Red Pill Theory5 Simple, Fun & Cheap Date Ideas + How To Build An Interesting Life (self.TheRedPill)

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In my part of the world, 99% of men go on low-effort and repetitive dates that boil down to:

  • Drinks

  • Food

  • Movies

In terms of variety, the bar isn't that high where I'm from. So, if these date ideas sound mundane to you, sorry.

That said, even going skydiving won't save you if you're a boring cunt. So, having a personality is more important than whatever it is you're doing. Just so long as you're doing something even mildly engaging.


Some of you are like me. TRP is your first ever introduction into the world of dating, so every. fucking. thing. is an unknown.

But what you do know is this:

  • You already know (I hope) that dinner and/or movies don't cut it.

  • You already know (I hope) that dates should be activity-based.

  • You already know (I hope) that dates should be cheap to avoid BB.

That said, what the fuck do you do?

The TRP response would be to build "an interesting life" to "bring her into." But you might be like me and not have one yet.

And that's a long-term solution to the short-term problem of not yet fucking that HB8 you met last week.

5 Simple, Fun & Cheap Date Ideas:

  1. Have a picnic outside.

You can cook. She can cook. You can both cook to compare recipes and see who's the better chef.

If you're cooking, have her contribute something. Tell her to bring the plates/cutlery/wine/tupperware/etc.

  1. Play pool/snooker over drinks.

Most girls I've met can't play. This gives you lots of opportunities for kino in teaching her how to hold the pool stick. It's also pretty fun just to mess around, show off, or make bets.

For drinks, you want to tell her that you're buying the first round, she's got the 2nd round, and so on.

  1. Go swimming.

If you've been lifting, this is great to show off your gains.

Have fun with this. Have a splash fight. Race each other from one end to the other. Compete to touch the bottom of the pool. Bet who can hold their breath underwater the longest.

  1. Watch cartoons.

Looney Toons or Tom & Jerry (Hanna-Barbera era) are great. The best part is there are dozens of episodes, zero continuity and each episode holds up. You don't have to watch the same episodes with every girl you do this with if you don't want to.

Put them on a laptop and watch them in your bedroom. Escalate as you please.

  1. Get some colouring pages, a pack of crayons, and go crazy.

Go here:

  • crayola . com/free-coloring-pages/
  • coloring-book . info/coloring/

Print out 10 colouring pages. Sit on the floor. Start colouring.

NB: Female Disney characters seem to be a crowd favourite.

Getting Her Back To Your Place:

Ideas 1-3 will typically happen outside your place. So, you'll need to move things back to your place to escalate and fuck.

If she's into you, it's honestly as simple as saying "I'm done here. Let's go _____ at my place." Options include:

  • Have ice cream / cake

  • Get wine

  • Make smoothies / ice cream float

If nervous, you can pad your date with a 2nd location.

How? By going to the store to buy whatever it is you mentioned. So, you say "I'm in the mood for __. Let's go to the store real quick."

When you get there, you can roam around a bit and keep chatting. After a while, get what you came for.

Then, you can say: "We need xyz to _____. I've got xyz over at my place."

  • "We'll need spoons to eat this ice cream. I've got spoons over at my place."

  • "We can't drink wine without good music. I've got some great speakers at my place."

  • "We'll need a blender to make smoothies. I've got one at my place."

How To Get More Ideas:

NB: The important thing is that YOU enjoy these places, events, and activities. If you wouldn't do it by yourself for yourself, then drop it.

"Teach a man to fish" and all that.

As TRP advocates seeing girls once every 7-10 days, you now have 5-7 weeks of activities to do with each girl you meet. Probably get 8-10 weeks out of it if you throw in a couple Netflix & Chill dates or cooking together dates.

In that time, get familiar with your local events & business listings. Check them once a week or so.

Ask family, friends, colleagues, and even random strangers if they know any cool events, fun activities or out-of-the-way places in your area.

When you go to any events you enjoy, see if you can meet (and befriend) the organisers. Some event organisers keep lists of emails/phone numbers so they can notify people directly. Ask to be put on there.

If they don't, tell them you can help them out by spreading the word to your family, friends, and colleagues. This will give them a reason to remember and notify you of upcoming events.

When you go to a spot you like, learn the names of the people who work there. Tell them yours, so they will call you by your name.


Over time, you'll start building a list of places, activities, and events that you enjoy. This is partly how (I think) you eventually get to having that "interesting life" that TRP always says you should "pull her into."

Well, at least, I know that I actually go out and do more interesting things now than I did pre-TRP.

