Uncle Vasya here with your Thursday reminder: Think HORIZONTALLY, not VERTICALLY.
This is especially true for n00bs, recovering ‘Nice Guys’, and guys exiting Monk Mode.
You should be doing multiple approaches and engaging multiple women (i.e. thinking 'horizontally'). If a girl is into you, great. If she’s not responsive after a reasonable amount of time or interaction, then move on. Any further investment is wasted. It gets you nowhere and can create a sense of “entitlement” that we sometimes see among ‘Nice Guys’ who keep investing and investing and investing in the same girl (i.e., thinking 'vertically') who “likes him as a friend”, but nothing more. Eventually, he will 'win' the right to become her 'Orbiter-in-Chief', which makes him the Mayor of her "Friend Zone". If you start getting that from girls then withdraw your attention, and move on.
The problem we see with ‘Nice Guys’ is they build up some bluepill rom-com fantasy in their heads and think that if they Just Stick Around Long Enough, and Put The Work In, eventually, the objects of their LURRRVE will each give him that 10th Stamp on his ‘Nice Guy’ card and then, according to the Rules of the Hottie Union, she will finally be able to give him All The Sex He Deserves!
Life doesn’t work that way.1 Whilst the ‘Nice Guy’ is busy with his ‘Boyfriend Audition’, the chick is off fucking some Outlaw Biker or Escaped Mental Patient. The difference is that those dudes made their intentions clear. If you’re waiting for her to ‘realize’ that the two of you are ‘perfect together’, forget it.
Fun Fact: Faint Heart Never Fucked Fair Lady
If you’re not getting “buy” signals or IOI’s or whatever, and those do not lead to you closing the deal, i.e., PiV, then it’s time to bail. And it doesn’t matter “why”. If she gives you LJBF, you already have enough friends. She is really saying she wants you to orbit her, validate her, pay her way, and NOT have sex with her. Maybe she’s involved with another dude. Fine, there are lots of women who aren’t. Maybe she wants to ride the Cock Carousel for the next 10 years until the journey ends and the announcer bellows, “Wall Station! Everybody off!” Hey, if she wants to train to be an emotionally broken, future Cat Colonist, that’s not your problem. Mosey on down the road.
Bottom Line: A woman doesn't "owe you" her body, but you don't "owe her" your time, attention or resources. If you're not getting what you want it's time to bail.
Now go forth and slay.
1 Well, it does, sometimes…15-20 years later. Once the chick has racked up a heavy N-count on the CC and needs a dad for her 4 kids by 3 different fathers, and her SMV has hit the WallSPLAT! head-on. But I digress. And you don’t want that shit, anyway.