and I had given it serious thought immediately after we got divorced. I just could not fathom going back into that situation again. It drained me of a tremendous amount of energy and health. I honestly do not think I will get married again. Never say never but at the moment, marriage is nowhere in my near future.

In fact, this is how I came to find TRP.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (1 child)

im not surprised she wants to reconcile but am suprised she didnt change along the way towards divorce as reality set in.

did she feel dread? were you physically improving?

[–]dancingkungfy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes there was dread. I went to the gym just so I can get out of the house at the time for alone time and so my physique improved as a result.

I absolutely couldn't stand being around her during the last year of marriage.

[–]1grubek 85 points86 points  (14 children)

Because feminism pushes into women the idea that they have to be like men (without saying it openly) and ridicules feminine traits (again without saying it). The ideal feminist women is strong and independent, which are traditional male traits, not female.

Therefore when a women gets bitten by feminism her values change and suddenly the traditional female traits she exhibited are now shameful and she is trying to act strong and independent, in some ways similar to a male (without realizing that is what she is doing).

[–]Docbear64 28 points29 points  (3 children)

It's such a fucked up thing because then you meet a chick who has adopted feminist views and then if she's legitimately into you and starts to fall into a feminine role it's like her fucking eyes have been opened . A plate of mine cracks me up because when we first hung out she was a classic SJW feminist whore yet as she's grown to enjoy me she has slowly become ( or at least presents herself ) as more demure .

She cooks for me almost every time I see her , she does whatever I ask , buys me gifts ( to the point where I have to tell her to stop) , and the more she becomes subservient / focused on making me happy the happier she tells me she is . Making me happy has begun to make her happy . Which makes it easier for me to return the favor .

It's such a deluded , self - involved philosophy that women are being sold now and described as feminism . Just like the HAES - shit I feel like this misguided idea of empowerment and need to avoid hurting anybodys feelings is robbing so so sooo many women ( and many men) of reaching their true potential and achieving a sense of purpose and happiness SO many people seem to be lacking . It's fucking sick .

[–]beginner_ 9 points10 points  (0 children)

happy women don't have to go shopping for shoes and other useless stuff to fill their void.

[–]87GNX 7 points8 points  (0 children)

It's evil. It's a plot. Because a society full of happy women and happy men is a society that can go to the fucking moon, and we CAN'T HAVE THAT.

[–]analyticaltoafault 31 points32 points  (2 children)

And turning men and women that buy into this brand, into shitty people.

Congrats feminism.

Though one could attempt to make a no true scot argument that it's not actual/original/just 3rd wave feminism, but that's just bs. Never considered myself a feminist per-se, I just was always taught to respect people that are respectable and to not hold those who are not in contempt. Seems like specific ideological corrections like this are superfluous.

It's hilariously ironic that people outside TRP (hell, I always learned to scrutinize and be reasonably skeptical of anything I have not personally examined or experienced, and even I still had some slight bias to very first views of it before becoming curious enough to check it out) view it as absolutely toxic. As I've always tried to be objective, there is some credit to their complaints as some that are part of the the group can be, but that is true of any movement with humans in it and why the phrase, "the road to hell is paved with good intentions," exists.

But here TRP is at least in part encouraging people to just be good fucking people and live in reality.

I wonder how much shit throughout human history those that see reality for what it is have received from those with insecure egos.

I'm rambling now. Good shit and thanks for the stirring of my thoughts.

[–]ChrisBenRoy 18 points19 points  (1 child)

It's hilariously ironic that people outside TRP (hell, I always learned to scrutinize and be reasonably skeptical of anything I have not personally examined or experienced, and even I still had some slight bias to very first views of it before becoming curious enough to check it out) view it as absolutely toxic.

My favorite comment I always is that TRP user "hate women" when 90% of discussion in here are about how men can be more successful..............with women.

[–]analyticaltoafault 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Well that doesn't disprove any hate but yeah lol

[–]PedophilePriest 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I don't hate feminism. First of all I am a male so it doesn't effect me.

Secondly I love women, especially feminine women, feminine energy is something beautiful that I can not recreate in my life, and I'm better for having experienced it.

However "feminism" isn't about celebrating female traits, or embracing the feminine or female nature.

It's about promoting masculine traits among women while rediculing the feminine, and criminalizing masculine behavior among men while indoctrinating submissive female traits.

That's not feminism, that's transgenderism.

[–][deleted] 19 points20 points  (8 children)

They call homemaking "unpaid work". Free room and board means that it's not unpaid. And it's not slavery or indentured servitude because the homemaker can leave anytime he/she wants.

[–]ChrisBenRoy 31 points32 points  (7 children)

"Being a mother is the hardest job of them all" type of cunts.

[–]markelbat 11 points12 points  (6 children)

[–]ChrisBenRoy 6 points7 points  (4 children)

You know it. Ole Billy Red Face.

[–]RoughTeddy 9 points10 points  (2 children)

Sadly Ol Billy Boy has sadly begun drifting towards the Blue Pill. His wife is a toxic leech on him and is slowly influencing him with her SJW shit.

[–]ChrisBenRoy 3 points4 points  (0 children)

True but his wisdom remains timeless

[–]Erudite_Delirium 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is pure speculation, but if you remember some of the stuff that Patrice said back in the day about Hollywood, and how at various levels you have to 'pay' the higher ups and gatekeepers in different ways. Patrice was saying that because he was purely sticking to comedy he had a patron/'guy to bend the knee to' [well he used the term 'Jew' im just paraphrasing] and just had to give tribute in the form of money. Burr's marriage was in a similar time frame to him getting that comedy cartoon series; I wouldn't be terribly shocked if him getting married to his black, feminist wife was part of the package deal to getting that show. It's speculation, but its the thing that makes the most sense to me, since it is so totally against his core nature that he chooses to present to the world.