[–]BreathOfDick 124 points125 points  (18 children)

Easiest quickest lay I've ever had was making caramel apples at my house. That was the date - "come to my place and we'll make caramel apples it'll be fun".

[–]nsquared5 20 points21 points  (0 children)

The key is to show you are into something you really love. Cooking dishes made by "chef Ramsay" is an awesome timepass for me. It shows when I am doing it and chics dig that!

[–]brinkleybuzz 44 points45 points  (6 children)

Mini golf or a slo pitch batting cage. Lots of kino opportunities when you show her "proper technique". Go-kart racing too.

[–]mistah_michael 49 points50 points  (3 children)

These ideas are better then a coloring book

[–]icanhazTRP 21 points22 points  (1 child)

Unless you can go-kart racing inside your bedroom, where sex can "just happen" after painting with crayons.

[–]Swallowed_the_pill 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Going to buy one of those city carpets you can drive your toy cars on right now!

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So do the coloring book after the other ideas?

[–]benziebawks 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Gun range. Always my go-to as long as it's not a first date.

[–]askmrcia 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Mini golf is my go to during the warmer weather seasons. Colder weather makes me think more, but usually drinks at this bar that has retro arcade games (for free) works well.

But usually it depends on the girl more than anything. Most times I'll just invite them over to my house and say we can pre game or whatever and then head out. Plan to not even head out unless you really want too.

[–]walkingmydog 270 points271 points  (51 children)

Did this man just tell me that coloring in Disney princesses with fucking crayons will get me laid. What the fuck is this place now.

[–]logicalthinker1 29 points30 points  (1 child)

If she's coming over for a coloring book date, she's already dtf.

[–]crimsonkodiak 10 points11 points  (0 children)

If she's coming over for a coloring book date, she's already dtf.

Yes. This. The first/second dates are to convince her you're not a creep/weirdo. Everything after that is just getting her to your place.

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    [–]walkingmydog 0 points1 point  (7 children)

    Its bad advice straight up, i'm 19 that wouldn't work at my age, even a 16 year old girl is gonna laugh at a proposal like that. Even if you're a 9 watch how fast you go to 5 if you ask a girl to come over for a crayons date.

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      [–]walkingmydog 14 points15 points  (3 children)

      You can theorize all day long, at the end of the day its not going to get results in the real world. For 99% of guys here this this is troll advice, and will not help them secure a fuck.

      [–]LaRedPill 16 points17 points  (2 children)

      He is talking past the sale, he is right, tho, if your frame is enough, you can say whatever you want to a girl.

      [–]Buchloe 11 points12 points  (0 children)

      Man I started fucking a die hard feminist, BLM supporter recently. Broke it to her that I voted trump. She about cried. I told her you know you secretly love getting penetrated by the trump tower. How's that cheeto feel? Haha. Then told her that I was gonna put it in her ass. She was like "ok"

      [–][deleted] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

      Frame is key! Saying whatever you want is a great way to display DGAF and putting her in your frame, within reason of course. I thought the crayons were a great idea, it is a creative thing and could potentially be fun but at the same time its not really about the crayons and that has to be conveyed subtly as well. A mistake i see a lot of PUA's do is to go too far and say fex "hey wanna join me for some saskatoon mice flogging? I got a sunlight by the moon" its just too fucked up.

      What's more, consider how you know a girl is attracted to you: fidgeting, attention grabbing, touchy, etc. That was cool the first 100 times, now it is kinda boring right? At least to me, it gets repetitive. It feels like a breeding stable mechanically going through the works.

      But the same is true for girls, they get told every hour how beautiful they are, what great dates they could go on, bla bla. So when a guy pulls these cards out, she can see the entire hand he has and poof there goes your mystery and unpredictability=loss of attraction. But nobody attractive has probably ever asked her to do something silly together. Obviously yeah, if you are not attractive to her then this wont work, it will be creepy in that paradoxical way "It's not rape if he is hot, only if he is ugly". But these 9s respond very well to randomness in my experience.

      [–]whuttupfoo 13 points14 points  (0 children)

      Dawg you guys are amateurs. The point isn't even about the coloring book or crayons. I can tell a girl we can fly kites with our faces printed on it and they'd be excited about it. I've told girls to come over and meditate with me.

      It doesn't matter what you say or do, as long as she is excited about hanging out with you. Both parties know that the coloring book isn't the point, you're just clueless.

      [–]Buchloe 4 points5 points  (0 children)

      Bro, if you frame it right I swear any dumb idea you have will sound fun if you make it so. I've hung out with a chick and turned barbie coloring books into filthy porn comics before and had a blast, I swear.

