When this guy originally posted, he was distraught to find out that his wife of five years secretly had an abortion a year into their marriage. She claimed "finances" were the reason she had the abortion.
Her reason was our finances. But that doesn't really fly with me because we could have taken care of our baby and our parents would certainly have helped us if we asked.
She does show regret.
Of course this is a stupid reason, and a few of the comments said that she likely cheated on him. And lo and behold:
She cheated on me too
Despite these developments, a fair number of comments were shaming OP for wanting to do anything besides take her back in open arms like nothing happened.
Leave her?! You're Catholic, for goodness sake!
Talk to your priest, talk to Jesus, talk to her but for the LOVE OF GOD don't even let divorce into your mind. That's you talking to Satan.
Best of luck and God bless! I will pray for you tonight.
well not sure why you're so offended by her sin while you're planning your own. Honestly, her sin is between her and God. It's not your job to judge her. I understand being sad about the loss of your child but to judge her so harshly that you would divorce her is pretty low. Let he who is without sin cast the first stone.
Please do not leave her, OP. With this on her soul she needs you more than ever. Help her work towards forgiveness. You have the unique position as her husband to guide her to where she needs to be.
There will always be white knights in any thread like this, but what's concerning is that not all of these comments were downvoted, as some of them have double digit positive comment scores. It pisses me off that people are claiming that OP is as bad as his wife just for thinking about leaving her when she cheated on him and had an abortion.
This one comment seemed to talk some sense into OP, I hope he listens to it:
[OP], I read your post and followup comments where you admitted that your wife also cheated on you. My advice: seek out an annulment immediately. This should be easy because she's already broken two of the requirements of the marriage: pledging loyalty to your spouse until death, and being open to children. At first, she blamed finances for aborting the child, but trickle truth later revealed the purpose of the abortion was to cover up an affair, so you have to wonder, what else is she hiding from you? How many other men besides the one she admitted has she slept with throughout the duration of your marriage?
I know this is difficult for you and you may be tempted to forgive her, as you have been married to her for five years and you likely felt you've had an otherwise happy marriage, but you are only setting yourself up for further anger and grief if you stay with her. From the fact that she cheated on you, it's clear she doesn't respect you. How can you trust this woman to be the mother of your child when it's so clear she has no respect for human life? What if she cheats on you again, gets pregnant, and dupes you into raising the milkman's kid?
Get an annulment, and get an STD test since she's admitted to sleeping with other men while you were still married and presumably sexually active. I know this is tough to swallow, but it is for the best, and you will regret it later down the road if you don't. [OP], you're in my prayers, and I wish the best for you.
I couldn't have said it better myself. I like how this poster also raised the point that it's likely she will cheat again and OP will end up raising Chad's fucktrophy. Unfortunately, some other comment wrote a story too long to quote here about how his wife cheated on him some years back, and he forgave her and is now all dopey and happy since they have a kid, and there's a photo in the post of the cuck and his whore of a wife. OP's response is just sad:
I was laying here ready to call a divorce attorney in the morning until I read this. You have a beautiful family. And if I can take a picture like that for myself one day, I think this all will have been worth it.
So despite his wife admitting to cheating and covering it up with an abortion, he's willing to raise a family with her? I really hope OP rereads some of the more level-headed comments and gets the balls to leave his whore of a wife. Additionally, it really concerns me that divorce is painted as something so evil and sinful, yet they're telling OP to overlook his wife's adultery and abortion.
I'm Catholic, but shit like this really pisses me off. I worry that if I ever get married in the future and my wife were to cheat on me, I might have an asshole priest that refuses to grant an annulment. Fuck that, if I was in that situation, I would leave the church before being a cuckold. Between this and the pope downplaying the problem with fundamental Islamic terrorism, I'm really getting fed up with the church.