And I agree with Rough, while he held strong frame early on, the acidic/toxic personality just slowly but surely chips away at him (presumably as was the plan).

[–]RelentlessGrind 9 points10 points  (0 children)

i hope you told your wife that if she feels oppressed, she should get a job and pay half the rent. then you could talk about splitting the housework

Oh no, you can't do that, that's "financial abuse". What I have told women in the past, if you have it so bad here you know where the door is. Funny thing is, not even one went to put on her shoes, grab her purse to even act like she's leaving, they just sit there and don't acknowledge "how bad they have it here with me", even when I tell them again they know where the door is and they are not here against their will they still choose to stay.

[–]Senior EndorsedMattyAnon 25 points26 points  (2 children)

because she was seeing any kindness as somehow sexist and repressive toward women

Naturally of course all your obligations were held to be fair and right and just.

This is just a bait and switch. Get your commitment and then reduce her input "because sexist".

My mother (also a hyper feminist) did the same thing. She wasn't going to do any "woman's work" because she's a woman. Men's work (house, car, working for a living) was of course totally fine to be done by a man.

[–]Jerkboy13 points points [recovered]

The only one-sided contract that's legal is the one called marriage.

[–]Ascended_One 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This sounds like one hell of a story. How did it work out in the end?

[–]MeditateErrDay 2 points3 points  (2 children)

This is interesting. How did you stay with her during that hyper feminist phase? I ask because my ex is hyper feminist right now and I want to puke at how serious she takes everything.

[–]maniclurker 11 points12 points  (3 children)

So... you're married. Wife's kinda bitchy. You're still with her.

What are you getting from red pill?

[–]Elevate5 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I found red pill when my wife was going through this phase. It gave me a vocabulary to understand what was going on, and helped me quit apologizing for my alpha characteristics. I also changed and improved in some areas I was lacking in. I was being a bit of a pussy and needed to work on being a better husband.

[–]GodEmperorShitLord 2 points3 points  (1 child)

'Went through'....so she snapped out of it?

[–][deleted] 47 points48 points  (6 children)

Yes, it is proven that women back then were much happier than they are now. Upbringing and laws kept their hypergamy in check, and all of this was considered as common sense, not misogyny.

[–]1GroundhogLiberator 29 points30 points  (2 children)

What metrics are used to determine happiness? Divorce rates? antidepressant use? suicide attempts?

I don't doubt what you're saying, though.

[–]PavleKreator 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I don't know how those other metrics changed over time, but women's self reported happiness has had a steady decline since the 1970s.

[–]Endorsed ContributorBluepillProfessor 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Upbringing and laws kept their hypergamy in check

Don't forget spankings and total social isolation if you divorce.

[–]cashmoney_x 4 points5 points  (0 children)

They were all on pills. Seriously, it's the "dirty secret" of the 1950's- female depression and medicine cabinets full of pills.

[–]Swiss_Cheese9797 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Also this is only half the article, there's a whole other part where guys have things they are "supposed" to do to. But I guess that's not sexist...

[–]redwinemamatreefrog 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Agreed I try to do at least most of these every day.

[–]bisjac 241 points242 points  (20 children)

Some of the "don'ts" should still apply for anyone coming home to anyone.

[–]cptspiffy points points [recovered]

Agreed. Male or female, if you don't work, this is your job.

[–][deleted] 58 points59 points  (12 children)

That's what people don't get. Although most women won't respect a "house husband" if you aren't working full time your job is literally the above

[–]BassNet 22 points23 points  (9 children)

A "house husband" sounds like the most beta job of all. I doubt that'll last long

[–]ioncehadsexinapool 24 points25 points  (7 children)

Surprisingly I know some very liberal couples like this who seem genuinely happy. Granted the guy has above average smv

[–]okiedokie321 6 points7 points  (0 children)

And best of all, you can divorce rape her.

[–]TRP VanguardHumanSockPuppet 8 points9 points  (1 child)

Hey, we're men. We ain't got time for laundry.

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    [–][deleted] 8 points9 points  (2 children)

    If you're happy being a cuckold then go ahead and send your woman out into the world to make money while you stay home. Cause that's what will happen.

    [–]BRINGMEDATASS 228 points229 points  (94 children)

    Except half of the men here don't make enough money to afford a stay at home wife.

    [–]Endorsed Contributorvandaalen 74 points75 points  (68 children)

    Well... go figure what went wrong since then, where a single income was able to support a family of four or five and a house.

    [–]1GroundhogLiberator 118 points119 points  (29 children)

    Your labor became a lot less valuable when society decided to double the workforce by including women.

    [–][deleted] 72 points73 points  (7 children)

    Women, robots, outsourcing. Men in 1st world countries right now are more disposable than ever.

    [–]Endorsed ContributorBluepillProfessor 44 points45 points  (16 children)

    More than double the work force! Now we compete against 50,000,000 illegals, cheap Chinese labor, and the women. When I was growing up a man could get fired from the factory and on his way home stop at another factory and get a new job paying as much or more.

    Today a man loses his job and he sits at home in front of the computer for 3-4 years sending out hundreds and then thousands of resumes while each day his manhood and pride shrinks a little bit more.