      [–]Senior EndorsedMattyAnon 61 points62 points  (29 children)

      Did this man just tell me that coloring in Disney princesses with fucking crayons will get me laid. What the fuck is this place now.

      Have you ever tried it?

      Point is that it's fun, simple, and slightly childish, which is therefore perfect.

      It's a fun, silly activity that you can do together, that she'll gradually tire of just as you're physically escalating...

      [–]Trpidation 11 points12 points  (0 children)

      This dude fucking gets it. Doing goofy childish things like that go a long way.

      • Coloring Disney princesses makes you not take yourself too fucking seriously.
      • "girls just wanna have fun" There is wisdom in this song.
      • You're coloring in Disney princesses which is something she's never done with a guy before, pretty much guaranteed. And women are bored. Give her something new and interesting because that's all she really wants.
      • it's a fun story for her to tell, which also raises your value since it raises hers socially. She can then tell a story to her friends that will get her attention, and you are the one who provided her with that experience.
      • women are children.

      This isn't exclusive to mickey's princess club. Doing anything childish and silly with a girl is bound to get her to drop her ever-prickly defenses which society's given her and get her having fun with you. Swinging on swings at the playground. Bumper cars. Sticking your tongue out at her in a public place. Fucking whatever, just as long as it's something childish.

      True self masters know when to lower their guard and have fun, and when they need to be super alpha and take care of fucking business.

      [–]metalhead4 33 points34 points  (27 children)

      Yeah still fucking no...

      I mean maybe if you're dating that's a good idea but I'm not some weirdo whose gonna invite you to colour fucking books with me.

      I'm a man. I ride motorcycles. I listen to heavy metal. I work all day. I don't colour fucking books are you serious?!

      [–][deleted] 105 points106 points  (1 child)

      If you're such a hard ass that you can't lighten up long enough to show some chick you know how to play, then no fucking wonder you're here. Jesus.

      [–]Senior EndorsedMattyAnon 50 points51 points  (18 children)

      I'm a man. I ride motorcycles. I listen to heavy metal. I work all day. I don't colour fucking books are you serious?!

      Oh come now.... picture it: you're sitting with her, leather jacket strewn across the table, heavy metal playing, while you do colouring books with your tattooed forearms a constant reminder of who you really are.

      The contrast is delicious for women.

      [–]PissedPajamas 25 points26 points  (5 children)

      The "I want a bad boy with a soft side" wet dream

      [–]ghee99 -5 points-4 points  (4 children)

      this is a myth, perpetuated by beta men, who cant go full Alpha, but want to make it ok in their mind that they're still wussies.

      they pretend like their weak side is a plus to women.

      here a wake up call for you (if you think that it is a plus) its not a plus.

      granted, based on how so many men are full wussies, if you are only half-wussy, many women will take what they can get and accept half-measures.

      but there is no way that a bad boy with a soft side will ever be more desirable to a woman than an unapologetic 100% bad boy

      [–]PissedPajamas 16 points17 points  (3 children)

      "Bad boy with a soft side" is womanspeak for an alpha man that knows exactly when to drop his guard and let her see a chink in his armor on purpose. Showing some kind of weakness helps create a rounder personality and makes the person all the more approachable/attainable, in my case I wear glasses over contacts and make jokes about my blindness, and since I'm lactose intolerant I play around with my allergies too.

      This mainly applies to dating theory, for casual lays go Chad mode, but since I enjoy relationships I "soften" up my rugged exterior to reveal I'm a normal guy

      [–]ghee99 1 point2 points  (2 children)

      no, "bad boy with a soft side" is not some secret woman code.

      other than, code for her settling.

      i mean, whether you use my example of Dirty Harry or some other true Alpha male, none of them are sociopaths who cant be tender, romantic, sexual with a woman.

      but NONE of them are "soft" and NONE of them would ever have a date with an adult woman which would involve him inviting her to color with crayons.

      [–]Ochreata 3 points4 points  (1 child)

      Could be wrong but I'm guessing it's an age thing... I'm too fucking old to play with crayons, that's fucking embarrassing. Rather have her put a few bolts into a bike engine being rebuilt or something....

      [–]ghee99 4 points5 points  (0 children)

      sure, if she likes that sort of thing

      otherwise, years ago, i used to be (slightly) brainwashed by feminism, and think that there was something wrong with expecting a woman to cook, or do "womanly things"

      but having been in several long-term relationships, i found through trial and error, that 99.999% of the time, a woman is HAPPIEST when she can be the woman, and cook, and keep the house, dress femininely, and decorate (and yes, please her man sexually), stuff like that.

      and sure... even if she is handy, she'll be happiest when the man does the "manly" things like fix things around the house, work on the car, etc.

