Gonna be a short one brothers. This is gonna be for the guys that are going into LTRs
swallowing the Pill, and a general reminder.
9 months ago,
destroyed a relationship with a woman who was into me big time. At the time, I thought that being confident, indifferent and aloof was what she really wanted, and to a degree that is very much true. But the reality is, that I was scared of Hypergamy
and it stopped me from showing my
who I was as a person. I thought that if I was always Alpha, she would love me for it, but the reality is that women need to pair bond with you at a point. You need to understand that the more a woman falls for you, the more she wants of you. There is a point where you need to feed her the Beta side of you. Over Dreading your girl will cause her to close up emotionally... and it is far, far harder to open her back up again compared to standing up to a Shit-Test.
You must find a middle-ground. The more your SO is into you, the more you can be emotional to her. However, you over do it and she'll feel like you don't care about her and
she'll protect her emotions first over her attraction to you.
This is primarily for LTRs, but the same applies to a Plate that
want to keep around. Women are not inherently sluts, they will want love from Chad. If you don't give it to her, she'll find someone that can.
Have self-respect, but don't be a cold fish to her. While her attraction will grow, you're lack of emotional availability will cause her to resent you. Balance is key for an LTR.
Another note: The difference between a Shit-Test and a Comfort-Test can be incredibly subtle. If she's insecure, it's a Comfort-Test. This is why crazy insecure and BPD women are a yo-yo between Alpha and Beta and are not stable relationships.