    I guess it was designed that way.

    [–]valdirtheblue 18 points19 points  (2 children)

    I live in the UK, women literally get picked over young men these days, companies have to fill quotas.

    Nottingham shire police force have just announced they are launching a recruitment drive for ethnic minorities and homosexuals only. And people still say white men are privileged?


    [–]DexterousRichard 2 points3 points  (0 children)

    Fuck them all. Try to start a business if you can.

    [–]TheBenevolentEvil 2 points3 points  (0 children)

    why is affirmative action good again? its not stimulating our economy if we based our hiring by diversity and not merit.

    [–]Awake-Now 25 points26 points  (9 children)

    50,000,000 illegals

    So 1 in every 6 Americans is "illegal?" Your hyperbole is undermining your point (which is otherwise valid).

    [–]BRINGMEDATASS 16 points17 points  (6 children)

    as long as you have an education or any kind of formal training you don' t really have to compete with "illegals". Automated labor will soon out compete everyone in most blue collar jobs, I'd love to hear who bluepillprofessor will blame then.

    [–]bobsbigboi 18 points19 points  (4 children)

    You compete with h1b's instead.

    [–]BRINGMEDATASS 2 points3 points  (3 children)

    I thought Trump said he was getting rid of that program?

    [–]bobsbigboi 9 points10 points  (2 children)

    hopefully. it's being abused terribly.

    [–]arrayay 6 points7 points  (0 children)

    Simultaneously he is shamed for not having a job like a "real man" and fought against for trying to get a job because he is an oppressive shitlord.

    [–]elfonite 1 point2 points  (0 children)

    the second part brought tears to my eyes. it is harsh reality!

    [–]wanderer779 5 points6 points  (2 children)

    Is say it has less to do with that. Really an increase in the number of workers shouldn't mean that wages fall over the long haul, if that was the case they would have been falling throughout history as population increased. What usually happens is that as the number of laborers increases it creates demand for more goods and you usually get an increase in wages. What happened in the u.s. is that women went to work and the economy boomed but the gains all went to the owners.

    Anyway I think this problem is pretty complicated and i probably don't understand it as well as some. But I don't think the answer is for women to stop working.

    [–]1violentlucidity 5 points6 points  (1 child)

    The difference between an organically growing population and a large previously unemployed segment of the population becoming part of the workforce should be obvious. With more people, you have increased consumption of both necessities and luxuries. When there are no more people but there is workforce expansion (without corresponding job expansion), there is no increased necessity consumption and little increased luxury consumption. Historically, this has been offset by the emergence of entirely new industries (the advent of personal computers and the internet being HUGE in this regard), but the kind of innovation the creates jobs is coming to a halt.

    I have what I consider to be a very good job for someone without a degree. My wife stays at home, but we can barely afford to do that. We would both rather she not have to go into the workforce, but the modern assumption is that she will have a job. No, not just a job, but a CAREER! A deeply SATISFYING and EXCITING career!

    And that's how they sell it. "You're not a complete woman unless you are entrenched in the fast-paced world of... retail management. Fast food dispensing. Executive assistance. Administration. Human resources. Whatever place we can stick you that will let us brag that our company employs SO MANY WOMEN!"

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      [–]InChargeMan 15 points16 points  (4 children)

      This 100%. Everyone is keeping up with the Joneses, while the large corporations do their job, which is to make you want MORE MORE MORE. Just like sexual strategy, corporate strategy is amoral. It isn't right or wrong, it just is. But, by understanding its true nature you have options.

      [–]Endorsed Contributorvandaalen 5 points6 points  (5 children)

      [–]InChargeMan 5 points6 points  (3 children)

      Did you just link a 4-hour documentary? Jesus Christ, is there a cliff's notes?

      [–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

      How Freud's theories on the unconscious led to the development of public relations by his nephew Edward Bernays; the use of desire over need; and self-actualisation as a means of achieving economic growth and the political control of populations.


      I recommend HyperNormalisation as well. The length of it looks boring but the documentaries are actually quite captivating.

      [–]Endorsed Contributorvandaalen 5 points6 points  (1 child)

      If only there was some website to search the internet for knowledge...


      The first part is about how the Freuds and their affiliates put the spark of consumption into people after WWII.

      Also I am sure you are watching all kind of bullshit and four hours will easily be compensated. Stuff like this is worth it. No need to watch it in one session.

      [–]bobsbigboi 2 points3 points  (0 children)

      Those are technical advances. We don't need immigration for technical advances.

      [–]5850s 20 points21 points  (23 children)

      Inflation has destroyed a man's earning power, enriching a few closely connected bankers at the expense of all other people on the planet. In the 50's a man could work as a blue collar painter and support a family. Bitcoin offers a possible solution, hopefully it can be adopted widely

      [–]Endorsed Contributorvandaalen 8 points9 points  (18 children)

      Once cash money is gone, there will be a very rude awakening.

      [–]perplexedm 4 points5 points  (17 children)

      Can you explain this part? Because there is a huge demonetization move happening in India and a troublesome article popped up linking it with USA:


      [–]Endorsed Contributorvandaalen 21 points22 points  (16 children)

      What will happen once you don't even have the little control that you have over your money with cash money and it becomes completely virtual numbers in a computer?

      You will be even more dependent on the goodwill of your government and the banksters. Just remember what happened on Cyprus a couple of yers ago, where they just shut down the banks and people couldn't get their money, not even from the ATMs, while the rich scumbags had transfered their money to other countries beforehand becuase they were warned beforehand.