      In fact, these roles arent arbitrary or accidental, they have been that way for thousands of years in nearly all cultures because they work

      As male and female, thats how we're hard-wired.

      So sure... a first date is a first date, but generally speaking, if its a picnic, having her make the sandwiches is best. and if you're with a woman on a date, and you get a flat tire, just fix it yourself, as the man should.

      Anyway, i do believe its best for the man to do the man things, the woman should do the female things, and neither one should be doing things like coloring with crayons.

      Too many young people are extending childhood well into their 30s. If you're 18 and not in college, get your own place, your own job, and take care of yourself

      and if you're in college, you can be dependent on your parents till thats done, but once you graduate, get a god damn job, and take care of yourself.

      Even if you have a degree, and cant find a job in your field yet, start flipping burgers at mickie Ds if you have to. Once you're out of college its time to be a MAN, and its time to leave baby things behind (in other words, no coloring books, no playing pokemon, no living with your parents like a child, none of that until you've taken care of being independent first)

      Studying how to pick up women, or be Alpha, while you live at home as an adult, is never going to work. Sure, Alpha Male theory is fine, lifting is cool, too ...but you need to take the basic actions to be a man FIRST. And you know what the #1 action to take to be a man is? get a job and get your own place.

      Anyway... not saying any of that is you, just putting it out there for all those computer jockeys living at home on their parent's dime and dispensing "wisdom" on how to be an "Alpha Male".

      [–]ghee99 -1 points0 points  (5 children)


      Look, let me explain it to you you in simple terms.

      In regard to dating, just think "would Clint Eastwood do this on a date?"

      (and if you need claificaton, think Clint Eastwood as Dirty Harry)

      So, when you have the idea of asking a women on a date to do crayon coloring in a coloring book, just think "Would Dirty Harry be laying out crayons for his date, arranging coloring books, and preparing for his woman like that?"

      Do that, and the answer as to whether or not you should have a crayon coloring book date will become obvious.

      [–]Senior EndorsedMattyAnon 7 points8 points  (1 child)

      "would Clint Eastwood do this on a date?"

      I don't take my lead from fiction.

      just think "Would Dirty Harry be laying out crayons for his date, arranging coloring books, and preparing for his woman like that?"

      This comes down to what you want. If you want to do the whole "me alpha, you girl" thing, then your approach is great. If it works for you, awesome.

      I like girls who are relaxed and fun and enjoy anything so long as they do it with me. I date on that basis.

      [–]ghee99 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)


      not everyone can be Alpha

      some people self-improve a little, and then are happy to settle

      i was just saying, for those trying to be their all time best selves, there are better ways of doing things.

      as for "I don't take my lead from fiction"

      hey thats cool. but i would suggest you look into archetypes, what they are, what is the importance of myth, and how the great truths are passed down through fiction

      So sure... Dirty Harry is fiction, but he is also an empowering mythic character from which all men who wish to live to their own truth, and not just bend to society's pressures, can learn from.

      If you want to learn about such thing, Joseph Campbell is a great starting point

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          [–]metalhead4 -2 points-1 points  (5 children)

          Lol I don't have any tattoos and I ride sport bikes not Harleys. Wrong image. But I haven't coloured a book since I was a child and I have slept with many women without opening a colouring book.

          [–]Senior EndorsedMattyAnon 11 points12 points  (3 children)

          Noone is saying a colouring book is necessary or sufficient!

          [–]CosbyTeamTriosby 12 points13 points  (1 child)

          You had me until your last paragragh. I consider myself a lot more evolved as a man now than when I let my motorcycle and heavy metal music define me. Looking back, I was a lost tool when I tried to make those things (or any external thing for that matter) define me.

          [–]Buchloe 12 points13 points  (1 child)

          Dude the point is, you're doing whatever the fuck you want. If you think coloring books aren't manly, then don't do it. But I say a real man with no other good ideas can bust out a coloring book, and still come across as a man that knows how to show a girl a fun time. Don't hate just cuz u ain't man enough to handle crayons like a pimp

          [–]whuttupfoo 7 points8 points  (0 children)

          Don't hate just cuz u ain't man enough to handle crayons like a pimp

          Fuck yeah dude you tell em!

          [–]LethalShade 3 points4 points  (0 children)

          Still plugged in buddy, shame.