      Then the governmet decided that everybody has to pay a little bit from their savings to conquer the "crisis".

      The globalists slave owners have been working towards this for a very long time now and they will rejoyce once they succeed.

      [–]perplexedm 2 points3 points  (3 children)

      Thanks. Something pathetically similar happened in India in last two months, still on going.

      [–][deleted] 38 points39 points  (5 children)

      i can afford multiple stay-at-home wives but women aren't worthy. i don't mean they're not worthy of me... i mean they're not worthy of marriage. all she has to do is:

      • have a low probability of divorce, so she must have a low n-count, no prior divorces, and her parents must never have divorced.
      • be healthy enough to have 2+ children, so no STDs, or major hereditary conditions, and she must be 28 or younger by the time of the first date.
      • be attractive enough that i want to fuck her so that we actually have kids, and that i can fuck her good so she won't divorce me. i'm not saying i need a victoria secret model, but overweight women are disgusting.

      any woman doesn't meet these reqs is not low value... she's negative value in my life.

      [–]ministypill 11 points12 points  (0 children)

      Women lost their purpose in today's society, other than having baby to keep population stable in macro level.

      One out of a thousand women might meet your standard, but AWALT. You can only see women's true face not in the wedding, but divorce.

      Whatever women can do, I can hire someone else to do a better job.

      Have Dinner Ready

      Hire a team from restaurant. I doubt any woman can compete with them, especially they hate competition.

      Do laundry

      Once a while I hire maid to clean my house. At the end of the day: All my suits are pressed, shirt are washed and dried, towers are stored, the tower I need for the day are fold as a swan and sitting on my bed.

      Each service just cost few hundred bucks and accessible to everyone.

      You cannot have sex with your woman when you want, but she can always slash your fortune in half if she feel like it, why border?

      [–][deleted] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

      Bruh!! This sub is all STEM, what are you talking about?

      [–][deleted]  (13 children)


        [–]BRINGMEDATASS 5 points6 points  (3 children)

        Idk I would enjoy the perks of a two income home like vacations, health insurance, good food etc...

        [–][deleted]  (2 children)


          [–]BRINGMEDATASS 14 points15 points  (1 child)

          she could fuck someone while you're at work, so I guess work from home?

          [–]RedPillWintergreen 3 points4 points  (4 children)

          But that confuses the cause and effect. A large part of the reason men are so apathetic these days is that there is much less incentive to improve themselves. Why go to medical school when you can get better tail as the uber driver or ski instructor? That is before we factor in the cost of a divorce. Not to mention the skyrocketing cost of education, health care, housing, etc. It's no wonder so many millennial men opt to stay in their parents' basement.

          [–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

          Glad someone said it. They can afford it. Almost everyone can afford it. That's not the problem.

          [–]TyrannyVengeance 9 points10 points  (3 children)

          That's by design the men can't afford it because the women cant stop saying MORE MORE MORE!

          [–]Endorsed Contributorvandaalen 23 points24 points  (2 children)

          It's actually by design by the design of our owners.

          Women (having to be) working means double the workforce and double the pressure on the job market and it mens the destruction of the traditional family resulting in a much weaker society which is easier to control.

          [–]RedPillWintergreen 2 points3 points  (0 children)

          Of course, the men still do all the REAL work. That point can't be emphasized enough. It's not as if productivity doubled once women entered the workforce.

          [–]Penguin327 33 points34 points  (4 children)

          I was watching a few videos of America from the 1960s, man what a change! You can really see how the US has been in cultural free fall for the past 50 years..

          [–]shadowchicken85 8 points9 points  (0 children)

          That was a pretty cool video.

          [–]Endorsed ContributorMeat-on-the-table 47 points48 points  (1 child)

          Just about every one of these would have feminists shouting "Oppression"--let alone all of them. And yet, these simple rules represent a balance between mother and father in the household:the father goes out to fend for the family, the mother stays home with the children and makes sure everything is right and proper.

          It's funny to think people have normalised a man not being happy and king in his own castle. This shit is sad. My condolences to those amongst us who still intend to get married.

          [–]1EgocentricMegaloMan 263 points264 points  (2 children)

          And they said America was never great... smh

          [–]marplaneit 9 points10 points  (0 children)

          That sounds like a fucking dream. Good luck specting something like this nowadays. You get home and you sit down on the sofa and you hear this fuckig annoying voice:


          How I know? My mum who worked a half time job as a teacher, to my dad who is high manager working 60 or more hours a week.

          [–][deleted] 107 points108 points  (29 children)

          This would be a great post on the red pill women subreddit.

          [–]Officer_Dick_Johnson 98 points99 points  (25 children)

          Or to troll some feminist sub.

          [–]sigma272 64 points65 points  (10 children)

          Post this on TwoX so we can record the sound of a thousand feminist brains simultaneously exploding. You know, for science.

          [–]Venny_1 37 points38 points  (9 children)

          But the title has to be labeled differently:


          Would be interesting to see the responses on TwoX in that regard!

          [–]1v1mebruh 19 points20 points  (1 child)

          Dude could you actually do that?

          [–]Fredo100 7 points8 points  (5 children)

          Someone please just do this because we all want to see the response. Link it too.

          [–]2wiseclockcounter 2 points3 points  (1 child)

          anyone who posts here is autobanned from twoX I believe. also, it would probably be considered brigading. possible flak isn't worth such a predictable response imo.