          [–]InfiniteAscent 6 points7 points  (1 child)

          To be able to pull this off is incredible. It seems like it would be a very special kind of situation to even suggest it, but once they're in you'll be doing something no guy has ever done with her.

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            [–]Degener0 4 points5 points  (0 children)

            Unlike what the movie Showgirls would have you believe, sex on a bed feels 1000x better than a pool. Only fun part of the pool sex is the conquering in a public place.

            [–]cxj 4 points5 points  (0 children)

            Have you seen the Disney obsession of grown adults on Instagram, tumblr etc over the past few years? I find his idea highly plausible

            [–]cryptoreporter 0 points1 point  (0 children)

            deleted What is this?

            [–]invisiblearmies 21 points22 points  (0 children)

            dates should be activity-based.

            It blows my goddamn mind how readily this advice is ignored. I can almost guarantee nobody has asked her to do anything physical on a date before. Take advantage. Make her sweat.

            Go play tennis. Tell her you're going on a jog with the dog- ask her to join. Invite her to go rock climbing. Take her out on the lake canoeing. Whatever. Just get her active.

            If you are even decently active you can get away with looking fit and generating some interest going on an active date. Hell, if you aren't doing these things as a hobby anyway you should strongly consider. Active hobbies pay you back in dividends.

            [–]HoffAmazing 17 points18 points  (1 child)

            Anyone in the Washington DC area, you literally have 100s of free dates every single day but especially on the weekends if you work full time. The National Gallery is my go-to.

            [–]1mr_nate_ 36 points37 points  (2 children)

            I always advocate for "active dates" -- in other words, the opposite of sitting in a movie theater staring at a screen in silence. Your first date/interaction often determines how that girl will view you going forward. Exciting? or stale?

            1. Geocaching: Nearly 100% free, aside from gas money and occasional park fees. Look it up, get a good app, and go explore. For this date to be successful you DO need a good set of talking skills & kino to keep things spicy, but even if you haven't developed these it's a good place to start.

            2. Trampolines/"Airsports": Pretty cheap, fun, and most importantly TRENDY date. The places I take chicks to have trampolines, rock climbing with foam pits, high jumps into foam, gymnastic type shit, and other obstacles. This date offers a lot of opportunity for kino.

            3. Go-Kart Racing: Exciting as fuck, but personally I just enjoy that shit. I'm probably a bit biased since I have one easily accessible to me, but this one's always successful. pair it up with a quick cheap bite to eat and then head back to your place.

            4. Gun Range: Is there anything more manly than guns? Soak her panties with adreniline. I wouldn't take a girl to the gun range if you have NO experience with guns, because the point is to "teach" her and guide her and all that shit. Once again I'm probably biased because I have a free hook-up to the range.

            5. Ice Skating/Roller Blading: Come on, it's CHEAP - and kino galore, lots of embarrassed laughing.

            6. Arcade?: I've never brought a chick to an arcade, but I've met chicks at arcades with my friend. If you've been lifting like you should and aren't autistic, you'll be the top dog here no doubt. Literally all I had to do one time was beat this chick in an Initial D racing bullshit, and she asked for my number. Potential date?

            7. Bowling: Kind of stale unless you're in a group -- BUT find yourself a good, energetic group and it'll be a fun cheap blast.

            8. Paintball: Get a group together and go. It's worth it.


            1. Facebook Search: Nothing happening this weekend? Go on Facebook and scroll through the events page. I've found a bunch of good shit, mostly dope EDM concerts/raves.

            [–]whuttupfoo 8 points9 points  (1 child)

            I think most of these are shit you'd do while in a relationship, not while dating multiple women. You can easily make them believe you want to be in a relationship with this kind of thing and honestly seems like a lot of work. Geocaching is more of a simple one to do. All the rest is too much

            [–]1mr_nate_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

            You're right this is a bit FwB and up

            [–]bzzl 10 points11 points  (1 child)

            LOL "Lets go back to my place, play with crayons, eat icecream and watch cartoons" How old are you?

            [–]ghee99 8 points9 points  (0 children)

            number 4 and 5 sound like pedo dates,

            but hey... i like the picnic one (and swimming, especially if you live near a semi-private swimming pond or lake)

            and yes, playing pool isnt great, just because most pool halls near me (in hollywood/los angeles are kinda gross) but at the right venue, seems like it could be fun

            but seriously... crayons, coloring books and watching cartoons? whats next? a date at the playground and then a trip to the American Girl Doll Store?


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                    [–]1kenpachitz 3 points4 points  (5 children)

                    I just think the "build an interesting life to bring her into" is a bit misguided. My life right now is as boring as you can imagine. I still go to Day2s and close.

                    Interesting. So, how do you go about it?

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                      [–]1htbf 4 points5 points  (2 children)

                      I'm curious, are you extroverted ? I believe OP might be introverted hence the need for activities to carry the date while you don't have anything to say. I liked his post, coffee dates get boring after a while mostly because most girls are boring and don't have any conversation.

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                        [–]1htbf 0 points1 point  (0 children)

                        I'm very fond of self amusing but it doesn't work on every one. There are girls who happily jump aboard and others who are more perplexed.

                        Thanks for the videos.

                        [–]Bendz57 0 points1 point  (0 children)

                        Hate exchanges like this. I stroll on into the thread late as usual and I see what looks like a good debate. Both sides upvoted and all, and one of the parties bombs himself.

                        I wish more people just left their shit as it, mistakes and all. I personally learn more from mistakes than perfection.

                        [–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

                        OP, some of these guys don't seem to understand that you can literally do anything on a date as long as your game and frame is good. The activity won't save you if your game and frame is bad. You could literally take a girl antique shopping and have a fun time. Fucking antique shopping. It's not what you do, it's how you do it.

                        [–]HoffAmazing 0 points1 point  (1 child)

                        This comes off like a keyboard jockey with a fedora.

                        [–]TruBlue 5 points6 points  (1 child)

                        Women fuck the guys they like and go to dinner with the ones they don't. That is all you need to know.

                        [–]pisspoordecisions 2 points3 points  (0 children)

                        Never ask a chick to dinner, ask to grab drinks at happy hour and split the tab...if you're trying to save money there's hundreds of other options, but nothing is easier than this to get a girl to agree on. One of the things preached on here is taking her to multiple venues...bring out the big guns, take her to a few places that are trendy and intimate, if you know what you're doing it's like shooting fish in a barrel from there.

                        [–]masterhan 5 points6 points  (0 children)

                        I always like to go to a concert or show (not club setting necessarily) and see how she acts. It's a good indicator for me because it's an activity that I value a lot and if there's even something small off then pursuing things further isn't worth the time.

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                        [–]casemodsalt 10 points11 points  (1 child)

                        go swimming

                        watch cartoons

                        coloring books

                        I'm trying to date adult women, not children.

                        [–]watermelonpickle 4 points5 points  (0 children)

                        I know you're getting some flack for the coloring book and cartoons thing. But honestly, I pull that kind of shit all the time, I think it's funny, and it seems like a joke, then you actually do it, and it's actually pretty fun. It's fun to find the absolute worst movie you can on Netflix and watch that too (it's Rubber by the way, absolute garbage).

                        I've got a date planned to go build a snowman for fucks sake, it's really pretty fun to do childish shit once in a while. If the girl isn't into it, then oh well, fuck it, I'll do childish shit with someone else.

                        [–]rebirthandrecover 3 points4 points  (0 children)

                        Honestly, my go to in the summer is outdoor flea market. It sounds weird but it is a jackpot. hear me out.

                        You get to walk around and check out random stuff people are selling. It's almost impossible to have a lull in conversation as each booth holds the opportunity for a story, question, or interesting thing to laugh about. It really is a story time goldmine. You can buy little dumb gifts for $5, $1, and they hold sentimental value from your first date. You can also learn a lot about what she likes or gravitates towards. My ex and I had our fortune told by some "teller", we had our picture taken wearing Native American headdresses lol, got to show off a little of my sales skill by negotiating some guy down (pretty easy most people want to get rid of what they have) on a microphone stand, "ohh do you like play in a band?" Why yes as a matter of fact I do. Also people tend to be pretty friendly. You're all outside on a Saturday enjoying the nice weather, talk to the booth owners, make lighthearted small talk with strangers. If she can see you be charming with other people in public, she'll want to be around you because you are a fun guy who people like.

                        By the end of the day, all the ice is broken. You don't even have to ask for the dinner date because you both have been talking about being starving for the past half hour and are on your way to grab dinner.

                        What's easier, sitting down with a stranger over dinner and trying to create topics of conversation out of thin air? With all that pressure? And then pay 100+ bucks for her to say thanks and peace out? Fuck. That.

                        The gas to get to the flea market probably cost more than you both spent there and believe it or not she'll cherish that hand carved wooden flute you bought her for $5.