          [–]stephcurrythrowaway 8 points9 points  (13 children)

          I really want someone to post this and ask them honestly what they think.

          [–]AppleChoice 25 points26 points  (12 children)

          I'm game. Give me a minute to check.

          1st Edit: Setting up...

          2nd Edit: Aaand it's on.

          3rd: I'm going to keep editing this instead of replying, because I highly doubt they're going to SCROLL DOWN one inch on my profile. But, let's see how long that lasts, haha

          4th: Oh, Steph, they treat you so well...

          They removed my comment that got kinda buried. The thread has actually gotten pretty big. Good grief.

          [–][deleted] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

          This post is fucking genius.

          And here I was thinking there wasn't going to be anything interesting on the internet today.

          [–]1v1mebruh 18 points19 points  (1 child)

          LMAOOO BRO you're already catching people hahahahaha holy shit, some pitiful beta has already responded about how he does all these things but for his wife loooool oh god I can't wait to see more

          [–]stephcurrythrowaway 13 points14 points  (0 children)

          I know right.

          His wife probably walks all over her.

          Shit. I don't mind doing that shit for a woman if she really stressed but golly some dudes really want to be in that position full time.

          [–]stephcurrythrowaway 10 points11 points  (4 children)

          Hahaha I know man.

          Simple logical questions.

          All of a sudden Im a waste of oxygen.

          the more you know

          [–]AppleChoice 2 points3 points  (2 children)

          Reached the top 4 in that sub with over 100 comments. Top kek.

          [–]stephcurrythrowaway 4 points5 points  (1 child)

          Ha I know. funny how women are dm'ing me defending some of my points too.😂

          [–]AppleChoice 4 points5 points  (0 children)

          For realsies, that's pretty neat. I'm telling you man, the ultra liberal BS is starting to die out. And it's about dang time.

          [–]-Universe- 1 point2 points  (0 children)

          I was already posted sometime back.

          [–][deleted] 88 points89 points  (49 children)

          Instead try to understand his world of strain and pressure, he needs to be home and relax.

          This is one of the reasons some men don't want to cohabitiate with women. For the most part, men want to be able to come home after work, chill out and watch some tv. They do not want unnecessary drama.

          [–]MrBellsprout123 47 points48 points  (11 children)

          My mother doesn't understand why I don't speak to her. It don't because she's nagging, she constantly does her best to make me feel bad, the guilt trips, the shaming, its just so much work to be around her that its not worth the head ache. I tell her that if she wants me in her life that she needs to work on being a better person. Give me a reason to want to be around you, make it so talking to you is enjoyable, and escape from the harshness of life. But if she were to do that she would have to admit to herself that she's the problem, and she would have to give up ground in the relationship, and she would have to change. That's not something she's willing to do, so now she just sits in her room and cry's and tells everyone how i'm such a horrible son. All i want is for her to speak to me nicely and be respectful, that's it.

          I know what the problem is, in fact I know what most people's problems are in regards to relationships, and that is people treat each other like jukeboxes. They think if they put money in the jukebox, the jukebox will play the song they want to hear, and when the jukebox doesn't play the song people want to hear, they get mad and upset, and feel like they got screwed over and the jukebox must be broken. But the problem isn't the jukebox, the problem is that thing that you think is a jukebox isn't a jukebox, and its not right for you to think that just because you put money in the jukebox you feel that the jukebox now "owes" you. Well news flash people, that thing that you think is a jukebox isn't a jukebox, its a fucking human being.

          For men this money is commitment, this is why beta's get so mad at women when the don't want to be in relationships with them, because they've been putting money in the jukebox and the jukebox isn't playing the song they want to hear, which for them is sex and intimacy. And for women their currency is intimacy, women have sex with a man and expect the jukebox is gonna play the song they want to hear, which for them is commitment, but when the jukebox doesn't play the song, they get pissed and talk about how much men suck.

          Stop treating people like machines, realize that its not up to you whether the women has sex with you, its up to her. Realize that its not up to you if the man commits to you or not, its up to him. Don't ask yourself "how do I get this woman to have sex with me?" ask the question "How do I give this woman what she wants?" And in doing that, she'll want to have sex with you and give you intimacy.

          I wish my mother would realize its not up to her whether she's a part of my life or not, its up to me.

          All I know is if I ever have kids, I can't believe how far ahead of the curve that little fucker will be. Little shit, it took me a lifetime to figure this shit out.

          K done rambling.

          [–]Shagulit 7 points8 points  (0 children)

          Nice. Most comments to this post are surprisingly and entertainingly deluded. But yours in contrast comes across as the reflections of someone who has obviously matured. Good luck with using the power that grants you! Do something meaningful. :-)

          [–]AbstractTallen 5 points6 points  (4 children)

          I was with you up until your third paragraph. Women want money. Women want attention. Women want a lot of things. Men have been giving women these things for a long time with nothing in return. Instead I think the question should be, "How can I practice being assertive and hold frame while considering others?"

          [–]2wiseclockcounter 2 points3 points  (3 children)

          ask the question "How do I give this woman what she wants?" And in doing that, she'll want to have sex with you and give you intimacy.

          If that's not the most blatant contradiction to everything you said before it. That's some blue pill bullshit wrapped up in a wordy red wrapper. Idk what kinda trip you're on judging by the weird passive aggression you replied with to /u/AbstractTallen, but to anyone fooled into upvoting this nonsense, there's troves of material around here that will explain why this is fundamentally wrong.

          The nutshell is this: giving a woman "what she wants" is the quickest path to lapdog status if you're basing your assumption on the wrong premise. Being appeasing in nature will kill attraction. This doesn't mean you can never be caring and nurturing, but it's got to come from the proper masculine frame.

          [–]MrBellsprout123 3 points4 points  (2 children)

          Its all about understanding what they want. Do ya feel me? A child wants candy, that doesn't mean you're going to feed jolly ranchers to your child for dinner. Your women thinks she wants you to taker her out to a fancy dinner and put up with her bullshit, that doesn't mean that you should, for your sake, and for hers. You're mis-interpreting what I mean when I say give a woman what they want. If you don't understand idk how I can make you.

          Women want to be put in their place, a woman wants your to be in charge, a woman wants to be with a man that she can trust to, and so I ask myself "how do I give her what she wants. How do I be in charge, how do I put her in her place, how can she trust me".

          Typically the answer to these questions is maintaining a good physique, a good social circle, calling her out on her shit, not spoiling her, making her work for your attention and commitment. She wants to work for your attention, she wants to see you as a challenge, she doesn't want you to just give her everything she thinks wants, its a game to her. That's what she really wants. The thrill of the challenge.

          Its complicated, but you have to look past the surface and see the things she wants for what they really are.

          [–]2wiseclockcounter 4 points5 points  (1 child)

          ok, word. gotta say though, the clarification was needed given the way you originally worded it. I'd probably call all that "what she needs" instead of "what she really wants". Cuz you can't just go by what they ask for.

          [–]InChargeMan 22 points23 points  (36 children)

          Once you are far into TRP you will realize that the musings of your women is in itself an entertainment not a source of stress.

          [–][deleted]  (30 children)


            [–]InChargeMan 18 points19 points  (29 children)

            My point stands. If she goes into a rant and your blood pressure goes up, you aren't there yet.

            [–]bluedrygrass 7 points8 points  (2 children)

            But you're so wrong. Only a masochist would enjoy a perpetually whining bitch. And if your bitch whines perpetually, it's her fault, not yours.

            And if you enjoy it, there's something wrong with you, too. Certainly you shouldn't be happy to waste time that way.

            You give off purplepill vibes, mixing up rep pill concepts with blue pill behaviours like man blaming.

            [–][deleted]  (19 children)


              [–]InChargeMan 5 points6 points  (0 children)

              Yep, sometimes it's fun seeing how you can get the hamster to change directions at your will. Once you understand that their brains work differently, you understand that to a certain extent it is just in their nature, not a characteristic intended to offend/upset you.

              [–]analyticaltoafault 6 points7 points  (0 children)

              This comment is concise and may seem minor and is not part of the main discussion, BUT, it is incredibly valuable.

              I was cognizant of this in myself after allowing myself to be free from the grasp of a 6 year relationship with a girl I loved but had a bad (abandoned by father/narcissistic mother/narcissistic herself) upbringing.

              I used to be independent and confident and healthy and had many people in my life that loved me. I had a very strong will and would have confirmation biased the shit out of Marcus Aurelius's Meditations had I read it when I was a kid and teenager. Body and mind were rock solid. Life was good.

              Then my identity fell apart and it took splitting with her to build myself up again and I struggled for a bit as I KNEW what needed to get done, and KNEW I used to think that way, but had to keep drilling it in since I also knew I wasn't confidently believing it as I had when I was a kid.

              I was lucky to be self aware and mindful of this as it was happening as it hastened my improvement. So, to those reading, be aware. Look at your worst qualities with an objective and secure eye. Doing so only makes you better and if it feels bad to do so, THAT is what is truly bad.

              [–]TyrannyVengeance 3 points4 points  (4 children)

              Its not a rant, its the incessant fucking talking, and my blood pressure doesn't go up, but a mute button would be nice sometimes. Sometimes its great, but fuck does it ever stop?

              No. she's a sweetheart though, and its really just a me not wanting to talk 24/7 I ignore it since its my character flaw.

              [–]InChargeMan 2 points3 points  (2 children)

              Well, for me, I would say "You're mouth has a lot of energy today! I can't let that go to waste." Then move her to a private location and receive a BJ.

              [–]TyrannyVengeance 1 point2 points  (1 child)

              That works when it works. Logistically its not always a possibility unfortunately.

              [–][deleted] 16 points17 points  (4 children)

              If women do not have drama they will create it

              [–]InChargeMan 8 points9 points  (0 children)

              Yep, they are at the forefront of the maker movement. :)

              This is why you need to be generating the feels, they are addicted to the dopamine rush.

              [–]lodro points points [recovered]

              Make Him Comfortable

              Have him lean back in a comfortable chair or suggest he lie down in the bedroom. Have a cool or warm drink ready for him. Arrange his pillow and offer to take off his shoes. Speak in a low, soft, soothing and pleasant voice. Allow him to relax - unwind.

              About as close as you can get to saying "suck his dick" in that era

              [–][deleted] 49 points50 points  (28 children)

              Lmao, my wife literally does her best to do the exact opposite of all these. Then always asks me why I just hang out in our room on my phone, or why I need to go to the store.

              [–]Endorsed Contributorvandaalen 120 points121 points  (2 children)

              So when do you plan to divorce?

              [–]dancingkungfy 10 points11 points  (0 children)

              You have no control of your own house. You should not be banished to life in your room in your own home. My advise to you is, either make your entire a comfortable living space for you or get a divorce. I hate to break it to you but you are living in despair right now. I know because I used to be you before.