                        [–]Luckyluke23 2 points3 points  (1 child)

                        2) Play pool/snooker over drinks. Most girls I've met can't play. This gives you lots of opportunities for kino in teaching her how to hold the pool stick. It's also pretty fun just to mess around, show off, or make bets. For drinks, you want to tell her that you're buying the first round, she's got the 2nd round, and so on.

                        i do this like it's going out of fashion. it's GREAT for screening buy the first game, I pretty much know if she is cool or i'm gonna pass on her.

                        [–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

                        I'm leaving my comment on listening to bros alone, it's a stand alone thing. But I'll say hell yes, anything that screens out the buy first is a winner.

                        [–]ChadThundercockII 5 points6 points  (2 children)

                        This post is good, simple, and actionnable insights. thanks OP.

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                          [–]ChadThundercockII 0 points1 point  (0 children)

                          That is exactly what I am doing. Wrnt on keto a week ago. doing plyos and jump rope. Reading and studying to apply for a master's degree. Thinking about changing jobs to make mroe bucks. I am living the lfie I want to live.

                          [–]ghee99 1 point2 points  (0 children)

                          Question for you...

                          do you seriously think that this Alpha male would EVER say...

                          "Hey babe, I have some colouring pages, a pack of crayons, so lets go crazy"

                          I somehow doubt it.

                          C'mon... seriously, nothing wrong with creative dating ideas, but we are men after all, lets have some balls, shall we?

                          [–]MrAnderzon 1 point2 points  (1 child)

                          These date ideas could be used for all types of girls or certain ones?

                          [–]Askada 0 points1 point  (0 children)

                          30+ single mothers only. Because everything works on them.

                          Other than that, are you seriously thinking fucking crayons and tom&jerry is legit idea?

                          [–][deleted] 5 points6 points  (14 children)

                          As a girl... going swimming was the best date ever!

                          [–][deleted]  (12 children)


                            [–]Senior EndorsedMattyAnon 14 points15 points  (6 children)

                            This is perceptive and exactly the right question.

                            The answer is "no" and hence proving that doing what a girl wants isn't necessarily in man's best sexual interests.

                            [–][deleted] 4 points5 points  (4 children)

                            i'm still a virgin (waiting for engagement or marriage), but we went further than I expected to.

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                              [–]PissedPajamas 6 points7 points  (0 children)

                              It was so organic, it felt right

                              [–]Gman777 3 points4 points  (0 children)

                              1,2,4 are basically what you said to avoid. 3,5 make you look either cheap, or like a dumb child.

                              The only bit you got right is that it doesn't matter what you do, and that you can't be boring.

                              [–]poopcasso 3 points4 points  (1 child)

                              You putting too much thought into this. If she wanna meet you, it doesn't fucking matter what you do. Just do something get her home to you and it's fucking time. So anything cuts it. You literally don't need to do shit. She met you cause one or both of two reasons: she wanna fuck and or she wanna be your girl. Either way, you win. It's cool you have ideas but don't tell newbies they NEED to do something special. You basically telling them they ain't putting that pussy on the pedestal. Post like this honestly should be downvoted to hell.

                              [–]alexclarkbarry 0 points1 point  (0 children)

                              I got just he opposite from the post, he is basically saying work generic cookie cutter fun things to do into your life that you can add a girl into without having to alter your routine.

                              [–]sizzlingseveral 0 points1 point  (0 children)

                              playing pool and swimming are personal favourites of mine. I do these on my own/with friends anyways, so I know what I'm doing and enjoy doing them, which helps.

                              [–]Degener0 0 points1 point  (0 children)

                              I died when I read coloring book. People said that it is cool to go for younger women. But damn, at a certain point then you are just a pedo.

                              [–]Degener0 0 points1 point  (0 children)

                              If you are dating fit women, some ideas for the summer are rock-climbing [indoors, plenty kino], swimming [lakes are great], camping [tent fucking], dancing classes [for those who are tired of club sluts], frisbee at a park [picnic], drop-in martial arts [longer term plate, BJJ is tons of kino], motorcycle ride. Seasonal ideas are haunted houses [kino, protector status], christmas lights, cultural festivals. Really, it is not that fucking hard. Women want courtship after the initial fuck. Really though, I like to treat a woman to some fun and night clubs/bars get boring, especially when you are abstaining from alcohol to maintain a well, oiled machine of a body when 30+.

                              You would never catch me using a coloring book to get laid unless for some reason you get stuck in a situation where you are dating a single mom or get interrupted by a niece/nephew. Like, the idea is to have your frame and do things YOU enjoy and she comes along for the adventure.