              You need a heavy dose of RP in your life right now

              [–]Rogdozz 15 points16 points  (7 children)

              How bad is it? Is she literally not working at all?

              [–][deleted] 15 points16 points  (6 children)

              She's a bank teller, and has no other aspersions to do anything with her life other than play with our kids.

              [–]angryguy4444 16 points17 points  (0 children)

              has no other aspersions to do anything with her life other than play with our kids.

              But doesn't feminism say women shouldn't act like that?

              [–][deleted]  (2 children)


                [–]2wiseclockcounter 5 points6 points  (1 child)

                now i'm really curious, what words did you choose? Doesn't seems like an easy ultimatum to float successfully.

                [–][deleted] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

                "im gonna have a thin wife who contributes"

                [–]George_Rockwell 3 points4 points  (1 child)

                has no other aspersions to do anything with her life other than play with our kids.

                You're a lucky man then. This is what we should be fighting for.

                [–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

                I said play not take care of, was trying to be subtle. It worked.

                [–]mananlak 5 points6 points  (14 children)

                Just do it man, don't just stay for the kids. Obviously I don't know anything about your situation at all, but you'll do a hell of a lot better being a father if you're happy and strong willed, and hopefully pass down good traits to them. Being stuck in a shitty marriage is no fun for anyone, and imprints that same shitty idea of marriage into the child's brain.

                Just my 2 cents, can't really speak much as to what you're experiencing.

                [–][deleted] 14 points15 points  (9 children)

                Yeah, I honestly really don't know what to do lol. I'm in a state of perpetual hate. She says she's trying (now after 7 years) to change, but a lot of damage has been done. She blew up after the kids and her body is just fucking wrecked and I honestly have to force myself to try and be attracted to her. She won't help keep the house clean (I used to deep clean the house every week on my days off, but I literally just don't give a fuck and don't help clean at all anymore) even though I work and commute about 20 hours more then her a week. I used to try and help motivate her, but I just don't care anymore. She has literally made me hate the female sex. It's gotten so bad that I don't even look at porn/jerk off anymore cause it just makes me depressed to know I'm never gonna get to be with an attractive woman again lol. My life is basically fucked.

                [–]mananlak 9 points10 points  (0 children)

                Sent you a PM. Hope you can work things out.

                [–]LessASnowmanThanAGod 8 points9 points  (0 children)

                Allow me to be the one person to say don't trash your marriage quite yet - it seems to me like you're pretty much resigned to it anyways, though. Now is the time for dread game - if she doesn't care enough to get herself together to save the marriage, well, then it's time to ship out.

                [–]FourLetterIGN 4 points5 points  (0 children)

                Sure ya can. Sounds like you are unhappy in your marriage. Not worth keeping it around. Become a better single man (secure, buff, and not reek of I'm Trying to Pick Up Chicks) and before you know it you'll be with an attractive lady.

                [–]layerofpipe 0 points1 point  (1 child)

                I'm in the same boat bro. You're not alone. I'm sticking around to be a father to my 2 sons.

                [–]dancingkungfy 3 points4 points  (0 children)

                Don't do it. You can be around for them post divorce. It has been done before because I do it. Don't ever stay because of the kids.

                [–]Calebrox124 2 points3 points  (2 children)

                don't just stay for the kids.

                And continue letting that woman raise children? Not the best idea…

                [–]mananlak 1 point2 points  (0 children)

                That's why you work in advance with a lawyer and drop the proceedings down immediately. Lock that shit down and get primary or at least half custody. Establish yourself as the primary caregiver and all that.

                But I'd rather be divorced and happy to raise and influence those children then be miserable and married to that hag.

                [–][deleted]  (5 children)


                [–]griff_tannen 36 points37 points  (2 children)

                This is basically word for word from one of those chain emails, so I doubt OP really saw the book. Here is something a bit more usable. My grandma actually gives a cut out article like this to couples before they get married. http://imgur.com/a/Vd6wS

                [–]elfonite 5 points6 points  (0 children)

                A good wife always knows her place!

                [–]GC0W30 8 points9 points  (0 children)

                ISBN didn't really exist until the late '60s, and it didn't get much traction until the '70s.

                We're going to need to get publisher, author, title to track this one down.

                If my first wife had just read this and internalized it, I would never have met a divorce attorney, that's for damned sure.

                [–]longschlong12 22 points23 points  (5 children)

                My Mother and grandmother do most of what OP has written all the time (my mother not anymore, go figure). Always thought this was what a women naturally did, take care of their husband and shut the fuck up for at least an hour after he comes back home.

                Of course this type of woman is close to extinct in western culture. The points are great to determine the value of a prospective LTR.

                [–]thatwaseasy247 9 points10 points  (4 children)

                So are women supposed to go to work, contribute to the household income and do all things on the list? Or are they supposed to stay home and do the things on the list? Just trying to figure out what it is that men want.

                [–]Albertolox 20 points21 points  (2 children)

                Basic advise for both men and women. Basically try to give 2 shits about the other person

                [–]Endorsed ContributorBluepillProfessor 13 points14 points  (1 child)

                Men obviously care about women. When the bullets start to fly the men scramble atop their frigid, sex denying harpies and take the bullets. When the ship is sinking the men sing 'Nearer to God My thee" while the women stretch out on their lifeboats. Women don't care about men but obviously care about what men can do for them. Men are utilities to women so asking them to give 2 shits about them is totally contrary to their nature.

                [–][deleted] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

                We threw out the wisdom of our grandparents, and now many marriages fail, or are miserable.