                              Women love adventure and fun. How many times have you heard "We never go out" before BP from an LTR? Women want adventure.

                              [–]smartengineer93 0 points1 point  (1 child)

                              Not crazy about coloring books. Never going to use that one.

                              I will say, Ikea dates are great for me. Take her there, wander around, let her fantasize about your life together. Personally, I love Ikea - just feel like I'm snooping someone's house and that's enough for me.

                              Let her talk and giggle while she makes up a plan for your future apartment together. Get to the beds, lay down with her and eventually comment how yours is softer. (I've a fucking water bed, never a turn off and in some cases its an intriguing turn on as they have "never fucked on a water bed before.")

                              Finish the date, go home cook dinner then remind her about how soft that bed is.

                              Or just go rock climbing. Bitches love rock climbing.

                              [–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

                              Coloring books and cartoons, is this like a pedos guide to getting laid since this shit is fucking weird

                              [–]Oberyn_Reed 0 points1 point  (1 child)

                              The swimming one sounds great, especially if you know of a desolate swimming hole.

                              [–]SillyPutty47 0 points1 point  (0 children)

                              Take her to Costco and eat the free samples. Plenty of opportunity for touching, flirting, joking, etc.

                              [–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (2 children)

                              can someone tell me or direct me to answers on a stupid question i have... what do you talk about on a date?

                              [–]1kenpachitz 1 point2 points  (1 child)

                              what do you talk about on a date?

                              Just so I know how much I need to elaborate, do you already have fun, interesting conversations outside of dates?

                              [–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

                              tbh, i dont know about fun. im pretty witty and ok with banter and have always been a pretty social and outgoing guy. but i find that i often resort to overly serious topics. what do you want to do with your life, how is your career going. it can very easily bore the girl/guy, and sometimes even ends up being an unintended invitation to make me your emotional tampon /bb. when i read on trp that girls want an adventure, they dont want a nerd or someone who over intellectualizes the shit out of everything i kinda do a double take and have to ask myself if i do that...

                              your post suggests doing things which is always really good. it keeps the date active/the momentum going, and the in between moments are for kino and escalating

                              but the calmer moments / meals / coffee anything like that, idk. pretty board question, theres plenty of content on how alphas should live and improve themselves, but i wish i could see a live example of an alpha casually speaking to a woman. just watching their conversational skills and the subjects they talk about / verbal tactics

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                              [–]1kenpachitz 0 points1 point  (2 children)

                              I'm posting here in order to trigger autists in other areas of reddit.

                              ... OK, I have to ask. How does that work?

                              [–][deleted]  (1 child)


                                [–]1kenpachitz 1 point2 points  (0 children)

                                So, uhh. Welcome to TRP, I guess?

                                [–]InsanityTrack 0 points1 point  (0 children)

                                A lot of people are missing the point on the coloring book dare, you aren't gonna just go up and ask you need to create conversation/banter to set your frame, if you set the frame and ask it'll seem like a joke and if she's into you she will let you lead!

                                [–][deleted]  (5 children)


                                [–]1kenpachitz 6 points7 points  (3 children)

                                You've never dated before TRP? Ever?

                                Yes. Not even once.

                                I had a horrible, horrible oneitis in my teens whose rejection basically castrated me up until I found this sub 2-3 months ago.

                                How common is that here?

                                I've seen a couple of posts where the OP admits to being a 20-something and never kissed, dated, or fucked. I can imagine many lurkers in the same position.

                                So, maybe 1 in 20 or 1 in 30 users? I dunno.

                                You presumably at least have male friends and have seen them go on dates, right? Plenty of ideas there.

                                Yes. Their dates are in the 99% I mention in the OP.

                                The one guy I know who breaks that mould does stuff out of my budget. :-/

                                My ideas aren't for everybody. They're just what I've found works for me and I'm a fucking weirdo in a part of the world where 99.9% of Reddit isn't.

                                [–]Degener0 1 point2 points  (0 children)

                                You are overthinking it. Paralysis by analysis.

                                Seems like you might be a hipster or going after those broads from what I read. Nerdy girls are generally more frigid. Not my cup of tea.

                                [–]Swallowed_the_pill 0 points1 point  (0 children)

                                As long as you own it you can do anything. I can imagine that coloring a book or making a puzzle togheter can be a lot of fun because the childish factor is both suprising and refreshing. You can tease her for not coloring inside the lines, grab her hand and draw with it. Just go out there and own whatever you do!

                                [–]DennisReynoldsAMA -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

                                This sub fucking sucks lmao