                [–]Expectations1 4 points5 points  (0 children)

                This is because an average job back in the day was some fkn coal mine getting black lung. If you have to put up with a bad wife too...well...

                [–][deleted] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

                tl;dr - show him you give a fuck. A tall order for today's "modern woman".

                [–]emanresumy 20 points21 points  (0 children)

                A family that does weed together,stays together.
                Blowjobs are a great distraction from your minor trysts and affairs.
                Video games are a great substitute for conversations.

                [–]HeinousFu_kery 13 points14 points  (4 children)

                Unfortunately the source for this is pretty doubtful:


                As is this (fortunately):


                [–]BeholdTheHair 4 points5 points  (0 children)

                I gotta' say, the list of Dos and Don'ts taken from the actual text in the first link seem to me perfectly reasonable suggestions. They're not proscribing a particular behavior or demeanor the way the fabricated list does, just offering solid general advice on how to appreciate what are presumably the positive qualities of one's husband.

                Naturally, even this has the Snopes writer wringing his hands over the "regressive" values on display. I particularly like how he casually loops contented housewives in with those who would necessarily be shocked and outraged by such material. Projection is a hell of a drug.

                [–][deleted] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

                We don't want to believe any woman, even half a century ago, was willing to submit herself to a life of servitude

                Into the fucking trash it goes

                [–]Cmfanel 12 points13 points  (1 child)


                They are bought liberal shills

                [–]coffee_34 4 points5 points  (0 children)

                God bless those lucky men.

                Now we're expected to do everything, never complain, never expect anything, and basically be slaves.

                [–]TRP VanguardHumanSockPuppet 1 point2 points  (0 children)

                Not a bad find. You should cross post this over at RPW.

                [–]esirnus18 2 points3 points  (0 children)

                damn if my wife did all of this to me I wouldn't even mind if she fucked the mailman.

                [–]GoldenApple23 2 points3 points  (0 children)

                Yeah, this applies to either gender, and anyone not working should probably do this for their spouse. If I came home to this treatment at the end of my work week, holy shit.

                [–]davie18 2 points3 points  (0 children)

                Did you not get this from the howard stern show? I was watching an old episode before and he read something exactly like this, but he did say he got it from somewhere else.

                [–]stemgang 2 points3 points  (0 children)

                Sounds very pleasant.

                Pleasantness is the thing feminists most want to scourge from the earth.

                [–]Ayyylookatme 2 points3 points  (1 child)

                Wow. This sounds amazing. Is this what Donald Trump means by making America great again? Cause if so, he has my reelection vote.

                [–][deleted] 12 points13 points  (9 children)

                If you were in a middle class family where one income could support the household. This was possible and did occur for some lucky few. But if you were lower middle class or lower class, both parents likely had to work in some form or manner. Lots of women were married and nurses and worked three to four twelve hour shifts a week. Often at night, so they could sleep while the kids were at school. With the husband working at a factory or as a cop or fireman. It just depended where you lived.

                Nowadays, I wouldn't want my wife to stay home with the kids. I'd rather know she's at work than having free time I don't. As a guy who has fucked married women. Each and every one of them was "stay at home moms." Too much free time to have their own fun while their husbands killed themselves to pay the bills.

                [–]Endorsed Contributorvandaalen 13 points14 points  (1 child)

                This was possible and did occur for some lucky few.

                Bullshit. That was the norm not the exception.

                [–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

                Agreed. There simply weren't that many jobs available for women.

                We didn't used to have all of these bullshit clerical office jobs.

                [–]WreckFourTwenty 4 points5 points  (0 children)

                I wish my wife would have been taught this in school.

                [–]CrestfallenWolf 3 points4 points  (1 child)

                Make YOUR home a place where HE can rest. (And get back to work) LoL that last paragraph says it all. >.<

                [–]prostateExamination 3 points4 points  (1 child)

                i kind of expect this when i get home. minus the dinner. coming home shouldn't be an ugh, fuck that. you should want to go home at the end of the day.

                [–]InChargeMan 4 points5 points  (0 children)

                Thanks to u/griff_tannen it is apparent that your backstory is bullshit. Please present evidence to the contrary. Why be a little bitch and make shit up?

                [–]Fedor_Gavnyukov 1 point2 points  (0 children)

                my mom always told me that a wife/girlfriend needs to be taught how to be a wife/girlfriend

                [–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

                The "offer to take off his shoes" had me laughing out loud! Feminists would would flip their shit if they saw this lmao

                [–]Short-changedChad 1 point2 points  (0 children)

                How funny it is that SJW feminazi cunts wear glasses and clothing in styles that were fashionable when these tips for being a good wife were

                It's almost like they want to go back to a time when men were the prize...

                [–]ShavedApel 1 point2 points  (0 children)

                Someone please make a 2016 edition of this.

                [–]Luckyluke23 1 point2 points  (0 children)

                man, i just got a boner reading that. then i remembered it was from 1950.

                it saddens me to this day a women doesn't know how to do ANY of these things.

                [–]stillphat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

                I mean, if you're at home all day, wtf else are you doing? Not that I'm a red piller, but serious shit, man or woman, if you're not, at the very least, comforting the one who goes out to bust ass(assuming they're doing that), wtf are you actually doing with your time?

                This is more to do with being a fair spouse than anything.

                [–]mildly_sexy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

                Man, that sounds like heaven. Imagine the zen, the relaxation. If you came home and there were no problems, complaints, chores for me to do, screaming kids....it would actually bring me to tears

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